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"Oh, I should perhaps add as well, often after messaging someone, they don't look at my profile - so clearly it's probably more the messaging that is an issue (or my face)" ok first off that picture with whatever food that is.. leave that for reddit, second pic face is way too close, just look at profiles man study and apply, and you will attract maybe 5~ people with that profile text that won’t be axe murderers or just plain desperate, it’s too much explaining and all you try make is the same point which is you are in your words normal sane harmless etc etc etc etc I fell asleep reading just simplify, if someone wants to know something like that don’t rob them of the chance of asking, otherwise you’ve already told them everything what’s the point in meeting you? This is a sex site with loads of people online, wait out and stand out | |||
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"Have you given some thought to how sexually enthralling, alluring and ‘come hither’ your first photo is for ladies? " you beat me to it haha | |||
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"Have you given some thought to how sexually enthralling, alluring and ‘come hither’ your first photo is for ladies? " it’s the hypnotoad technique they get thralled by the image, it’s got subliminal messages imbedded | |||
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"Have you given some thought to how sexually enthralling, alluring and ‘come hither’ your first photo is for ladies? it’s the hypnotoad technique they get thralled by the image, it’s got subliminal messages imbedded" The quite blatant and non subliminal message it gives me is to perform an act of anti peristalsis  | |||
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"Hello all. I'm hoping some folks may be able to give me some pointers, as I'm very much new to all this and uncertain or unaware of the etiquette...and truth be told not having much luck meeting people. So I guess I'm looking for advice on the profile, and how to approach people. So far I've (generally) tended to make fairly long introductory posts, always polite, usually referencing the person or persons profile, never being pushy or too forward and always taking into consideration their preferences (ie age, won't meet smokers, must be so tall etc - the only one I've bent the rules on a bit is "no Asian men" or "only white guys" as I'm kinda half-and-half, and some people seem to think of me as "honorary white" anyway) However, nada. Clearly I'm doing something wrong, but I'm a little baffled as to what that might be. A couple of times I've had "Sorry, not my type" which is entirely fair enough, but mostly the messages just get ignored. So - advice and feedback gratefully received. Or alternatively, am I just butt-ugly? Thanks in advance. Confused of Milton Keynes." Ehm! What is that in ur mouth? On the photo? Its not sexy its creepy! And ur profile is too long to read! Shorten it with important points! And theres far more men on this site than females some u win some u lose! No one can give u advice not every female will feel attracted to u or have the time to reply due to recieving too much msgs! Pls delete that creepy pic! | |||
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"This may be a fair point... I have very few photos of myself as I'm just not that narcissistic and barely ever take photos, and often the photos I do have are with my cats, which ain't allowed under Fab rules. Plus, I have enough difficulty trying to look 'normal' when i have my photo taken (my brain does this weird thing where it goes "ooh, photo! Quick, pull a really forced and weird facial expression!" - so if i cant even do 'normal' then 'smouldering and sexy' is definitely going to be a struggle... here’s some counseling then, spend three bloody hours and you’ll get one good photo, try feeding the cats first, then how’s about going outside, practice maybe you overcomplicate a photo, narcissism is a photo every five minutes and begging to be noticed or not caring bout people’s opinion just being like hey I am earths new walking deity, till they trip and fall of course, go out for hells sake " | |||
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"This may be a fair point... I have very few photos of myself as I'm just not that narcissistic and barely ever take photos, and often the photos I do have are with my cats, which ain't allowed under Fab rules. Plus, I have enough difficulty trying to look 'normal' when i have my photo taken (my brain does this weird thing where it goes "ooh, photo! Quick, pull a really forced and weird facial expression!" - so if i cant even do 'normal' then 'smouldering and sexy' is definitely going to be a struggle... "Mere tosh, b’gosh! Put your camera phone wotsit on timer or multiple and walk past it. Look natural and don’t look directly at the camera. Think about angles, lighting, background. For example - take a portrait photo from slightly above and to one side, not from below your eye line or directly in front. | |||
