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"She’s not the one. Do both of you a favour and move on " | |||
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"If she was the love of your life you'd respect her wishes. A lot of people have high sex drives but they don't cheat if they're not getting it at home. The fact you're even on this website tells me you don't care about her and you're actually quite selfish. You've got three choices really. Either be happy with what you've got and be thankful you've got someone who loves you, break her heart and cheat or tell her the truth and leave if sex is more important than love to you. I know exactly what you're gonna do." There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. I’d put my own needs and desires ahead of someone I was seeing. Sex is important. A good sex life is important. | |||
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"If she was the love of your life you'd respect her wishes. A lot of people have high sex drives but they don't cheat if they're not getting it at home. The fact you're even on this website tells me you don't care about her and you're actually quite selfish. You've got three choices really. Either be happy with what you've got and be thankful you've got someone who loves you, break her heart and cheat or tell her the truth and leave if sex is more important than love to you. I know exactly what you're gonna do. There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. I’d put my own needs and desires ahead of someone I was seeing. Sex is important. A good sex life is important. " So is honesty. | |||
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"If she was the love of your life you'd respect her wishes. A lot of people have high sex drives but they don't cheat if they're not getting it at home. The fact you're even on this website tells me you don't care about her and you're actually quite selfish. You've got three choices really. Either be happy with what you've got and be thankful you've got someone who loves you, break her heart and cheat or tell her the truth and leave if sex is more important than love to you. I know exactly what you're gonna do. There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. I’d put my own needs and desires ahead of someone I was seeing. Sex is important. A good sex life is important. " Even if it hurts someone you care about? That's just unnecessarily cruel. I honestly don't understand how anyone could live with themselves if they knowingly hurt someone by cheating. I mean would you want it being done to you? | |||
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"If she was the love of your life you'd respect her wishes. A lot of people have high sex drives but they don't cheat if they're not getting it at home. The fact you're even on this website tells me you don't care about her and you're actually quite selfish. You've got three choices really. Either be happy with what you've got and be thankful you've got someone who loves you, break her heart and cheat or tell her the truth and leave if sex is more important than love to you. I know exactly what you're gonna do. There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. I’d put my own needs and desires ahead of someone I was seeing. Sex is important. A good sex life is important. So is honesty." Absolutely! So being honest and ending the relationship which isn’t working shouldn’t be something to feel bad about with comments like “if sex is more important than love” Would it be better to stay in a relationship that isn’t working and be miserable??? | |||
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"If she was the love of your life you'd respect her wishes. A lot of people have high sex drives but they don't cheat if they're not getting it at home. The fact you're even on this website tells me you don't care about her and you're actually quite selfish. You've got three choices really. Either be happy with what you've got and be thankful you've got someone who loves you, break her heart and cheat or tell her the truth and leave if sex is more important than love to you. I know exactly what you're gonna do. There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. I’d put my own needs and desires ahead of someone I was seeing. Sex is important. A good sex life is important. Even if it hurts someone you care about? That's just unnecessarily cruel. I honestly don't understand how anyone could live with themselves if they knowingly hurt someone by cheating. I mean would you want it being done to you? " I’m sorry where did I say I would cheat??? I said I would put my needs first. He is unfulfilled in this relationship therefore needs to think of himself and leave. | |||
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"If she was the love of your life you'd respect her wishes. A lot of people have high sex drives but they don't cheat if they're not getting it at home. The fact you're even on this website tells me you don't care about her and you're actually quite selfish. You've got three choices really. Either be happy with what you've got and be thankful you've got someone who loves you, break her heart and cheat or tell her the truth and leave if sex is more important than love to you. I know exactly what you're gonna do." A lot of people with high sex drives may not cheat if they aren’t getting their needs fulfilled and jolly good for them. But why should they go through life feeling sexually frustrated? Wouldnt it be even better to love someone who he is sexually compatible with? Mrs | |||
