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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been on the site for a while now but still am a “ fab virgin “

Was just wondering would it be something to do with my profile / age / the fact I have no verifications ?

I’ve been patient and have had good convos with people but they will just randomly stop messaging me with no explanation or else the convo dies out and goes no where

Ps I know a lot of people post threads with this similar sort of problem so will be very appreciative for any advice or tips at all !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well at least you’ve updated your text since the last time you asked for advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well at least you’ve updated your text since the last time you asked for advice "

Yeah I got a lot of mixed advice last time about my profile ranging from keep it the same to change it completely with one person even offering to write it for me lol

In the end I decided to change it but I feel like It can still be improved upon considering my current situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And what is your “current situation”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club

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By *_and_LCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

There's nothing in it really.

You refer twice to being unverified/not having met. Then you have a rather negative sentence about being straight - there are different ways of saying that which will come across better.

What do you enjoy? What are you looking for? What are you good at? These are the kinds of things I want to see in a profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And what is your “current situation”?"

Being a “ fab virgin “

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go to a club "

No clubs near me sadly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's nothing in it really.

You refer twice to being unverified/not having met. Then you have a rather negative sentence about being straight - there are different ways of saying that which will come across better.

What do you enjoy? What are you looking for? What are you good at? These are the kinds of things I want to see in a profile. "

The line about being straight is due to a bombardment of gay/bi men messaging me , they seem to be the only people intrested in me lol

And when mentioning things I enjoy should it all be strictly sexual or some non sexual stuff aswell in your opinion

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By *_and_LCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth


"There's nothing in it really.

You refer twice to being unverified/not having met. Then you have a rather negative sentence about being straight - there are different ways of saying that which will come across better.

What do you enjoy? What are you looking for? What are you good at? These are the kinds of things I want to see in a profile.

The line about being straight is due to a bombardment of gay/bi men messaging me , they seem to be the only people intrested in me lol

And when mentioning things I enjoy should it all be strictly sexual or some non sexual stuff aswell in your opinion "

I get that - but honestly many of the men who are messaging probably won't see that anyway or will ignore it! It comes across as very negative, like I say - other ways to say the same thing and come across better.

In terms of likes - personally I'm not all that fussed by people's day to day interests although people do put them in. But certainly why you're here and what you're looking for - for example, if you're looking for dominant women, I'd know straight away you weren't for us! It gives people a steer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's nothing in it really.

You refer twice to being unverified/not having met. Then you have a rather negative sentence about being straight - there are different ways of saying that which will come across better.

What do you enjoy? What are you looking for? What are you good at? These are the kinds of things I want to see in a profile.

The line about being straight is due to a bombardment of gay/bi men messaging me , they seem to be the only people intrested in me lol

And when mentioning things I enjoy should it all be strictly sexual or some non sexual stuff aswell in your opinion

I get that - but honestly many of the men who are messaging probably won't see that anyway or will ignore it! It comes across as very negative, like I say - other ways to say the same thing and come across better.

In terms of likes - personally I'm not all that fussed by people's day to day interests although people do put them in. But certainly why you're here and what you're looking for - for example, if you're looking for dominant women, I'd know straight away you weren't for us! It gives people a steer. "

Tbh it’s steered quite a few off , or else maybe they’re just bored of me rejecting them I’m not sure

But thank you anyway I’ll be sure to take the advice on board !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’re biggest problem is probably something you can’t do anything about...... your age.

PS. Pretty sure there are clubs in the Liverpool area, if not you could go to Manchester

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By *_and_LCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Townhouse is just over the way and Cupids in Manchester has good reviews.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think you’re biggest problem is probably something you can’t do anything about...... your age.

PS. Pretty sure there are clubs in the Liverpool area, if not you could go to Manchester "

Yeah it’s pretty clear that younger guys don’t see much action on here

Yes I’ve heard of one in Liverpool but due to a pretty hectic uni timetable last year I never really got the chance to go , hoping to attend next year sometime but

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Townhouse is just over the way and Cupids in Manchester has good reviews. "

Manchester is a bit far away for me but I do plan on trying to go to townhouse next year sometime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you *have* to put in about guys don’t lead with it. And cant you just block them.

Being so honest about being inexperienced will put many people off. But at least you will only get those who are cool with it. However I’d lighten it up a bit. Make it your selling point. Atm this, plus your age, makes you sound a little bit too much of a gamble.... could flake. Could get too excited. Or scared. Maybe it’s because you used the word virgin but those are the images I get.

And people with kids, work, etc can make clubs. I’m sure even a hectic student has free time for one night out !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you *have* to put in about guys don’t lead with it. And cant you just block them.

Being so honest about being inexperienced will put many people off. But at least you will only get those who are cool with it. However I’d lighten it up a bit. Make it your selling point. Atm this, plus your age, makes you sound a little bit too much of a gamble.... could flake. Could get too excited. Or scared. Maybe it’s because you used the word virgin but those are the images I get.

