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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on here 2 months now and dont seem to be getting anywhere, close to deleting my account, any tips on here please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here 2 months now and dont seem to be getting anywhere, close to deleting my account, any tips on here please"

Patience, patience, and then some more patience. It can take months to get a meet.

In the meantime look out for socials near you, chat in the chatrooms and forum.

Apart from that patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd maybe rethink 'bouncing on my stiff tool'...it's hilarious!...which is probably not what youre going for...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Patience, im not even getting many replys to messages, i cant look that bad.

Thanks i will look into changing stiff tool haha

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Been on here 2 months now and dont seem to be getting anywhere, close to deleting my account, any tips on here please"

Do a forum search for ‘profile advice’

The tips I’m giving you are a) your photos are boring and b) your text is boring.

Are you boring? If not, think about what makes you - show some personality not a list of things you like doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get stuck on what to write, i would say its worse than when i was trying to write my best mans speech a few years back lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I get stuck on what to write, i would say its worse than when i was trying to write my best mans speech a few years back lol"

I think you have a sense of humour - show that. Do the profile advice search first. Write, edit, rewrite...

Think about this analogy: fab is a street full of shops. The women walk along the street looking at the shop windows and the displays therein. You’re a shopkeeper and you need to get her to stop at your shop and walk in. You need to make sure your shop window display is always new and fresh, exciting, interesting and intriguing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pictures are boring, and if that's the improved version of your profile I dread to think what the original was like.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I get stuck on what to write, i would say its worse than when i was trying to write my best mans speech a few years back lol

I think you have a sense of humour - show that. Do the profile advice search first. Write, edit, rewrite...

Think about this analogy: fab is a street full of shops. The women walk along the street looking at the shop windows and the displays therein. You’re a shopkeeper and you need to get her to stop at your shop and walk in. You need to make sure your shop window display is always new and fresh, exciting, interesting and intriguing. "

Ok thanks for the advice, il have a look through the profile advice forum and see what i can find, maybe look at other profiles too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your pictures are boring, and if that's the improved version of your profile I dread to think what the original was like. "

You dont want to know haha

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For me your text is a bit graphic and you have too many cock shots.

Also the not accommodating will probably reduce your meets.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the best profiles but not the worst

Good luck x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You’ve blocked all men which is a shame. Not all pm contact is ghey. Blokes chat, ya know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use punctuation, get rid of the snapchat filters

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Your pictures aren't the best.

Break up the large block of text.

Personal opinion - get rid of the bit about licking out etc and try to find a less ick way to describe what you're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Your profile sounds like a teenagers bucket list of sexual acts he wants to try, it would be a huge turn off for me.

I want to know about a person, not what sexual acts he likes, just sounds like a sex CV and not something that would intrigue me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your profile sounds like a teenagers bucket list of sexual acts he wants to try, it would be a huge turn off for me.

I want to know about a person, not what sexual acts he likes, just sounds like a sex CV and not something that would intrigue me in the slightest "

Haha cringe, i know you mean thanks for the advice

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

" licking females out" oooh noooo! U sound 16 yrs old!

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth


"Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat "

Much better already.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat

Much better already. "

Thank you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat "

HERE COMES 14 PIXS FOR YA!!!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat

HERE COMES 14 PIXS FOR YA!!!! "

damn, I forgot to add COCK

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat

Much better already.

Thank you "

Yes, muchly improved. You’re going from the bland Tescos loaf to a hand made artisan spelt loaf.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat

HERE COMES 14 PIXS FOR YA!!!! damn, I forgot to add COCK "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok thanks for the advice guys and gals, il remove some cock pics, change my seetings for men to chat

Much better already.

Thank you

Yes, muchly improved. You’re going from the bland Tescos loaf to a hand made artisan spelt loaf. "

Who would have thought a profile would be so hard to do lol i need a pint

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I didn't see the earlier versions, but glad the sex bucket list has gone. You obviously have a good personality and sense of humour , try to put that into your profile.