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"Hello all. I'm hoping some folks may be able to give me some pointers, as I'm very much new to all this and uncertain or unaware of the etiquette...and truth be told not having much luck meeting people. So I guess I'm looking for advice on the profile, and how to approach people. So far I've (generally) tended to make fairly long introductory posts, always polite, usually referencing the person or persons profile, never being pushy or too forward and always taking into consideration their preferences (ie age, won't meet smokers, must be so tall etc - the only one I've bent the rules on a bit is "no Asian men" or "only white guys" as I'm kinda half-and-half, and some people seem to think of me as "honorary white" anyway) However, nada. Clearly I'm doing something wrong, but I'm a little baffled as to what that might be. A couple of times I've had "Sorry, not my type" which is entirely fair enough, but mostly the messages just get ignored. So - advice and feedback gratefully received. Or alternatively, am I just butt-ugly? Thanks in advance. Confused of Milton Keynes. Ehm! What is that in ur mouth? On the photo? Its not sexy its creepy! And ur profile is too long to read! Shorten it with important points! And theres far more men on this site than females some u win some u lose! No one can give u advice not every female will feel attracted to u or have the time to reply due to recieving too much msgs! Pls delete that creepy pic! " . Oh hello  thank you for breaking up this sausage fest  Dya FaF?  | |||
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"Ehm! What is that in ur mouth? On the photo? Its not sexy its creepy! And ur profile is too long to read! Shorten it with important points! And theres far more men on this site than females some u win some u lose! No one can give u advice not every female will feel attracted to u or have the time to reply due to recieving too much msgs! Pls delete that creepy pic! " It's a choux bun, like an eclair but round. I'm kinda getting the sense that it ain't a winner though... Like I say, I just don't have that many pics of me, but I'll try and dig something out. Too wordy, too weird. Gotcha. Thanks | |||
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"Ehm! What is that in ur mouth? On the photo? Its not sexy its creepy! And ur profile is too long to read! Shorten it with important points! And theres far more men on this site than females some u win some u lose! No one can give u advice not every female will feel attracted to u or have the time to reply due to recieving too much msgs! Pls delete that creepy pic! It's a choux bun, like an eclair but round. I'm kinda getting the sense that it ain't a winner though... Like I say, I just don't have that many pics of me, but I'll try and dig something out. Too wordy, too weird. Gotcha. Thanks" . You can be weird, we’re all weird just some play the normal game all there life and some have two/three or more lives, keep stuff simple and let people ask you stuff they need to know, don’t tell them what they don’t | |||
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"Mere tosh, b’gosh! Put your camera phone wotsit on timer or multiple and walk past it. Look natural and don’t look directly at the camera. Think about angles, lighting, background. For example - take a portrait photo from slightly above and to one side, not from below your eye line or directly in front. " Hmmm...it's good advice, but I am officially terrible at taking photographs - both in the being photogenic sense but also in the sense of composition etc. I have a little theory that it may be genetic...perhaps all Chinese people can't take decent photos, and that's why we have to take so many...  | |||
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"You can be weird, we’re all weird just some play the normal game all there life and some have two/three or more lives, keep stuff simple and let people ask you stuff they need to know, don’t tell them what they don’t " Cool - appreciate the time and effort to give feedback, thank you | |||
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"My opinion for what it’s worth. Lose the first 7 paragraphs and condense the rest. Far too much narrative that is both superfluous and ever so slightly cringeworthy. Keep your personality in the text but don’t tell us what we don’t need to know. Photos - c’mon. It’s not that hard honest. Oh, and you’re cute not ugly. Good luck "It's worth a lot - thanks for the feedback. Cringey isn't a good look, so I'll definitely try and address that. Photos *are* hard, just not for everyone else...they're the bane of my life. I always end up looking either gormless or bizarre. Slightly relieving to hear I'm not ugly, I just have shit patter instead...hehe. Well, hopefully thanks to all of this helpful advice that might be resolved. Thanks again everyone! | |||
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"Honestly I think you've got a nice facial structure. You're not my type but you're not hard on the eyes either (despite the hilariously cringey photo!). Having a look at your profile I did have a laugh. I liked your essay! Don't be put down by people ignoring you, unfortunately there's too many single males on here so you just have to keep casting your line." I'll take "not hard on the eyes" - as long as it's not "a face that would make babies cry" then there's hope for me yet, eh? | |||
