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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

There are quite a few other couples here (ourselves included) that say that would only be with another couple - which is perfectly fine. But we were wondering what experiences others have had if you (a couple) have ever made the "step" to inviting a single man into their bedroom and what it was like. Maybe it's the reason why you now only see other couples only, or perhaps it was just a pre agreed one off? Did your experiences make you change your mind about singles?

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

We started off only looking for couples and single women but it didn't take us long to realise the fun that a single guy can bring to the party. And being that much easier to arrange too as the more people that are added to the mix the harder it becomes for mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first meet was a single guy .. then we met a few couples but it didn’t always work out for us .. it’s more difficult being a four way thing .. now we usually just meet guys it’s more fun and so much easier ..

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Gomez & I have had a few meets with single guys as he likes to watch me with another man. He’s straight, so there’s no bi-play (unfortunately lol!) so I play with both of them but he tends to sit back & watch a lot too.

We have also had a few play sessions at Greedy girl events where I leave it to him to invite guys to join us & he will stay on the bed with me & make sure it’s all fine, but will just watch (with the occasional snog or cheeky nipple tweak!)

We both play separately but always tell each other- and we do love a same room full couple swap too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're rarely tempted to be honest.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi

There are quite a few other couples here (ourselves included) that say that would only be with another couple - which is perfectly fine. But we were wondering what experiences others have had if you (a couple) have ever made the "step" to inviting a single man into their bedroom and what it was like. Maybe it's the reason why you now only see other couples only, or perhaps it was just a pre agreed one off? Did your experiences make you change your mind about singles? "

We meet more single men than couples. Our first meet was with a single guy, we went on to meet several more times. It's easier to meet and get along with a single than a couple.

Are you considering meeting a single guy but are unsure about it? Why not meet a guy socially and have a good chat with him, as long as he's aware that things might not go further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet both as a single guy is a different experience to other couples, so depends on what the mood is.

We very much enjoy both, and have had nothing but good experiences with the single guys we've invited to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Originally we were looking for single females only, they were a rare find and there were far too many fakes in our area.

So we started looking for couple's. Pretty much the same issue.

So we started looking for males and had our first meet. Have met couple's, single females and males. Most of our meets are usually with single males now.

~Mia

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North Devon-ish

We if you want to look a bit deeper, you both need to talk about what you want for yourself and what you would like to see your partner do.(You have to be honest with each other)

Some Guys want to see their other half, with another woman, some would like to see her with another man...(Some would feel threatened by seeing her with another Man)

It is easier to have a MFM as in reality only 3 of you need to get on. Bit more difficult for MFMF as 4 need to get on

Some of course prefer FMF

There are so many if's and buts and configurations

There are Watchers, Watchers and then players, or players only.


"Hi

There are quite a few other couples here (ourselves included) that say that would only be with another couple - which is perfectly fine. But we were wondering what experiences others have had if you (a couple) have ever made the "step" to inviting a single man into their bedroom and what it was like. Maybe it's the reason why you now only see other couples only, or perhaps it was just a pre agreed one off? Did your experiences make you change your mind about singles? "

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By *ll the gear.....Couple
over a year ago

Town north of Notts

We agree with a lot of these comments, single guys are easier to arrange and the fun that can be had is almost as good as with a couple. A couple brings an extra dynamic because the male can still enjoy watching and hearing his partner while also enjoying the other woman and visa versa.

We originally set out to just meet couples, and try to find a single female, but our first meet was a guy and we’ve met quite a few since. Only thing that we have found is K sometimes feels selfish because C doesn’t get to play with as many different women but she still loves the extra attention

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the advice, really makes sense, especially about it being easier to get on with one extra person rather than two.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

For us ,it's because we both like to play and watch the other with the opposite partner.

I (miss)am not currently interested in a 3sum,we both so have single profiles to meet too and that's for single men 1 on 1 for me.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met single guys.A certainly enjoyed herself. Some worked out some didn’t.

Although we do enjoy our couples

Fun too

We usually start with social either way.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Inviting a single guy or guys is now how we choose to play.

