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HOW TO PULL A MILF / COUGAR / MATURE WOMAN

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all!

I’m asking for advice, not asking to be fed to the lions so no moaning lol!

I love the idea of an older lady, I’ve slept with a lot of girls my age but they can be rather boring? I need a more experienced woman who can show me the ropes of swinging and sex in general. Everytime I’ve had sex with an older lady (3 times, all through this site) I learn more tricks and I love the fact that the MILF’s love toyboys!

How can I start pulling more ‘experienced’ women outside of fabswingers? I tick all the right boxes but maybe lack a little in confidence.

All advice is appreciated!

J P

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I'd probably start by looking at how you're marketing your profile to attract more mature women. You have a LOT of dick picks as well as bareback anal shots.

I'd imagine women of a certain age know what a penis looks like by now as well as being familiar in the risks of STI's.

Put on some smart clothes and take some photos. Go for 'classy young gent' over '25yr old with a penis fixation'. You can't show your face but you can show other areas of your body that aren't your cock. Many women in the age range you seek will potentially have kids of their own around your age so it's important to set yourself apart from them.

Next, get yourself to a club or two. Many have events for cougars and cubs so have a look for those. Or just a regular club night as they attract all ages.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

MILF's love toyboys? I'm sure you mean Cougars. A MILF can be younger than you OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"MILF's love toyboys? I'm sure you mean Cougars. A MILF can be younger than you OP? "

Hmm I suppose you’re right, but at what age do you class someone as just a woman with a baby? I know plenty of 18 year olds with kids but you’ll hardly put them in the MILF ‘category’?

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford

I always think the definition of a MILF is someone who is not just a mother, but old enough to be YOUR mother.

Just my interpretation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think the definition of a MILF is someone who is not just a mother, but old enough to be YOUR mother.

Just my interpretation "

That's my interpretation of the terminology of a cougar, rather than a milf. In all honesty though, I'm not a fan of any of the labels. It's too objectifying to me. I'm sure some like it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"MILF's love toyboys? I'm sure you mean Cougars. A MILF can be younger than you OP?

Hmm I suppose you’re right, but at what age do you class someone as just a woman with a baby? I know plenty of 18 year olds with kids but you’ll hardly put them in the MILF ‘category’?"

I would. I see that term as exactly what it stands for. But that's just me

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Hello all!

I’m asking for advice, not asking to be fed to the lions so no moaning lol!

I love the idea of an older lady, I’ve slept with a lot of girls my age but they can be rather boring? I need a more experienced woman who can show me the ropes of swinging and sex in general. Everytime I’ve had sex with an older lady (3 times, all through this site) I learn more tricks and I love the fact that the MILF’s love toyboys!

How can I start pulling more ‘experienced’ women outside of fabswingers? I tick all the right boxes but maybe lack a little in confidence.

All advice is appreciated!

J P "

Ask your mum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are the ones your age boring? Is it them?

A woman’s age doesn’t define her “experience” or sexual prowess.

I often find a young guys search for an older woman is based in the fantasy rather than the reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

I’m asking for advice, not asking to be fed to the lions so no moaning lol!

I love the idea of an older lady, I’ve slept with a lot of girls my age but they can be rather boring? I need a more experienced woman who can show me the ropes of swinging and sex in general. Everytime I’ve had sex with an older lady (3 times, all through this site) I learn more tricks and I love the fact that the MILF’s love toyboys!

How can I start pulling more ‘experienced’ women outside of fabswingers? I tick all the right boxes but maybe lack a little in confidence.

All advice is appreciated!

J P "

Treat women as women not a label

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!

I’m asking for advice, not asking to be fed to the lions so no moaning lol!

I love the idea of an older lady, I’ve slept with a lot of girls my age but they can be rather boring? I need a more experienced woman who can show me the ropes of swinging and sex in general. Everytime I’ve had sex with an older lady (3 times, all through this site) I learn more tricks and I love the fact that the MILF’s love toyboys!

How can I start pulling more ‘experienced’ women outside of fabswingers? I tick all the right boxes but maybe lack a little in confidence.

All advice is appreciated!

J P

Treat women as women not a label"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I often find a young guys search for an older woman is based in the fantasy rather than the reality."

I find most younger men a waste of time,

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I wonder what those tricks might have been that a 25-year-old man needed teaching.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried a bingo hall or church?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder what those tricks might have been that a 25-year-old man needed teaching."

Same as any other woman. Be interesting, bring something to the table. Listen and show genuine interest (but not too much) in a club setting cheeky and playful but not arrogant and cocky always goes down well.

