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Not having much luck. Need help

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

New to this been on here a week not having any luck at all. Any idea why? All advice taken on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much luck? It's only been a week. Your part of the majority on here. A week in fabland is no time at all.

Others will be along to critique your profile if you want it.

The advise they will give is get yo a social event or club... Put yourself out there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand what your saying I'm not expecting loads of meets in a week but not even getting any messages or decent chat out of anyone I've tried with. What's wrong with my profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand what your saying I'm not expecting loads of meets in a week but not even getting any messages or decent chat out of anyone I've tried with. What's wrong with my profile? "
Think you are in for a big shock. if you can't understand why you ain't had a meet in a week. There are guys on here who have been on over a year and not had none.Just go to socials and get yourself known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many, many, many threads giving profile advice.

Go search them and apply them to your own.

As a hint, most women don't want to see a cock as an avatar and that legal notice is utterly pointless.

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London

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By *0tt0nSu3Woman
over a year ago

London


"New to this been on here a week not having any luck at all. Any idea why? All advice taken on... "

Since you have written that all advice is taken on, I'm going to take the assumption that you're asking for advice.

I wouldn't even look at a profile with a cock shot as their avatar. I'd move on to another profile with a picture that would attract my attention. I'm not the only woman on this site with that mindset either. We are on a swingers site. We all know what a cock looks like.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

What I personally find amazing is how seemingly grown men who have met women before put a close-up of their genitalia on their profile and then expect anyone to want to have a conversation with them. Just imagine doing that outside of this site.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’d look again at your profile if I were you. It’s reeks of immaturity which is different from being young.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"New to this been on here a week not having any luck at all. Any idea why? All advice taken on...

Since you have written that all advice is taken on, I'm going to take the assumption that you're asking for advice.

I wouldn't even look at a profile with a cock shot as their avatar. I'd move on to another profile with a picture that would attract my attention. I'm not the only woman on this site with that mindset either. We are on a swingers site. We all know what a cock looks like."

Exactly that!

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Rock


"New to this been on here a week not having any luck at all. Any idea why? All advice taken on... "

As others have said, you’ve only been on here a week. It can take much longer to get yourself noted and have messages replied to and even then, it’s not a guaranteed meet. Most will look at your profile first to see if your message is worth reading, let alone replied to.

I would advise take a good look at your profile and the type of messages you send. For example, grammar and punctuation errors can be enough for some to pass you by.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Been on a week and can't accommodate. Big struggles ahead I'm afraid.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Ur age shows in ur profile! Squirters & big juicy tits u want!i wud pass u by

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t like:

the profile pic of any of the text, got bored if I’m honest.

Try having a look at a few Male forum members and their profiles, see what photos they’ve got and try it yourself

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By *arnsley guy100Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"New to this been on here a week not having any luck at all. Any idea why? All advice taken on... "

Give it 3 months then pack it in as a bad job

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone for the input, all advice has been taken on and have made a couple of changes to my profile. Let me know what you think?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thanks to everyone for the input, all advice has been taken on and have made a couple of changes to my profile. Let me know what you think?"

Spell check

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"New to this sort of thing" - ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m quite curious to know what ‘this sort of thing’ is too! Is it something I should be trying?

In all seriousness, if it’s swinging you’re interested in, I feel this site works better when used in conjunction with other avenues. Get yourself known by attending clubs and organised socials. Otherwise you’ll be treated as yet another horny single guy looking for a shag.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""New to this sort of thing" - ??????"

New to the swinging world which is what I have changed to now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m quite curious to know what ‘this sort of thing’ is too! Is it something I should be trying?

In all seriousness, if it’s swinging you’re interested in, I feel this site works better when used in conjunction with other avenues. Get yourself known by attending clubs and organised socials. Otherwise you’ll be treated as yet another horny single guy looking for a shag.

Mrs "

Thanks for the advice I have recently been accepted to join xtasia an will be attending in the near future

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"What I personally find amazing is how seemingly grown men who have met women before put a close-up of their genitalia on their profile and then expect anyone to want to have a conversation with them. Just imagine doing that outside of this site. "

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By *candalariaMan
over a year ago

Greater Manchester

You’re competing with fuckin stallions on here man and you complaining on the first week of being here. Take a look at some of the dudes profile and look what you up against. Then ask yo self why you ain got a meet in a week

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"I understand what your saying I'm not expecting loads of meets in a week but not even getting any messages or decent chat out of anyone I've tried with. What's wrong with my profile? "

First rule of fab club.. expect nothing you'll never be disappointed.

A fact of fab life.. lots of folk of every gender and demographic struggle to get replies or conversations started.

My advice ..have fun and enjoy what you're doing ... life's way too short to be unhappy

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By *bsolutebeginnersCouple
over a year ago

Planet Ork

The pictures don’t really show you or give a clue to your appearance, I’m afraid you will just blend into the background insignificantly. The profile text just about does a job but it’s your cv on here and you’re up against thousands of other applicants. Get yourself interacting on the forums, use plenty of humour, enjoy your visit to Xtasia but try to socialise and chat as much as you can. Be patient and tweak your profile as you go along. Good luck.

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By *apstarMan
over a year ago

Harpenden

Stand out.

Don't be thirsty.

Rome wasn't built in a day .

Be honest.

Go to socials and club events

Don't ignore the advice from people.

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