FabSwingers.com forum: First club visit/confusion

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Went to a club last night for the first time. I was invited by a user to come try it out with her and her friend. I had been talking for a while and found her attractive, chatting most the night all seemed well so I asked her to come join me she said she wasn't up for it and to go have fun with her friend as it's my first time and that she wasn't bothered as it's a swingers club. Have I missed a unwritten rule here I'm totally new to this. I was blocked on here by both women and number blocked no explanation nothing, so I literally have no idea what I've done. Is this the norm or have I genuinely been disrespectful somehow

By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Went to a club last night for the first time. I was invited by a user to come try it out with her and her friend. I had been talking for a while and found her attractive, chatting most the night all seemed well so I asked her to come join me she said she wasn't up for it and to go have fun with her friend as it's my first time and that she wasn't bothered as it's a swingers club. Have I missed a unwritten rule here I'm totally new to this. I was blocked on here by both women and number blocked no explanation nothing, so I literally have no idea what I've done. Is this the norm or have I genuinely been disrespectful somehow"

I have no clue. Maybe she was meant to be the wingman for her mate...the lure as it was? Sounds shady to me and I’m sorry you had to go through that.

At least you popped your club cherry! Now you can go back and chat and make friends, and see what it’s all really about!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really confused lol, they are both really nice chatty people seemed dead straight up talking and genuine. It's put me off going again if I'm honest lol. Thanks for the reply though

By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Really confused lol, they are both really nice chatty people seemed dead straight up talking and genuine. It's put me off going again if I'm honest lol. Thanks for the reply though"

I’d say the same - their behaviour says more about them than you!! Try to put it behind you & as Elcee says - take advantage of having got that first visit out of the way & go back and meet new people there!!

Good luck OP!