FabSwingers.com forum: Nice guys finish last???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m not exactly a super stud and not built like a Greek god, not bad though, but just can’t seem to get anywhere on here!

Very few ladies message back, and I do appreciate that they must get hundreds of messages but maybe I’m being too nice?

I do read the profiles and a try to pay my best compliments but at a loss what’s going wrong.

Not winging, but would love some advice from anyone sensible enough to read this ??

Thanks in advance

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Why do you think that has any bearing on whether your nice or not. Why do you think being nice is to blame

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I’m not exactly a super stud and not built like a Greek god, not bad though, but just can’t seem to get anywhere on here!

Very few ladies message back, and I do appreciate that they must get hundreds of messages but maybe I’m being too nice?

I do read the profiles and a try to pay my best compliments but at a loss what’s going wrong.

Not winging, but would love some advice from anyone sensible enough to read this ??

Thanks in advance "

It can take time as there are more men than women on here. An example, when I joined I received 540 messages in 30 minutes, that was 18 different men per minute messaging me, this was overpowering for me.

What are you paying compliments about? Some women will find that cheesy.

What do you mean by you are being too nice? As opposed to what?

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By *igletchicksterWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

"I’m not exactly a super stud and not built like a Greek god, not bad though, but just can’t seem to get anywhere on here!

Very few ladies message back, and I do appreciate that they must get hundreds of messages but maybe I’m being too nice?

I do read the profiles and a try to pay my best compliments but at a loss what’s going wrong.

Not winging, but would love some advice from anyone sensible enough to read this ??

Thanks in advance "

I'm at a loss too! People forget how to be decent, the biggest attraction to the scene is the social side, but on here it's less than anything else I've ever experienced!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can take time as there are more men than women on here. An example, when I joined I received 540 messages in 30 minutes, that was 18 different men per minute messaging me, this was overpowering for me."

Extract the digit, stop slacking

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

It's just the way swingers site have evolved over the years. It use to be a lot easier to be take serious and not to be instantly judged that you only want to fuck someone. Sadly the amount of single men on any site weather it's swinging or dating has put women and couples on the back foot to start with. I might be wrong but that's how it comes across to me these days.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Your messages may be nice, but your photos are not those of a "nice man". Some ladies may be wary of the bondage and kink side.

I would suggest you have a few photos of just yourself and save the other action shots to send to people after chatting a while.

Rather than compliments, talk about what it was in someone's profile that interested you. That way it will show you are eager to meet that particular, rather than coming across as a bit cheesy.

Just my thoughts

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

There's no such thing as too nice and contrary to what a lot of men think women do not all want a bad boy. Respectful and characterful is what I'm after. Unfortunately for men the nice, not so nice and the downright nasty they outnumber women many times on here. This means that it's going to be more difficult than most expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew -those cock torture pics are a bit...? !!

(Oh and Whinging is spelt with an H.....?

Best of mate !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the pointers, all taken on board!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont agree.

Honesty openess and good sense of humour wins for me

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

You're not doing too badly with 4 verifications.

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By *oresexMan
over a year ago

South West coast

Nice guys finish last???

Where as good guys always make sure a lady cums first.!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know how it’s possible to know from your profile where you are nice or not. You might be, you might not. Aspects of your profile are a bit of a turn-off for me, but those aspects don’t really reflect whether or not you are nice or not.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your messages may be nice, but your photos are not those of a "nice man". Some ladies may be wary of the bondage and kink side.

I would suggest you have a few photos of just yourself and save the other action shots to send to people after chatting a while.

Rather than compliments, talk about what it was in someone's profile that interested you. That way it will show you are eager to meet that particular, rather than coming across as a bit cheesy.

Just my thoughts

True I do not enjoy action shots. Totally off putting

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