FabSwingers.com forum: Confused about some single guys.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So,

Today i have had several messages in chat and inbox from single guys ( not unusual and always flattered) HOWEVER! today most of those messages have been from guys cheating on their partners behind their back, and some asking me to so the same on mine. Not only is this highly offensive to me AND my partner, but also to their partner.

How many single guys out there are cheaters, not swingers? and how many of them think its acceptable to ask for a woman to meet in secret?? - how many others out there have had this? and how many think its ok for the guys to do this to swingers?

and most importantly how are we supposed to stop this.. we dont want to get rid of all single guys from contacting us, im sure there are alot who are very nice out there and why should they be punished for the few

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U will find a fair proportion of women are cheating too, just saying not saying what's happened to you is right, personally I try and only talk to attached women, good luck anyway on finding what u want

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

There is nothing you can do to stop it....

You just have to make it clear on your profile you choose not to meet attached guys, that may put a few off from contacting you.... but not all.

They have the same right as everyone else to be here and it is down to personal choice as to whether you meet.

Block single guy and then you select the ones you want

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

guys*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

but i thought this was a site for swingers ( people who are honest with their partners as far as i knew the definition to be) if they play on their own fine.. but hiding shit isn't good.. and asking someone else to compromise their relationship for them is unacceptable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"U will find a fair proportion of women are cheating too, just saying not saying what's happened to you is right, personally I try and only talk to attached women, good luck anyway on finding what u want"

I am not saying women don't cheat too,, just never had them yet, and never had a woman ask me to meet behind my partners back after me saying i don't meet alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the small minority giving a bad name to many. Personally I don't think it's right, as someone mentioned, swinging is about being honest and open about sex. Cheats just arn't worth the hassle. I (unknowingly) met a woman who was cheating, as soon as I found out I felt more like a dirty bit on the side than someone who just had a fun, swingers meet

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"but i thought this was a site for swingers ( people who are honest with their partners as far as i knew the definition to be) if they play on their own fine.. but hiding shit isn't good.. and asking someone else to compromise their relationship for them is unacceptable."

but there will be couples who cheat on each other on here...

doesn't make it right...... but it doesn't make it wrong.

each to their own.

It is always down to who YOU choose to play with.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Yes we have had attached people ask for meets.

The men doing the asking must feel it is acceptable for them.

Yes I have been asked to meet alone.

Some people meet attached people.

We dont all want the same things , so we let others play their way and we play our way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's wrong of them to ask... But it amuses me when they do. I had a regular meet try this one.

I don't mind playing with those that are cheating.. But It's something that some people don't want and others should respect it.

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a hell of a lot of people on here (and not just single men), fail to see any diference between a swingers site and a site where they can get quick and easy sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we have had attached people ask for meets.

The men doing the asking must feel it is acceptable for them.

Yes I have been asked to meet alone.

Some people meet attached people.

We dont all want the same things , so we let others play their way and we play our way."

With you on this , if we all allow others to use the site the way they want to as we all have the right to use the word no I'm sure it would stop a lot of unnecessary bickering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

got to agree with boho j, to many people seeking an easy lay, not many friendships made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"got to agree with boho j, to many people seeking an easy lay, not many friendships made"

And there will be many people who don't see this as a friendship site are they wrong as well

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

when I joined, I wanted to meet & make fewer friends than I wanted to meet & shag people.

and nothing has changed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

amazing tho to think some cheaters are cheating those who think they are cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"amazing tho to think some cheaters are cheating those who think they are cheating"

Going to need to wake up a bit more to get head round that will be back after more coffee

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By *UNCHBOXMan
over a year ago

folkestone

Yes women do cheat. Ive had at least 5 offers from women of couples (2 who i met as a cpl) to meet me behind their husbands back. As ive been cheated on by an ex gf, i had no interest in being part of their cheating and turned them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"amazing tho to think some cheaters are cheating those who think they are cheating

Going to need to wake up a bit more to get head round that will be back after more coffee

rather u got ur head round something else hehehehehehee

but to help u heres the scenario:

u meet a lovely women, shes admitted shes cheating...but she actually goes home to her fully aware hubby-and he sits wanking at the naughty pics of the meet.

never been there but hey am up for it...pretend cheating/gf's wives msg me, I wont say i know anything.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe block the ones you feel are cheating so they get the message or the ones who ask you to meet alone.

