FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling inferior

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

If your opinion of yourself tells you that you wouldn't enjoy a meet with them there is no point. It's a shame though because their opinion of you is obviously different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. I’m slowly but surely building up the courage to meet this totally gorgeous local guy who’s been wanting to meet for months. He’s beautiful, so physically fit and argh. And he has so many verifications from beautiful women and couples.

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By *xplorer13Man
over a year ago

glenrothes

If people are unhappy with there body shapes then there are loads of things you can do to feel better and on an even keel with said guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Sends a Wink

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

I do...I think why message or wink me when you see hundreds of more good looking women on here

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By *otwife CoolhubCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Having looked at your pics there’s nothing you should lack confidence about.

If a guy wants to meet give him a chance. Be you, be flirty and don’t have a care in the world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just browsed your profile OP, and you're gorgeous.

Stop comparing yourself with others, learn to love yourself for who you are and get some messages sent. I'm positive you will be pleasantly surprised by the responses you receive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

I do...I think why message or wink me when you see hundreds of more good looking women on here"

Exactly how I feel x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've just browsed your profile OP, and you're gorgeous.

Stop comparing yourself with others, learn to love yourself for who you are and get some messages sent. I'm positive you will be pleasantly surprised by the responses you receive."

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Your a very attractive lady

You should chat with the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

You're attaching far too much importance to a vacuous wink. And how do you know it was aimed at you, on a couples account?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"
just go for it what's the worst that can happen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

You're attaching far too much importance to a vacuous wink. And how do you know it was aimed at you, on a couples account?"

Because if you read our profile husband is straight. It's not just this one wink. It's how I feel in general.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

You're attaching far too much importance to a vacuous wink. And how do you know it was aimed at you, on a couples account?

Because if you read our profile husband is straight. It's not just this one wink. It's how I feel in general. "
Being straight means nothing to some guys it's a challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

I do...I think why message or wink me when you see hundreds of more good looking women on here

Exactly how I feel x"

Me too if im honest especially with my age

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no brad Pitt, and when I first started swinging I had hang ups about various things to do with how I looked, but as time has gone on, I have found that other genuine swingers are very nice people, and nine times out of ten, would prefer someone that is genuine ,they can laugh with and have sexual confidence. Going to clubs is a massive help to boast your confidence.

So I wouldn't worry to much, and just try and be yourself.

Regardless of how fit the guy is, he might be thinking exactly the same as you! We are all different.

I hope this helps.

And by the way, I have checked your profile out, and I think your very sexy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to your dilemma, I feel exactly the same , and yes it does put you off meeting people ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm no brad Pitt, and when I first started swinging I had hang ups about various things to do with how I looked, but as time has gone on, I have found that other genuine swingers are very nice people, and nine times out of ten, would prefer someone that is genuine ,they can laugh with and have sexual confidence. Going to clubs is a massive help to boast your confidence.

So I wouldn't worry to much, and just try and be yourself.

Regardless of how fit the guy is, he might be thinking exactly the same as you! We are all different.

I hope this helps.

And by the way, I have checked your profile out, and I think your very sexy. x"

I Agree with this gent here going to clubs helped me feel more confident. A wink shows interest but once you speak you’ll find out his reasons for showing interest. Go for it. Xxx

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

Croydon Area

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

We can relate to this.

We’ve turned down a huge amount of meets from gym fit/popular guys on here due to feeling not as bodily attractive as they are. It’s a comfort thing for us and although it’s probably not, makes us think the males are only contacting us as they’re likely mass mailing to see who bites and would not show/cancel if a better offer was to pop up. Which has happened a couple of times in our early days.

Vixen will never meet any female couple who is super fit as she feels she’d be out of place and would be very body conscious next to them.

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By *obyn67Woman
over a year ago

Wonderland

I feel exactly the same way if someone whom I consider really fit and attractive starts winking and messaging me . There are so many hot in shape extremely attractive men and women on here I automatically think ....why are they bothering with me ? I have turned down numerous meets as a result of feeling this way. In addition I have had socials where I have been told that I am too 'big' which reinforces this self doubt in myself .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pics are hot, it’s not all about being gym fit and slim, some guys like a shapely woman, a butt plug pic always helps

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By *sRedbbwWoman
over a year ago

Amwythig

I often wonder the same thing but swinging and going to clubs has taught me otherwise, confidence has grown

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From what I have seen of you I'd say you're attractive to me too and I'd be one of those up for meeting you if you were a bit nearer. Just another voice giving you an indication of where you are on the whole desirability-o-meter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have bits of us that we are not comfortable showing to others but it’s all about being confident and not really caring too much ,being sexy comes from within it doesn’t matter if you’re gym fit or have wobbly bits .

