FabSwingers.com forum: Getting started

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone,

So here I am looking for someone who I naturally get along with for a chat first and then hopefully some amazing fun times together.

There must be some people on this site who have had a lot of success and want to pass on their advice to someone just starting out...so fire away. If you could give me your best tip what would it be?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Best advice would be to get along to a social or a club and chat to people in real life. Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Best advice would be to get along to a social or a club and chat to people in real life. Good luck OP."

Thanks! Is it easy to get along to club nights as a single guy new to the scene?

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Best advice would be to get along to a social or a club and chat to people in real life. Good luck OP.

Thanks! Is it easy to get along to club nights as a single guy new to the scene?"

Read the club reviews. Look at club's in your area. Some have rules about joining or only allowing single guys on certain days.

But most will give you a tour when you get there, answer questions and introduce you to regulars if you say you are new.

Smile and chat with lots of people. Chance to get verified, get to know others, find about other events going on and more chance to join in with fun if you have talked to them earlier in the night.

Remember they are a club full of swingers. But it doesn't guarantee sex. Just go to have a good relaxed evening and see how club's work initially .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone,

So here I am looking for someone who I naturally get along with for a chat first and then hopefully some amazing fun times together.

There must be some people on this site who have had a lot of success and want to pass on their advice to someone just starting out...so fire away. If you could give me your best tip what would it be?

x "

Shave everything.

Buy a frock.

Don frock.

Wear a wig and make up.

Go gay early.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Hi everyone,

So here I am looking for someone who I naturally get along with for a chat first and then hopefully some amazing fun times together.

There must be some people on this site who have had a lot of success and want to pass on their advice to someone just starting out...so fire away. If you could give me your best tip what would it be?

Shave everything.

Buy a frock.

Don frock.

Wear a wig and make up.

Go gay early.

"
lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone,

So here I am looking for someone who I naturally get along with for a chat first and then hopefully some amazing fun times together.

There must be some people on this site who have had a lot of success and want to pass on their advice to someone just starting out...so fire away. If you could give me your best tip what would it be?

Shave everything.

Buy a frock.

Don frock.

Wear a wig and make up.

Go gay early.

lol"

It works tho

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Hi everyone,

So here I am looking for someone who I naturally get along with for a chat first and then hopefully some amazing fun times together.

There must be some people on this site who have had a lot of success and want to pass on their advice to someone just starting out...so fire away. If you could give me your best tip what would it be?

Shave everything.

Buy a frock.

Don frock.

Wear a wig and make up.

Go gay early.

lol

It works tho

Oh I wish it did...

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

"Hi everyone,

So here I am looking for someone who I naturally get along with for a chat first and then hopefully some amazing fun times together.

There must be some people on this site who have had a lot of success and want to pass on their advice to someone just starting out...so fire away. If you could give me your best tip what would it be?

Shave everything.

Buy a frock.

Don frock.

Wear a wig and make up.

Go gay early.

lol

It works tho

Oh I wish it did...

You obviously bought the wrong frock !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi everyone,

So here I am looking for someone who I naturally get along with for a chat first and then hopefully some amazing fun times together.

There must be some people on this site who have had a lot of success and want to pass on their advice to someone just starting out...so fire away. If you could give me your best tip what would it be?

x "

Read profiles. Right to the end.

Don't message people who you don't match what they are looking for on their profile.

Never send a friends request without having spoken to them first.

Message when you aren't feeling horny.

Be yourself.

Be polite and respectful in first messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to the clubs - cuts out all the fruitless messaging and confusion and of course the timewasters/no-shows. Treat it as a night out with no sexual expectations. Use it to gain confidence if you need it. You will get verifications and better credibility as a single guy. A lot of people in the clubs are on fab. Network. Bide your time.

Read the profile twice before you message. Be prepared for your own cold feet/changed your mind.

The 'scene' CAN be great

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Best advice would be to get along to a social or a club and chat to people in real life. Good luck OP.

Thanks! Is it easy to get along to club nights as a single guy new to the scene?

Read the club reviews. Look at club's in your area. Some have rules about joining or only allowing single guys on certain days.

But most will give you a tour when you get there, answer questions and introduce you to regulars if you say you are new.

Smile and chat with lots of people. Chance to get verified, get to know others, find about other events going on and more chance to join in with fun if you have talked to them earlier in the night.

Remember they are a club full of swingers. But it doesn't guarantee sex. Just go to have a good relaxed evening and see how club's work initially . "

^this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs meet real people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Club reviews seams a good idea. Trying to get a verification as new here. # frustrating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, if possible, i would go to a "social", advertised in the meets section. It's easier and cheaper than going to a club, plus it's easier socialising there as there's no expectaton to play.

In either case, i would say the swingers ive had contact with can be cliquey, and also pre judging and not so easy to break the ice, closing you down with a curt closer, or in rare occasions, just blanking you alltogether.

Rude? Yes by normal socialising standards but they are in a swinging scene and may think your after a quick shag.

I found I'm shut out of even basic socialising, but they seem friendly and social to each other.

Im sorry if your expecting open welcoming atmosphere but not quite like that. Ive also spokwn to couples who've had problems with the cliquey atmosphere too.

Not trying to put you off, just telling you as it is.

If you get blanked, or snubbed, don't worry about it and move on. Don't yhink they're all like that, youll meet decent ones too., including a tv, who though im not into sexually, was a great laugb and the best personality and soul ive met for ages and a great friend.

Hope you do well matey!!

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