FabSwingers.com forum: All replies say no or ignored

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What am I doing wrong ? Trying to meet a couple or female to join me in my hotel room for fun . But I only get ignored or no thanks . What am I doing wrong

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

at least you are getting 'no thanks'...that is one up from no replies.

are there any clubs near you, you could travel to.

try posting in the meet today forum.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

i think most of your answers would be here...

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/77105

in the thread you started on the same topic yesterday!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you message somebody do you send a photo ? I only ask as you do not have pics on your profile so if we was sent a message and took a look at your profile we too would just pass on by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, there are some condtructive answers on the thread that Fabio has linked to that you started yesrerday. Thy may not be the answers you want, but starting another thread is unlikely to get you a different response.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

if your messages are as sexy, funny, interesting and compelling as your profile, then do you really need to ask why you aren't getting many takers?

seriously - is that really the best you can do?

If it's not then quit whining go and do something about it yourself

If it is the best you can come up with then we can't help you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think most of your answers would be here...

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/77105

in the thread you started on the same topic yesterday!!

This was funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New photos will be posted soon as soon as I get somemore taken. - No photos added this suggests to me you are not willing to make the effort, but expect the results!

I can't accommodate but can travel or happy to do hotel meets. - This suggests 'married man'

I maybe making cruel assumptions, but I think I would not be alone in doing so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im accomodating last nite tonite and tomorra...Im getting fuck all, suppose it is midweek lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't accommodate but can travel or happy to do hotel meets. - This suggests 'married man'

I maybe making cruel assumptions, but I think I would not be alone in doing so!"

That's what we also think. Plus the fact that from Birmingham he is willing to go to Club F... that's 6 hours of driving on a return journey when the biggest club is in Darlaston also makes us feeling he is worried about bumping into someone who could inform the wife.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

didnt you do a similar thread a couple days ago. I said then if you dont put up decent face pics and turn the sides ways one up right way no one will bother.

seems you not listening at all

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/77105

did you read these suggestions at all ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i think most of your answers would be here...

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/77105

in the thread you started on the same topic yesterday!!

also in the all the other threads he has started asking same things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought I had a sense of deja vu!!!

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

If you are a single male on this site, you do have to have a hell of a lot of self confidence. You are going to get a lot of deleted messages and knock backs.

Unless you are one of the few lucky fellows that seems to have no issues with mets and the such like you are going to be one of the many 100s of males that are going to get dishearted and depressed with the site.

Just be strong, confident and know what you are looking for... If not you are just going to get depressed, feel ugly and rejected.

Andy xxx

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Your profile is crap. You appear to be married. You have no pictures, but you'll put some up soon, you've been here 10 months, get a move on. You can be orally bi if required, you are either bi or you ain't. Or are you just getting desperate now, so although you are straight, you'll now meet TV's?

But then you haven't taken advice from anywhere else, so why am I even bothering to write this, you'll just continue whining anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as in life,so it is in fab. Some folks know how to get by and some don't. It always seems the "successful" ones that give the harshest replies. Perhaps its just my nature but if I couldn't give a non personal reply (stop whingeing etc) I wouldn't reply at all. So theres lots of single males on here moaning about not getting meets. I don't see the need to have a go at them for it. Helpful but not personally critical may help. Stop moaning ffs doesn't. They will either take the good advice or probably leave the site in time. Bit of charity eh guys and gals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A profile should be about you what you like and dislike and judging on this pile of pants.

You cant be bothered to actually get a good profile that reads well (all jumbled up)

No photos on it to show who you are

and you are moaning that people are saying NO!!!!!

mmmm i wonder why people are deleting the message and ignoring you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the above comments, you clearly seem bothered by it, so look as though you can be bothered, otherwise stop complaining.

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Sometime though a good well written profile makes no difference, as you are just assuming people are going to read you profile.

A good couple of photos and a good first message seems to be the way forward ..

Andy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if im looking to play or meet i will read profiles to see if there is a interest that we both like

no point messaging people who aren't interested what you are into

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

Maybe the gents got amneasia or the memory retention of a goldfish, and he's forgotten he started the thread yesterday, photos to be taken, he's straight but bi, lost the map to club f ,

I know I've repeated myself thought it might help him remember it...

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"Maybe the gents got amneasia or the memory retention of a goldfish, and he's forgotten he started the thread yesterday, photos to be taken, he's straight but bi, lost the map to club f ,

Maybe the gents got amneasia or the memory retention of a goldfish, and he's forgotten he started the thread yesterday, photos to be taken, he's straight but bi, lost the map to club f ,

I know I've repeated myself thought it might help him remember it...

People often repeat thread to keep them fresh and in the peoples eye.. Though why you repeated you paragraph I have no idea.. hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe the gents got amneasia or the memory retention of a goldfish, and he's forgotten he started the thread yesterday, photos to be taken, he's straight but bi, lost the map to club f ,

Maybe the gents got amneasia or the memory retention of a goldfish, and he's forgotten he started the thread yesterday, photos to be taken, he's straight but bi, lost the map to club f ,

I know I've repeated myself thought it might help him remember it...

People often repeat thread to keep them fresh and in the peoples eye.. Though why you repeated you paragraph I have no idea.. hehe"

I've just noticed that, a wind up merchant.

