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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can someone please help? I'm here almost 5 months and am yet to meet anyone and not for the lack of trying. The biggest stumbling block seems to be that most profiles I've read mention that the owner will not meet non verified people. As I am non verified I wonder how I go about getting a verification without a meet. I know there's always going on cam but I don't really wanna go on a public cam, my photos are for sharing via messages or with those I make friends with, I do try and keep a bit of privacy on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Lack of verification would not put me off meeting you. There are many other things that would put me off, but you haven't asked for profile advice, so I can't give you any. However, I would start there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you check my profile description after reading my post above...I only changed that a couple days ago, but before that I had a full and detailed profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm guessing the song lyrics I put up a couple days ago is what your thinking of. Thanks for replying btw and any profile advice would be greatly appreciated

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Lack of words. Lack of photos.

Your current profile, however amusing you think the song lyrics are, don't give much insight into what you bring to the party.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lack of verification would not put me off meeting you. There are many other things that would put me off, but you haven't asked for profile advice, so I can't give you any. However, I would start there. "

I'll go back to a detailed profile shortly, those lyrics made me laugh a couple days ago is all so I put them up lol in hindsight it probably didn't do me any favours!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lack of words. Lack of photos.

Your current profile, however amusing you think the song lyrics are, don't give much insight into what you bring to the party. "

Pictures wise I do have a few but I'd prefer to keep them private and send them via messages

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Can someone please help? I'm here almost 5 months and am yet to meet anyone and not for the lack of trying. The biggest stumbling block seems to be that most profiles I've read mention that the owner will not meet non verified people. As I am non verified I wonder how I go about getting a verification without a meet. I know there's always going on cam but I don't really wanna go on a public cam, my photos are for sharing via messages or with those I make friends with, I do try and keep a bit of privacy on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated."

If you're struggling to get a 1-2-1 meet I'd say go to a group social or a club.

If there's no group socials near you start one, people will attend, lots of people enjoy a group social.

Profiles and photos become less relevant when you're in the same room chatting to people, where your personality will be how you're perceived.

None of that should be read as a profile critique, I've not looked at your profile, nor have you asked for a review and feedback.

My profile is terrible, my username doesn't endear, despite those negatives I still have plenty of verifications.

Good luck, I hope you find what you're looking for on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can someone please help? I'm here almost 5 months and am yet to meet anyone and not for the lack of trying. The biggest stumbling block seems to be that most profiles I've read mention that the owner will not meet non verified people. As I am non verified I wonder how I go about getting a verification without a meet. I know there's always going on cam but I don't really wanna go on a public cam, my photos are for sharing via messages or with those I make friends with, I do try and keep a bit of privacy on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

If you're struggling to get a 1-2-1 meet I'd say go to a group social or a club.

If there's no group socials near you start one, people will attend, lots of people enjoy a group social.

Profiles and photos become less relevant when you're in the same room chatting to people, where your personality will be how you're perceived.

None of that should be read as a profile critique, I've not looked at your profile, nor have you asked for a review and feedback.

My profile is terrible, my username doesn't endear, despite those negatives I still have plenty of verifications.

Good luck, I hope you find what you're looking for on Fab.

"

Man I thank you for your advice, your making a lot of sense. I'm not sure what social events there are in my area but I will look into it and, as you mentioned, if there are non close by I could always set one up. Many thanks!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Can someone please help? I'm here almost 5 months and am yet to meet anyone and not for the lack of trying. The biggest stumbling block seems to be that most profiles I've read mention that the owner will not meet non verified people. As I am non verified I wonder how I go about getting a verification without a meet. I know there's always going on cam but I don't really wanna go on a public cam, my photos are for sharing via messages or with those I make friends with, I do try and keep a bit of privacy on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

If you're struggling to get a 1-2-1 meet I'd say go to a group social or a club.

If there's no group socials near you start one, people will attend, lots of people enjoy a group social.