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"If she was the love of your life you'd respect her wishes. A lot of people have high sex drives but they don't cheat if they're not getting it at home. The fact you're even on this website tells me you don't care about her and you're actually quite selfish. You've got three choices really. Either be happy with what you've got and be thankful you've got someone who loves you, break her heart and cheat or tell her the truth and leave if sex is more important than love to you. I know exactly what you're gonna do. There’s nothing wrong with being selfish. I’d put my own needs and desires ahead of someone I was seeing. Sex is important. A good sex life is important. So is honesty." Exactly. It's one thing being honest to your partner about what you want, but it's equally important to be honest with yourself about what you want. No one should lie, but if you're only gonna be honest with one person make sure that one person is yourself. It's quite obvious that the OP wants to cheat but he's trying to make himself seem like the bigger man by asking for advice. He already made up his mind the moment he joined this website. He's gonna cheat. | |||
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"Thank you for your responses, but this is all rather overwhelming so I’m sorry if I don’t reply to you all. I just wanted to clear up. I have not cheated and honestly don’t want to, but obviously I am my own person and get thoughts in my head. Everyone does. I’ve been with her for over 3 years and I’m not unhappy in the relationship, simply confused. I realise I’ve painted a picture with the profile that would suggest otherwise but I’m still new to this site and only really seeing what it’s about. While a lot of you think I should throw it all away, these responses have atleast answered one thing in my head. I don’t want to lose her, so thank you for that. I’m just not sure what to do, honestly I want to bring her out of her shell but every time I’ve tried by proposing something new or different it’s rarely considered. Things seem to always be on her basis and I’d just like to break regime up a bit more. I guess I don’t really know what I’m asking which is the hard thing, just looking to talk about it a little with anonymity. I’ve never talked about this with anyone irl because I don’t want to... but to you I could be some joe on the street. Thought you wouldn’t judge but haha maybe not xD I don’t know if any of this changes anything or whether certain people will instantly condemn me just because I’m writing something on the internet. But I guess it doesn’t entirely matter, this is somewhat a safe environment from that respect. Think of me how you will, I don’t mind but know that I’m only asking for advice and I can entertain your notion without having to act on it. I guess just talking about it helps. I have been in relationships where it was only sex, they are much worse. I love her personality and soul! She makes me happy in other ways that I can’t put words on other than it feels right, always has! Till it doesn’t I don’t want to. Neigh won’t lose her. Sorry to vomit words on your webpage, I guess it’s hard to be concise when I don’t even know what I’m replying to... the many voices of the forum are hard to single out but uhh... thanks, I think " In the nicest possible way, you need to grow up. | |||
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"Thank you for your responses, but this is all rather overwhelming so I’m sorry if I don’t reply to you all. I just wanted to clear up. I have not cheated and honestly don’t want to, but obviously I am my own person and get thoughts in my head. Everyone does. I’ve been with her for over 3 years and I’m not unhappy in the relationship, simply confused. I realise I’ve painted a picture with the profile that would suggest otherwise but I’m still new to this site and only really seeing what it’s about. While a lot of you think I should throw it all away, these responses have atleast answered one thing in my head. I don’t want to lose her, so thank you for that. I’m just not sure what to do, honestly I want to bring her out of her shell but every time I’ve tried by proposing something new or different it’s rarely considered. Things seem to always be on her basis and I’d just like to break regime up a bit more. I guess I don’t really know what I’m asking which is the hard thing, just looking to talk about it a little with anonymity. I’ve never talked about this with anyone irl because I don’t want to... but to you I could be some joe on the street. Thought you wouldn’t judge but haha maybe not xD I don’t know if any of this changes anything or whether certain people will instantly condemn me just because I’m writing something on the internet. But I guess it doesn’t entirely matter, this is somewhat a safe environment from that respect. Think of me how you will, I don’t mind but know that I’m only asking for advice and I can entertain your notion without having to act on it. I guess just talking about it helps. I have been in relationships where it was only sex, they are much worse. I love her personality and soul! She makes me happy in other ways that I can’t put words on other than it feels right, always has! Till it doesn’t I don’t want to. Neigh won’t lose her. Sorry to vomit words on your webpage, I guess it’s hard to be concise when I don’t even know what I’m replying to... the many voices of the forum are hard to single out but uhh... thanks, I think " Well if she makes you happy at the moment, then just enjoy the relationship while it last. It may fizzle out in the fullness of time Mrs | |||