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"I was wracking my brain trying to think who it was your monologue reminded me of.. Will from the Inbetweeners . Happy fabbing x" Yikes! That *is* cringeworthy... Almost enough to shit my pants | |||
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"I was wracking my brain trying to think who it was your monologue reminded me of.. Will from the Inbetweeners . Happy fabbing x" FUCK YES!!! You’re Will from the Inbetweeners!  | |||
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"I was wracking my brain trying to think who it was your monologue reminded me of.. Will from the Inbetweeners . Happy fabbing x FUCK YES!!! You’re Will from the Inbetweeners! "Fuck my life | |||
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"Oh, I should perhaps add as well, often after messaging someone, they don't look at my profile - so clearly it's probably more the messaging that is an issue (or my face)" How do you know they don’t look at your profile? Most ladies look in stealth mode! I’ve just read your profile (bloody hell and I thought mine was wordy!!!) but you won’t be able to tell I have looked | |||
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"I was wracking my brain trying to think who it was your monologue reminded me of.. Will from the Inbetweeners . Happy fabbing x FUCK YES!!! You’re Will from the Inbetweeners!
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"Honestly I think you've got a nice facial structure. You're not my type but you're not hard on the eyes either (despite the hilariously cringey photo!). Having a look at your profile I did have a laugh. I liked your essay! Don't be put down by people ignoring you, unfortunately there's too many single males on here so you just have to keep casting your line. I'll take "not hard on the eyes" - as long as it's not "a face that would make babies cry" then there's hope for me yet, eh?" Who are you messaging? Many of the females in the forum get HUNDREDS of messages. Here’s my thoughts. Don’t ever cut and paste messages. Scattergun approach doesn’t work, and is obvious. Read their profile carefully. Don’t message if there’s anything to suggest you will not be their type. Look at their verifications. Are the guys on it similar to you - age, looks, location. Finally, be patient. Very patient. If you’re near a club consider that as a good way to meet people. Just be yourself as well. It’ll be more fun when you do find people you click with. | |||
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"Oh, I should perhaps add as well, often after messaging someone, they don't look at my profile - so clearly it's probably more the messaging that is an issue (or my face) How do you know they don’t look at your profile? Most ladies look in stealth mode! I’ve just read your profile (bloody hell and I thought mine was wordy!!!) but you won’t be able to tell I have looked" I didn't know there even *was* a stealth mode, but it makes sense...both from a pragmatic perspective on their part so they don't get hassled to shit, but also why it seems to be solely guys that have been checking me out... I mean - I've never known if I was good looking or not, but after living in Kemptown in Brighton, I definitely knew that I had a certain look that appealed to the gay guys. My theory is that with my youthful, slightly innocent looks and ethnic persuasion...I am my own niche fetish. I am a Chwink | |||
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"Who are you messaging? Many of the females in the forum get HUNDREDS of messages. Here’s my thoughts. Don’t ever cut and paste messages. Scattergun approach doesn’t work, and is obvious. Read their profile carefully. Don’t message if there’s anything to suggest you will not be their type. Look at their verifications. Are the guys on it similar to you - age, looks, location. Finally, be patient. Very patient. If you’re near a club consider that as a good way to meet people. Just be yourself as well. It’ll be more fun when you do find people you click with. "I message women and couples who haven't explicitly said they don't want someone like me (ie a shortarse smoker with a decidedly average sized cock) I never copy and paste and write each message tailored to their profile, picking up on things they've said. I know what you're saying about the whole "be yourself" thing, and up until about 10 minutes ago, I'd have wholeheartedly agreed. Turns out I'm Will from the Inbetweeners though, so I think I need to take a long hard look in the mirror and think about where it all went wrong... | |||
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"Who are you messaging? Many of the females in the forum get HUNDREDS of messages. Here’s my thoughts. Don’t ever cut and paste messages. Scattergun approach doesn’t work, and is obvious. Read their profile carefully. Don’t message if there’s anything to suggest you will not be their type. Look at their verifications. Are the guys on it similar to you - age, looks, location. Finally, be patient. Very patient. If you’re near a club consider that as a good way to meet people. Just be yourself as well. It’ll be more fun when you do find people you click with.