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

To be fair I understand this too. Plus I think as a guy, half the time there's no point in messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

This happens a lot on Fab as unlike in the real world people can be a lot more open with their sexual desires?

I don't have one hard and fast type physically. I do like some typically "model-like" women. I like some curvy voluptuous women. I like some elfin ladies and I like some latin-type build ladies?

Those I have no interest in at all are generally the stupid, the unimaginative, the unadventurous, the unhygenic and the terminally miserable. And these on the other hand are pretty much deal breakers.

Going on my meets I seem to have a lot with typically beautiful women admittedly, but when I'm with them I seek the same as I do with any lady, the provoking of extreme pleasure in them and it's their minds I look to get inside first and foremost?

I wouldn't want any woman to think that I'd be comparing her to others physically (and I know firsthand that a lot of ladies do think this, so you're by no means alone) as this is sad tbh as well as completely groundless? I don't do this at all as I'm much more interested in that gleam of wickedness in a lady's eyes as she writhes in pleasure... Sex with someone purely based upon how they look and nothing else to me is juvenile and something I need far more from sex than since I was about 20?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

This happens a lot on Fab as unlike in the real world people can be a lot more open with their sexual desires?

I don't have one hard and fast type physically. I do like some typically "model-like" women. I like some curvy voluptuous women. I like some elfin ladies and I like some latin-type build ladies?

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry you look great

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I just think if a straight guy contacts us or winks he's attracted to me. I never look at the people he's met before for anything other than confirmation that he does actually meet.

Why would someone make contact if they didn't think you were someone they'd like to meet?

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Totally understand where you're

Coming from with this, I don't have the best body, two kids plus 2 surgeries means my tummy is not sexy at all, the rest of me is awesome though. When a very fit ripped guy who also seems nice wants to meet i try to put them off first to make sure they actually want "all this" if they are clear that they're happy with it though? Game on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

There is a point in messaging, A body if so much more beautiful covering a confident lady, I get winks and messages, some I am interested in and some I am not, I usually get a better understanding of a single or a couple by reading the profile before seeing the pictures, then you will feel more confident to message or message back once you have an idea of what they are looking for

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't truly enjoy this lifestyle until you fully let go and throw away all inhibitions and insecurities. Swinging is so much fun when you're fully confident. Once you push yourself through any nerves you might have, confidence starts to flow.

If he winked at you, he wants you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If I went into a shop and said "I think that dress in the window is really attractive, I'd like to try it on to see if I want to buy it" and the assistant told me I couldn't because she knew that I didn't really like that dress because there were so many better dresses in my wardrobe and for sale in other shops I'd wonder how the dickens she thought she knew what I found attractive about a dress.

Same goes for people who contact you on here. You can assume that you know what they're thinking and find attractive or you can accept that they know their own mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't truly enjoy this lifestyle until you fully let go and throw away all inhibitions and insecurities. Swinging is so much fun when you're fully confident. Once you push yourself through any nerves you might have, confidence starts to flow.

If he winked at you, he wants you."

This. It's just a bit of fun. If someone invited you to an amazing party would you decline because it promised to be too amazing?

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By *obyn67Woman
over a year ago

Wonderland

"If I went into a shop and said "I think that dress in the window is really attractive, I'd like to try it on to see if I want to buy it" and the assistant told me I couldn't because she knew that I didn't really like that dress because there were so many better dresses in my wardrobe and for sale in other shops I'd wonder how the dickens she thought she knew what I found attractive about a dress.

Same goes for people who contact you on here. You can assume that you know what they're thinking and find attractive or you can accept that they know their own mind."
Thank you for this input...you are absolutely right ! I shall remember this from now on ...your words are very sensible yet encouraging and quite uplifting. Onwards and upwards !!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Same goes for people who contact you on here. You can assume that you know what they're thinking and find attractive or you can accept that they know their own mind. Thank you for this input...you are absolutely right ! I shall remember this from now on ...your words are very sensible yet encouraging and quite uplifting. Onwards and upwards !!

