FabSwingers.com forum: My Profile...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all you fabers! I have spent a lot of time working on my profile, trying to tweak it so it appeals to all types I am looking for, I would love to know what you think, is it too long? Too detailed? Not enough details? Any tips you can give me? I have tried to add as many pics on it that shows what type of guy I am, but I would like to try and make it a little better... ANY input would be of great help!

Thanks in advance...

Marc aka I-go-commando

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure.....fell asleep after the first two paragraphs. Also found the repeated use of "I" a bit tiresome....."I" want, "I" think, what "I" do etc. etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well it obviously works as you have had meets!

For us way to long - no need for a description of yourself as there are pics!

I skim read, saw 'discrete', odd meeting times and cannot accommodate and immediately came to one conclusion !!!!

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By *erminxWoman
over a year ago

Quinton

Too long, but a nice change from the one liners, but screams married with kids and wife does not know

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

agree with other posters. Very long and repetitive, spelling mistakes, not enough paragraphs and the dichotomy of someone who can only meet between 9 and 3 and yet can escort people to clubs! Some joined up thinking required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some constructive advice hopefully...

Your first paragraph is way too long. Some description of what you look like is ok but i'd stick to details about shaven areas and height - chest measurements and shoulders/arms is something people can see in pics. Same with cock info.

Have a separate paragraph for what you're looking for and then another one for what you can offer - it kind of jumps all over the place.

The bit about you going commando - bit irrelevant to mention in your profile, plus your username kinda gives that away.

You mention kissing being important but again that can be something you mention once initial contact has been made - no need to go on about it in your profile. Same with the list of interests... it's all at the bottom the page, so why repeat yourself?

You need to make an instant, initial impression so definitely need to chop out all the stuff people usually find out by chatting - you're not leaving much left to find out lol.

And the last thing about clubs - maybe mention it but don't bother going into too much detail. Most girls won't go with a guy they have never met before to a club on a first meet. It's something you can offer later down the line.

Photos are good - can clearly see you and what you're into

Hope that helps and isn't too negative!

S x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

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Also consider this from a female point of view. Heres a complete stranger who will know where i live and then enclose me in a car and take me to a strange place. I'll have to wait till hes ready to leave before i can and then get driven home by someone possibly affected by what hes just seen and since i don't know him from adam, i have no idea how he'll react or what he'll expect.

Now you can tell me till the cows come home that you're trustworthy, but until i've judged for myself i'm not sharing my address or getting into a car with you or depending on you for my ride home. Obviously everyone is different but many women (like me) won't be comfortable with this offer. You can still offer but be aware of the single womans safety/stalker issue.

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

bit too long and me thinks married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pics are brill..definitely dont need such justifications that increase the profile length

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Admin ask no one put the pointless warning on their profile...no instituton gives a flying fuck about you pics and it takes up space.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile is far too long for me. I [ mrs ] have a low attention span , and skim read most of it, was more concerned over your first pic though. You have your cock inside a lady with NO condom on, so I [ mrs ]definitely wouldn't meet you....sorry !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profile is far too long for me. I [ mrs ] have a low attention span , and skim read most of it, was more concerned over your first pic though. You have your cock inside a lady with NO condom on, so I [ mrs ]definitely wouldn't meet you....sorry !

Here, Here Mrs Trixi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are obviously married. It reads a bit desperate. It is also very self centred. You clearly are in to bareback. Other than that I always find it a bit weird when singles profiles have predominantly pictures of a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here, Here Mrs Trixi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are obviously married. It reads a bit desperate. It is also very self centred. You clearly are in to bareback. Other than that I always find it a bit weird when singles profiles have predominantly pictures of a couple."

there is plenty of pics of himself, I'm pretty much against this anti-having people on ur pics if ur single male or female.Its only couples that are allowed to express their swinging sexuality via he profile???

bizarre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To long for me and no paragraphs makes hard reading!

I didn't even skim over it, also are the fems on your pics aware their face pics are on your profile?

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By *i_sSwingWoman
over a year ago

Any place 4 the right Person

"Some constructive advice hopefully...

Have a separate paragraph for what you're looking for and then another one for what you can offer - it kind of jumps all over the place.

The bit about you going commando - bit irrelevant to mention in your profile, plus your username kinda gives that away.

You need to make an instant, initial impression so definitely need to chop out all the stuff people usually find out by chatting - you're not leaving much left to find out lol.

Photos are good - can clearly see you and what you're into

Hope that helps and isn't too negative!

S x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

way too long winded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and you sound married man messing around with ur times when free,compare ur profile to other single men on site and am sorry if you spend a lot of time updating ur profile and thats the end result.......i rethink if i was you!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Admin ask no one put the pointless warning on their profile...no instituton gives a flying fuck about you pics and it takes up space."

Plus it refers to "us", "we" and "our" which isn't grammatically correct for a single person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry fell asleep after the 1st 4 lines

but good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What stands out for me Mark is that the area of your profile which refers to your bi-sexuality implies (to me) that you feel demonised by couples &/or straight men for being bisexual.

I have got to say that my experiences on this site in particular have been the total opposite.

My profile has always refelected that I am :

a) partnered

b) bi sexual

c) not looking to play straight if another guy is about

I have always tried to keep my profile positive and upbeat as I find self imposed negativity will attract negativity from 3rd parties.

I have received very very few negative responses from members on this site, but then again I select the people I message very cautiously and always read not only what is in the profile, but more importantly what isn't !

Like anywhere in society, the swinging scene is not bereft of bigotry. Just because people adopt a swinging lifestyle does not mean that they do not have narrow mindsets on certain issues.

Irregardless of all the comments posted above, your verification list does suggest that you have had some success on Fab.

You're not a bad looking chap, so I would suggest removing some of the negative conurtations and being open about your domestic situation.

If indeed you are married, then be honest about it. If you do like to play BB with meets, be honest about it.

Yes, it will rule out some meets, but maybe attract others. After all, we are never attractive to everyone all of the time.

Finally, having browsed your pics, some are quite old (3yrs +) and it may be better to upload some more recent ones.

I know there are some more recent ones, but to the untrained eye, some of them look to be from the same photo session as the ones posted in 2008.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice from bus wanker and I agree with him. I liked your profile and I prefer longer profiles rather than shorter ones. Some good clear pics of you on there which is great to see. You're a good looking guy who sounds like a decent chap from your profile so I'm sure you'll continue to do well. good luck. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must say as soon as I saw the wall of text I was a bit put off readind it.

Also reading "GENUINE" twice in the first sentence puts me off too.

There again I can't talk, since changing my profile to a honest talking one I haven't had as much as a wink since

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I actually thought your profile was quite good.

Would much rather a longer profile than the alot of the 3/4 lines ones with 'Ask me if there is anything you want to know'

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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago

belfast

Too long for my liking when u meet sumone wot is left to talk abt?????But if it works 4 you who am i to question it oh well i forgot u did ask.I must admit half way throu i was too tired to continue reading it........

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