I message women and couples who haven't explicitly said they don't want someone like me (ie a shortarse smoker with a decidedly average sized cock)
I never copy and paste and write each message tailored to their profile, picking up on things they've said.
I know what you're saying about the whole "be yourself" thing, and up until about 10 minutes ago, I'd have wholeheartedly agreed.
Turns out I'm Will from the Inbetweeners though, so I think I need to take a long hard look in the mirror and think about where it all went wrong... "Your funny though Will,I'll give you that x | |||
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"Ah - another question to pose to the masses. I can't accommodate. Reason for this is because I've recently come out of a 15 year relationship and my ex still has keys and a tendency to turn up unannounced because she "misses the cats" Best to keep this on the downlow or be open and transparent? I value honesty, so I've been going with the latter. Mistake you think?" Bloody hell, just change the locks! She has no right to be just letting herself into your home uninvited. As to your questions: Most ladies and couples choose to view profiles in stealth mode so you won't know we've looked. The site gives you the option to not show up on "who looked at me" lists. I use stealth mode because I got fed up of people messaging to say "you looked at me, wanna fuck?" As others have said your pictures aren't great. Your profile text needs some work too. I would ditch the first 7 or 8 paragraphs completely. It just comes across as you are trying to put down other guys of fab as a way of emphasising you are not like them. Tell us what kind of guy you are - we all know the site is full of dickheads so we don't need you to tell us that! | |||
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"Your funny though Will,I'll give you that x" Just in a cringey "can't watch unless it's through fingers" kind of a way... So on the one hand, I've been called cute and "not that hard on the eyes" but on the other I'm Will from the Inbetweeners... I'd love to claim that's a score draw, but tbh it's more like a 5-0 drubbing... | |||
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"Your funny though Will,I'll give you that x Just in a cringey "can't watch unless it's through fingers" kind of a way... So on the one hand, I've been called cute and "not that hard on the eyes" but on the other I'm Will from the Inbetweeners... I'd love to claim that's a score draw, but tbh it's more like a 5-0 drubbing... "I thought Will was ok,let's be honest in the grand scheme of things there are probably worse comparisons that could have been made. It can be your USP unique. shagging. point. The chicks will flocking to your door unless the ex has still got a key.. You'll be knee deep in clunge before you know it !!!  | |||
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"Bloody hell, just change the locks! She has no right to be just letting herself into your home uninvited. As to your questions: Most ladies and couples choose to view profiles in stealth mode so you won't know we've looked. The site gives you the option to not show up on "who looked at me" lists. I use stealth mode because I got fed up of people messaging to say "you looked at me, wanna fuck?" As others have said your pictures aren't great. Your profile text needs some work too. I would ditch the first 7 or 8 paragraphs completely. It just comes across as you are trying to put down other guys of fab as a way of emphasising you are not like them. Tell us what kind of guy you are - we all know the site is full of dickheads so we don't need you to tell us that!" Well...it's her home too...until we resolve what we're actually doing with it we both own it. Plus she's struggling with the change in circumstances. I'm not willing to be the kinda guy that just cuts her off from her old life completely. I'd rather we went about things amicably and didn't have to drift apart, and to be honest right now she needs the support and comfort of familiarity. Thanks for the profile feedback | |||
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"I thought Will was ok,let's be honest in the grand scheme of things there are probably worse comparisons that could have been made. It can be your USP unique. shagging. point. The chicks will flocking to your door unless the ex has still got a key.. You'll be knee deep in clunge before you know it !!! "Ha! Unique Shagging Point...nicely played. Dunno if it's really going to be all that effective, but we'll see. I have always wondered though - why does there seem to be such a high correlation between the letters n g and e and euphemisms for girly bits? Minge, flange, clunge...it's a bloody mystery  | |||
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"I thought Will was ok,let's be honest in the grand scheme of things there are probably worse comparisons that could have been made. It can be your USP unique. shagging. point. The chicks will flocking to your door unless the ex has still got a key.. You'll be knee deep in clunge before you know it !!!
