FabSwingers.com forum: sending emails..

By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

just curious but has anyone on here ever sent an email to a single male based on their profile? so many ask about their profile being ok... but i dont think it mattets, as long as its normalish sounding its all based on the emails you send out.. or am i wrong?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We have and yes the profile content is important to us, we wouldn't bother sending a message to any one with a bad profile. Z

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

so you actually will send emails based om the profile even when you havent been swbt an email.. i have alot ro learn, i cant get emails outside the forum at all x

im starting to see swinging like a job... you need swinging experience and referencies on your profile to get attention... but since no one breaks the ice for you, you cant get that experience

im going to use the site with an updated profile and alot of new pictures from this friday... hoping for a better than previous experience from my many other sites this time around xx

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Why from this friday?

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

Regardless of how good the message is, I always check out the profile before I decide how I'm going to respond.

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"Why from this friday?"

hiya x

just i have alot of new pictures ready, and ill have a usb lead to upload them with... also, with my job turning permanent i had to survive a month on 2 weeks wages... even coffee chill and chats where out of the question. i find with me.. im loads of fu, happy and bouncy when im living a complete life style, staying in to much dampens me, i think that comes accross in my outbox x

and thank you for asking xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shaz likes to read the profile also although we have met a few people with a crap profile but real good message.

Verifications are nice to reed but not a necessity for us.

Tony

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"Regardless of how good the message is, I always check out the profile before I decide how I'm going to respond. "

but im guessing it would take a terrible profile to change things for the worse? since the email did its job surely the profile not being great doesnt really matter?

and sorry if im putting words into your typing fingers x

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"Shaz likes to read the profile also although we have met a few people with a crap profile but real good message.

Verifications are nice to reed but not a necessity for us.

Tony

thanks tony

i am mostly getting replies here confirming ny opinion

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"Shaz likes to read the profile also although we have met a few people with a crap profile but real good message.

Verifications are nice to reed but not a necessity for us.

Tony

thanks tony

i am mostly getting replies here confirming ny opinion

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"Shaz likes to read the profile also although we have met a few people with a crap profile but real good message.

Verifications are nice to reed but not a necessity for us.

Tony

thanks tony

i am mostly getting replies here confirming ny opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the message isn't a copy and paste job though

P.S : I ment read not reed on my previous post, my brain doesn't like waking up in the morning

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"just curious but has anyone on here ever sent an email to a single male based on their profile? so many ask about their profile being ok... but i dont think it mattets, as long as its normalish sounding its all based on the emails you send out.. or am i wrong?"

normalish or boring?

i have never sent an email unsolicited,but i only reply to people with interesting,well written profiles whose criteria match my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have quite a few times and the profile is very important otherwise I'll click onto the next one if it's a rubbish profile. Ms

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

"Regardless of how good the message is, I always check out the profile before I decide how I'm going to respond.

but im guessing it would take a terrible profile to change things for the worse? since the email did its job surely the profile not being great doesnt really matter?

and sorry if im putting words into your typing fingers x"

No it doesn't have to be terrible to change my mind. It could be too sparse or just plain boring. It could have 15 pics of his cock from various angles and no others. Or a pic of his face and i just dont fancy him. He could've met someone that I don't like. Loads of additional info that you can't get in a message.

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By *rs kemeaCouple
over a year ago

angus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hiya ,, i read your posts on an other site and it looks like your having the same problems on that site also ,,, replying to your own post 5 times , , i thought it was a busy post till i saw all the posts were yours ,,,smacks a bit of desperation ,,, but stick with it ,, you might crack the secret code

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is very true. We have blocked messages from single men but the same logic appolies for all messages, a perfect example is the message we got recently that was great and then you read the profile and it states that they are just looking for single females. Pretty much game over with regards to our inteserst in them.

With regards to the OP, I doubt many single men get inundated with messages so to a degree your profile only acts as an addittion to the messages you send.