And people with kids, work, etc can make clubs. I’m sure even a hectic student has free time for one night out !!"

I would block single guys but I chat to a few guys on here who I would consider friends of sorts so I would lose contact with them

In what way would you lighten it up in particular , like make it less serious and a bit more jokey or what ?

As a side note also would you say my pics are in need of a change or would you say they’re suitable

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By *_and_LCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth


"I would block single guys but I chat to a few guys on here who I would consider friends of sorts so I would lose contact with them "

People you've messaged before don't sit in the block I don't think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would block single guys but I chat to a few guys on here who I would consider friends of sorts so I would lose contact with them

People you've messaged before don't sit in the block I don't think. "

Great to know thanks !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you *have* to put in about guys don’t lead with it. And cant you just block them.

Being so honest about being inexperienced will put many people off. But at least you will only get those who are cool with it. However I’d lighten it up a bit. Make it your selling point. Atm this, plus your age, makes you sound a little bit too much of a gamble.... could flake. Could get too excited. Or scared. Maybe it’s because you used the word virgin but those are the images I get.

And people with kids, work, etc can make clubs. I’m sure even a hectic student has free time for one night out !!

I would block single guys but I chat to a few guys on here who I would consider friends of sorts so I would lose contact with them

In what way would you lighten it up in particular , like make it less serious and a bit more jokey or what ?

As a side note also would you say my pics are in need of a change or would you say they’re suitable "

I think the filters only kick in for first messages. Could be wrong.

In terms of wording ... how about this for a start

“Do you remember who first corrupted you ? I want that person to be you!”

I skimmed the pics tbh. No selfies really do it for me. Probably seen to many here to be wowed by anything other than an artful pic.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon


"Townhouse is just over the way and Cupids in Manchester has good reviews.

Manchester is a bit far away for me but I do plan on trying to go to townhouse next year sometime "

Manchester is too far but you travel regularly between Belfast and Liverpool?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you *have* to put in about guys don’t lead with it. And cant you just block them.

Being so honest about being inexperienced will put many people off. But at least you will only get those who are cool with it. However I’d lighten it up a bit. Make it your selling point. Atm this, plus your age, makes you sound a little bit too much of a gamble.... could flake. Could get too excited. Or scared. Maybe it’s because you used the word virgin but those are the images I get.

And people with kids, work, etc can make clubs. I’m sure even a hectic student has free time for one night out !!

I would block single guys but I chat to a few guys on here who I would consider friends of sorts so I would lose contact with them

In what way would you lighten it up in particular , like make it less serious and a bit more jokey or what ?

As a side note also would you say my pics are in need of a change or would you say they’re suitable

I think the filters only kick in for first messages. Could be wrong.

In terms of wording ... how about this for a start

“Do you remember who first corrupted you ? I want that person to be you!”

I skimmed the pics tbh. No selfies really do it for me. Probably seen to many here to be wowed by anything other than an artful pic. "

Okay thanks for the help !

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Go to a club

No clubs near me sadly "

Townhouse, the Wirral. Just a very short distance from you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Townhouse is just over the way and Cupids in Manchester has good reviews.

Manchester is a bit far away for me but I do plan on trying to go to townhouse next year sometime

Manchester is too far but you travel regularly between Belfast and Liverpool? "

Not regurally in the way you think , I go to uni in Liverpool and come home to Belfast every 3 months or so when I get the chance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go to a club

No clubs near me sadly

Townhouse, the Wirral. Just a very short distance from you!"

It wasn’t close to where I was living last year but next year I’m a bit closer and I am hoping to get down at some stage of the year !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you *have* to put in about guys don’t lead with it. And cant you just block them.

Being so honest about being inexperienced will put many people off. But at least you will only get those who are cool with it. However I’d lighten it up a bit. Make it your selling point. Atm this, plus your age, makes you sound a little bit too much of a gamble.... could flake. Could get too excited. Or scared. Maybe it’s because you used the word virgin but those are the images I get.

And people with kids, work, etc can make clubs. I’m sure even a hectic student has free time for one night out !!

I would block single guys but I chat to a few guys on here who I would consider friends of sorts so I would lose contact with them

In what way would you lighten it up in particular , like make it less serious and a bit more jokey or what ?

As a side note also would you say my pics are in need of a change or would you say they’re suitable

I think the filters only kick in for first messages. Could be wrong.

In terms of wording ... how about this for a start

“Do you remember who first corrupted you ? I want that person to be you!”

I skimmed the pics tbh. No selfies really do it for me. Probably seen to many here to be wowed by anything other than an artful pic.

Okay thanks for the help ! "
np. Good luck. And enjoy !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the brutal truth is that you are very young, inexperienced and unable to accommodate. The age in particular is going to be a huge strike against you for many people.

While there is nothing particularly wrong with your profile, everything about it screams 'Young, horny guy who wants to get laid'. And there are thousands of them.

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