FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies! Am I really bad looking or something?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I doing something really wrong here? I’m looking for new experiences, new heights, new fun and new pleasures! But no one actually wants to chat! Just feel like I look minging or something? :/

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By *heEpicureanMan
over a year ago

Warminster

Yeah you are mate. You’re doing the typical thing of whinging. Reading most of these threads started on here of “rate my profile” “advice” “what’s wrong with me”, it’s tragic.

You, like most single males on here, came on hoping it’d be none stop sex. Suck and fuck parties everywhere.....BUT It’s a lifestyle, not a quick shag after a piss up.

If you don’t appeal to girls on normal dating sites, then chances are you’re shit out of luck on here. Single females are the holy grail on and couples literally have the pick of all shapes/sizes/ethnicities that they can dream to play with.

So ask yourself, if you were a prospective playful couple looking for that single male to join you. And they happen across your profile or even a comment you’ve made in the forums. They’ll click that little green tick and see you’ve started two threads about not getting meets. Do you think they’ll say, yep he’s the guy for us?

The sympathy vote is tragic. Go to a club. If you get to play you get to play. If you don’t then at least you might get verifications from anyone you socialised with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience it’s more likely your approach than how you look that will mean you don’t get a response

Quick list of things I’ve learned

- sending cock pics is a no

- sexual explicit messages as an opening message is a no (doesn’t mean they work as a second message either)

- treating women as human beings is good

- being desperate is a no

- socialising is a great way to get a foot in the door

- most blokes say they get laid easier on PoF ... if you want a quick fuck that might be easier

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By *ouplelookingforadultfunCouple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

I can make you squirt.....off putting.

A roleplay scenario written rather than what you like, dislike, a bit about you.

Definitely the wrong way about writing a profile.

And there lies why you're not getting anywhere.

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By *heDesiCandiTV/TS
over a year ago

Leicester

Your profile content would make a good role play in the forum.

What it doesn’t do (other than present you as a sexual beast) is tell any woman about you.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

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"Am I doing something really wrong here? I’m looking for new experiences, new heights, new fun and new pleasures! But no one actually wants to chat! Just feel like I look minging or something? :/"

How someone ‘looks’ to someone is subjective; personality, manners and how you present yourself is what matters in this lifestyle. When some people receive messages, the first thing they look at is your profile and decide from there if you’re someone who they’re looking for. You’re looking for women, which are in the minority here; your age - most have children the same age or above yours, thus may feel awkward with someone that young; and you’re a smoker, which would put off some.

What you can do is try to improve your chances to chat and possible meet, is to improve your profile - it’s your ‘shop window’. There are many threads on here giving profile and message advice. Look at some male profiles whom have been successful for ideas, but don’t copy.

Women like to find out who you are, not just what you can do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I doing something really wrong here? I’m looking for new experiences, new heights, new fun and new pleasures! But no one actually wants to chat! Just feel like I look minging or something? :/"

If you can travel, spread your search further... Be patient, took me 3 months before I met... Visit the chatrooms often and participate in the room banter...

Best of luck hunny X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I doing something really wrong here? I’m looking for new experiences, new heights, new fun and new pleasures! But no one actually wants to chat! Just feel like I look minging or something? :/"

I know how you feel mate apparently I'm too innocent then they delete my messages

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your feedback! I have now changed my profile I just hope it can actually do something...people say I’m on here for a quick shag when I’m pissed...nope...I’m looking for something new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best advice yet

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"In my experience it’s more likely your approach than how you look that will mean you don’t get a response

Quick list of things I’ve learned

- sending cock pics is a no

- sexual explicit messages as an opening message is a no (doesn’t mean they work as a second message either)

- treating women as human beings is good

- being desperate is a no

- socialising is a great way to get a foot in the door

- most blokes say they get laid easier on PoF ... if you want a quick fuck that might be easier "

Great, I've just rejoined pof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Find a woman that you can have a couple profile with then you would most likely get some different experiences

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"New to this" - well, at 23 you may well be new to life itself, but do yourself a favour and delete that pointless expression. If you still want to say you are new, at least say exactly what you are new to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whew lad, people really shitted on you in this one, a tip someone gave me is to browse other male profiles, check out forum and to be patient,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s so true - look at other males profiles, see what makes them eye catching and then use those ideas and keep working on yours until you feel it expresses the real you (which also means you need to really know why you are on here!). Don’t forget that you usually only get one chance to make an impression and the odds are not great. Oh and photos - smiley, nicely dressed head shots avoiding cluttered backgrounds (piles of washing in a bedroom and out of focus selfies in a pub are two pet hates), and then save the nude stuff for friends. I know I am showing my ass off on my profile but then I have been on fab in different guises for a number of years so I don’t care as I have my friends lol. Best of luck though, it’s all good advice today

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By *witch4Fun24Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Try smiling and not having really steamed up photos, what unique selling points do you have? What can you bring to a meet up (not like wine but like, cheeky, good social skills etc)?

Telling girls what you want them to wear on a meet comes once you've met them or if they ask you in pm if you have a preference when you arrange to meet up.

Telling people you are new to this implies new to sex, newbies come across as hard work at times and some people don't want the drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Moody looking photos, I know what you want but fuck all about what I'd be getting out of it, and your demands with exclamations after them make you sound a twat.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock

"Whew lad, people really shitted on you in this one, a tip someone gave me is to browse other male profiles, check out forum and to be patient,"

How have ‘people really shitted’ on him, when he asked for advice and we gave it?

I’ve been through the thread and haven’t seen anything to warrant this. I’ve seen other threads were the op has been ‘shitted’ on and this isn’t one of them!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It’s not that you’re ugly (although you could try smiling - who wants to meet a miserable sod?) but it’s a combination of age (you’re quite young), your profile (doesn’t say much), numbers of men like you (20:1 against) and your location which is a well known swinging dead spot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Profile adjusted thank you all for taking the time and p.s I don’t mean to look moody just the way I smile ?? anymore advice would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your still sound demanding by telling a woman what to wear, I'm sure your a nice person but in reality sounds abit of a cock.

Maybe add what fantasies interest you other then being dom.

Try a club ... Happy fabbing

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By *i-DottyWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

"Yeah you are mate. You’re doing the typical thing of whinging. Reading most of these threads started on here of “rate my profile” “advice” “what’s wrong with me”, it’s tragic.

You, like most single males on here, came on hoping it’d be none stop sex. Suck and fuck parties everywhere.....BUT It’s a lifestyle, not a quick shag after a piss up.

The sympathy vote is tragic. Go to a club. If you get to play you get to play. If you don’t then at least you might get verifications from anyone you socialised with.

Brutal but true!!

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

You want to dominate, lol, you're 23, that single sentence stopped me reading any further.

This Dom shit is killing guys chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You want to dominate, lol, you're 23, that single sentence stopped me reading any further.

This Dom shit is killing guys chances. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some good advice on here, at least he's taking some of it, unlike most of the whingebags...

It will happen mate, just be patient. I didn't get my first meet for 3 weeks on Fab, till I wised up with my profile. The key is to ask yourself what women want from Fab? Then make sure you not only give them that bit go above and beyond their expectations? Then suddenly you can't move for meets!

Not that I'm complaining...

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