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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are a young attractive (so we are told) couple looking for single females to join us. Why are we finding it extremely hard? What’s the secret? What do we need to do differently? Please help

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

It is extremely difficult to find that and for it to work online.

Clubs where the single ladies are you'll stand much more chance at success. Events like the vanilla alternatives festival of fun on the first weekend in August.

Got to get out in the real world to increase your chances massively;) xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks for the advice. We will look into it!

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Ok thanks for the advice. We will look into it!"

You're welcome. Good luck xxx

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Are you messaging single fems or expecting them to message you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are messaging them with face pics and winking them. How in depth should the message be and should we send more than 1 face pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a young attractive (so we are told) couple looking for single females to join us. Why are we finding it extremely hard? What’s the secret? What do we need to do differently? Please help"

The term unicorn is used for a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have great pictures, but it's solely focused on the woman. A bi female tends to need to be attracted to both. You are targeting your pictures towards a straight male audience. The text, though sweet and inviting, doesn't offer much up about you as a couple. I think you'd both have far more success, if you did some tweaking. There are a lot of other couples vying for the attention of the single bi fem. If you stand out, you'll stand a much higher chance

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

"We are messaging them with face pics and winking them. How in depth should the message be and should we send more than 1 face pic?"

I would sort out your profile first.

Include a fair amount of pics of you and your man as she will most prob want to play with you both

And def more text, would you buy a car if all it told you was the price and the colour

We get single fems (albeit rarely) and have a few poss on the go so if that’s your thing then explain in detail what you are willing to bring to the table for them

Also, get on cam. The amount of interest we get when we mess about on cam is ridiculously more than if we post on the forums/put up meets etc

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You also need to consider that you are inviting a woman to participate. A bi fem woman will not always feel comfortable knowing that they will just be fulfilling the needs of the couple. What is in it for the third person? There needs to be a lure there. Also the straight status is off putting, if you are hoping for bi play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You also need to consider that you are inviting a woman to participate. A bi fem woman will not always feel comfortable knowing that they will just be fulfilling the needs of the couple. What is in it for the third person? There needs to be a lure there. Also the straight status is off putting, if you are hoping for bi play. "
how many bi females would be happy to just play with the female half of a couple if the male half was just there to watch...or is that something that never happens???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You also need to consider that you are inviting a woman to participate. A bi fem woman will not always feel comfortable knowing that they will just be fulfilling the needs of the couple. What is in it for the third person? There needs to be a lure there. Also the straight status is off putting, if you are hoping for bi play. how many bi females would be happy to just play with the female half of a couple if the male half was just there to watch...or is that something that never happens???"

I personally wouldn't be comfortable with it. If it's a one on one, I'd prefer the husband/partner not to be present. But I'm sure there would be some who would

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I was a single fem on here for a while and ended up meeting one couple for play and 2 for socials. Personally, I would want more pics of Mr, more info on the profile and the ‘straight’ part would put me off too, if I was expecting to play with just the guy then I’d probably just meet a single guy rather than a couple.

Obviously you can give some more info to explain or expand in your messages (which of course you might be) but generally (in my experience) single girls can get the pick of who they want and have people falling over them so more effort is needed to maximise chances of success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a young attractive (so we are told) couple looking for single females to join us. Why are we finding it extremely hard? What’s the secret? What do we need to do differently? Please help"

Grace is a decent hardbody, that may be intimidating to some larger women who don't look after themselves and may inevitably leave them feeling inferior therefore they will avoid. Not saying it's the case here but it is regularly the case for mmf with the male half of the couple feeling inferior

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Expecting the single female to accommodate you both would be a no no for me, also the fact that's its her first bi experience. As said above, more pics of male half and make your text more female friendly. Good luck. X

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

A lot of women luv playing with a woman but will not have guys watching them or trying to take part. A female friend of mine went to meet a couple but she is a big girl and the other lady would not let her guy play with her and she just got up and left . She was snubed in the play .

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By *cotGirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

As a single woman who preferentially meets couples I would agree with a lot of the advice alrwady given.

I don't know if you include them in messages but I would want to see photos of both halves of a couple and your profile photos are very female heavy (though they are really great photos!).

I would also be cautious about meeting a couple where they are both listed as straight...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a young attractive (so we are told) couple looking for single females to join us. Why are we finding it extremely hard? What’s the secret? What do we need to do differently? Please help

I would say that to, what is attractive to one person is not to another,as much as i think you look beautiful i would not meet you as feel i would feel inferior even though im a very happy confident girl its bloody hard guys we have been lucky and met single girls but has took over 3 years lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No pics of male half, and your very short and bland profile reads like the other lady is just there for you to experiment with and for your amusement.

What's in it for her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow now you say it it’s so obvious thanks everyone we will sort our profile ASAP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The couples I have the most interest in, are those that definitely come across as a pair looking to play together, with me as added fun. It doesn't appeal to me if I think it'd just be me playing with the girl while he watches. A profile that shows you both is more appealing to me as a single girl. Hope that helps x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, some more info has been added along with a couple more pics of Male half. Does it still need work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wow now you say it it’s so obvious thanks everyone we will sort our profile ASAP!"

That is so much better! Well done both. It's now a very lovely profile. Good luck to you both

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Awesome fingers and toes crossed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Travel North!!

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By *cotGirlWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Looks great now!

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By *ure Fucking NaughtiesWoman
over a year ago

Wonderland

I didn't see it before but I agree it looks ace now, dam me being out your age range your pics are hot!!

I'm sure you'll have lots of luck now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Down to all you guys great advice. If it helps us meet a nice female we will be sure to let you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a young attractive (so we are told) couple looking for single females to join us. Why are we finding it extremely hard? What’s the secret? What do we need to do differently? Please help

This would apply to me. Even though I'm only curious at best, if i were to play with a woman, I tend to find slimmer women attractive. Being bigger myself, I see no reason why a fit athletic couple would want to play with me. If they did then I would suspect it would only be so that the woman doesn't feel threatened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been lucky enough to meet some very sexy single girls over the last few years and as a previous poster has seid, you need to visit clubs and organised socials. This is were most of them feel safe to meet/play with people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a bi female who is struggling to find a couple loooooads of chat no actual meets

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Couples and single women night/events seem the natural choice. Logical that there will be some single ladies looking to play with couples (or lady halfs looking to play alone with a couple). Then just use your charm, good looks and conversation to entice one. If you struggle there then I don't know?

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