FabSwingers.com forum: People looking but not wanting to meet

By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

I'd love your feedback. PS I know how it sounds, guy throwing his toys out the pram as he's got no friends to talk to. It's not like that and I'm genuinely wondering if there is something that is putting people off ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate

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By *anandLeia72Couple
over a year ago

St. Helens

Your profile text is OK but your photos don't tell or show us anything. They're a bit odd tbh. You need to sell yourself and photos are very important if your a single guy. Look at some guys that are successful and work in it from there.

leia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate "

You've had a meet, so why is it pointless?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate "

So, as a matter of interest, why are you here then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.....I glanced st you profile and your photos put me off, do I didn't ever bother to scroll down further and read your text. Competition got single makes us strong on here, you need to really take photos that will impress others. That to me is your starting point.

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Photos don’t show anything and meeting only during the day and can’t accommodate screams attached

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple
over a year ago

Reading

I don't understand your photo choices at all! You might as well not have any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is a "perfect, eye catching" profile as people say look at the popular guys for an idea, however how do you know whose popular and whose not.

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By *enshermanMan
over a year ago

Durham

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate "

Yep

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple
over a year ago

Reading

"What is a "perfect, eye catching" profile as people say look at the popular guys for an idea, however how do you know whose popular and whose not. "

Probably the ones with lots of veris??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a "perfect, eye catching" profile as people say look at the popular guys for an idea, however how do you know whose popular and whose not.

Probably the ones with lots of veris??"

It without stalking men's profiles that doesn't jump out at you. I personally don't think there is a perfect profile as everyone has opinions and what looks good to one person may not to another

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By *oupleNeedPlus1Couple
over a year ago

Reading

"What is a "perfect, eye catching" profile as people say look at the popular guys for an idea, however how do you know whose popular and whose not.

Probably the ones with lots of veris??

It without stalking men's profiles that doesn't jump out at you. I personally don't think there is a perfect profile as everyone has opinions and what looks good to one person may not to another "

That was a guess btw not my recommendation.

Tbh. I think common sense should prevail in what profiles should contain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a "perfect, eye catching" profile as people say look at the popular guys for an idea, however how do you know whose popular and whose not.

Probably the ones with lots of veris??

It without stalking men's profiles that doesn't jump out at you. I personally don't think there is a perfect profile as everyone has opinions and what looks good to one person may not to another

That was a guess btw not my recommendation.

Tbh. I think common sense should prevail in what profiles should contain. "

Not always as some people, like myself may struggle in the context as it's hard to know what will stand out, and what will catch a person's eye. I've just been messaged and told my profile is shit, which tbh I found quite offensive, however that's one couples opinion so doesn't matter as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What is a "perfect, eye catching" profile as people say look at the popular guys for an idea, however how do you know whose popular and whose not.

Probably the ones with lots of veris??

It without stalking men's profiles that doesn't jump out at you. I personally don't think there is a perfect profile as everyone has opinions and what looks good to one person may not to another

That was a guess btw not my recommendation.

Tbh. I think common sense should prevail in what profiles should contain.

How charming of them

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

"Your profile text is OK but your photos don't tell or show us anything. They're a bit odd tbh. You need to sell yourself and photos are very important if your a single guy. Look at some guys that are successful and work in it from there.

leia "

In regards to the photos they are meant to be artistic. However I appreciate that they aren't to everyone's taste. Plus I'm an ugly buggar and wanted to show I'm interesting.

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

"OP.....I glanced st you profile and your photos put me off, do I didn't ever bother to scroll down further and read your text. Competition got single makes us strong on here, you need to really take photos that will impress others. That to me is your starting point.

Good luck OP."

Thanks, I'll look at changing my photos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate "

If it's pointless why you still here ?

Ciao!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

I quite like your profile, nothing off putting!

See if there's any social events local that you could attend, get to know people from the site with similar interests. Just a suggestion, it may help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you expect to ping off a couple of messages here and there and people to come flocking

this sites about dedication , you get out what you put in ..and trust me thats a full time job .

by dedication i mean 6 plus hours a day , everyday .

browse meets

search meets

add to your hot list so you know when people are looking for a meet

read peoples verifications to learn who meets men and who dosent

like i say , full time job , youve got to love it , want it , and be dedicated

its like a fruit machine , keep playing , youll keep winning

ive proved it to myself so i know .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you expect to ping off a couple of messages here and there and people to come flocking

this sites about dedication , you get out what you put in ..and trust me thats a full time job .

by dedication i mean 6 plus hours a day , everyday .

browse meets

search meets

add to your hot list so you know when people are looking for a meet

read peoples verifications to learn who meets men and who dosent

like i say , full time job , youve got to love it , want it , and be dedicated

its like a fruit machine , keep playing , youll keep winning

ive proved it to myself so i know .

You'll never win if you keep playing a fruit machine........ fact

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

Thanks, I've had limited success, plus although I'm comfortable in the bedroom I suffer from self esteem issues which I try to ignore but affects me greatly.

I'd lost confidence in myself.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Fifes a bit too far away for me ... anyway I might not be your cup of tea

Looking at profiles is a good way of learming to know what you are looking for .

For instance lots of ladies are put off by cock pics ... especially bathroom ones ...

Have you tried a club for a social .....this may help

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

Actually you have it wrong in this case, I spend a lot of time reviewing posts, meet requests and make contact with people using winks etc. I probably spend around four to five hours a day on the site. I engage in the forum's as well plus regularly post meet requests.

Thanks for the advice, I'll take it under advisement. PS I don't play fruit machines although I appreciate the analogy. Maybe I'm pressing the wrong buttons.

