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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So I’m trying to talk my partner into the world of swinging. I think she would be more into same room sex to start that full blown swinging. Is this common for first timers??

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Yes it is. You might find a swingers club to be less pressure than meeting another couple specifically for the purpose

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The clubs might seem a little daunting. With them do people respect each other? No meaning no??

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"The clubs might seem a little daunting. With them do people respect each other? No meaning no??"

The vast majority do, a minority you have to be firm with. If you go in the spcialising areas (e.g. sofas) then nobody is going to jump on you. You could always get a private room to get frisky in. Avoid the dark rooms though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The clubs might seem a little daunting. With them do people respect each other? No meaning no??"

You may get the odd person trying it on, especially single males , but maybe go on a couples only night then you don't have the issue of single men. (Please note though that the vast majority of men in clubs do show upmost respect, it's just the odd one or two that spoil it)

You aren't pressured to play are club, you could just go and chat with others and work your way up to what you want to do together.

Most importantly, enjoy whatever you do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We had discussed it years ago. We’ve both agreed our sex life is a little flat. I think it might liven things up a bit.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

The great thing about clubs is that you can do as much or as little as you want. Some go there and just socialise, some play with their own partner in a private room, play with their partner in a public room some will go all out and jump on the big bed and take all comers - the choice is yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I’m trying to talk my partner into the world of swinging. I think she would be more into same room sex to start that full blown swinging. Is this common for first timers??"

You will both probably enjoy watching others having fun too. Plus it can be quite a social experience.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

After a conversation with each other we visited a club without play in mind. Our first visit was pleasant and though it took us a little while to play with other couples we were glad to take our time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve started the ball rolling. Told her I’d stumbled across an article on the boom of sex parties and being watched kinda excited me. Let’s see how it goes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging lifestyle evolves try doing a sexual bucket list and take it from there communication is key x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve started the ball rolling. Told her I’d stumbled across an article on the boom of sex parties and being watched kinda excited me. Let’s see how it goes"

Does she know you're on here ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve started the ball rolling. Told her I’d stumbled across an article on the boom of sex parties and being watched kinda excited me. Let’s see how it goes

Does she know you're on here ?"

No she def does not

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"I’ve started the ball rolling. Told her I’d stumbled across an article on the boom of sex parties and being watched kinda excited me. Let’s see how it goes

Does she know you're on here ?

No she def does not"

Oh dear here we go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve started the ball rolling. Told her I’d stumbled across an article on the boom of sex parties and being watched kinda excited me. Let’s see how it goes

Does she know you're on here ?

No she def does not

Oh dear here we go "

What do you mean lol

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

I just find it funny when guys come on looking for advice on how to get their wife into swinging.

Tell her about your single profile and show her the verified meets you have had.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just find it funny when guys come on looking for advice on how to get their wife into swinging.

Tell her about your single profile and show her the verified meets you have had.

"

We’ve been back and forward for years with some broken stages. I joined up and knew someone I’d met a while back so we verified each other. My partners quite vanilla so thought I’d ask for advice

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"I just find it funny when guys come on looking for advice on how to get their wife into swinging.

Tell her about your single profile and show her the verified meets you have had.

We’ve been back and forward for years with some broken stages. I joined up and knew someone I’d met a while back so we verified each other. My partners quite vanilla so thought I’d ask for advice "

So that's her in the photos on your profile then?

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"I just find it funny when guys come on looking for advice on how to get their wife into swinging.

Tell her about your single profile and show her the verified meets you have had.

We’ve been back and forward for years with some broken stages. I joined up and knew someone I’d met a while back so we verified each other. My partners quite vanilla so thought I’d ask for advice

So that's her in the photos on your profile then?

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It’s not really any of your business is it? He asked for advice not judgement

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Op you can't talk her into anything,she will either want to or won't .

Chat to her about the idea of swinging and mention it's maybe a fantasy .Ask her if she likes the idea, if so fantastic ,if not you have to make a choice,carry on having a fab profile behind her back or give this all up.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Op you can't talk her into anything,she will either want to or won't .

Chat to her about the idea of swinging and mention it's maybe a fantasy .Ask her if she likes the idea, if so fantastic ,if not you have to make a choice,carry on having a fab profile behind her back or give this all up.

Miss"

I’m with you there. Let’s see how the weekend goes. We’d chatted years ago about it and it was her said to me. Hopefully at start of the week it’ll be a couple profile being set up.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"I just find it funny when guys come on looking for advice on how to get their wife into swinging.

Tell her about your single profile and show her the verified meets you have had.

We’ve been back and forward for years with some broken stages. I joined up and knew someone I’d met a while back so we verified each other. My partners quite vanilla so thought I’d ask for advice

So that's her in the photos on your profile then?

It’s not really any of your business is it? He asked for advice not judgement "

He posted a thread and people tell it like it is.Don’t you think he’s getting good advice.

If his partner finds out - as happens, been there got the tshirt - that the man she loves and is trying to please by becoming more sexually liberated, has had a profile on here for ? time and is bisexual and verified by a guy, she’s not going to be too happy. So if the OP can stop thinking from his underpants and start thinking what is right by his partner, he may stand a chance of genuine and more liberated happiness. Until then, he’s looking over his shoulder till the day she finds out.

Just the profile on here OP or are you on other hook up / dating sites?

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

The best way to get your partner into swinging is to drive past a swingers club and pretend that the car has broken down and you need to go in to use the phone. Works every time. You're welcome in advance

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"The best way to get your partner into swinging is to drive past a swingers club and pretend that the car has broken down and you need to go in to use the phone. Works every time. You're welcome in advance "

Then you say "the AA will be here in 2 hours love", flop yourself on the nearest sofa and finish with "well when in Rome..."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"So I’m trying to talk my partner into the world of swinging. I think she would be more into same room sex to start that full blown swinging. Is this common for first timers??"

Our first meets were with single men. I don't really know what's common but the only way to find out for sure is to ask your wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just find it funny when guys come on looking for advice on how to get their wife into swinging.

Tell her about your single profile and show her the verified meets you have had.

We’ve been back and forward for years with some broken stages. I joined up and knew someone I’d met a while back so we verified each other. My partners quite vanilla so thought I’d ask for advice

So that's her in the photos on your profile then?

It’s not really any of your business is it? He asked for advice not judgement

He posted a thread and people tell it like it is.Don’t you think he’s getting good advice.

If his partner finds out - as happens, been there got the tshirt - that the man she loves and is trying to please by becoming more sexually liberated, has had a profile on here for ? time and is bisexual and verified by a guy, she’s not going to be too happy. So if the OP can stop thinking from his underpants and start thinking what is right by his partner, he may stand a chance of genuine and more liberated happiness. Until then, he’s looking over his shoulder till the day she finds out.

Just the profile on here OP or are you on other hook up / dating sites?

"

As previously stated we’ve been on and off for a while. She knows I’m bi and had have had hook ups before. I was just looking advice that’s all. We both know we need a little something to spice things up. No she doesn’t know about the profile but that’s because I’ve been curious about swinging. It’ll all come out once we have the chat.

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