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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now don’t get me wrong here this is not a whinge! Honest lol. I want to know why age is such a a problem on here. There must be dozens of older ladies looking for an older guy out there in fab land but you never hear from them or even catch them looking. If your over 60 are you considered’past it’ I hope not or I’ll shoot myself now. What do you think? Before you say anything about my profile I do have a face pic on there, I just keep it private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

age isn't a 'problem' on here, people just have varying preferences. There are as many if not far more young guys who post the same asking why they are ignored for being too young. Maybe just search profiles that have compatible age requirements.

and regardless of your reasons, a blank avatar is going to be a turn off in the first place to many women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to be realistic. 20 year olds, 30 and 40 year olds rarely have sex with 60 year olds. That's just realistic. If you find that depressing then you're living in a fantasy land. Women in their 50s and 60s do join sites like this. But it's often because they've got a thing for slightly younger men.

If I was a 60 year old single man I don't think I'd be on here. I'd be dating or joining local groups. Maybe, if it didn't feel demeaning, I'd hire an escort from time to time. Don't frustrate yourself by barking up a tree you saw some fluffy young squirrel run up. It leapt to another tree ages ago. Hmm. Does that analogy even work? Good luck

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I like men older than myself but they have to meet my other preferences as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I’m 21. I’m not attracted to men over about 45, really. My grandad isn’t even 64 years old yet.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

you are 64 what age of lady are you hoping to attract?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am 41 cough cough,I've had 4 lads inbox me today 21 and under.am sorry but I love older guys.plus when a young lad inbox me and said....fuck me ya got banging puppy's. And can i jizz over them,and I've always wanted to bang an old women .I just press the block button

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London

Don't give up hope - there are lots of people your age on here and many couples looking for the older chap. Just use the browse function to search for them!

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
over a year ago

London


"Am 41 cough cough,I've had 4 lads inbox me today 21 and under.am sorry but I love older guys.plus when a young lad inbox me and said....fuck me ya got banging puppy's. And can i jizz over them,and I've always wanted to bang an old women .I just press the block button"

Crikey - You're OLD??!?!?!?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that everyone. That livened up my morning! Firstly I’m a long way from dead and secondly I’ve had 8 looks since I posted this. I must have touched a nerve somewhere lol love you all x

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle

I’ve got to say that when I reached 51, I suddenly lost a lot of women who have 50 as the max age. Although they’ve increased in age as well, they haven’t amended their age range. I understand that maybe they didn’t want to but think it hasn’t occurred to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have no age preference but I’m realistic as well. Thanks for asking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes I can understand that. Proper Off putting

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP what age group would you prefer to meet? You don't say on your profile.

If you are looking for people around your own age then there should be no problem finding them, there are plenty of people on here who are over 60.

If you are hoping to meet people much younger than yourself then you might struggle somewhat - the vast majority of people have age preferences that are around their own age, give or take 10 years either way.

I would suggest you do a search and tick the box that says "they are looking for people my age". That way you only find these who may consider meeting you if you match all their other preferences (and if they fancy you, of course!)

As a single man on fab you are in a large majority so need to make maximum effort. I can't give you profile advice because you haven't asked for it but I will say that may be one thing you could look at to maximise your chances.

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am 41 cough cough,I've had 4 lads inbox me today 21 and under.am sorry but I love older guys.plus when a young lad inbox me and said....fuck me ya got banging puppy's. And can i jizz over them,and I've always wanted to bang an old women .I just press the block button

Crikey - You're OLD??!?!?!? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a hotwife of 43 who has no trouble finding men to meet my needs, I dont feel there is any need for me to sleep with men who are substancial older than myself. I also wouldn’t go for men substantially younger for other reasons. I do feel men between the ages of 35 and 40 have the experience and maturity to give me what I’m looking for, but also have the more youthful body and stamina that often disappears in later middle age. So why go substantially outside what I consider to be the ideal age range when I don’t have to? Would my view change when I’m 60? I don’t know. In do know it’s not hard for older ladies to attract younger men, so again a man in the age upper ranges would need to ask himself what he can offer that younger men can’t. Bearing in mind that it’s bloody hard for men of any age simply due to the ratios.

Mrs

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I don’t give a monkeys about age, it’s all about attraction and connection for me but your profile is blank so I wouldn’t meet you.

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By *ooncat123Woman
over a year ago

Sutton


"Thanks for that everyone. That livened up my morning! Firstly I’m a long way from dead and secondly I’ve had 8 looks since I posted this. I must have touched a nerve somewhere lol love you all x"

9. I'm in ninja mode!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good question the OP raises

If you are open, honest and clear about your preferences, then it is up to the other person to make an informed decision / choice.

My own preferences do not limit age at either end and if I am fortunate to meet a younger female and we click, so be it. However I then risk running the gauntlet of criticism on here of being a perv

We cant win I guess

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you, very helpful, never thought ticking the box would make a difference. I suppose overall do prefer ladies around my own age so advice taken x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Love the profile, I laughed my socks off, x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think you hit the nail on the head lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t give a monkeys about age, it’s all about attraction and connection for me but your profile is blank so I wouldn’t meet you. "

Almost as blank as yours

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

This is harsh, but I don't believe in telling people comforting lies.