"you expect to ping off a couple of messages here and there and people to come flocking

this sites about dedication , you get out what you put in ..and trust me thats a full time job .

by dedication i mean 6 plus hours a day , everyday .

browse meets

search meets

add to your hot list so you know when people are looking for a meet

read peoples verifications to learn who meets men and who dosent

like i say , full time job , youve got to love it , want it , and be dedicated

its like a fruit machine , keep playing , youll keep winning

ive proved it to myself so i know .

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

He he if you are ever in Scotland, drop me a message..

Thankfully I don't have any cockpics on show, I prefer to be a bit more discreet in that regard.

Appreciate the response.

"Fifes a bit too far away for me ... anyway I might not be your cup of tea

Looking at profiles is a good way of learming to know what you are looking for .

For instance lots of ladies are put off by cock pics ... especially bathroom ones ...

Have you tried a club for a social .....this may help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"endure" my fantasies.

Heh. Methinks you don't understand what that word means.

Maybe that's why, plus the can't accommodate.

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

""endure" my fantasies.

Heh. Methinks you don't understand what that word means.

Maybe that's why, plus the can't accommodate."

God I didn't notice that typo. I've endured so long without an update. I'll go quietly and change it.

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough

Pictures are your first problem. You absolutely look like a serial killer waiting for your next victim.2 is pointless and while 3 is OK we're long gone!

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

Thanks for the message. I need to update my photos properly

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

One public photo, we stopped there didn't even bother to read your bio.... put some effort in to get results out.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"What is a "perfect, eye catching" profile as people say look at the popular guys for an idea, however how do you know whose popular and whose not.

Probably the ones with lots of veris??

It without stalking men's profiles that doesn't jump out at you. I personally don't think there is a perfect profile as everyone has opinions and what looks good to one person may not to another

That was a guess btw not my recommendation.

Tbh. I think common sense should prevail in what profiles should contain.

Report them to admin for being so rude

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"you expect to ping off a couple of messages here and there and people to come flocking

this sites about dedication , you get out what you put in ..and trust me thats a full time job .

by dedication i mean 6 plus hours a day , everyday .

browse meets

search meets

add to your hot list so you know when people are looking for a meet

read peoples verifications to learn who meets men and who dosent

like i say , full time job , youve got to love it , want it , and be dedicated

its like a fruit machine , keep playing , youll keep winning

ive proved it to myself so i know .

I don't think it's about time and firing hundreds of messages off.

I'm a pretty average guy and had meets. I prefer to read profiles and message only those whose criteria I fit and who fit mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggest just being yourself. Polite messages with a hint of humour worked for me.

I'm not great looking and don't have the chiselled six pack but I'm happy with the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you expect to ping off a couple of messages here and there and people to come flocking

this sites about dedication , you get out what you put in ..and trust me thats a full time job .

by dedication i mean 6 plus hours a day , everyday .

browse meets

search meets

add to your hot list so you know when people are looking for a meet

read peoples verifications to learn who meets men and who dosent

like i say , full time job , youve got to love it , want it , and be dedicated

its like a fruit machine , keep playing , youll keep winning

ive proved it to myself so i know .

I don't think it's about time and firing hundreds of messages off.

I'm a pretty average guy and had meets. I prefer to read profiles and message only those whose criteria I fit and who fit mine. "

Exactly this. Read profiles and judge if you fit the bill. If you don't there's point messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you really take strangers you meet on the internet for casual sex to your workplace?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate "

It’s becoming that way. We don’t get a reply from many couples on here. Don’t think it’s anything to do with profile text or pics as much as the range of people who don’t respond on here for many reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel for you buddy! Come to the site for the forum and to see when organised club / social meets are taking place.

Go to meets you'll find what you're looking for. Fetlife has munches which are good to meet people into this scene.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Photos don’t show anything and meeting only during the day and can’t accommodate screams attached "

But then I'm the same as I work evenings, I don't accommodate, for safety reasons as I live alone. I'm unattached!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate

If it's pointless why you still here ?

Ciao!

In fact, to all you people that say its pointless, waste of time, moan about never meeting, you are not obliged to stay, no-one is forcing you to!! If you don't like it, leave. It's that bloody simple.

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By *ubhubby4herCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We get tons of messages every day from guys and it's hard to sift through them all. Cock pics especially as a profile pic aren't appealing, no veris are off putting, we like when we get a nice respectful message and face pic, if we like we always respond.. problem is a few we have responded too have turned out to be time wasters or they just wanted dirty pics off us. Plus remember that not everyone is looking to meet all the time, and if someone is getting tons of messages and winks they might not have enough time to go through them all! I wouldn't say this place is a waste of time for single guys, if we end up chatting to the right guy we will def meet with them

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op

More up to date pics will help

Also you have can accom ,which will bring you up in searches ,then say you can't accom.id change that if I were you,as it can be a bit misleading .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't read the profile either,

Profile photo is a bit 'X files', the one public photo our s very out of date - a lot can change in three years!

Hope this is helpful, good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate

If it's pointless why you still here ?

Ciao!

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.

People also look for many reasons. Some without any intention of meeting. This isn't uncommon on fab.

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By *avid_C78 OP Man
over a year ago

Fife

New pics added, more to follow

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By *lymanMan
over a year ago

PLYMOUTH

"Hi

Looking for some advice, I'm usually free to meet and gently update my profile and status to that effect.

I do get some looks but never ever get any messages, either to say hi or world you like to meet etc.

I've tried winking and messaging profiles as well with no success and I'm wondering if there is anything I can do to improve my profile ie photos or text ?

Welcome to the world of a fabswingers as a single male. Pointless site mate

If it's pointless why you still here ?

Ciao!

In a nut shell ...

you may find ... there isnt a que of nymphomaniac ladies banging at your door ......well not right away thats fab bud

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