Indeed onwards and upwards.

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By *ightLeeCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I am totally the same. I have even messaged someone back saying they are just to good looking for me! It can be very intimidating.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am totally the same. I have even messaged someone back saying they are just to good looking for me! It can be very intimidating."

Out of interest how did that make your partner feel?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’m never sure why people want sex with me but I never feel inferior.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just looking at some of your profile should on this thread, you should all be so soooo proud of your bodies

each ones unique and you should embrace it

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a stage, all us swinger go through.. especially as you get older..but it's just a case of going with your own gut feelings and what you would feel comfy and happy with meet wise..we had a young couple contact us last year on another site..they were in their mid 20's we are in our mid 50's..it was me Mr that bottled out and did not take it any further..ok it was for a number of reasons..we have kids older..but it was mainly a conference thing on my part,Mr, and we have been swingers for over 25 years

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

He obviously likes you but you are wasting an oppotunity due to low self esteem which is sad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

You're attaching far too much importance to a vacuous wink. And how do you know it was aimed at you, on a couples account?

Because if you read our profile husband is straight. It's not just this one wink. It's how I feel in general. "

Your husband's persuasion is irrelevant when receiving winks. People wink for all number of reasons; a line in the text, interests ticked, location, quality of pictures and probably another 100 if researched.

Just don't try and interpret the meaning it will drive you mad!

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Winked. Ooh! No too far away either...

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I am totally the same. I have even messaged someone back saying they are just to good looking for me! It can be very intimidating.

Out of interest how did that make your partner feel?"

Oh wow! I see what you did there...

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

We all do this but at the end of the day he wouldn’t have winked if he didn’t see something he liked x

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I’m really feeling this as I get the wrong end of 50 ... I’m trying not to but the thought still creeps in of giving it all up ....and take up knitting again

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

I used to feel like this, after a lot more experience I have learnt to be brave and go for it, I have met extraordinary people, beautiful, fit and all those in between and its worked, attraction cannot be fathomed haha

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Yes!! I haven’t met in so long for this exact reason! I’m talking to a guy that is so smoking I can’t wcwn describe.. he wants to meet me and I’m just not sure I can go through with it...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am totally the same. I have even messaged someone back saying they are just to good looking for me! It can be very intimidating.

Out of interest how did that make your partner feel?

Oh wow! I see what you did there...

Well to be truthful if Mr N turned a woman down because he felt she was too good for him I would feel insulted.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!

"I am totally the same. I have even messaged someone back saying they are just to good looking for me! It can be very intimidating.

Out of interest how did that make your partner feel?

Oh wow! I see what you did there...

Well to be truthful if Mr N turned a woman down because he felt she was too good for him I would feel insulted."

So...if the OP decided to meet me, that would mean that...I'm...I'm...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am totally the same. I have even messaged someone back saying they are just to good looking for me! It can be very intimidating.

Out of interest how did that make your partner feel?

Oh wow! I see what you did there...

Well to be truthful if Mr N turned a woman down because he felt she was too good for him I would feel insulted.

So...if the OP decided to meet me, that would mean that...I'm...I'm...

Attractive to her.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I am totally the same. I have even messaged someone back saying they are just to good looking for me! It can be very intimidating.

Out of interest how did that make your partner feel?

Oh wow! I see what you did there...

Well to be truthful if Mr N turned a woman down because he felt she was too good for him I would feel insulted.

So...if the OP decided to meet me, that would mean that...I'm...I'm...

Attractive to her."

I think we're making the same point though. If you think there are people that are too good for you to meet what kind of opinion do you have of the people you do meet.

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By *team7279Couple
over a year ago

London

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Yeah, we know exactly what you mean! We're both big (though hubbie isn't actively playing, so less pressure on him) and it's easy to get intimidated by six packs and model looks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

Yes!! I haven’t met in so long for this exact reason! I’m talking to a guy that is so smoking I can’t wcwn describe.. he wants to meet me and I’m just not sure I can go through with it...