Fair play some poster bit twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try turning your photo around properly with the rotate thingy majig may help and save folk from getting whip lash to try lean right over to look at you unless of course your a contortionist and that really was how that profile photo was taken

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By *tomComMan
over a year ago

Wellingborough

I have heard that single males that put a photo of them with a nice looking lady get a lot more interest..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have heard that single males that put a photo of them with a nice looking lady get a lot more interest..

yep

heard it and people have done it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are looking for single males but certain things get an automatic no from us.

Generic copy and paste responses, we like to see someone has read our profile and is interested rather than just throwing enough sh*t at the wall.

One liners, asking us to get in touch if interested... interested in what? you haven't said anything.

Telling us what you need out of us. Yes we all have wants but as a single bloke it's really down on you to be fulfilling our fantasies rather than the other way round, hense the need to read our profile.

A face pic, sorry, a natural smiling face pic always goes down incredibly well. We want to feel like we're invited someone friendly round to our home!

If I think of anymore I'll add xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or really old photos

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

People often repeat thread to keep them fresh and in the peoples eye.. Though why you repeated you paragraph I have no idea.. hehe"

maybe that is the case... bit harder to claim that if the original post was only the 10th one down from the top though...

he asked the question.. he got some good answer... and rather than take it in and digest... he put up another thread, same question!

as for some point being harsh... you know what, I'll try and tell it like it is.... being spoonfed help in the end doesn't help... it just shows people the minimum effort they need to get to where they need to... people that way don't learn

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Despite being on line he doesnt seem to come back and read the thread. If he does then he has not taken on what anyone said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now you see why he dont get meets lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a pure attention seeking thread

if he cared about his profile he would have checked back and changed it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People often repeat thread to keep them fresh and in the peoples eye.. Though why you repeated you paragraph I have no idea.. hehe

maybe that is the case... bit harder to claim that if the original post was only the 10th one down from the top though...

he asked the question.. he got some good answer... and rather than take it in and digest... he put up another thread, same question!

maybe sometimes is because they're still waiting for the answer that they want to hear,but hey...

I think it's like you hear on so many other threads, there's someone out there for everyone, not everyone is necessarily going to be to taste, and if you've had no success so far, then it's only because you've been messaging the wrong people, and given time and maybe a rethink you'll message the right ones...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try putting your pic the right way round for a start....that bugs me and i cant be bothered to turn my screen upside down to look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks like a case of all replies ignored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It looks like a case of all replies ignored

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single blokes and meets....

People will suggest all sort of things, and they won't all be consistent.

Nice pics, straight forward profile and nothing that will make people think your fibbing.

And to make friends you have to go to the socials and get verified and your over the first hurdles.

People will want to meet you if the pics are good and profile seems honest.

But do remember, most couples have a 'bi woman', so want a 'bi woman' to meet, and that's all their objective is, anything else is a compromise, can't have a bloke too good looking, fine for her, but not for him, insecurity etc, she can't be too good looking either for the same reason.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single blokes and meets....

People will suggest all sort of things, and they won't all be consistent.

Nice pics, straight forward profile and nothing that will make people think your fibbing."

True.

"And to make friends you have to go to the socials and get verified and your over the first hurdles."

Not so true, but socials can help.

"People will want to meet you if the pics are good and profile seems honest."

Prefer original profiles and not ones lifted/stolen from other single fellas that have given advice in the past .....just saying!

"But do remember, most couples have a 'bi woman', so want a 'bi woman' to meet, and that's all their objective is, anything else is a compromise,"

Oh dear... I'm a bi woman... we have met and played with many single fellas.... I and the OH were NOT compromising.

"can't have a bloke too good looking, fine for her, but not for him, insecurity etc, she can't be too good looking either for the same reason."

Oh right... so we have to play with fugly's 'cause we are scared that our partners will feel a bit insecure??? That's made me giggle no end

I'll think you'll find that most swinging couples are extremely secure and actually enjoy seeing their partners have fun with others that he/she is attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just want to say that my reference to the copy n pasted/stolen profile is NOT aimed at the OP or the poster I responded to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to say that my reference to the copy n pasted/stolen profile is NOT aimed at the OP or the poster I responded to."

That's ok, You wouldn't lift someone's profile as bad a mine, lolol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to say that my reference to the copy n pasted/stolen profile is NOT aimed at the OP or the poster I responded to.

That's ok, You wouldn't lift someone's profile as bad a mine, lolol."

with that message i wouldnt message you as you seem insecure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to say that my reference to the copy n pasted/stolen profile is NOT aimed at the OP or the poster I responded to.

That's ok, You wouldn't lift someone's profile as bad a mine, lolol."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just want to say that my reference to the copy n pasted/stolen profile is NOT aimed at the OP or the poster I responded to.

That's ok, You wouldn't lift someones profile as bad a mine, lolol.

with that message i wouldnt message you as you seem insecure"

LOL, but a massive sense of humour, enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously? I mean seriously? What on earth are you basing that on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try try and try again if not get your self in chat on cam and try again lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...

Seriously? I mean seriously? What on earth are you basing that on? "

From looking around, remembering what's been posted in forums and my own experiences of sharing and swapping.

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