Profiles and photos become less relevant when you're in the same room chatting to people, where your personality will be how you're perceived.

None of that should be read as a profile critique, I've not looked at your profile, nor have you asked for a review and feedback.

My profile is terrible, my username doesn't endear, despite those negatives I still have plenty of verifications.

Good luck, I hope you find what you're looking for on Fab.

Man I thank you for your advice, your making a lot of sense. I'm not sure what social events there are in my area but I will look into it and, as you mentioned, if there are non close by I could always set one up. Many thanks!"

No problem, happy to help.

I think a lot of people forget how hard it is to get started, however a verification, or several, is still no guarantee to get more meets.....

Have a look in the meets forum and see what's going on in your area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was going to suggest looking in the forum. There should be a few around your area. Even if you travel and get a hotel for overnight, it would be worth it xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Sting KeyCock and Funlovingcouple18, I've been looking at meets and on the forums and I see there are meets in NI and down south in Ireland which wouldn't be a stretch to get to. I'm going to put myself down as interested and see if I can get an invite or 2. Fingers crossed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fingers crossed and good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fingers crossed and good luck "

Thank you very much!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Thanks Sting KeyCock and Funlovingcouple18, I've been looking at meets and on the forums and I see there are meets in NI and down south in Ireland which wouldn't be a stretch to get to. I'm going to put myself down as interested and see if I can get an invite or 2. Fingers crossed!"

Brilliant.

Hope you get on the list.

I've never been to a crap social or not found someone to chat to.

Enjoy!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks Sting KeyCock and Funlovingcouple18, I've been looking at meets and on the forums and I see there are meets in NI and down south in Ireland which wouldn't be a stretch to get to. I'm going to put myself down as interested and see if I can get an invite or 2. Fingers crossed!

Brilliant.

Hope you get on the list.

I've never been to a crap social or not found someone to chat to.

Enjoy!!!"

Thanks man, I'm certain if I get to an event I'll have a ball! Have just inquired about coming up in June.

Happy fabbing!

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

OP I prefer meeting people with less verifications as possible to be honest. Those with plenty make me cringe so you'll do ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP I prefer meeting people with less verifications as possible to be honest. Those with plenty make me cringe so you'll do ok."

5 months past and not a meet or social. I would agree with you though in that I'd probably be more inclined to go for someone with fewer verifications than a list as long as your arm.

I don't give up easy so I'm sure I'll be around for another 5 months at least but hopefully in that time I get to break my duck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP I prefer meeting people with less verifications as possible to be honest. Those with plenty make me cringe so you'll do ok."

I totally agree with that. I think they just want another notch on their bedpost. If they have plenty verified through social meets that's different but if it's playing on every meet then no

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"OP I prefer meeting people with less verifications as possible to be honest. Those with plenty make me cringe so you'll do ok.

I totally agree with that. I think they just want another notch on their bedpost. If they have plenty verified through social meets that's different but if it's playing on every meet then no "

How do you tell which are play and which are social when all veris are hidden?

Would you ask to see them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So this is not weird at all, but If you are free some afternoon around 2ish from thurs this week or 3ish next week, I'll meet you for coffee & verify you. I could do with a bit of spontaneity in my life & this could be my good deed for that day.

We could just pretend that it's a m&g and the other people having coffee are attending also. Takes the weirdness of meeting a complete stranger out of it

Sure send me a msg if you fancy it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So this is not weird at all, but If you are free some afternoon around 2ish from thurs this week or 3ish next week, I'll meet you for coffee & verify you. I could do with a bit of spontaneity in my life & this could be my good deed for that day.

We could just pretend that it's a m&g and the other people having coffee are attending also. Takes the weirdness of meeting a complete stranger out of it

Sure send me a msg if you fancy it.