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"You clearly do want to cheat because you're on here. There's no two ways about it. You cannot claim you love her and don't wanna lose her whilst being on this website at the same time because all it does is paint you as a lying hypocrite. What you're saying is at odds with what we're seeing. Some people get thoughts in their head, not all, but they remain thoughts. You've acted on those thoughts by creating this profile. You know exactly what you want to do and that's to cheat. You can't tell us that it isn't true. It clearly is." Be careful you don't fall off your pedestal It's very possible to love someone and be on here, you can't assume to know what others are going to do. Many people join here but don't meet. The OP has been open and honest, unlike a lot of people on here, and a fair few that use these forums, men, women and couples. The OP is simply asking for advice, it to be put on trial and hung, drawn and quartered. | |||
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"You clearly do want to cheat because you're on here. There's no two ways about it. You cannot claim you love her and don't wanna lose her whilst being on this website at the same time because all it does is paint you as a lying hypocrite. What you're saying is at odds with what we're seeing. Some people get thoughts in their head, not all, but they remain thoughts. You've acted on those thoughts by creating this profile. You know exactly what you want to do and that's to cheat. You can't tell us that it isn't true. It clearly is. Be careful you don't fall off your pedestal It's very possible to love someone and be on here, you can't assume to know what others are going to do. Many people join here but don't meet. The OP has been open and honest, unlike a lot of people on here, and a fair few that use these forums, men, women and couples. The OP is simply asking for advice, it to be put on trial and hung, drawn and quartered. " *not to be put | |||
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"You clearly do want to cheat because you're on here. There's no two ways about it. You cannot claim you love her and don't wanna lose her whilst being on this website at the same time because all it does is paint you as a lying hypocrite. What you're saying is at odds with what we're seeing. Some people get thoughts in their head, not all, but they remain thoughts. You've acted on those thoughts by creating this profile. You know exactly what you want to do and that's to cheat. You can't tell us that it isn't true. It clearly is. Be careful you don't fall off your pedestal It's very possible to love someone and be on here, you can't assume to know what others are going to do. Many people join here but don't meet. The OP has been open and honest, unlike a lot of people on here, and a fair few that use these forums, men, women and couples. The OP is simply asking for advice, it to be put on trial and hung, drawn and quartered. *not to be put" The problem is the op has admitted that he is lying to her and that she would end the relationship if he cheated. Im not quite sure what he expected to happen! That being said it is possible to be in a relationship and have sexual relations out side of that relationship but that will only work through total honesty. This is not what the op is doing. | |||
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"You clearly do want to cheat because you're on here. There's no two ways about it. You cannot claim you love her and don't wanna lose her whilst being on this website at the same time because all it does is paint you as a lying hypocrite. What you're saying is at odds with what we're seeing. Some people get thoughts in their head, not all, but they remain thoughts. You've acted on those thoughts by creating this profile. You know exactly what you want to do and that's to cheat. You can't tell us that it isn't true. It clearly is. Be careful you don't fall off your pedestal It's very possible to love someone and be on here, you can't assume to know what others are going to do. Many people join here but don't meet. The OP has been open and honest, unlike a lot of people on here, and a fair few that use these forums, men, women and couples. The OP is simply asking for advice, it to be put on trial and hung, drawn and quartered. " I never said it wasn't possible to love someone and be on here. Many people are on here with their partner's consent and that's fair enough, those people clearly do love each other. He doesn't have his partners consent and he's here against her wishes. That's not love. His partner doesn't really want sex, whereas he does therefore by being on this site he's entertaining the idea that he wants to cheat. Whether or not he actually meets someone is irrelevant because he's already deceived her by joining the site. It doesn't matter if he has physical sex or phone sex he's still cheating, and if you love someone you don't cheat on them, it's that simple. I don't know why you're giving me shit over telling him what he needs to hear. I hate saying this but he needs to man the fuck up. | |||
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