Just block them and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"amazing tho to think some cheaters are cheating those who think they are cheating

Going to need to wake up a bit more to get head round that will be back after more coffee

rather u got ur head round something else hehehehehehee

but to help u heres the scenario:

u meet a lovely women, shes admitted shes cheating...but she actually goes home to her fully aware hubby-and he sits wanking at the naughty pics of the meet.

never been there but hey am up for it...pretend cheating/gf's wives msg me, I wont say i know anything....."

if someone told me they were cheating it would be game over, get your bag and go home, women or men, but if they played solo and their partner was fully aware/supportive/into it. then i dont see a problem, just because we choose not to be separate room swingers doesnt mean others arent. im more bothered about the potential for drama to be bought to my house, my male ( non swinger ) friend had his car smashed up by some guy because his girlfriend was actually someone elses girlfriend and he didnt know.. i dont think anyone here wants that kind of issue on their front door, esp not couples because then the whole neighbourhood knows what u do lifestyle wise!

could effect your kids, job and living conditions if people find out why risk all of that for someone who just cant be honest with their own partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"amazing tho to think some cheaters are cheating those who think they are cheating

Going to need to wake up a bit more to get head round that will be back after more coffee

rather u got ur head round something else hehehehehehee

but to help u heres the scenario:

u meet a lovely women, shes admitted shes cheating...but she actually goes home to her fully aware hubby-and he sits wanking at the naughty pics of the meet.

never been there but hey am up for it...pretend cheating/gf's wives msg me, I wont say i know anything.....

could effect your kids, job and living conditions if people find out why risk all of that for someone who just cant be honest with their own partner."

all granted..and obviously ur gonna make that point b4 ur meet...however..theres never really anyway to know...I mean....fabricated photos..fake pet dog(borrowed), hubby doesnt know their kids ages, etc etc lol

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Have only had 2 guys ask me to meet behind Mr's back in about 8 years. But have been asked to by quite a few husbands/partners from couples.

No it's not acceptable but just gets them on our block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have only had 2 guys ask me to meet behind Mr's back in about 8 years. But have been asked to by quite a few husbands/partners from couples.

No it's not acceptable but just gets them on our block list.

Phew...thank god this private mail thing works MrsBendaroos...been trying to get this off my chest a while now, sorta getting a really heavy feeling on u, I know its perhaps a bit forward of me...but...suppose I best just say how I'm feeling...and let u make up ur own mind... so here goes....fancy a spitroast, hubby welcome!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt there's a person on this site that hasn't at some point received a message from someone outwith their preference.

Some people will lie, especially if you have a vague profile.

Don't see the point getting in a tiswas myself. If they're not what I want, delete and continue with my life!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

"I doubt there's a person on this site that hasn't at some point received a message from someone outwith their preference.

Some people will lie, especially if you have a vague profile.

Don't see the point getting in a tiswas myself. If they're not what I want, delete and continue with my life! "

Sassy....please don't let on how easy it is...or else we would lose half the threads on this site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt there's a person on this site that hasn't at some point received a message from someone outwith their preference.

Some people will lie, especially if you have a vague profile.

Don't see the point getting in a tiswas myself. If they're not what I want, delete and continue with my life! "

question is sassy...would life be worth it without me?......xxxx

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

If there is a partner at home this isnt aware then its cheating and I would prefer them to use a site for married and cheating people.

If the partner is at home and is consenting then its not cheating.

I ages ago agreed to meet a man that I knew he was part of a couple. I was so cross with myself as the person at home didnt know......left me feeling wrong and disgusted with myself. Thats why I prefer to meet single people or couples.

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