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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

why cant admin have some sort of way for people to show who the liars and time wasters are as the site will start loosing money as their site supporters will go else where

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Like what?

One person's time waster could be another person's fuck buddy. Just because they messed you around doesn't mean they mess everyone around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thats called time wasting . if you pretend your going to meet or even leed someone to believe so thats time wasting . if your not interested you dont waste peoples time

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

The definition of time waster and how you prove it is key.

Did you exchange 10 messages, you thought it was going somewhere, they lost interest??

Where you arranging a meet but they cancelled as they were hedging their bets and got there first choice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the world of life!!

You will encounter time wasters in all walks of life, not just on Fab....

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Forget all that OP just tell me where else to go and I’ll join.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where else is there?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"thats called time wasting . if you pretend your going to meet or even leed someone to believe so thats time wasting . if your not interested you dont waste peoples time "

Read it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like what?

One person's time waster could be another person's fuck buddy. Just because they messed you around doesn't mean they mess everyone around. "

Good answer

Nice tits by the way

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

We were accused of being timewasters last night - by a man who joined 3 months ago & is not verified - because we said we prefer to meet in person than spend ages sending messages.

We rather think HE would be the timewaster if we'd continued the messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats called time wasting . if you pretend your going to meet or even leed someone to believe so thats time wasting . if your not interested you dont waste peoples time "
You see, I don see that as time wasting. I see that as people simply changing their minds. I've chatted with oriole, said I'll meet them, and then they have said something in a message that has made me change my mind.

Time wasting to me is if you'd definitely said a time and a place to meet, you were sat there and they didn't show up.

So what system can there be that would work fairly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site !

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village


"thats called time wasting . if you pretend your going to meet or even leed someone to believe so thats time wasting . if your not interested you dont waste peoples time "

Chatting is not wasting someone's time. Not turning up to a planned meet is

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Like what?

One person's time waster could be another person's fuck buddy. Just because they messed you around doesn't mean they mess everyone around.

Good answer

Nice tits by the way "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats called time wasting . if you pretend your going to meet or even leed someone to believe so thats time wasting . if your not interested you dont waste peoples time You see, I don see that as time wasting. I see that as people simply changing their minds. I've chatted with oriole, said I'll meet them, and then they have said something in a message that has made me change my mind.

Time wasting to me is if you'd definitely said a time and a place to meet, you were sat there and they didn't show up.

So what system can there be that would work fairly?"

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Some guys think once you speak to them they will be balls deep in no time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thats called time wasting . if you pretend your going to meet or even leed someone to believe so thats time wasting . if your not interested you dont waste peoples time "

May be they were interested but saw another pic of you or even your face pic and thought no way, I don't fancy him after all!

Or maybe they no longer like the way your conversation is going and they no longer feel anything towards you.

People are allowed to not fancy you. People are allowed to change their mind about someone whether it's something you did/said or not. None are classed as timewasters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some guys think once you speak to them they will be balls deep in no time. "

Had that from a single bloke who's first message was horrific. Once I pointed that out to him and showing women some respect he replied "this is a swingers site if you hadn't noticed".

Erm no it's not just a swingers site. No one is entilted to anything. Mostly you're a single man messaging a single woman so therefore no you're not swinging! lol.

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By *G1-FunMan
over a year ago

Dumfries

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Some guys think once you speak to them they will be balls deep in no time.

Had that from a single bloke who's first message was horrific. Once I pointed that out to him and showing women some respect he replied "this is a swingers site if you hadn't noticed".

Erm no it's not just a swingers site. No one is entilted to anything. Mostly you're a single man messaging a single woman so therefore no you're not swinging! lol. "

I get that a lot. This is a sex site so why won't you shag me? Err, because I'm still a person capable of withholding consent, consent can be given or revoked at any time, and my participation here does not necessarily mean I'll consent to anything, let alone specifically you, Mr three word message then outrage when I don't rush to you immediately!

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"why cant admin have some sort of way for people to show who the liars and time wasters are as the site will start loosing money as their site supporters will go else where"

There is a "report" button if someone has genuinely wasted your time (as in, agreed to meet, set a place and time and didn't turn up).

Or, if its just that you swap messages, and then they decide they don't want to meet, (not really a timewaster), you can always do what a grown-up would do, block them and move on.

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"Where else is there?"
the real world

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The definition of time waster and how you prove it is key.

Did you exchange 10 messages, you thought it was going somewhere, they lost interest??