Ha! Unique Shagging Point...nicely played.
Dunno if it's really going to be all that effective, but we'll see.
I have always wondered though - why does there seem to be such a high correlation between the letters n g and e and euphemisms for girly bits?
Minge, flange, clunge...it's a bloody mystery "Lack of imagination I should think..they all sound somewhat plumbing related. Flange actually is some kind of valve I think (I'm prepared to be enlightened ) Non of the above are a description your ever hear me use . | |||
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"Well a flange is the flared out bit you might find on the end of a pipe - the bit that goes wider. Or the edge bit of a metallic structure. I guess if your mind is kinda twisted there might be some really contrived torturously tenuous logical link there, but not really..." Thanks Will. | |||
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"I wrote in the title... It's your lucky day" Got a more or less instant responce ,45 mins later she was wanking and sucking me off along the side of my car on a industrial estate... I cum on the floor and left... Don't even know her name
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"Hello all, I’m also a newbie not really had a great deal of responses so looking for some feedback/advice?? Thanks x " you’ll need a picture with a pastry in your mouth first to get any advice on this thread | |||
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"Silhouette for starters and the other pics not very good either, try that for starters, we also line a well written bio SC xx" Silhouette for starters what does that mean? Also why aren’t the pics very good. Thanks for your feedback | |||
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"Silhouette for starters and the other pics not very good either, try that for starters, we also line a well written bio SC xx Silhouette for starters what does that mean? Also why aren’t the pics very good. Thanks for your feedback" She meant the OP... | |||
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"Might have to make my own thread seems like everyone replying to The OP lol" yes, thats kind of how they work..considered a bit presumptuous to hijack.. | |||
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"Might have to make my own thread seems like everyone replying to The OP lol" Normal forum etiquette is start your own thread, not hijack someone else's. | |||
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"Bloody hell, just change the locks! She has no right to be just letting herself into your home uninvited. As to your questions: Most ladies and couples choose to view profiles in stealth mode so you won't know we've looked. The site gives you the option to not show up on "who looked at me" lists. I use stealth mode because I got fed up of people messaging to say "you looked at me, wanna fuck?" As others have said your pictures aren't great. Your profile text needs some work too. I would ditch the first 7 or 8 paragraphs completely. It just comes across as you are trying to put down other guys of fab as a way of emphasising you are not like them. Tell us what kind of guy you are - we all know the site is full of dickheads so we don't need you to tell us that! Well...it's her home too...until we resolve what we're actually doing with it we both own it. Plus she's struggling with the change in circumstances. I'm not willing to be the kinda guy that just cuts her off from her old life completely. I'd rather we went about things amicably and didn't have to drift apart, and to be honest right now she needs the support and comfort of familiarity. Thanks for the profile feedback" That would send out warning bells to me. You don’t seem to be actually single. Which is fine for many women but it would put me off. I think you need to spell it out in your profile, if you can find the room! As everyone else said, you need to take a decent photo. I’m not sure why you find that so difficult. Otherwise, I think you have a lot to offer. | |||
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"You can be weird, we’re all weird just some play the normal game all there life and some have two/three or more lives, keep stuff simple and let people ask you stuff they need to know, don’t tell them what they don’t Cool - appreciate the time and effort to give feedback, thank you" So are you going to use the advice that's been given to you? | |||