Nah, that's crazy talk. Sorry, but it is. For one, see my previous post on this thread. For two you're unquestionably exquisite by any regard...The fact this guy is interested is clear proof of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel exactly the same op, what I’ve decided is to just be honest try to send pics of my body all my wobbly bits and if they choose to meet me then they clearly want to, so then I go for it (glass or two for courage)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just think if a straight guy contacts us or winks he's attracted to me. I never look at the people he's met before for anything other than confirmation that he does actually meet.

Why would someone make contact if they didn't think you were someone they'd like to meet?"
making contact is the name of the game whether when you meet you will gel together is always another, pics and texts and veris mean nothing the decision you make is all made in the company of that guy

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I just think if a straight guy contacts us or winks he's attracted to me. I never look at the people he's met before for anything other than confirmation that he does actually meet.

Why would someone make contact if they didn't think you were someone they'd like to meet?making contact is the name of the game whether when you meet you will gel together is always another, pics and texts and veris mean nothing the decision you make is all made in the company of that guy

We were speaking to a good looking guy in a club who wasn't exactly complaining but did remark that there was a couple of experiences of catwalk model grade women he had been with, that just didn't do it for him as an overall package. The not eating anything remotely fattening, the constant checking themselves out in shop window reflects etc drove him nuts. He wasn't say all women of that image are like that, just his experience of them.

He loved playing with homely types who would focus on him and what their reasoning for being there was. There was genuine fun, easy goingness and a real reason that was beneficial to all parties to go and have a good time.

If those who don't think they are good enough can tell themselves that they are worthy of attention, then the world is their oyster.

If you have a few issues that bother you, work on them for yourselves, but you are good enough for more people tham than you realise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would a man wink if he didn't find you attractive? Besides, from what I see in clubs, success in this scene has little to do with looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm no spring chicken in the body department but I'm comfortable in my skin so when I see profiles with 'only fit, hung men need apply' the other half is usually a gym buff and probably doesn't understand how to bring his lady off and thinks that a big cock will do it

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

Yes!! I haven’t met in so long for this exact reason! I’m talking to a guy that is so smoking I can’t wcwn describe.. he wants to meet me and I’m just not sure I can go through with it...

You are smoking hot.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

One thing to take on board. No one is better looking to the next person beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So don’t have any kind of complex about yourself as others will see you different than you see yourself.

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over a year ago

I used to feel like this all the time. Still do sometimes when someone really good looking try’s to chat me up in person or sends me a message!

But now I just think if they’ve initiated contact they must be interested so why not reply! You don’t have anything to lose and even if you dont end up meeting for whatever reason there’s plenty other out there who’d be happy to

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I used to feel like this all the time. Still do sometimes when someone really good looking try’s to chat me up in person or sends me a message!

It's an opportunity to feel comfortable in speaking to people that you feel are somehow above you

There will come a time that you will see that ain't necessary so... And you will see that, ordinary people sometimes DO the extra things to appear as extraordinary, it's in your gift to do likewise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've just browsed your profile OP, and you're gorgeous.

Stop comparing yourself with others, learn to love yourself for who you are and get some messages sent. I'm positive you will be pleasantly surprised by the responses you receive."

Likewise... We had a look too and like what we see, fabbed some pics too. You should feel confident, you look great!

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over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

I do...I think why message or wink me when you see hundreds of more good looking women on here"

Exactly how i feel every time i look on fab im not an attractive guy i know this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

I do...I think why message or wink me when you see hundreds of more good looking women on here

Exactly how i feel every time i look on fab im not an attractive guy i know this "

Altough your current update appears to suggest otherwise?

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Your profile is lovely OP ........I was in the same boat this week .... a guy had messaged me and phew was he hot ..... he wanted to meet up for lunch yesterday I went along with it thinking yeah yeah he won’t turn up etc etc it’s all just a joke ..... anyway we met .... one of my best social meets and we are meeting tonight

so as the saying goes nothing ventured nothing gained

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

I do...I think why message or wink me when you see hundreds of more good looking women on here

Exactly how i feel every time i look on fab im not an attractive guy i know this

Although your current update appears to suggest otherwise?

I agree with this

This attractiveness, out of my league thing is pretty sad when you put any particular quality into a box and focus on that.

HD tv is a great example of that. It exposes the normally airbrushed perfect celebs you see in magazines into normal people with zits, yellowing teeth and chapped lips.