Where you arranging a meet but they cancelled as they were hedging their bets and got there first choice? "

i have had different kinds of time wasters to leeding someone on to believe your going to meet then blocking for no reason is one form of time wasting the other is when they say they will meet and then just stop talking to you after you have been talking a good amount of time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well done donna thats just typical of the attitude on here she messages me saying better not talk to you then blocks me well done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Forget all that OP just tell me where else to go and I’ll join."

just trying that fet life but doesn't seem very good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The definition of time waster and how you prove it is key.

Did you exchange 10 messages, you thought it was going somewhere, they lost interest??

Where you arranging a meet but they cancelled as they were hedging their bets and got there first choice?

i have had different kinds of time wasters to leeding someone on to believe your going to meet then blocking for no reason is one form of time wasting the other is when they say they will meet and then just stop talking to you after you have been talking a good amount of time "

That's not time wasting at all. That is someone changing their mind, which they are fully entitled to do.

Youre not doing yourself any favours with this post, you're making yourself sound like you've thrown your toys out of the pram a little because people change their minds about talking to you. Perhaps you're coming across like this in your messages so that's why whey block you, just a thought.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The definition of time waster and how you prove it is key.

Did you exchange 10 messages, you thought it was going somewhere, they lost interest??

Where you arranging a meet but they cancelled as they were hedging their bets and got there first choice?

i have had different kinds of time wasters to leeding someone on to believe your going to meet then blocking for no reason is one form of time wasting the other is when they say they will meet and then just stop talking to you after you have been talking a good amount of time "

No. If I stop talking to someone there's a reason, I've changed my mind, and I don't want to engage anymore. It might be rude (although in some circumstances it's still justified) but it's not time wasting. Chatting is not an obligation and time spent getting to know someone is just a price everyone here pays. Putting someone who disengages in the same category as a no show is entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site ! "

just need to make it clear i never said chatting to someone is leading them on it is what you say in the chats i have people i chat to on here and have been for a while and their is no lieing or leeding on to each other its the other that do leed you on to believe that is the problem

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"The definition of time waster and how you prove it is key.

Did you exchange 10 messages, you thought it was going somewhere, they lost interest??

Where you arranging a meet but they cancelled as they were hedging their bets and got there first choice?

i have had different kinds of time wasters to leeding someone on to believe your going to meet then blocking for no reason is one form of time wasting the other is when they say they will meet and then just stop talking to you after you have been talking a good amount of time "

To me that's not time wasting. They have made a choice not to meet you. You not knowing the reason is different to there being no reason.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The definition of time waster and how you prove it is key.

Did you exchange 10 messages, you thought it was going somewhere, they lost interest??

Where you arranging a meet but they cancelled as they were hedging their bets and got there first choice?

i have had different kinds of time wasters to leeding someone on to believe your going to meet then blocking for no reason is one form of time wasting the other is when they say they will meet and then just stop talking to you after you have been talking a good amount of time

No. If I stop talking to someone there's a reason, I've changed my mind, and I don't want to engage anymore. It might be rude (although in some circumstances it's still justified) but it's not time wasting. Chatting is not an obligation and time spent getting to know someone is just a price everyone here pays. Putting someone who disengages in the same category as a no show is entitlement. "

again i didn't say chatting was wasting time its whats said in the chat

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yes, but I might even say that I'm happy to meet someone... and then things start to go wrong. I've had it happen. They think they've snagged me, and they start being less polite, revealing things I hadn't seen before. I start to become concerned that this isn't the nice person I thought they were. They start to display entitlement or obsessive behaviours and I worry about disengaging safely. So I disengage and/or abruptly block, even though I've previously said I think I want to meet or have talked about meeting. I chat partly to vet people as safe. If I discover they're not or might not be, I bail. Other people might do it differently, but that's one reason why it might happen.

Just because you're frustrated with it and feel you've wasted time, doesn't make them a time waster. It just doesn't.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"thats called time wasting . if you pretend your going to meet or even leed someone to believe so thats time wasting . if your not interested you dont waste peoples time You see, I don see that as time wasting. I see that as people simply changing their minds. I've chatted with oriole, said I'll meet them, and then they have said something in a message that has made me change my mind.

Time wasting to me is if you'd definitely said a time and a place to meet, you were sat there and they didn't show up.

So what system can there be that would work fairly?"

This ,I'd say a time waster is someone who arranges a meet ans then doesn't show and doesn't let you know.