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"Thanks for the heads up...in other forums I’ve been told not to create threads for one that exist already." Profile advice thread, start your own as its specific to you. If its something generic and there's already threads open about the same thing, then yeah post in those rather than starting a new one. | |||
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"Silhouette for starters and the other pics not very good either, try that for starters, we also line a well written bio SC xx" Thanks for the feedback, pretty much confirming what others have said but gratefully received nonetheless x | |||
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"Black silhouette, crap photos and a way,way too long profile. I like a detailed profile but that was too much even for me. " Thanks for the feedback, appreciated x | |||
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"You have a, silhouette for an avatar, that is off putting for most. " Duly noted, thank you x | |||
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"Bloody hell, just change the locks! She has no right to be just letting herself into your home uninvited. As to your questions: Most ladies and couples choose to view profiles in stealth mode so you won't know we've looked. The site gives you the option to not show up on "who looked at me" lists. I use stealth mode because I got fed up of people messaging to say "you looked at me, wanna fuck?" As others have said your pictures aren't great. Your profile text needs some work too. I would ditch the first 7 or 8 paragraphs completely. It just comes across as you are trying to put down other guys of fab as a way of emphasising you are not like them. Tell us what kind of guy you are - we all know the site is full of dickheads so we don't need you to tell us that! Well...it's her home too...until we resolve what we're actually doing with it we both own it. Plus she's struggling with the change in circumstances. I'm not willing to be the kinda guy that just cuts her off from her old life completely. I'd rather we went about things amicably and didn't have to drift apart, and to be honest right now she needs the support and comfort of familiarity. Thanks for the profile feedback That would send out warning bells to me. You don’t seem to be actually single. Which is fine for many women but it would put me off. I think you need to spell it out in your profile, if you can find the room! As everyone else said, you need to take a decent photo. I’m not sure why you find that so difficult. Otherwise, I think you have a lot to offer. " Well, I know what you're saying...I mean in a way it kind of feels almost like I'm not, having to sort of sneak around despite the fact we split up in June - well March actually, if you count the initial trial separation... So you reckon explain the situation? I mean - in how much detail, because I kinda explained it a bit in here and it made it seem like im not really single, so might it not be more off-putting than saying nothing at all? Thanks for the feedback, and the kind words x | |||
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"You can be weird, we’re all weird just some play the normal game all there life and some have two/three or more lives, keep stuff simple and let people ask you stuff they need to know, don’t tell them what they don’t Cool - appreciate the time and effort to give feedback, thank you So are you going to use the advice that's been given to you? " I am...but from the sounds of things it's not just a minor tweak - rather than polishing a turf it seems like a complete overhaul is the order of the day, plus there may yet be some feedback to come that highlights other areas to work on... Gonna spruce it up when I get the time | |||
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"The photos would put me off and I wouldn't bother reading the text after that, sorry " I'm starting to get this weird feeling that my photos aren't up to much, dunno why, must be some kind of sixth sense or something...