We are a flawed, but if you have the ability to look beyond them, you tend to see beautiful people with a lot to offer.

So you see yourself as a plain Jane or Dull Dave, that's your view, but others look at you and see more. It maybe the way you carry yourself and the kindness in your tone. The things you are passionate about or the fact that you are chatty. There is so much to attraction that isn't just a physical thing, its about the whole package so don't focus on the bits that a photograph captures. That is even subject to interpretation, just be the best person you can be and let that shine, you are good enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Do you know, I used to, but over recent months I have stopped it, and I have had THE best time

If they contact you they are showing an interest and if you're interested too ... Just do it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have nothing to worry about OP

The people with the hottest pictures online are rarely as beautiful in person....

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By *losguygl3Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

Hi Jenny. You already know how Gorgeous I think you are!

If he is interested, I can't blame him.

Go for it Sexy Lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone messages me and their veries show a list of sexy beautiful women I always wonder why they bothered and if it's a joke and I know it's pointless as I know if I was to meet them I wouldn't feel comfy

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"If someone messages me and their veries show a list of sexy beautiful women I always wonder why they bothered and if it's a joke and I know it's pointless as I know if I was to meet them I wouldn't feel comfy "

For all their beauty (that's your judgement) they may still leave the guy feeling anything but happy. Maybe they are on their phone alot, empty chat or any host of reasons. Your veri list comments alone would make us want to chat to you both face to face. Theyt suggest you're fun people to be with and that you know how to enjoy yourselves, what's not to like

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

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Sorry that was for the OP and miss linked the quote. But Kelly has qualities that would make people take a real interest in her too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just want to thank everyone for all their amazing feedback and lovely comments.

With each experience the confidence slowly changes. We had the most random nights at a club Friday. Scared the hell out of me but I did it and met an amazing couple.

Happy fabbing xxx

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

I don't quite get why you would restrict yourself.

Beauty is very much in the eye of the beholder. Don't try to measure yourself against others, you will never be the best judge of yourself.

If you are putting out a realistic image of yourself and they go for it why would you disagree. S

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By *ervously excitedCouple
over a year ago

perranporth

"I feel exactly the same way if someone whom I consider really fit and attractive starts winking and messaging me . There are so many hot in shape extremely attractive men and women on here I automatically think ....why are they bothering with me ? I have turned down numerous meets as a result of feeling this way. In addition I have had socials where I have been told that I am too 'big' which reinforces this self doubt in myself ."
I'm appalled that they would tell you that you're too big. Are your pictures not if you or had they not looked. Too cruel! We all have something to offer x

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over a year ago

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x

I do...I think why message or wink me when you see hundreds of more good looking women on here

Exactly how i feel every time i look on fab im not an attractive guy i know this

Altough your current update appears to suggest otherwise? "

I've only just recently started getting noticed on fab been here 4 years

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

"I've had a wink off a guy but think there's no point talking as he's pics are hot and he's a sportsman so fit, unlike myself.

Looking for a bi lady I often feel the same if I see she's of a good shape, again unlike myself.

Does anyone else get this?

I know people will say you don't know unless you try but I feel inferior to their pics then what's the point.

Jenny x"

Who's to say the guy doesn't lack confidence as well..the fact you think his her pictures are hot they're fit whatever doesn't mean they're happy or confident in their appearance..they could feel inferior to you.

We all tend to focus on our flaws..

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By *ustalittleKinkWoman
over a year ago

in the shadows

I bit the bullet and met someone I'd didn't think would be attracted to me. I thought to myself if he's messaged and we've chatted loads, sent live pics etc it must be good.

His face kinda showed disappointment and things didn't go well as he made me really self conscious.

It's left me feeling rather crap tbh

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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow

The problem a lot of the time is using filters, some smooth the skin out and make you look a lot younger... If you don't filter then I don't think there will be any problems unless your using old pics,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To quote the lovely Rupaul," if you can't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love anybody else"...

Well we have the Amelia," Fuck it!" Strategic plan.

They wink, they message, they give you fanny flutters. You go for it!!

And if nothing comes of it. It is their loss because they could have had the best night of their lifes and you know it because you are a goddess born from Aphrodite herself ...

Mistress Amelia x

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