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"I always think the definition of a MILF is someone who is not just a mother, but old enough to be YOUR mother.

Just my interpretation

That's my interpretation of the terminology of a cougar, rather than a milf. In all honesty though, I'm not a fan of any of the labels. It's too objectifying to me. I'm sure some like it though "

Would agree re the labelling.

Just know I love a younger man. Although to be fair, most of them are! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Making sure all your photos are your own OP might help attract those Cougars

Don’t you just love TinEye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am 41 today am I a milf or a cougar

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think its a good idea to approach women respectfully regardless of their age. I don't know many women of any age who would appreciate being referred to as being "pulled". You do need to be aware that not all older women are sexually experienced, straight, interested in younger men or sexually active. With this in mind just get chatting to women you're interested in. You might have to make it clear that you're interested in them sexually because young guys don't often talk to older women in that way, in fact they rarely notice them lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think its a good idea to approach women respectfully regardless of their age. I don't know many women of any age who would appreciate being referred to as being "pulled". You do need to be aware that not all older women are sexually experienced, straight, interested in younger men or sexually active. With this in mind just get chatting to women you're interested in. You might have to make it clear that you're interested in them sexually because young guys don't often talk to older women in that way, in fact they rarely notice them lol. "

Well I do definitely notice them lol, thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Making sure all your photos are your own OP might help attract those Cougars

Don’t you just love TinEye "

Made me look

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By *lim Jim 68Man
over a year ago

Guernsey


"Making sure all your photos are your own OP might help attract those Cougars

Don’t you just love TinEye

Made me look "

Likewise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't steal pictures off porn site to pass off as ya own.

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"Making sure all your photos are your own OP might help attract those Cougars

Don’t you just love TinEye "

Never heard of them until now. Surprising how many of OPs photos aren’t him.

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London


"Don't steal pictures off porn site to pass off as ya own."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get your own pictures would be a cracking start kiddo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think the definition of a MILF is someone who is not just a mother, but old enough to be YOUR mother.

Just my interpretation

That's my interpretation of the terminology of a cougar, rather than a milf. In all honesty though, I'm not a fan of any of the labels. It's too objectifying to me. I'm sure some like it though "
I thought a cougar was a big cat but I stand corrected

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And this older woman hates explicit pictures and being fetishised - although that might not be the majority view, it pays to make your profile and approach as attractive to as many in your target group as possible. A fantasy profile will only attract a fantasy woman, and guess what, they don't exist

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"I wonder what those tricks might have been that a 25-year-old man needed teaching.

Same as any other woman. Be interesting, bring something to the table. Listen and show genuine interest (but not too much) in a club setting cheeky and playful but not arrogant and cocky always goes down well."

That he should have worked out himself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder what those tricks might have been that a 25-year-old man needed teaching.

Same as any other woman. Be interesting, bring something to the table. Listen and show genuine interest (but not too much) in a club setting cheeky and playful but not arrogant and cocky always goes down well.

That he should have worked out himself."
How?.... Since when did any man know how a woman thinks

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Hello all!

I’m asking for advice, not asking to be fed to the lions so no moaning lol!

I love the idea of an older lady, I’ve slept with a lot of girls my age but they can be rather boring? I need a more experienced woman who can show me the ropes of swinging and sex in general. Everytime I’ve had sex with an older lady (3 times, all through this site) I learn more tricks and I love the fact that the MILF’s love toyboys!

How can I start pulling more ‘experienced’ women outside of fabswingers? I tick all the right boxes but maybe lack a little in confidence.

All advice is appreciated!

J P

Treat women as women not a label"

This

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"I'd probably start by looking at how you're marketing your profile to attract more mature women. You have a LOT of dick picks as well as bareback anal shots.

I'd imagine women of a certain age know what a penis looks like by now as well as being familiar in the risks of STI's.

"

Might be too late to remove the bareback anal pics as they are all over the internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd probably start by looking at how you're marketing your profile to attract more mature women. You have a LOT of dick picks as well as bareback anal shots.

I'd imagine women of a certain age know what a penis looks like by now as well as being familiar in the risks of STI's.

Might be too late to remove the bareback anal pics as they are all over the internet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guessing this isn’t going quite the way OP hoped

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Making sure all your photos are your own OP might help attract those Cougars

Don’t you just love TinEye

Made me look "

Some of them don’t need tineye, they are so obvious!

OP, I do hope the young women who have verified you don’t read this and please, don’t change anything in your profile, it tells me everything I need to know.

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