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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey there

Just looking for some advice on how to get noticed and to get people to talk, i've mailed a few people on here and all my messages get deleted, no far i've had zero replies and just curious on any tips,suggestions on how to deal with this

Thanks very much

Jason

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's difficult given there are so many men and so few women. It's even more difficult for guys under 30, and those without meet verifications.

I generally only reply to messages that show that someone's read my profile, has identified what we might have in common or why they might interest me, and where they respect my wishes (I'm pretty clear I don't want cock shots from strangers, for example). It's not a guarantee, and every woman will approach it differently, but that's my way of doing things. (how are you/ can we chat/ can I ask you a question/ meet now are all delete unread)

You might want to make your profile more interesting/ unique as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey there

Just looking for some advice on how to get noticed and to get people to talk, i've mailed a few people on here and all my messages get deleted, no far i've had zero replies and just curious on any tips,suggestions on how to deal with this

Thanks very much

Jason"

A good start is to put a little effort into a decent profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey there

Just looking for some advice on how to get noticed and to get people to talk, i've mailed a few people on here and all my messages get deleted, no far i've had zero replies and just curious on any tips,suggestions on how to deal with this

Thanks very much

Jason"
cake and gig tickets help

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

You've only been here 3 weeks OP which is no time at all in Fab terms - it can take months or longer to get yourself established and get that first meet.

You have to remember that for every lady on here there are ten to fifteen men so presenting yourself in the best possible way is key, as is having the right set of expectations about the site and what you think it can offer. Simply setting up a profile is not an immediate key to sex on tap.

Usually when single guys find they're not getting any replies it's down to things they can change like their profile and pics not being particularly enticing, or their approach in messaging being wrong - so take a look at those things and ask if they could be any better - for instance does your profile sell you well, and come across as appealing, telling the reader a little about you and what you are looking for, as well as what you think you can offer? Do your pics show you off well, giving someone looking at them an idea of your body but not necessarily your cock? In other words would you want to meet you if you got a message from yourself?

There are other things you can do like getting along to clubs and organised socials or getting more involved in the forums and chat rooms which are all good ways to get to know people as well as get yourself known.

For more in depth profile advice, if you decide you need some, do a forum search for profile advice and follow some of the advice given in other threads.

You could also do a lot worse than take a look at the profile of MsGivesWood who has an excellent section in her profile aimed at helping new guys like yourself

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is the Quay and great pics not 15 different angles of your appendage a good profile write up and show your personality in messages if you don't you won't succeed even if you try try again

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By *_and_LCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

As others have said, beef up your profile - I wouldn’t be able to tell from that if there was compatibility. Also take a look at your pics - I’d lose the really dark cock pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't bothered. Get yourself to a club. This website is not what you believe it is. The vast majority of single women will not meet anyone; are fatasists in boring marriages; looking for tall muscular hairy men or are mums at home all day looking for validation. The men are much the same.

What you put in your profile probably makes up 10% of your chances. Get to a club and speak to real people, then keep in touch with them on here and word will get around about you and what you are like.

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By *apstarMan
over a year ago

Harpenden


"Don't bothered. Get yourself to a club. This website is not what you believe it is. The vast majority of single women will not meet anyone; are fatasists in boring marriages; looking for tall muscular hairy men or are mums at home all day looking for validation. The men are much the same.

What you put in your profile probably makes up 10% of your chances. Get to a club and speak to real people, then keep in touch with them on here and word will get around about you and what you are like. "

This is not true ...

Stand out

Show respect

Don't be thirsty

Don't lie

Don't send dick pics

Loads of single lady's talk and meet on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't bothered. Get yourself to a club. This website is not what you believe it is. The vast majority of single women will not meet anyone; are fatasists in boring marriages; looking for tall muscular hairy men or are mums at home all day looking for validation. The men are much the same.

What you put in your profile probably makes up 10% of your chances. Get to a club and speak to real people, then keep in touch with them on here and word will get around about you and what you are like. "

Speak for yourself! I don't need any validation of strangers! The word gets around about you ! I never heard that before! But your comment willl get around alright full of false statements! I am not married or bored ! I am not staying at home mom and I meet who I fancy ! I don't like hairy man ! That's all your imagination?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't bothered. Get yourself to a club. This website is not what you believe it is. The vast majority of single women will not meet anyone; are fatasists in boring marriages; looking for tall muscular hairy men or are mums at home all day looking for validation. The men are much the same.

What you put in your profile probably makes up 10% of your chances. Get to a club and speak to real people, then keep in touch with them on here and word will get around about you and what you are like. "

Rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So for the few women who were so offended by my comment, it probably wasn't true for them. They have decent profiles and Veris.

