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Do dates scare people off!?

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By *laireal OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Hi,

We've yet to meet anyone on FAB. Had a couple of meets on SH.

4 seperate times on here we've had a similar dead end experience. Found a couple that we both like, ususally them contacting us 1st. After a few exchanges,sent them pics and they say they like us. We suggest meeting up for a drink. They give us the thumbs up. We give some free dates and then no reply!

We're a bit confused why people would drop out of the conversation at that point. If they didn't like us why say they want to meet?

advice anyone?

C&A

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford

I think you've just been unlucky, and sometimes people don't realize that you can't read their minds and don't know why they haven't got in touch.

I can't see anything wrong with you or your profile, so don't give up it'll happen.

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall


"Hi,

We've yet to meet anyone on FAB. Had a couple of meets on SH.

4 seperate times on here we've had a similar dead end experience. Found a couple that we both like, ususally them contacting us 1st. After a few exchanges,sent them pics and they say they like us. We suggest meeting up for a drink. They give us the thumbs up. We give some free dates and then no reply!

We're a bit confused why people would drop out of the conversation at that point. If they didn't like us why say they want to meet?

advice anyone?

C&A"

Its a common problem on here, most likely due to many different reasons. You will never know. Best not to take it personally. Thats life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The simple fact is, life gets in the way. In the past I've chatted to people, been excited about meeting then work, family, previous meet all come up and the new person "forgotten".

It's not a reflection on you, that's just how it is sometimes, you've just been unlucky and as your new you could think it's 'you'd...it's not.

Don't give up and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to us too so don't take it personally. We prefer to meet for a social drink first too and don't think it puts people off. Those that want to meet us will do so. Good luck on here and don't be disheartened. X

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By *laireal OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

thanks for the response everyone, good to know we're not getting an especially unusual response. We thought there might be a special password we were supposd to use on here or something!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I looked at the title of the thread, I though it was gonna be about those gooey sticky things that we used to get at Christmas.

You know the ones, they come in a long oval box and you get a little plastic fork to eat them with.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"When I looked at the title of the thread, I though it was gonna be about those gooey sticky things that we used to get at Christmas.

You know the ones, they come in a long oval box and you get a little plastic fork to eat them with."

Them things that are still in the cupboard till February and then they go in the bin things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the ones

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By *laireal OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

haha! yes we have a date fetish. Maybe that's why they didn't reply

they're good for you !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I looked at the title of the thread, I though it was gonna be about those gooey sticky things that we used to get at Christmas.

You know the ones, they come in a long oval box and you get a little plastic fork to eat them with.

Them things that are still in the cupboard till February and then they go in the bin things?"

I love them things pass them my way please

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Hi,

We've yet to meet anyone on FAB. Had a couple of meets on SH.

4 seperate times on here we've had a similar dead end experience. Found a couple that we both like, ususally them contacting us 1st. After a few exchanges,sent them pics and they say they like us. We suggest meeting up for a drink. They give us the thumbs up. We give some free dates and then no reply!

We're a bit confused why people would drop out of the conversation at that point. If they didn't like us why say they want to meet?

advice anyone?

C&A"

patience is the best advice, i have generally found far more really meet here here than over the road,but it can take time...why not remessage them,a friendly hi,if they still dont reply,move on.

happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi,

We've yet to meet anyone on FAB. Had a couple of meets on SH.

4 seperate times on here we've had a similar dead end experience. Found a couple that we both like, ususally them contacting us 1st. After a few exchanges,sent them pics and they say they like us. We suggest meeting up for a drink. They give us the thumbs up. We give some free dates and then no reply!

We're a bit confused why people would drop out of the conversation at that point. If they didn't like us why say they want to meet?

advice anyone?

C&A"

Are the people your trying to meet well validated from actual meets?

We find Fab has a lot of fantasists because its a free site compared to the paying sites which i think SH is one of those?

Would also suggest, getting back to them saying (if you dont already).. "any decision on dates yet?" As we find people do need a kick.. as lives tend to get in the way of extra fun, and people do forget to get back to you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I looked at the title of the thread, I though it was gonna be about those gooey sticky things that we used to get at Christmas.

You know the ones, they come in a long oval box and you get a little plastic fork to eat them with.

Them things that are still in the cupboard till February and then they go in the bin things?

I love them things pass them my way please "

yeah, pass us one...

I find prunes far scarier than dates

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I looked at the title of the thread, I though it was gonna be about those gooey sticky things that we used to get at Christmas.

You know the ones, they come in a long oval box and you get a little plastic fork to eat them with.

Them things that are still in the cupboard till February and then they go in the bin things?

I love them things pass them my way please

yeah, pass us one...

I find prunes far scarier than dates

Wolf

"

I like prunes as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People get cold feet sometimes, don't worry about it.

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By *laireal OP   Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

yes all but one were validated a few times. not that we wouldn't meet up with non validated as that's what we are thanks to our zero meets on here thanks again for reassurance everyone.


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C&A

Are the people your trying to meet well validated from actual meets?

We find Fab has a lot of fantasists because its a free site compared to the paying sites which i think SH is one of those?

Would also suggest, getting back to them saying (if you dont already).. "any decision on dates yet?" As we find people do need a kick.. as lives tend to get in the way of extra fun, and people do forget to get back to you..

"

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