"

That would be great of you Morgan, thing is I'm slaughtered at work with prep for a new launch and will be working late nights for the next couple of weeks. If you'd be available towards the end of the month I would be happy to treat you to a coffee and a natter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So this is not weird at all, but If you are free some afternoon around 2ish from thurs this week or 3ish next week, I'll meet you for coffee & verify you. I could do with a bit of spontaneity in my life & this could be my good deed for that day.

We could just pretend that it's a m&g and the other people having coffee are attending also. Takes the weirdness of meeting a complete stranger out of it

Sure send me a msg if you fancy it.

That would be great of you Morgan, thing is I'm slaughtered at work with prep for a new launch and will be working late nights for the next couple of weeks. If you'd be available towards the end of the month I would be happy to treat you to a coffee and a natter "

Yeah thats grand, I'll msg you.

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford


"Can someone please help? I'm here almost 5 months and am yet to meet anyone and not for the lack of trying. The biggest stumbling block seems to be that most profiles I've read mention that the owner will not meet non verified people. As I am non verified I wonder how I go about getting a verification without a meet. I know there's always going on cam but I don't really wanna go on a public cam, my photos are for sharing via messages or with those I make friends with, I do try and keep a bit of privacy on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

If you're struggling to get a 1-2-1 meet I'd say go to a group social or a club.

If there's no group socials near you start one, people will attend, lots of people enjoy a group social.

Profiles and photos become less relevant when you're in the same room chatting to people, where your personality will be how you're perceived.

None of that should be read as a profile critique, I've not looked at your profile, nor have you asked for a review and feedback.

My profile is terrible, my username doesn't endear, despite those negatives I still have plenty of verifications.

Good luck, I hope you find what you're looking for on Fab.

Man I thank you for your advice, your making a lot of sense. I'm not sure what social events there are in my area but I will look into it and, as you mentioned, if there are non close by I could always set one up. Many thanks!"

Firstly M&G hosted a social in Belfast in February I think we even went and met new people so get yourself on the forums especially the Ireland one and go and meet people at Organised Socials

And yes we did travel from the UK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im having the same problem mate

Anyone have any advise for me ?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"Im having the same problem mate

Anyone have any advise for me ? "

Plenty of advice within this thread to be honest.

Have a read through, see if it relates to you.

You haven't asked for a review of your profile so no comments there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try going to a party. You’re personality may come across better face to face. A veri doesn’t have to be sexual. Ask people if they’re on fab, get their profile names then give them a veri and ask for one back. I’m not good with words so my profile may not 100% reflect my personality where other people can.

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman
over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire


"OP I prefer meeting people with less verifications as possible to be honest. Those with plenty make me cringe so you'll do ok."

I echo this sentiment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can someone please help? I'm here almost 5 months and am yet to meet anyone and not for the lack of trying. The biggest stumbling block seems to be that most profiles I've read mention that the owner will not meet non verified people. As I am non verified I wonder how I go about getting a verification without a meet. I know there's always going on cam but I don't really wanna go on a public cam, my photos are for sharing via messages or with those I make friends with, I do try and keep a bit of privacy on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

If you're struggling to get a 1-2-1 meet I'd say go to a group social or a club.

If there's no group socials near you start one, people will attend, lots of people enjoy a group social.

Profiles and photos become less relevant when you're in the same room chatting to people, where your personality will be how you're perceived.

None of that should be read as a profile critique, I've not looked at your profile, nor have you asked for a review and feedback.

My profile is terrible, my username doesn't endear, despite those negatives I still have plenty of verifications.

Good luck, I hope you find what you're looking for on Fab.

Man I thank you for your advice, your making a lot of sense. I'm not sure what social events there are in my area but I will look into it and, as you mentioned, if there are non close by I could always set one up. Many thanks!

Firstly M&G hosted a social in Belfast in February I think we even went and met new people so get yourself on the forums especially the Ireland one and go and meet people at Organised Socials

And yes we did travel from the UK "

Thanks for the advice. I've been looking through the Ireland events and organized meets and have a social lined uup so happy days!

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