And I don't mean saying that you have a sense of humour.

Enjoy your pint

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't see the earlier versions, but glad the sex bucket list has gone. You obviously have a good personality and sense of humour , try to put that into your profile.

And I don't mean saying that you have a sense of humour.

Enjoy your pint "

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You didnt want to see the earlier versions #shocking lol

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Been on here 2 months now and dont seem to be getting anywhere, close to deleting my account, any tips on here please"

Bottom line. You're an average bloke who can't accommodate and talk about discretion. Most will see that as code for "wife or girlfriend at home". On a site where men outnumber women men 15 to 1, that's going to put you near the bottom of the fab food chain I am afraid.

All I can suggest is that you send tailored messages to people who don't mind seeing attached people and try to pick up on something non sexual in their profile you can talk about.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on here 2 months now and dont seem to be getting anywhere, close to deleting my account, any tips on here please

Bottom line. You're an average bloke who can't accommodate and talk about discretion. Most will see that as code for "wife or girlfriend at home". On a site where men outnumber women men 15 to 1, that's going to put you near the bottom of the fab food chain I am afraid.

All I can suggest is that you send tailored messages to people who don't mind seeing attached people and try to pick up on something non sexual in their profile you can talk about. "

Everything i write seems to get ignored, iv been working on my profile so hopefull will have it updated soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so iv updated my profile, i hope it sounds better than the previous version :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better, but to really finish it off use capitals where appropriate ie Stone Roses, Oasis etc..... just a preference of ours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here 2 months now and dont seem to be getting anywhere, close to deleting my account, any tips on here please"

The single best piece of info I can give is to get to an organized social, there's a few to choose from in South Wales. This isn't insta shag.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I read the original profile and this one is much much better. Loads of men ask for advice and hardly any bother taking advice and even fewer act on it.

Well done, OP - I think it’s a good profile .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read the original profile and this one is much much better. Loads of men ask for advice and hardly any bother taking advice and even fewer act on it.

Well done, OP - I think it’s a good profile . "

Thank you Steve, very grateful for your advice and knowledge of the site.

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By *ohnr1471987Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Were considering the same we've been on for over a year and we've had every excuse going for people not to meet us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are doing fine your profile is great as you are making friends on here so give it time it will happen for you that for sure

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Youve obviously asked for advice and taken it on board. Good luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest a couple more pictures OP. Your write up is good. You have injected some humour into it and made it clear what you are looking for. Hopefully the ones who are looking for the same thing will be very reciprocal. Good luck

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I didn't see it before but it reads really well! Some more tasteful pics would be good

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By *aileyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I agree with lady - more pics would definitely be a plus.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would suggest a couple more pictures OP. Your write up is good. You have injected some humour into it and made it clear what you are looking for. Hopefully the ones who are looking for the same thing will be very reciprocal. Good luck "

Thank you, when i get a chance i will work on some new photos, hopefully i can impress you then lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't see it before but it reads really well! Some more tasteful pics would be good "

Thank you, your pics are fab x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with lady - more pics would definitely be a plus."

When i get time il upload new ones x

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By *bonynivoryCouple
over a year ago

market harborough


"Were considering the same we've been on for over a year and we've had every excuse going for people not to meet us "

Main thing I get from yours is your husband is bored stiff and couldn't care less, and look at the bloody state of your bathroom, instant turn off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Were considering the same we've been on for over a year and we've had every excuse going for people not to meet us "

You should always keep in mind how your background looks in pictures. Site supporters can zoom in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just been reading the whole thread and even considered re-writing my own profile.

But since i already had 5 meets in 1 month, i don't think its that bad.

Your profile looks fine, but i would consider removing the "meet for a drink first" line. You said you are looking for NSA and most women that are looking for that just want a quick one without the introductions.