We find it difficult to find the right dynamic with other couples.

Works fine for us.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We are very open to meeting couples, but the challenge of all 4 of us being interested can be too much, so rather than taking one for the team, we have found single guys to be easier to organise. B gets what she wants, and M is perfectly happy with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ll play with couples at clubs or parties, but for more intimate meets single men win hands down. The whole experience is just so easy and drama free.

Mrs

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By *ife lover 101Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove


"Inviting a single guy or guys is now how we choose to play.

We find it difficult to find the right dynamic with other couples.

Works fine for us."

Just don't get em talking lol xxxxx

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We originally were only after couples. We've met and made good friends with a few on here

We briefly discussed inviting a guy into our antics as Rob really liked the thought of watching Steph soft playing with one. On our last visit to Townhouse, we had just taken a break from playing in a room when we spotted this gorgeous guy admiring our performance. After a rapid eye chat, we invited him over and explained our newness.

The guy was amazing! Totally respectful of our limits and newness. Rob directed him on the soft play areas and what to do and he was only too happy to oblige

I think the dynamic is totally different with a single as it is with a couple. I don't think we'd socialise as much with a single as it feels less social occasion. But we've been very much converted to the joys of single guys

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Inviting a single guy or guys is now how we choose to play.

We find it difficult to find the right dynamic with other couples.

Works fine for us.

Just don't get em talking lol xxxxx"

Behave you

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

It's been single guys only for us and it's worked out just fine, it's the scenario we both wanted from fab. Lots of talking I'm guessing is needed for you both, op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you considering meeting a single guy but are unsure about it? Why not meet a guy socially and have a good chat with him, as long as he's aware that things might not go further."

Great to see some positive feedback about single guys. I'd hazard a guess that after a few messages the ones who are worth bothering with are relatively easy to distinguish from the ones who aren't. So, perhaps not such a minefield either. I'd be only too happy to go out for a coffee, just to make friends... obviously with the hope that the "with benefits" bit naturally unfolds. But if it doesn't I'm fine with that too. Unlike couples, my social life isn't squeezed by "us time", I don't need to organise baby sitters, etc. So I can afford to have quite a laid back and natural approach to it all, and would be happy to meet regularly for lots of lovely exploration and play I think, in contrast, trying to swing with couples can be quite a frustrating endeavour, punctuated by long gaps between play... that is unless you go clubbing xx

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)


"Are you considering meeting a single guy but are unsure about it? Why not meet a guy socially and have a good chat with him, as long as he's aware that things might not go further.

Great to see some positive feedback about single guys. I'd hazard a guess that after a few messages the ones who are worth bothering with are relatively easy to distinguish from the ones who aren't. So, perhaps not such a minefield either. I'd be only too happy to go out for a coffee, just to make friends... obviously with the hope that the "with benefits" bit naturally unfolds. But if it doesn't I'm fine with that too. Unlike couples, my social life isn't squeezed by "us time", I don't need to organise baby sitters, etc. So I can afford to have quite a laid back and natural approach to it all, and would be happy to meet regularly for lots of lovely exploration and play I think, in contrast, trying to swing with couples can be quite a frustrating endeavour, punctuated by long gaps between play... that is unless you go clubbing xx"

It doesn't need a few messages as most guys shoot themselves in the foot with the first one. Saying that we've had some great first messages that start a conversation that almost gets to the arranging a meet stage when they suddenly turn into a dick.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

We originally joined up purely to meet single ladies (which we did) then we got hugely distracted by a number of very sexy couples (mostly socials).

We found that the dynamic was much better with the FFM meets and now only usually meet the couples we’ve already formed long term friendships with. The rest of our effort is aimed towards sexy bi fems for hot FFM sexy shenanigans xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never meet single guys off Fab as we have had too many no-shows and guys who turn out to be knobs. We stick to couples off Fab but very happily invite single guys we meet in clubs to join us.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We’ve met couples , single females and TVs , but we way prefer single guys .

