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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all.

I absolutely hate doing this because you've all heard it before.

As you can see by my profile I have been on for sometime and I'm yet to be verified.

I have had some advice of a lovely couple in Manchester but im still struggling.

I must say 1st of all that I'm not into cam.(I actually have a laptop without a camera as I don't trust them and my android phone doesn't support flash, or at least I can't get it to work)

Secondly I have been told to go to a club but it's a big step for me without having met on here 1st.

I'm not going to ask for profile advice as I can never seem to get it right regardless.

What i really want to know is if I come across fake.

I know I'm not but despite numerous attempts at conversation, I'm either ignored(which is ok) or after a few messages the chat just stops. I must point out that I'm never arrogant or pushy in any way.

When it comes to naughty talk I leave that to the other person to instigate.

Please feel free to CONSTRUCTIVELY criticise.

I'm open to that but I ask politely not to be offensive.

Apologies in advance if my grammar is a little off.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seems to be a lot of information on your profile but it's just a visual trick by how you set up the text. Try to make it more compact.

I'd leave out some of your 'no's, like cheese and seafood- try and concentrate on things that are sex-related.

More tasty pics- all 3 public ones are overly suggestive in exactly the same way. Some nice bare chest shot? Try maybe some funky outfits to get noticed?

I know you said you wouldn't want to go to a club on your own, but how about trying an organised social in your area?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Hi all.

I absolutely hate doing this because you've all heard it before.

As you can see by my profile I have been on for sometime and I'm yet to be verified.

*4 weeks is no time at all.*

I have had some advice of a lovely couple in Manchester but im still struggling.

I must say 1st of all that I'm not into cam.(I actually have a laptop without a camera as I don't trust them and my android phone doesn't support flash, or at least I can't get it to work)

*Your android phone cam will work if you download Puffin browser and log onto the full site not mobile app.*

Secondly I have been told to go to a club but it's a big step for me without having met on here 1st.

*Perhaps buddy up with a couple of local guys.*

I'm not going to ask for profile advice as I can never seem to get it right regardless.

*Lots of threads with profile advice on them already.*

What i really want to know is if I come across fake.

*You don't come across as fake, just as not wanting to make any effort at all.*

I know I'm not but despite numerous attempts at conversation, I'm either ignored(which is ok) or after a few messages the chat just stops. I must point out that I'm never arrogant or pushy in any way.

When it comes to naughty talk I leave that to the other person to instigate.

Please feel free to CONSTRUCTIVELY criticise.

I'm open to that but I ask politely not to be offensive.

Apologies in advance if my grammar is a little off.

Xx"

*Since you haven't specifically asked for profile advice it can't be given.*

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Get rid of all the negativity. Spell check it. Write more about you as a person and try to get your personality across. Go to a social. Get a more understanding flat mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi all.

I absolutely hate doing this because you've all heard it before.

As you can see by my profile I have been on for sometime and I'm yet to be verified.

*4 weeks is no time at all.*

I have had some advice of a lovely couple in Manchester but im still struggling.

I must say 1st of all that I'm not into cam.(I actually have a laptop without a camera as I don't trust them and my android phone doesn't support flash, or at least I can't get it to work)

*Your android phone cam will work if you download Puffin browser and log onto the full site not mobile app.*

Secondly I have been told to go to a club but it's a big step for me without having met on here 1st.

*Perhaps buddy up with a couple of local guys.*

I'm not going to ask for profile advice as I can never seem to get it right regardless.

*Lots of threads with profile advice on them already.*

What i really want to know is if I come across fake.

*You don't come across as fake, just as not wanting to make any effort at all.*

I know I'm not but despite numerous attempts at conversation, I'm either ignored(which is ok) or after a few messages the chat just stops. I must point out that I'm never arrogant or pushy in any way.

When it comes to naughty talk I leave that to the other person to instigate.

Please feel free to CONSTRUCTIVELY criticise.

I'm open to that but I ask politely not to be offensive.

Apologies in advance if my grammar is a little off.

Xx

*Since you haven't specifically asked for profile advice it can't be given.*"

Thank you very much. That's very informative. Particularly the puffin browser.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get rid of all the negativity. Spell check it. Write more about you as a person and try to get your personality across. Go to a social. Get a more understanding flat mate. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There seems to be a lot of information on your profile but it's just a visual trick by how you set up the text. Try to make it more compact.

I'd leave out some of your 'no's, like cheese and seafood- try and concentrate on things that are sex-related.

More tasty pics- all 3 public ones are overly suggestive in exactly the same way. Some nice bare chest shot? Try maybe some funky outfits to get noticed?

I know you said you wouldn't want to go to a club on your own, but how about trying an organised social in your area?"

Great advice. Noted.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On a lighter note. I just saw a profile from a let that said "fill out later, Can't be bothered"

I wonder how long before she's verified.

Just an observation I found funny.

Thank you for your replies, I will digest and re jig accordingly.

Love you guys

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Get to a club/social ‘Tis the answer to most of the problems on here.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

My impression is from the whole load of negatives in your opening post on here and also in your profile (all the things you cant/won't do) do you actually want meets or is it easier to to pretend you do but then put up a whole load of barriers so it doesn't ever happen?

Just my observation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My impression is from the whole load of negatives in your opening post on here and also in your profile (all the things you cant/won't do) do you actually want meets or is it easier to to pretend you do but then put up a whole load of barriers so it doesn't ever happen?

Just my observation.

Point taken, thank you

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Get to a club/social ‘Tis the answer to most of the problems on here."

Social it would have to be I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok.

Changed my profile.

I may have to accept that it's simply not my strong point.

Very much appreciated the feedback folks.

Hugs

X

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Ok.

Changed my profile.

I may have to accept that it's simply not my strong point.

Very much appreciated the feedback folks.

Hugs

X"

Not to put too much of a downer on you but the ratios of women to men are about 1 to 17 and couples seeking men to men about 1 to 8.

Hence all single men are up against it, but I am afraid that an average guy in his forties who can't accommodate is going to be pretty much near the back of the single guy queue.

As others have said, you are best off going to a club where you can talk to people, where your personality can shine through. Here most women and couples will see "average" and. "can't accommodate" and move on to the next of their large pile of single guy messages.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok.

Changed my profile.

I may have to accept that it's simply not my strong point.

Very much appreciated the feedback folks.

Hugs

X

Not to put too much of a downer on you but the ratios of women to men are about 1 to 17 and couples seeking men to men about 1 to 8.

Hence all single men are up against it, but I am afraid that an average guy in his forties who can't accommodate is going to be pretty much near the back of the single guy queue.

As others have said, you are best off going to a club where you can talk to people, where your personality can shine through. Here most women and couples will see "average" and. "can't accommodate" and move on to the next of their large pile of single guy messages. "

I can't argue with that. Very true indeed. Thank you

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