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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys

So we have been to a 2 clubs and pushed boundaries each time. We have not swung yet. One of the things that Mrs has been obsessed about is what if someone you play with is better than her. I have said all the right things. Eg I love you one night stands are fun but it’s nothing to do with how are relationships is. So I guess am looking for tips as what to say to put her at ease.

Thanks guys x

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Hi guys

So we have been to a 2 clubs and pushed boundaries each time. We have not swung yet. One of the things that Mrs has been obsessed about is what if someone you play with is better than her. I have said all the right things. Eg I love you one night stands are fun but it’s nothing to do with how are relationships is. So I guess am looking for tips as what to say to put her at ease.

Thanks guys x "

Gomez & I have played as a couple & alone for nearly 2 years. Sex with someone else is exciting & different, but it’s never a patch on being with someone you love.

When we play separately, I can’t wait to get home to tell him about it, or for him to get home to tell me ... and as a couple, having the eye contact with G while we are both playing with someone else is so intense!

Ultimately, you’ve got to both be totally comfortable with it to be able to enjoy it, but you’re not going to know how you will react until you try it.

Maybe start with soft swap only to begin with? I was nervous that I’d not like seeing G with another woman, but knowing I’m still the most important person in the room to him even while he’s fucking someone else is an incredible feeling.

And if she’s really not comfortable with it, then just stick to playing together & socialising.

Good luck guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys

So we have been to a 2 clubs and pushed boundaries each time. We have not swung yet. One of the things that Mrs has been obsessed about is what if someone you play with is better than her. I have said all the right things. Eg I love you one night stands are fun but it’s nothing to do with how are relationships is. So I guess am looking for tips as what to say to put her at ease.

Thanks guys x

Gomez & I have played as a couple & alone for nearly 2 years. Sex with someone else is exciting & different, but it’s never a patch on being with someone you love.

When we play separately, I can’t wait to get home to tell him about it, or for him to get home to tell me ... and as a couple, having the eye contact with G while we are both playing with someone else is so intense!

Ultimately, you’ve got to both be totally comfortable with it to be able to enjoy it, but you’re not going to know how you will react until you try it.

Maybe start with soft swap only to begin with? I was nervous that I’d not like seeing G with another woman, but knowing I’m still the most important person in the room to him even while he’s fucking someone else is an incredible feeling.

And if she’s really not comfortable with it, then just stick to playing together & socialising.

Good luck guys x"

This is exactly how we do things. Talk talk and talk some more. Agree what you are and arent comfortable with and things should hooefully go smoothly.

Good luck xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi guys

So we have been to a 2 clubs and pushed boundaries each time. We have not swung yet. One of the things that Mrs has been obsessed about is what if someone you play with is better than her. I have said all the right things. Eg I love you one night stands are fun but it’s nothing to do with how are relationships is. So I guess am looking for tips as what to say to put her at ease.

That’s really good advice thanks x

Thanks guys x

Gomez & I have played as a couple & alone for nearly 2 years. Sex with someone else is exciting & different, but it’s never a patch on being with someone you love.

When we play separately, I can’t wait to get home to tell him about it, or for him to get home to tell me ... and as a couple, having the eye contact with G while we are both playing with someone else is so intense!

Ultimately, you’ve got to both be totally comfortable with it to be able to enjoy it, but you’re not going to know how you will react until you try it.

Maybe start with soft swap only to begin with? I was nervous that I’d not like seeing G with another woman, but knowing I’m still the most important person in the room to him even while he’s fucking someone else is an incredible feeling.

And if she’s really not comfortable with it, then just stick to playing together & socialising.

Good luck guys x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hi guys

So we have been to a 2 clubs and pushed boundaries each time. We have not swung yet. One of the things that Mrs has been obsessed about is what if someone you play with is better than her. I have said all the right things. Eg I love you one night stands are fun but it’s nothing to do with how are relationships is. So I guess am looking for tips as what to say to put her at ease.

Thanks x

Gomez & I have played as a couple & alone for nearly 2 years. Sex with someone else is exciting & different, but it’s never a patch on being with someone you love.

When we play separately, I can’t wait to get home to tell him about it, or for him to get home to tell me ... and as a couple, having the eye contact with G while we are both playing with someone else is so intense!

Ultimately, you’ve got to both be totally comfortable with it to be able to enjoy it, but you’re not going to know how you will react until you try it.

Maybe start with soft swap only to begin with? I was nervous that I’d not like seeing G with another woman, but knowing I’m still the most important person in the room to him even while he’s fucking someone else is an incredible feeling.

And if she’s really not comfortable with it, then just stick to playing together & socialising.

Good luck guys x

This is exactly how we do things. Talk talk and talk some more. Agree what you are and arent comfortable with and things should hooefully go smoothly.

Good luck xx"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys this is something we both want to try. Just nerves I guess

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

It's an understandable concern, but the reality is that you both need to be comfortable with the thought of the other getting intense pleasure with somebody else.

It can easily be argued that this is the essence of swinging.

Could you handle him having what looks like more pleasure and a far more intense orgasm with another woman?

Could he handle you having quicker, bigger and more orgasms with another man?

These things are likely to happen just because of the sexiness of the situation and is no reflection on how you feel about each other.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

If you have any doubts dont choose this lifestyle thats the truth! Off course there will be females that may be sexier and shit hot in the sack she must be able to accept this may happen and not let it sit in her head and upset or annoy her!

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Aah, the swinging conundrum... it’s caused more crying in bathrooms at parties and storming out of clubs and driving off with the locker key than anything else.

You got to see your partner having the greatest sex of their lives and be happy for them. You’ve got to be able to smile and laugh when she’s still going on about those two handsome studs with the muscles and big dicks that spit roasted her all night and DP’d her when you’ve never been allowed near her butt hole with a finger.

If you can do that my friend... you’re a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember who you are going home with. The sex can be awesome yes; better, maybe! In a swinging relationship what counts is who you leave with, who you value and who you love. The rest is just a bonus!

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"Hi guys

So we have been to a 2 clubs and pushed boundaries each time. We have not swung yet. One of the things that Mrs has been obsessed about is what if someone you play with is better than her. I have said all the right things. Eg I love you one night stands are fun but it’s nothing to do with how are relationships is. So I guess am looking for tips as what to say to put her at ease.

Thanks guys x "

Start with mfm!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"Thanks guys this is something we both want to try. Just nerves I guess "

I would say she is less than keen

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys really helpful

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