I've also changed my mind about people ?tbf I do tell them ,but some fear aggro or abuse if they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where else is there?"
the Bahamas very nice at this time of year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" again i didn't say chatting was wasting time its whats said in the chat "

I don't think what is said in the chat can be seen as time wasting. That is just normal flirting and suggestive talk that MAY lead to a meet or may not.

You never chatted at a bar thought it might go somewhere and it didn't? Is that time wasting. If I have had a good chat with a bit if flirty banter that is never time wasted. If it ends with a happy ending then even better but it us never a given!

On fab even a cancelled meeting in certain circumstances is not time wasting as things do crop up unexpectedly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" again i didn't say chatting was wasting time its whats said in the chat

I don't think what is said in the chat can be seen as time wasting. That is just normal flirting and suggestive talk that MAY lead to a meet or may not.

You never chatted at a bar thought it might go somewhere and it didn't? Is that time wasting. If I have had a good chat with a bit if flirty banter that is never time wasted. If it ends with a happy ending then even better but it us never a given!

On fab even a cancelled meeting in certain circumstances is not time wasting as things do crop up unexpectedly. "

it time wasting if that someone at the bar leeds you to believe your going back home with them and then at closing time she stops talking to you

seems their is a real problem with definition of time wasting here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Where else is there?the Bahamas very nice at this time of year "

lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, but I might even say that I'm happy to meet someone... and then things start to go wrong. I've had it happen. They think they've snagged me, and they start being less polite, revealing things I hadn't seen before. I start to become concerned that this isn't the nice person I thought they were. They start to display entitlement or obsessive behaviours and I worry about disengaging safely. So I disengage and/or abruptly block, even though I've previously said I think I want to meet or have talked about meeting. I chat partly to vet people as safe. If I discover they're not or might not be, I bail. Other people might do it differently, but that's one reason why it might happen.

Just because you're frustrated with it and feel you've wasted time, doesn't make them a time waster. It just doesn't. "

yes thats totally understandable if that happens but when that hasnt happened and their is no reason for sudden stopping of talk or been blocked its time wasting .

definition of time wasting is going to be different with everyone as this thread shows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you assumed the conversation was leading to a meet, but maybe they didn’t.

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you. "

Exactly.

Plus, it probably wasn’t going as well as you thought anyway. Maybe they were messaging back to be polite. Nobody is obligated to meet anybody else, just move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you. "

yes there is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

Exactly.

Plus, it probably wasn’t going as well as you thought anyway. Maybe they were messaging back to be polite. Nobody is obligated to meet anybody else, just move on."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is "

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Or flip it on its head; let’s say (hypothetically) someone is talking to you, getting on well etc. Then you say or do something totally offputting to them which makes them stop communicating with you - couldn’t they then say that you’ve wasted their time?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Yes, but I might even say that I'm happy to meet someone... and then things start to go wrong. I've had it happen. They think they've snagged me, and they start being less polite, revealing things I hadn't seen before. I start to become concerned that this isn't the nice person I thought they were. They start to display entitlement or obsessive behaviours and I worry about disengaging safely. So I disengage and/or abruptly block, even though I've previously said I think I want to meet or have talked about meeting. I chat partly to vet people as safe. If I discover they're not or might not be, I bail. Other people might do it differently, but that's one reason why it might happen.

Just because you're frustrated with it and feel you've wasted time, doesn't make them a time waster. It just doesn't.

yes thats totally understandable if that happens but when that hasnt happened and their is no reason for sudden stopping of talk or been blocked its time wasting .

definition of time wasting is going to be different with everyone as this thread shows "

But the thing is, the guy may not know it's happened. I'm certainly not going to advertise to someone I think might be a creep that they might be a creep, that's an invitation for them to escalate and the situation to get worse. For all they know, I've just vanished and am very rude. But for me, there's always a reason. But I don't need to explain if it means it might compromise my safety.