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"hiya ,, i read your posts on an other site and it looks like your having the same problems on that site also ,,, replying to your own post 5 times , , i thought it was a busy post till i saw all the posts were yours ,,,smacks a bit of desperation ,,, but stick with it ,, you might crack the secret code "

haha hiya mate, yes i know where i have seen you.. & i have replied to you on that site actually, this site is much better mate, no meets here but a banging fun forum full of lovely people

& it was a case of me being more annoyed on that other site, than anything else mate, but you can read my reply on that forum for yourself it explains in much better detail than i will offer on here!

other than that... keep the faith bad man

safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To your original question...

"just curious but has anyone on here ever sent an email to a single male based on their profile?"

We have, many times if he is local and looking for couples.

Tony

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"To your original question...

just curious but has anyone on here ever sent an email to a single male based on their profile?

We have, many times if he is local and looking for couples.

Tony

thanks again tony... i am going to edit my profile, update it since the current info is a couple of years old, i was always going to make it as good as possible, its nice to see that it does sometimes get used as a convo starter

anyways.. i o its off to work i go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never messaged a man, simply because what I'm looking for they don't always put on their profile - a bit like bi males who put "straight" I guess...why limit their chances.

However, I've often ignored and deleted messages from single men based solely on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never mailed first, ever, well there was one lady......... but you know, it was a "couldn't resist" moment, lol (she did reply, it wasnt nice

, shame we would be married now....sigh....joke!)

Anyway, when I was "active", I never messaged first, even had it in my profile..... I did ok

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"Never mailed first, ever, well there was one lady......... but you know, it was a "couldn't resist" moment, lol (she did reply, it wasnt nice

, shame we would be married now....sigh....joke!)

Anyway, when I was "active", I never messaged first, even had it in my profile..... I did ok

You didn't even email and did ok? you're my hero mate! No lie... I can send 10.000 emails and get nothing - i say that i've had alot of email exchanges on here recently, it's been lovely

still though... WOW! you must look amazing mate

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"I've never messaged a man, simply because what I'm looking for they don't always put on their profile - a bit like bi males who put "straight" I guess...why limit their chances.

However, I've often ignored and deleted messages from single men based solely on their profile. "

I guess the section about what someones looking for is personal and can't really be changed, but it's an interesting reply

thanks xx

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

"We have and yes the profile content is important to us, we wouldn't bother sending a message to any one with a bad profile. Z"

I am with Zoe and Steve here.

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think when it comes to message and profile, profile is always the most important.

anyone who's interested will have a quick browse of your profile, pics and verifications to get a feel of what your like.

now your message could be brilliant, make them laugh and get their attention, but if your profile dont turn them on then they isnt much reason for them to reply other than banter.

message is to intrigue a reply, profile is meant to turn them on and make them think MMMMM YES PLEASE! if it dont and your a attractive person then your cutting your chances short.

see a bog standard "hi how are you" might work with someone who even says no one liners on their profile, if you have a profile where they click on it and think they want a piece of you.

think of your profile like when you walk past someone in the street, within seconds you decide if you fancy them or not if your looking. your profile does the same, if they dont fancy you then chances are no matter what your message says they wont be bothered, but if they do fancy you they will be alot more forgiving on a poor message and may reply on the profile alone!

of course best combination is sexy profile and great message custom to the person your talking too,

but great message will never work without a profile which is sexy to the person its being sent to in most cases

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

It's rare for us but yes we have on a couple of occasions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

TBH to the OP, I feel although you have kept your profile short.. its a bit waffly.

Stockton man had the ideal single guys profile - simple, punctual and to the point, you could say easy reading..

Would always read a profile if the mail is longer than one liner.. as the profile also tells us your age, height etc from the personal details you gave to Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"TBH to the OP, I feel although you have kept your profile short.. its a bit waffly.

Stockton man had the ideal single guys profile - simple, punctual and to the point, you could say easy reading..

Would always read a profile if the mail is longer than one liner.. as the profile also tells us your age, height etc from the personal details you gave to Fab.

Apoligies i meant stockton_fun

although his profile does say he's looking to meet with up to 99 year olds..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still waiting for my first one, as part of a couple it is great...but as a single its not good....I don't mention that I have a partner, she is bi and gets more attention than me, so I would like to see what happens on my own. Any suggestions....