You will see for yourself when you look at the whos near page and filter the matches just how many blank profiles or profiles of women saying they are not meeting at the moment. Or women that have been on for over a year with no pics or Veris.

I'll would go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Believe me when I say that word gets around when you go to a club regularly.

People will say "____is a nice guy" or "have you met___?"

Then people you meet will speak about you to others.

Ignore the nasty comments above. When you go to a club, you can ask people about others and they will say' yes, I've met them, they are lovely, do you want to be introduced?"

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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago

the right frame of mind -London

Wear mismatched shoes with a saville row suit, a grateful dead T-shirt and a high vis vest. Get a face tattoo, dye your hair green and wear Elton John 70's type glasses with a parrot on your shoulder -that should just about do it

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hey there

Just looking for some advice on how to get noticed and to get people to talk, i've mailed a few people on here and all my messages get deleted, no far i've had zero replies and just curious on any tips,suggestions on how to deal with this

Thanks very much

Jason

A good start is to put a little effort into a decent profile."

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You've only been here 3 weeks OP which is no time at all in Fab terms - it can take months or longer to get yourself established and get that first meet.

You have to remember that for every lady on here there are ten to fifteen men so presenting yourself in the best possible way is key, as is having the right set of expectations about the site and what you think it can offer. Simply setting up a profile is not an immediate key to sex on tap.

Usually when single guys find they're not getting any replies it's down to things they can change like their profile and pics not being particularly enticing, or their approach in messaging being wrong - so take a look at those things and ask if they could be any better - for instance does your profile sell you well, and come across as appealing, telling the reader a little about you and what you are looking for, as well as what you think you can offer? Do your pics show you off well, giving someone looking at them an idea of your body but not necessarily your cock? In other words would you want to meet you if you got a message from yourself?

There are other things you can do like getting along to clubs and organised socials or getting more involved in the forums and chat rooms which are all good ways to get to know people as well as get yourself known.

For more in depth profile advice, if you decide you need some, do a forum search for profile advice and follow some of the advice given in other threads.

You could also do a lot worse than take a look at the profile of MsGivesWood who has an excellent section in her profile aimed at helping new guys like yourself

Good luck!"

I also do cam veris for newbies to help from time to time as well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d look at the photos you have available.

Think shop window and how they present the items they want you to buy..

Are those pics doing you justice or does the next shop along look better?

Then you can start thinking about your message content..

I like to link it to there account and try to be light with a little banter.. something that might prompt a response.

It’s a challenge getting the message opened these days so make it a good one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't bothered. Get yourself to a club. This website is not what you believe it is. The vast majority of single women will not meet anyone; are fatasists in boring marriages; looking for tall muscular hairy men or are mums at home all day looking for validation. The men are much the same.

What you put in your profile probably makes up 10% of your chances. Get to a club and speak to real people, then keep in touch with them on here and word will get around about you and what you are like. "

Well someone is bitter much

Not my experience at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to get notice you got to accommodate for it to happen that what i believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and do things the right way,be decent respectful and treat others the way you want to be treated and you should be fine,just remember not everyone is everyone’s type and people have busy lives so just be patient and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've only been here 3 weeks OP which is no time at all in Fab terms - it can take months or longer to get yourself established and get that first meet.

You have to remember that for every lady on here there are ten to fifteen men so presenting yourself in the best possible way is key, as is having the right set of expectations about the site and what you think it can offer. Simply setting up a profile is not an immediate key to sex on tap.

Usually when single guys find they're not getting any replies it's down to things they can change like their profile and pics not being particularly enticing, or their approach in messaging being wrong - so take a look at those things and ask if they could be any better - for instance does your profile sell you well, and come across as appealing, telling the reader a little about you and what you are looking for, as well as what you think you can offer? Do your pics show you off well, giving someone looking at them an idea of your body but not necessarily your cock? In other words would you want to meet you if you got a message from yourself?

There are other things you can do like getting along to clubs and organised socials or getting more involved in the forums and chat rooms which are all good ways to get to know people as well as get yourself known.

For more in depth profile advice, if you decide you need some, do a forum search for profile advice and follow some of the advice given in other threads.

You could also do a lot worse than take a look at the profile of MsGivesWood who has an excellent section in her profile aimed at helping new guys like yourself

Good luck!

I also do cam veris for newbies to help from time to time as well x"

I'd like a heads up next time you're doing cam veris please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never post whinging status updates..people who do come to see your profile will see this, and be instantly put off

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