Your definition is wrong and entitled. Chatting and talking about meeting is not an obligation. Unless we agree a time and place and I don't show without good reason, it's not time wasting. Chatting is chatting, even if it's chatting about meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why cant admin have some sort of way for people to show who the liars and time wasters are as the site will start loosing money as their site supporters will go else where"

It's usually quite easy to work out

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs "

you just proved my point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs "

I can’t say I’ve ever stopped talking to someone “for no reason”. I’ve only stopped talking to people I find off putting for one reason or another. I’ve had people stop talking to me, it happens. Build a bridge and get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point "

No. I just proved my own point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point "

Actually, no, she didn’t

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

I can’t say I’ve ever stopped talking to someone “for no reason”. I’ve only stopped talking to people I find off putting for one reason or another. I’ve had people stop talking to me, it happens. Build a bridge and get over it. "

unfortunately not everyone is like that and they do it for no reason after leeding you on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t "

actually yes she did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t

actually yes she did "

She really didn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

I can’t say I’ve ever stopped talking to someone “for no reason”. I’ve only stopped talking to people I find off putting for one reason or another. I’ve had people stop talking to me, it happens. Build a bridge and get over it.

unfortunately not everyone is like that and they do it for no reason after leeding you on "

I’m beginning to see why they stopped replying to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t

actually yes she did

She really didn’t "

what ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire


"I’m beginning to see why they stopped replying to you"

I know what they say about how you shouldn’t assume anything, but I’m going out on a limb here and assuming that the majority of contributors on this thread are thinking the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had plenty reason to block you. If you feel differently then that’s your reasoning, but I had every right. I don’t actually need a reason to block you (however, I did).

OP, people block you, that’s the life of fab I’m afraid. I’ve been blocked plenty of times by men I’ve been messaging and suddenly just been blocked. I’ve once fabbed someone’s photo and been blocked. It’s okay. That’s life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m beginning to see why they stopped replying to you

I know what they say about how you shouldn’t assume anything, but I’m going out on a limb here and assuming that the majority of contributors on this thread are thinking the same"

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Yes, but I might even say that I'm happy to meet someone... and then things start to go wrong. I've had it happen. They think they've snagged me, and they start being less polite, revealing things I hadn't seen before. I start to become concerned that this isn't the nice person I thought they were. They start to display entitlement or obsessive behaviours and I worry about disengaging safely. So I disengage and/or abruptly block, even though I've previously said I think I want to meet or have talked about meeting. I chat partly to vet people as safe. If I discover they're not or might not be, I bail. Other people might do it differently, but that's one reason why it might happen.

Just because you're frustrated with it and feel you've wasted time, doesn't make them a time waster. It just doesn't. "

I think in the circumstances where you have been chatting with someone, liked them, provisionally agreed to meet and then changed your mind, you should at least say you have changed your mind and then block

Just blocking apparently out of nowhere seems to me a little rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t

actually yes she did

She really didn’t

what ever "

Ah, the retort of the true moron. Bravo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t

actually yes she did

She really didn’t

what ever

Ah, the retort of the true moron. Bravo "

liked id said previously its down to definition of time wasters and attitudes and you definitely have attitude as you seem to think fit to start name calling this op is about time wasters and not for any name calling your showing your true colours there

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Your waisting my time with the entitled whining OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t

actually yes she did

She really didn’t

what ever

Ah, the retort of the true moron. Bravo

liked id said previously its down to definition of time wasters and attitudes and you definitely have attitude as you seem to think fit to start name calling this op is about time wasters and not for any name calling your showing your true colours there "

I’d say that you being argumentative and childish is you showing your true colours. At least one person has blocked you off the back of this thread, maybe some time for reflection rather than continuing to throw your toys out of the pram

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t

actually yes she did

She really didn’t

what ever

Ah, the retort of the true moron. Bravo

liked id said previously its down to definition of time wasters and attitudes and you definitely have attitude as you seem to think fit to start name calling this op is about time wasters and not for any name calling your showing your true colours there

I’d say that you being argumentative and childish is you showing your true colours. At least one person has blocked you off the back of this thread, maybe some time for reflection rather than continuing to throw your toys out of the pram "

the what ever reply to you was because what you was saying was going nowhere and i haven't thrown any toys anywhere and its only you been argumentative . i have stated my point of view on what i see as time wasters .

once again i will say it just for you it obvious by this op thread everyone's opinion on time waters and liars is different .

enjoy your day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

you just proved my point

Actually, no, she didn’t

actually yes she did

She really didn’t

what ever

Ah, the retort of the true moron. Bravo

liked id said previously its down to definition of time wasters and attitudes and you definitely have attitude as you seem to think fit to start name calling this op is about time wasters and not for any name calling your showing your true colours there

I’d say that you being argumentative and childish is you showing your true colours. At least one person has blocked you off the back of this thread, maybe some time for reflection rather than continuing to throw your toys out of the pram

the what ever reply to you was because what you was saying was going nowhere and i haven't thrown any toys anywhere and its only you been argumentative . i have stated my point of view on what i see as time wasters .

once again i will say it just for you it obvious by this op thread everyone's opinion on time waters and liars is different .

enjoy your day"

Ok dude, you do you. It’s everyone else’s fault!

