FabSwingers.com forum: Being newly single after swinging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Has anyone else ever had to go through this? I'd so, what are the pitfalls of hitting the dating scene again? Did you stuck to clubs to ensure you meet more open people, or did you just pretend you're not into the lifestyle at first and bring it up with what seemed to be more vanilla dates?

How did you even know if you still wanted this type of relationship?

Interested to hear anyone's story on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s awkward and maybe need time to figure out exactly what you want and what you need before dating or looking a partner. Found I scared the heck out of most vanilla men by my confidence alone and open mindedness. Everyone’s different though work yourself out first is only advice I’d give you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has anyone else ever had to go through this? I'd so, what are the pitfalls of hitting the dating scene again? Did you stuck to clubs to ensure you meet more open people, or did you just pretend you're not into the lifestyle at first and bring it up with what seemed to be more vanilla dates?

How did you even know if you still wanted this type of relationship?

Interested to hear anyone's story on this. "

If you enjoy the swinging scene it's hard to go back to vanilla, we met on this site, at the time neither of us were looki g for a relationship and both enjoyed the meets etc. Once we knew a relationship was starting we deleted our single accounts and had a couple of months off the scene to enjoy each other before setting up a couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swung with my ex a few years back. Eventually gave up because it was a bit myeh. Now newly single. Back on here for a bit of 1 on 1 fun (much more my thing) and maybe see what threesomes and hotwifing is like if I get a chance.

Would I mention it to a date? I've only mentioned it to one so far. But that's only because she started going on about having a threesome one time while we were fucking. I'd far rather have a solid loving relationship with one sex mad sexy woman than swing or fuck around. So Fab isn't a big part of who I am at all. I'd give it up in a heart beat.

Decide where your priorities lie

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I’ve put it on tinder. Well I put ‘taboo hobby’. It sorts the men from the boys. I couldn’t do monogamy ever again

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"I’ve put it on tinder. Well I put ‘taboo hobby’. It sorts the men from the boys. I couldn’t do monogamy ever again"

I wonder how many men read that and assume you're into big game poaching

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I’ve put it on tinder. Well I put ‘taboo hobby’. It sorts the men from the boys. I couldn’t do monogamy ever again

I wonder how many men read that and assume you're into big game poaching"

It worked for Oliver Mellors. Xx

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Though I’m More ‘Karl Pilkington’ and the hippo in the house lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swung with my ex a few years back. Eventually gave up because it was a bit myeh. Now newly single. Back on here for a bit of 1 on 1 fun (much more my thing) and maybe see what threesomes and hotwifing is like if I get a chance.

Decide where your priorities lie

This has to be one of the most confused comments have ever seen. you want monogamy and a relationship yet ....

''Now newly single. Back on here for a bit of 1 on 1 fun (much more my thing) and maybe see what threesomes and hotwifing is like if I get a chance''

not really working mate need to check being here at all......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have become the dreaded single male...

Some couples you used to play with as a couple , will refuse to play with you as a single male....

If you can except this fact carry on swinging but mix vanilla dating into your life also

Vanilla girls are just as freaky as swinging girls... they just need a man to bring it out...

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

I think it depends on what you've looking for: Another partner? or just a lustful time with others?

I would stick with clubs. Never forget; most women want, and need pleasuring by more than one guy. As the male part of an ex couple you will have an understanding of the dynamic of playing with couples so much better than a single guy, advantage you! In fact it will probably be easier to get play as the compatibility matrix is simpler than as a foursome.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To be completely honest, I don't actually want either or right now. Definitely not after a relationship, but a guy has needs in general, so I won't be a total good boy.

Yes, I've become the dreaded single, and I'm sure she'll get a lot of the swinging friends (she already has) and of the friends we did meet, I'd rather keep them as friends than fuckbuddies anyway, so that's not phasing me one bit. It's a sad fact of life that girls are rare in this scene, and couples will obviously keep their options open.

Yeah main concern is the future. Getting into this scene with my last partner took a long time, because we weren't sure. I now know I can both handle it, and enjoy it now though, and I'm not sure if I can put the scene back in a box.

I'll continue to use this as a way to talk to people, and I'll probably hit a club or two for the same reason. I'm not chasing a swinging relationship, but I'm curious as to how anyone who'd been here before had handled it, and how they'd ended up.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I have seen people on here advertise for dating. Why don't you too? Worth a punt. There are many couples on here who met on FAB. I met my girl on here and was not even looking to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha love the 'taboo hobby' phrase!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That boy needs therapy.

Sorry, couldn't resist. Thanks for the advice though.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"That boy needs therapy.

Sorry, couldn't resist. Thanks for the advice though."

Purely psychosomatic

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"That boy needs therapy.

Sorry, couldn't resist. Thanks for the advice though."

Some of the events at Townhouse are more of a social dynamic & these might be good ones for you if you want to keep a foot in the scene. The pub night is the last Tuesday of the month & is good fun, there’s also the live lounge event which was on Thursday, but it a monthly event

Good luck OP x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My Fbuddy and I have had a MFF and a MFFF. I'm 44 and she's 47, sexy as hell, and both divorced. Been best mates for years and are totally into eachother. We both don't want relationship's at all as this works so well for us both as we're so highly sexed. We always say that we'll eventually move in together when her kids have left home in a few years but until then we'll be all over each other. See my thread in Fantasies under "My soul mate and fuck buddy" for our latest exploits !!

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By *r FuckableMan
over a year ago

Stoke

I'm in this bracket. My Mrs dumped me after 7 years together, and we played quite a few times together, so I'm on her now as a single male, and It was never this hard to find fun when we were doing this as a couple, it's been almost 6 months and I've not had one single meet. I'm a nice guy and I don't think I'm that ugly, never knew single guys had it so tough on here as I thought that's what women were on here for, but you mainly find your messages are just deleted even though you approach it nicely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did you even know if you still wanted this type of relationship?

Interested to hear anyone's story on this. "

Yep

same here. Think once you’ve opened Pandora’s box you can’t go back!

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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago

Hitchin

I would say spend time figuring out what it is that you really want. Don’t plunge straight back into the dating scene, give it abit of time first.

When I was swinging with my ex we played separately and together but only ever did private meets as he was always too chicken to go to clubs. Since being single again I’ve started going to clubs for the first time and spent about a year figuring out what I really want and which parts of he lifestyle I enjoy.

So I defiantly enjoy the social side of clubs. And I enjoy fucking in the public areas of the club, I like being watched. But I have also found out that I prefer to have 1 partner with occasionally involving others. I have explored my kinky side and found some new things that I really enjoy... along the way I met a new man who is perfect for me, understands me completely and we have a lot of fun together. It started as fuck buddies but it’s now a lot more than that and hopefully soon we will make it official. I’m so much happier now that I’ve taken Time to figure out what I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I gave up thinking this and that.

I started living my life as i wanted to and fuck what people think.

If i meet someone so be it

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By *blacklondonmanMan
over a year ago

Golders Green, London

"I’ve put it on tinder. Well I put ‘taboo hobby’. It sorts the men from the boys. I couldn’t do monogamy ever again"

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