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"Bloody hell, just change the locks! She has no right to be just letting herself into your home uninvited. As to your questions: Most ladies and couples choose to view profiles in stealth mode so you won't know we've looked. The site gives you the option to not show up on "who looked at me" lists. I use stealth mode because I got fed up of people messaging to say "you looked at me, wanna fuck?" As others have said your pictures aren't great. Your profile text needs some work too. I would ditch the first 7 or 8 paragraphs completely. It just comes across as you are trying to put down other guys of fab as a way of emphasising you are not like them. Tell us what kind of guy you are - we all know the site is full of dickheads so we don't need you to tell us that! Well...it's her home too...until we resolve what we're actually doing with it we both own it. Plus she's struggling with the change in circumstances. I'm not willing to be the kinda guy that just cuts her off from her old life completely. I'd rather we went about things amicably and didn't have to drift apart, and to be honest right now she needs the support and comfort of familiarity. Thanks for the profile feedback That would send out warning bells to me. You don’t seem to be actually single. Which is fine for many women but it would put me off. I think you need to spell it out in your profile, if you can find the room! As everyone else said, you need to take a decent photo. I’m not sure why you find that so difficult. Otherwise, I think you have a lot to offer. Well, I know what you're saying...I mean in a way it kind of feels almost like I'm not, having to sort of sneak around despite the fact we split up in June - well March actually, if you count the initial trial separation... So you reckon explain the situation? I mean - in how much detail, because I kinda explained it a bit in here and it made it seem like im not really single, so might it not be more off-putting than saying nothing at all? Thanks for the feedback, and the kind words x" If you say you can't accommodate but don't explain, many will assume you're married. You need to be honest, twisting the truth so you can get your end away is unattractive. | |||
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"OP, your taking the time to respond with lengthy replies to people on this thread, which is great, but surely if you can find time to do this then you can find time to do a little work on your profile. Or is this just another look at me thread with no intention of actually improving your chances? People have taken the time to give you good advice and it's almost an insult to them that you are doing nothing. " No insult intended, I just need to take the time to take some better photos and rewrite - Its not something I want to half-arse, so I'm gonna look at it when I have the proper time to dedicate to it - because it seems like revolution not evolution is the order of the day. I'll post back when I've changed things up. | |||
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"Bloody hell, just change the locks! She has no right to be just letting herself into your home uninvited. As to your questions: Most ladies and couples choose to view profiles in stealth mode so you won't know we've looked. The site gives you the option to not show up on "who looked at me" lists. I use stealth mode because I got fed up of people messaging to say "you looked at me, wanna fuck?" As others have said your pictures aren't great. Your profile text needs some work too. I would ditch the first 7 or 8 paragraphs completely. It just comes across as you are trying to put down other guys of fab as a way of emphasising you are not like them. Tell us what kind of guy you are - we all know the site is full of dickheads so we don't need you to tell us that! Well...it's her home too...until we resolve what we're actually doing with it we both own it. Plus she's struggling with the change in circumstances. I'm not willing to be the kinda guy that just cuts her off from her old life completely. I'd rather we went about things amicably and didn't have to drift apart, and to be honest right now she needs the support and comfort of familiarity. Thanks for the profile feedback That would send out warning bells to me. You don’t seem to be actually single. Which is fine for many women but it would put me off. I think you need to spell it out in your profile, if you can find the room! As everyone else said, you need to take a decent photo. I’m not sure why you find that so difficult. Otherwise, I think you have a lot to offer. Well, I know what you're saying...I mean in a way it kind of feels almost like I'm not, having to sort of sneak around despite the fact we split up in June - well March actually, if you count the initial trial separation... So you reckon explain the situation? I mean - in how much detail, because I kinda explained it a bit in here and it made it seem like im not really single, so might it not be more off-putting than saying nothing at all? Thanks for the feedback, and the kind words x If you say you can't accommodate but don't explain, many will assume you're married. You need to be honest, twisting the truth so you can get your end away is unattractive." Thank you, appreciate the feedback x | |||
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"Photo in the blue hoodie is good. Nice smile. Your profile text is too long - but you are eloquent and funny and have taken everyone's comments so well. Good luck! " Thank you for your kind words. I've tried to put a brave face on things but secretly I'm crying into a pillow over the Will comments | |||
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"Photo in the blue hoodie is good. Nice smile. Your profile text is too long - but you are eloquent and funny and have taken everyone's comments so well. Good luck! Thank you for your kind words. I've tried to put a brave face on things but secretly I'm crying into a pillow over the Will comments "Get a briefcase and a large badge. You’ll do well  | |||
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"Photo in the blue hoodie is good. Nice smile. Your profile text is too long - but you are eloquent and funny and have taken everyone's comments so well. Good luck! Thank you for your kind words. I've tried to put a brave face on things but secretly I'm crying into a pillow over the Will comments
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