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Think you need to look at your expectations OP this site is only here to help people connect.

It's down to you to find the connection if conversations fizzle out or you get blocked surely that's the opposite of time waisting?

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

The problem would be to not turn up without explanation. That's just rude!!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

I can’t say I’ve ever stopped talking to someone “for no reason”. I’ve only stopped talking to people I find off putting for one reason or another. I’ve had people stop talking to me, it happens. Build a bridge and get over it.

unfortunately not everyone is like that and they do it for no reason after leeding you on

I’m beginning to see why they stopped replying to you"

You got this far and you're only beginning to see why? I knew why after reading the OP and every one of his posts since have just confirmed my suspicions.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site ! "

I’m not a site supporter. Should I be forced to leave? Also, although you say it’s a sex site, swinging in my opinion is also about socialising with people who like recreational sex not just having sex.

People are on here to socialise, look at photos, chat, not necessarily to have sex. It smacks of the signs of a Dictatorship when people decide on how I use this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site !

I’m not a site supporter. Should I be forced to leave? Also, although you say it’s a sex site, swinging in my opinion is also about socialising with people who like recreational sex not just having sex.

People are on here to socialise, look at photos, chat, not necessarily to have sex. It smacks of the signs of a Dictatorship when people decide on how I use this site. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site !

I’m not a site supporter. Should I be forced to leave? Also, although you say it’s a sex site, swinging in my opinion is also about socialising with people who like recreational sex not just having sex.

People are on here to socialise, look at photos, chat, not necessarily to have sex. It smacks of the signs of a Dictatorship when people decide on how I use this site. "

My opinion every one free to do and say what they like .It's a public forum and that's my opinion .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" again i didn't say chatting was wasting time its whats said in the chat

I don't think what is said in the chat can be seen as time wasting. That is just normal flirting and suggestive talk that MAY lead to a meet or may not.

You never chatted at a bar thought it might go somewhere and it didn't? Is that time wasting. If I have had a good chat with a bit if flirty banter that is never time wasted. If it ends with a happy ending then even better but it us never a given!

On fab even a cancelled meeting in certain circumstances is not time wasting as things do crop up unexpectedly.

it time wasting if that someone at the bar leeds you to believe your going back home with them and then at closing time she stops talking to you

seems their is a real problem with definition of time wasting here "

That's still not time wasting. That is someone changing their mind. Have you not enjoyed chatting to that person during the course of the night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you. "

Totally this

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Op I'd say you're wasting your own time with a post moaning about people wasting yours.

I think perhaps you need to look at the conversations you've had and look at the pattern of why it goes no where. A conversation is just that regardless of what is discussed. If you're getting graphic I'd probably suggest you're talking with women who are in fact men

People can only waste your time if you have time to waste. Adjust your approach and lower your expectations.

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


" again i didn't say chatting was wasting time its whats said in the chat

I don't think what is said in the chat can be seen as time wasting. That is just normal flirting and suggestive talk that MAY lead to a meet or may not.

You never chatted at a bar thought it might go somewhere and it didn't? Is that time wasting. If I have had a good chat with a bit if flirty banter that is never time wasted. If it ends with a happy ending then even better but it us never a given!

On fab even a cancelled meeting in certain circumstances is not time wasting as things do crop up unexpectedly.

it time wasting if that someone at the bar leeds you to believe your going back home with them and then at closing time she stops talking to you

seems their is a real problem with definition of time wasting here "

That’s the definition of ‘entitlement’. All because someone flirted and bantered with you, doesn’t mean they have to have sex with you!! This may explain why people stop talking to you,

Google ‘Teacup consent’ and watch the video - it will explain about consent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" again i didn't say chatting was wasting time its whats said in the chat

I don't think what is said in the chat can be seen as time wasting. That is just normal flirting and suggestive talk that MAY lead to a meet or may not.

You never chatted at a bar thought it might go somewhere and it didn't? Is that time wasting. If I have had a good chat with a bit if flirty banter that is never time wasted. If it ends with a happy ending then even better but it us never a given!