I agree on the pics side of things, and i would consider a pic of you showing the rest of your body, naked from the neck down, but with a paid of boxers on. Some ladies like to check the body for muscles, body hair and tattoos.

If everything else fails, the only other recommendation is for you to move to London or Yorkshire

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere


"

Your profile looks fine, but i would consider removing the "meet for a drink first" line. You said you are looking for NSA and most women that are looking for that just want a quick one without the introductions.

"

Don't do it! To me, anyway, that tells me you prefer to get to know someone a little bit and are not here to shag half the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"just been reading the whole thread and even considered re-writing my own profile.

But since i already had 5 meets in 1 month, i don't think its that bad.

Your profile looks fine, but i would consider removing the "meet for a drink first" line. You said you are looking for NSA and most women that are looking for that just want a quick one without the introductions.

I agree on the pics side of things, and i would consider a pic of you showing the rest of your body, naked from the neck down, but with a paid of boxers on. Some ladies like to check the body for muscles, body hair and tattoos.

If everything else fails, the only other recommendation is for you to move to London or Yorkshire"

They wont get no muscles or body hair with me haha, moving out of Swansea has always been a dream of mine so that could be an option, Newcastle would be my number 1 choice followed by Manchester, i will upload new photos when i get a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just been reading the whole thread and even considered re-writing my own profile.

But since i already had 5 meets in 1 month, i don't think its that bad.

Your profile looks fine, but i would consider removing the "meet for a drink first" line. You said you are looking for NSA and most women that are looking for that just want a quick one without the introductions.

I agree on the pics side of things, and i would consider a pic of you showing the rest of your body, naked from the neck down, but with a paid of boxers on. Some ladies like to check the body for muscles, body hair and tattoos.

If everything else fails, the only other recommendation is for you to move to London or Yorkshire

They wont get no muscles or body hair with me haha, moving out of Swansea has always been a dream of mine so that could be an option, Newcastle would be my number 1 choice followed by Manchester, i will upload new photos when i get a chance "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Your profile looks fine, but i would consider removing the "meet for a drink first" line. You said you are looking for NSA and most women that are looking for that just want a quick one without the introductions.

Don't do it! To me, anyway, that tells me you prefer to get to know someone a little bit and are not here to shag half the site."

I agree. Even for NSA, some will prefer a social first. For safety reasons and to see if there's chemistry. The ones who don't need that, will tell you in their message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"I get stuck on what to write, i would say its worse than when i was trying to write my best mans speech a few years back lol

I think you have a sense of humour - show that. Do the profile advice search first. Write, edit, rewrite...

Think about this analogy: fab is a street full of shops. The women walk along the street looking at the shop windows and the displays therein. You’re a shopkeeper and you need to get her to stop at your shop and walk in. You need to make sure your shop window display is always new and fresh, exciting, interesting and intriguing. "

I read this post in the voice of Swiss Tony.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read the original profile and this one is much much better. Loads of men ask for advice and hardly any bother taking advice and even fewer act on it.

Well done, OP - I think it’s a good profile . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get stuck on what to write, i would say its worse than when i was trying to write my best mans speech a few years back lol

I think you have a sense of humour - show that. Do the profile advice search first. Write, edit, rewrite...

Think about this analogy: fab is a street full of shops. The women walk along the street looking at the shop windows and the displays therein. You’re a shopkeeper and you need to get her to stop at your shop and walk in. You need to make sure your shop window display is always new and fresh, exciting, interesting and intriguing. "

does not always work window shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'd maybe rethink 'bouncing on my stiff tool'...it's hilarious!...which is probably not what youre going for..."

That is so funny. I have to agree .. Take your time and perhaps show a few pictures.. I have only been on 6 weeks and have 12 varis .. Not that I have played with them all .. Well most of them ..lol ..

Have a look on other single guys profiles .. Look at the ones that have good varifications.. You have copy and paste these days so do that and change the info to suit you.. most of all be a gentleman and no cock pictures on your profile.

Happy swinging

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