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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been wondering this for a while now, and just wondered what everyone else thinks. BBW ladies are quite popular it seems, and being married to one i agree, however i often feel that i stop people approaching as I'm a fat male which i would guess is a big turn off for women. I've wondered if i should let wifey go on her own so I'm not off putting to people?

Would be interested in your thoughts

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"I have been wondering this for a while now, and just wondered what everyone else thinks. BBW ladies are quite popular it seems, and being married to one i agree, however i often feel that i stop people approaching as I'm a fat male which i would guess is a big turn off for women. I've wondered if i should let wifey go on her own so I'm not off putting to people?

Would be interested in your thoughts"

The harsh truth is that, yes, an overweight woman will get more action than an overweight man, purely because there are far more men than women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are all large ladies classed as bbw ?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

You’re not even that big. Give over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with u mate, as an overweight man I find it frustrating being on here

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By *ongueNcheek33Couple
over a year ago

Manchester

Only you guys can decide if Mrs should go alone or not

Unfortunately some people just are not interested in us bigger guys just like some are not intrested in skinny but there's plenty of people that are and the fun times do come.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Are all large ladies classed as bbw ? "

No, but it’s used loosely as a term to describe bigger girls.

I don’t think there is a cut off size to say they is & that isn’t - it’s just another label really

I don’t consider myself to be a bbw, just plus size or fat!! x

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

And in the OP’s question - I like a chunkier guy, but personality clinches it for me. I’d say you’re fine & I certainly wouldn’t say no if we clicked! x

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

OP ....dont put yourself down ....I definitely go for bigger guys .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ave met bigger men and i prefer them.check my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’re not even that big. Give over. "

I know! I had a look at the pics and he's not what I would class really big.

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By *igPeachKLMan
over a year ago

King’s Lynn

Thick thighs make the dick rise... you should watch the music video, Thick Thighs by Willam. It’s where my user name came from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can feel like a bit of a put down at times but it helps out certain types of people, especially those who can't handle rejection and then message you saying "you're fat anyway, lucky to get any interest".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have the same problem as him, my mrscoyld have ameet every day if she wanted (she is a bbw), me on the other half can’t get a sniff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be the same for us ladies like me in the past. Ave had comments about my size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sure it can be, I don’t even get replies 99% percent of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a bbw and like chunky guys, but like skinny guys it’s all about the personality x

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

Big or not, it's confidence and friendliness that matters to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most guys on here will fuck anything thats why fat women get so much action

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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago

Durham

[Removed by poster at 05/06/18 17:21:47]

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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago

Durham

BHM - Big Handsome Man is the male abbreviation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get you OP. Mrs gets a lot of attention but Find that it’s me being the big guy, the one that lets the side down. I understand everyone has a type and some people just arnt for others but it does give you a kick in the plums confidence wise.

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By *urve BallWoman
over a year ago

North London


"Are all large ladies classed as bbw ?

No, but it’s used loosely as a term to describe bigger girls.

I don’t think there is a cut off size to say they is & that isn’t - it’s just another label really

I don’t consider myself to be a bbw, just plus size or fat!! x"

I think the question was more in reference to the second "B" in BBW.

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By *urve BallWoman
over a year ago

North London


"Most guys on here will fuck anything thats why fat women get so much action "

Seriously?! They should just chop it off rather than fuck an "anything=fat woman". How disgusting

And, us, fat women should just lock ourselves in the house, away from the world, rather than seeking fun in any way. How dare we! We're less than human beings anyway, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally get you OP. Mrs gets a lot of attention but Find that it’s me being the big guy, the one that lets the side down. I understand everyone has a type and some people just arnt for others but it does give you a kick in the plums confidence wise. "

That just about sums up my problem here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i suffer from this too tho never heard of a BHM tho i qualify more for a BUM (big ugly man).

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Being big hasn't put me off. Like any body type or other physical attribute.... Some ladies like a fat guy, some don't mind and some dislike us. If I do ok in the swinging world it's because I hope to have an air of confidence without being cocky, and I get out attending clubs, organising socials, meeting people.

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By *ertsRobMan
over a year ago

Rickmansworth


"I agree with u mate, as an overweight man I find it frustrating being on here"

Being “overweight” as opposed to large build is usually a lifestyle choice. If you find it frustrating why don’t you adopt a healthier lifestyle?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton


"I agree with u mate, as an overweight man I find it frustrating being on here

Being “overweight” as opposed to large build is usually a lifestyle choice. If you find it frustrating why don’t you adopt a healthier lifestyle? "

Because it isn't that simple.

If the diet industry worked.... There would be no diet industry....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone for your replies. I am feeling better already . To add, we have both decided to start gyming it up now, induction tonight for me so hopefully i can shift some fat and tone up a bit (get my dad bod going)

I dont agree though with the poster who said " guys will fuck anything, that's why fat girls are popular". If you could of been any more passive aggressive at fat shaming i would be surprised. Your statement insinuates that fat women are desperate, which is very rude and very wrong, and your statement has made me regret ever posting my original question in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can be the same for us ladies like me in the past. Ave had comments about my size."

For what its worth think your very attractive ;

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By *ally_weaverMan
over a year ago

Stoneyburn

Similar issue, I'm older, heavy and hairy, my girl is much younger and a seriously hot size 8/10. The disappointment in the ladies of couples vs the thirst of the men was obvious. We met a couple of lovely couples as well though.

So we started meeting solo. Its a harder slog for me but I've still got Fet sites to sell my skills.

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By *oungYorkscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Everyone has a preference some like bigger guys and some dont, same with women. Only you cam decide if she should go it alone

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.


"Most guys on here will fuck anything thats why fat women get so much action "

Congratulations. You made it to our block list without so much as a profile view.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"Are all large ladies classed as bbw ? "

Depends if you're working on the 2 out 3 ain't bad rule:

A large female is:

Big - tick

A woman - tick

Beautiful - not always

Unless being big makes them by default beautiful?

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By *urve BallWoman
over a year ago

North London


"Are all large ladies classed as bbw ?

Depends if you're working on the 2 out 3 ain't bad rule:

A large female is:

Big - tick

A woman - tick

Beautiful - not always

Unless being big makes them by default beautiful?"

That's a whooooooole other debate.

(For the record, I hate that term and I hope it vanishes from existence. In fact, I almost get offended when someone calls me a bbw. Just call me fat, since that accurately describes what I am. If you think I'm beautiful, you can always say it, rather than bunch everyone together and try to make them feel better by calling them beautiful by default. My self esteem is fine, thank you. I don't need generalisations or flattery to make me believe something that might not be true. Utterly ridiculous term. Be gone!).

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By *rMrsNawtyCouple
over a year ago

north west


"I totally get you OP. Mrs gets a lot of attention but Find that it’s me being the big guy, the one that lets the side down. I understand everyone has a type and some people just arnt for others but it does give you a kick in the plums confidence wise. "

You do not let the side down at all!!!!

Mrsnawty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer bigger guys if I’m honest. I can appreciate that guys with a gym bod are gorgeous in their own right, but I find a bigger guy much more attractive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer bigger guys if I’m honest. I can appreciate that guys with a gym bod are gorgeous in their own right, but I find a bigger guy much more attractive x"

That’s nice to see a women say that.

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By *igguy4youMan
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Gives me confidence reading that is bigger guys are liked but some out there

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

Some ladies "like something to hold onto" and "don't want to have to tie a plank across his back so he doesn't fall in"

Different strokes for different folks.

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