On fab even a cancelled meeting in certain circumstances is not time wasting as things do crop up unexpectedly.

it time wasting if that someone at the bar leeds you to believe your going back home with them and then at closing time she stops talking to you

seems their is a real problem with definition of time wasting here

That’s the definition of ‘entitlement’. All because someone flirted and bantered with you, doesn’t mean they have to have sex with you!! This may explain why people stop talking to you,

Google ‘Teacup consent’ and watch the video - it will explain about consent.

"

pretty hard to get it through to some of you isnt it im going to leave this here you can all keep leaving your comments i wont be checking what your putting as its like talking to a brick wall trying to explain the difference

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


" again i didn't say chatting was wasting time its whats said in the chat

I don't think what is said in the chat can be seen as time wasting. That is just normal flirting and suggestive talk that MAY lead to a meet or may not.

You never chatted at a bar thought it might go somewhere and it didn't? Is that time wasting. If I have had a good chat with a bit if flirty banter that is never time wasted. If it ends with a happy ending then even better but it us never a given!

On fab even a cancelled meeting in certain circumstances is not time wasting as things do crop up unexpectedly.

it time wasting if that someone at the bar leeds you to believe your going back home with them and then at closing time she stops talking to you

seems their is a real problem with definition of time wasting here "

People can change their minds at any time, including during any sexual act - man or woman !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This argument can run and run but from what we’ve seen after being a paying member since day one this site is famous for time wasters every one we speak to seems to be affected by it maybe because parts of membership are free !

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

Be an adult and live it. It will happen again and again and again.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is

Maybe from your point of view there is. But not from theirs

I can’t say I’ve ever stopped talking to someone “for no reason”. I’ve only stopped talking to people I find off putting for one reason or another. I’ve had people stop talking to me, it happens. Build a bridge and get over it.

unfortunately not everyone is like that and they do it for no reason after leeding you on "

Leading you on?

You could flirt, swap pix and talk about meeting at no point does that count as leading you on. They are able to say no at any point in the process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's round them up and shoot them, only way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site ! "

Yep I'd have to agree with all this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site ! "
awwww because they can't afford the £5 site supporter fee or don't want to give their payment details to an unknown source they are lesser people although I kinda agree with the pics thing but maybe they've taken loads of pics and their own critique wouldn’t allow them to upload or maybe they were thinking of our eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where else is there?"

There are other options.

Love Swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like what?

One person's time waster could be another person's fuck buddy. Just because they messed you around doesn't mean they mess everyone around. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where else is there?the real world "

This is the problem with people these days.... they are afraid of the real world... it’s like internet is the the only way to get sex....

If the internet is letting you down .... you can still go out in the real world and find people...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess everyone is allowed to change there mind

I'd say people don't start out thinking right. .I'm going to waste this persons/couples time .

As mentioned there will be a reason behind there cancelling a meet .which there totally entitled to do .

It could be a comment during a chat

It could be a picture that showed someone a bit different to how they initially looked

Or could be personal family life got in the way ..

Its not the end of the world .worse things to worry about .

Just move on ....

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London


"My veiw is you can chat too someone and they interest you .But keep chatting they can say something that you think oh not sure .At this point you dont want to meet them. Changing your mind isn't being a time waster in my view .Too many jump at people as time wasters .

However I have seen alot of profiles with no pictures and no verifications and been on along time ,I think these should be removed as most are not site supporters .why are they on ? It's a sex site !

just need to make it clear i never said chatting to someone is leading them on it is what you say in the chats i have people i chat to on here and have been for a while and their is no lieing or leeding on to each other its the other that do leed you on to believe that is the problem"

Not very clear but well...

Creating an idea in your mind is not wasting your time. Telling you they will be somewhere and not showing up WITHOUT AN EXPLANATION probably is, but that you can report to admin.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

When someone uses the sentence "It's a sex site" to try and achieve any kind of result, my response is:

- Check the site FAQ - does it say that anywhere?

- Even if it is, we are the users of the site, not its employees or property, so no one owes you anything.

- You are blocked now, all the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, a time waster is someone who arranges a meet then no shows with no contact when you've taken the time to get ready, travel etc.

Exchanging a few messages then losing interest, for whatever reason is kind of normal. No one is obliged to meet and if in the course of exchanging messages you find you don't feel comfortable then so be it.

Too many people on here expect way too much and are subsequently disappointed but if you expect nothing and get a meet its a nice bonus.

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"There is never “no reason” for someone to suddenly stop talking or block you.

yes there is "

No there isn’t there is always a reason maybe something came up in their life or it’s something you said or various other reasons there is no such thing as no reason for someone suddenly stop talking.

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