You are an average man over 60. I am afraid that puts you at the very bottom of the fab desirability stakes. As others have said, the fact that you have no pics and a slightly wingey profile doesn't help either.

You may be a lovely person, but this is primarily a site about physical sexual attraction. There is about fifteen men chasing every woman on here. It is extremely unlikely you will be chosen.

Sorry to be negative, but the reality is you are wasting your time on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only problem with age is,none of us are getting any younger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a depressing bunch we are?!!

Keep going OP. Review your profile, out up a few good pictures, engage in the forums positively, show your personality, maybe go to some clubs if you fancy that ... then who knows?!

It's a fact we all get older and even 30-40 year olds will be 60+ one day. I'm sure they won't just roll over and give up as they suggest you should ... After all, sex gets better with age ...

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"What a depressing bunch we are?!!

Keep going OP. Review your profile, out up a few good pictures, engage in the forums positively, show your personality, maybe go to some clubs if you fancy that ... then who knows?!

It's a fact we all get older and even 30-40 year olds will be 60+ one day. I'm sure they won't just roll over and give up as they suggest you should ... After all, sex gets better with age ... "

That's all very fine, but I am afraid it is obvious that the number of people who will find you sexually attractive will decline with age. After around age 40, the older you are the fewer people who will want to fuck you.

By all means try and defy the odds, but let's not deny reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a depressing bunch we are?!!

Keep going OP. Review your profile, out up a few good pictures, engage in the forums positively, show your personality, maybe go to some clubs if you fancy that ... then who knows?!

It's a fact we all get older and even 30-40 year olds will be 60+ one day. I'm sure they won't just roll over and give up as they suggest you should ... After all, sex gets better with age ...

That's all very fine, but I am afraid it is obvious that the number of people who will find you sexually attractive will decline with age. After around age 40, the older you are the fewer people who will want to fuck you.

By all means try and defy the odds, but let's not deny reality.

"

It is probably true that the size of the pool diminishes but it depends on you and your attitude whether you get anywhere. There are plenty of younger people who struggle and older people who are more successful.

It's totally wrong to suggest a specific individual just gives up because they've reached a certain age. I haven't and I'm sure you won't be swayed into giving up by your age ...?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don’t give a monkeys about age, it’s all about attraction and connection for me but your profile is blank so I wouldn’t meet you.

Almost as blank as yours"

I’m not the one moaning about no interest. My 19 word profile is constantly ignored anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's all very fine, but I am afraid it is obvious that the number of people who will find you sexually attractive will decline with age. After around age 40, the older you are the fewer people who will want to fuck you."

Hmm I think you need to reword that as "the number of people who will find your appearance sexually attractive will decline". Older people can still be sexy as fuck. But their charisma and energy plays a much bigger role in that than someone in their 20s.

If you're 60 you can't really pose naked in the window and expect people to be jumping over themselves to fuck you. But I'd imagine you absolutely can wine and dine and charm your way into someone's sexual fantasies. Fab is the window. Dating sites are a much better bet for 60+ imo

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"What a depressing bunch we are?!!

Keep going OP. Review your profile, out up a few good pictures, engage in the forums positively, show your personality, maybe go to some clubs if you fancy that ... then who knows?!

It depends what yuy

It's a fact we all get older and even 30-40 year olds will be 60+ one day. I'm sure they won't just roll over and give up as they suggest you should ... After all, sex gets better with age ...

That's all very fine, but I am afraid it is obvious that the number of people who will find you sexually attractive will decline with age. After around age 40, the older you are the fewer people who will want to fuck you.

By all means try and defy the odds, but let's not deny reality.

It is probably true that the size of the pool diminishes but it depends on you and your attitude whether you get anywhere. There are plenty of younger people who struggle and older people who are more successful.

It's totally wrong to suggest a specific individual just gives up because they've reached a certain age. I haven't and I'm sure you won't be swayed into giving up by your age ...? "

Personally I wouldn't be on here as a single man in my sixties. The extremely unlikely Chance that a woman might choose me over 14 other younger men vying for her attention would not compensate for the constant rejection.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"That's all very fine, but I am afraid it is obvious that the number of people who will find you sexually attractive will decline with age. After around age 40, the older you are the fewer people who will want to fuck you.

Hmm I think you need to reword that as "the number of people who will find your appearance sexually attractive will decline". Older people can still be sexy as fuck. But their charisma and energy plays a much bigger role in that than someone in their 20s.

If you're 60 you can't really pose naked in the window and expect people to be jumping over themselves to fuck you. But I'd imagine you absolutely can wine and dine and charm your way into someone's sexual fantasies. Fab is the window. Dating sites are a much better bet for 60+ imo "

This is a site based, initially, at least on physical attraction. Most women and couples on here are not physically attracted to over sixties men and thus won't meet them however charming they might be.