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"TBH to the OP, I feel although you have kept your profile short.. its a bit waffly.

Stockton man had the ideal single guys profile - simple, punctual and to the point, you could say easy reading..

Would always read a profile if the mail is longer than one liner.. as the profile also tells us your age, height etc from the personal details you gave to Fab.

So possibly the most harmful thing about my searching off the forum currently, might be my profile as it stands? I will re-write it as planned and ask for forum advice after

& i might look at the other guys profile for hints, not a blue print lol

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

"i think when it comes to message and profile, profile is always the most important.

anyone who's interested will have a quick browse of your profile, pics and verifications to get a feel of what your like.

now your message could be brilliant, make them laugh and get their attention, but if your profile dont turn them on then they isnt much reason for them to reply other than banter.

message is to intrigue a reply, profile is meant to turn them on and make them think MMMMM YES PLEASE! if it dont and your a attractive person then your cutting your chances short.

see a bog standard "hi how are you" might work with someone who even says no one liners on their profile, if you have a profile where they click on it and think they want a piece of you.

of course best combination is sexy profile and great message custom to the person your talking too,

but great message will never work without a profile which is sexy to the person its being sent to in most cases"

I liked this reply.. thanks mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, when I was "active", I never messaged first, even had it in my profile..... I did ok

You didn't even email and did ok? you're my hero mate! No lie... I can send 10.000 emails and get nothing - i say that i've had alot of email exchanges on here recently, it's been lovely

still though... WOW! you must look amazing mate"

Lol, no not amazing, far from. When my profile was up, I just had a note to say, tip me a wink, and I would send a message. I am fairly relaxed though, I did a dozen or so meets in 3 months, nice people, friendly an all. My profile wasn't amazing, I don't look amazing, but I am quite chilled about the whole thing. Told people on more than one occasion that their profile stipulated someone I wasn't (fit, athletic etc.)

Honesty, patience, a sense of humour, and a cock you can prod people from across the street with, will get you far in this life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway, when I was "active", I never messaged first, even had it in my profile..... I did ok

You didn't even email and did ok? you're my hero mate! No lie... I can send 10.000 emails and get nothing - i say that i've had alot of email exchanges on here recently, it's been lovely

still though... WOW! you must look amazing mate

Honesty, patience, a sense of humour, and a cock you can prod people from across the street with, will get you far in this life"

You did a meet a week, while turning meets down without ever once making the first contact? Are you sure you aren;t a female pretending to be male?

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By *DSR OP Man
over a year ago

leicester

Anyway, when I was "active", I never messaged first, even had it in my profile..... I did ok

You didn't even email and did ok? you're my hero mate! No lie... I can send 10.000 emails and get nothing - i say that i've had alot of email exchanges on here recently, it's been lovely

still though... WOW! you must look amazing mate

Honesty, patience, a sense of humour, and a cock you can prod people from across the street with, will get you far in this life"

Cool stuff mate, and the last section... I completely agree, it's amazing how many girls say, size dont matter then only meet men with massive cocks! We'll never understand tham so i don't even try lol

peace dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You did a meet a week, while turning meets down without ever once making the first contact? Are you sure you aren;t a female pretending to be male?"

It averaged out at a meet a week yes, but in truth I did three meets in one week in July, and I also have membership of another site. I think I was seen as reliable (maybe desperate, who knows?), I did get a number of meets of the back of other people cancelling, which smarted a bit (2nd or 3rd choice can damage an ego, but ego gets left in the wilderness for swingers). I also used the "meet today" function, which I must say helped with those "last minute, let downs"

I didn't mind, it was nice really, met some lovely people and had a lot of fun, well I had fun anyway lol. As for turning people down, that was kind of weird for me, I guess I have fairly low self esteem when it comes to my physical nature (arrogant as you like, regarding my intellectual capacity). I only turned down people that had "fit" and "attractive" etc., because I hate to disappoint.

Happy swinging

P xxx

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