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We usually meet at clubs and have met singles, couples and played in larger groups.

Each has it's own dynamic and is enjoyable in its own way.

The key in all cases is communication.

Nita

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By *anther and gothic angelCouple
over a year ago

fairy land

We only play with singles

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

We've never met any couples off here just single guys it works for us

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"We've never met any couples off here just single guys it works for us "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet with couples & singles, male or female but do find singles a lot easier to meet.

This is not because we don't like couples or picky in anyway, we love couple meets. We simply find some couples seem to like singles more as they are less hassle & drama free and its a lot easier to find what they are both looking for in one person.

L & P

Club Sx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single men when I initially joined here, I was looking for mature single women, but after 3some experience, I am now inclined towards couple, as everyone mentioned above, it brings different dynamic.

Any offers for me ?

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"As a single men when I initially joined here, I was looking for mature single women, but after 3some experience, I am now inclined towards couple, as everyone mentioned above, it brings different dynamic.

Any offers for me ? "

Well if you are ever in Brighton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We play with couples and with single guys - love them all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you considering meeting a single guy but are unsure about it? Why not meet a guy socially and have a good chat with him, as long as he's aware that things might not go further.

Great to see some positive feedback about single guys. I'd hazard a guess that after a few messages the ones who are worth bothering with are relatively easy to distinguish from the ones who aren't. So, perhaps not such a minefield either. I'd be only too happy to go out for a coffee, just to make friends... obviously with the hope that the "with benefits" bit naturally unfolds. But if it doesn't I'm fine with that too. Unlike couples, my social life isn't squeezed by "us time", I don't need to organise baby sitters, etc. So I can afford to have quite a laid back and natural approach to it all, and would be happy to meet regularly for lots of lovely exploration and play I think, in contrast, trying to swing with couples can be quite a frustrating endeavour, punctuated by long gaps between play... that is unless you go clubbing xx"
there are long gaps because they are couples and couples generally tend to have family’s at home which make things a little bit trickier. To be fair the reason you can be more natural as you put it is the very same reason that couples generally can’t be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single men when I initially joined here, I was looking for mature single women, but after 3some experience, I am now inclined towards couple, as everyone mentioned above, it brings different dynamic.

Any offers for me ?

Well if you are ever in Brighton "

Booking my ticket now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single guys for us. Have met couples but to be honest it's more complex as all four have to have click .

We have had some amazing couple meets tho

But prefer the less hassle with guys ( if you get the right guy )

How lucky am I ( jilly ) .

We would like to meet a couple and a single guy or two. Or am I just being greedy ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting a single guy for some hotwifing can be alot of fun

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport

Couples only for us. We sometimes (infrequently) have a threesome but but it's usually with a guy we've met elsewhere. Some of the crass messages we get from single guys on here just puts us off engaging with anyone. There's probably loads of genuine great guys on here but sadly this site attracts so many idiots too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After reading this, first i thought “are they seriously asking others to determine what they like as a couple...?”

But then i saw that you joined nearly a year ago and still no veris and i said they’re probably swinging in their dreams so it all makes sense now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always only ever met with couples bit recently met with a female friend and shared some very nice playtime with her, meeting with another female friend this Fri for a night out and fun together. Couples are our preference though. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We meet couples, single guys and single females. When we first started out we always wanted a variety of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started out couples only and now meet couples and single (straight) guys for mfm fun. It's a completely different dynamic that couples and we find it FABULOUS fun for both of us. Another progression last night, just had my first one on one with our regular single guy while Stag was out on a social with a couple he's going to meet for an mfm while I'm on holiday.

The only thing I would say OP is that it's important to get the right single guy and that can take a fair bit of patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing I would say OP is that it's important to get the right single guy and that can take a fair bit of patience."

You called

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By *inks and simbaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

We originally only played with couples, however it didnt take long to soon realise this huge mistake we made!

We got chatting to a single guy in a club and within a short period of time all ended up in the room. We loved it and regularly play with singles now. In fact we actually dont go to any club on a couples only night

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