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By *ung 2018xMan
over a year ago

ashbrooke sr2 area

After reading some posts on here after all age is just a number I know a few (younger) guys on here who don’t put there real age on there profiles and expect to meet older guys on here I don’t see why they do it as any older guy would see that they are too young and immature, iv noticed many profiles don’t put age preferences on there profiles which I find annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer younger, I find them less clingy. I have had more hassle off guys older than me. Although I would meet older still if they appealed to me x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"That's all very fine, but I am afraid it is obvious that the number of people who will find you sexually attractive will decline with age. After around age 40, the older you are the fewer people who will want to fuck you.

Hmm I think you need to reword that as "the number of people who will find your appearance sexually attractive will decline". Older people can still be sexy as fuck. But their charisma and energy plays a much bigger role in that than someone in their 20s.

If you're 60 you can't really pose naked in the window and expect people to be jumping over themselves to fuck you. But I'd imagine you absolutely can wine and dine and charm your way into someone's sexual fantasies. Fab is the window. Dating sites are a much better bet for 60+ imo "

I disagree that dating sites are a better bet for 60+. There are more and more over sixties on fab. One of the most successful men on here is 68, he does better than most of the thirty and forty year old guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wonder if men over 60 can maintain an erection without taking something to help with it. And once they cum, how long does it take to get erect again. If it’s for NSA sex, you’d think someone younger will not have that issue. Sounds harsh but that’s the reality.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


" I always wonder if men over 60 can maintain an erection without taking something to help with it. And once they cum, how long does it take to get erect again. If it’s for NSA sex, you’d think someone younger will not have that issue. Sounds harsh but that’s the reality."

Men over 60 can get and maintain an erection without help. They can also recover quite quickly if the situation is erotic enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being the other end of the spectrum isn't the best but once people get to know you and realise you're mentally mature it's not so bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I always wonder if men over 60 can maintain an erection without taking something to help with it. And once they cum, how long does it take to get erect again. If it’s for NSA sex, you’d think someone younger will not have that issue. Sounds harsh but that’s the reality."
Bloody hell . 4 years and im fucked ( or not as the case maybe )

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


" I always wonder if men over 60 can maintain an erection without taking something to help with it. And once they cum, how long does it take to get erect again. If it’s for NSA sex, you’d think someone younger will not have that issue. Sounds harsh but that’s the reality. Bloody hell . 4 years and im fucked ( or not as the case maybe ) "

you sure are!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Mmmm I can tell you never met me. I’ve never used viagra!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I always wonder if men over 60 can maintain an erection without taking something to help with it. And once they cum, how long does it take to get erect again. If it’s for NSA sex, you’d think someone younger will not have that issue. Sounds harsh but that’s the reality. Bloody hell . 4 years and im fucked ( or not as the case maybe )

you sure are! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've got to be realistic. 20 year olds, 30 and 40 year olds rarely have sex with 60 year olds. That's just realistic. If you find that depressing then you're living in a fantasy land. Women in their 50s and 60s do join sites like this. But it's often because they've got a thing for slightly younger men.

If I was a 60 year old single man I don't think I'd be on here. I'd be dating or joining local groups. Maybe, if it didn't feel demeaning, I'd hire an escort from time to time. Don't frustrate yourself by barking up a tree you saw some fluffy young squirrel run up. It leapt to another tree ages ago. Hmm. Does that analogy even work? Good luck "
lol brilliant

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By *ettyboop61Woman
over a year ago

St Neots


"Am 41 cough cough,I've had 4 lads inbox me today 21 and under.am sorry but I love older guys.plus when a young lad inbox me and said....fuck me ya got banging puppy's. And can i jizz over them,and I've always wanted to bang an old women .I just press the block button"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose the advantage of being older is that you've also been younger and can see how things change for you!

For those who are still younger please don't be alarmed. There is life over 50 and 60 .... erections and orgasms still happen ... it really isn't as bad as you all seem to think!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I suppose the advantage of being older is that you've also been younger and can see how things change for you!

For those who are still younger please don't be alarmed. There is life over 50 and 60 .... erections and orgasms still happen ... it really isn't as bad as you all seem to think!!"

I shouldn't be surprised at the misconceptions younger people have about older. I suspect I held similar wrong opinions myself, but I find myself smiling wryly and thinking "you'll look back on what you've written here and wonder how you could have thought these things"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"That's all very fine, but I am afraid it is obvious that the number of people who will find you sexually attractive will decline with age. After around age 40, the older you are the fewer people who will want to fuck you.

Hmm I think you need to reword that as "the number of people who will find your appearance sexually attractive will decline". Older people can still be sexy as fuck. But their charisma and energy plays a much bigger role in that than someone in their 20s.

If you're 60 you can't really pose naked in the window and expect people to be jumping over themselves to fuck you. But I'd imagine you absolutely can wine and dine and charm your way into someone's sexual fantasies. Fab is the window. Dating sites are a much better bet for 60+ imo

This is a site based, initially, at least on physical attraction. Most women and couples on here are not physically attracted to over sixties men and thus won't meet them however charming they might be. "

That depends on the man - I know of some over-sixties on here that are fit as fuck and in great shape, with good pics to prove it. I meet them because I have more in common socially. That's crucial the older you get - you need good pics.

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