FabSwingers.com forum: Just asking

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I heard someone talking about concentual forcing someone ! Is that a fetish or bullshite ?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

What were they saying when they were talking about it?

Consenting non-consent play of varying degrees is fairly common.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the kink/BDSM community, there is such a thing as 'Consent, noconsent'. Contest varies slightly, but it is a thing. I like resistance play (basically 'forced' sex with a trusted partner.)

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"In the kink/BDSM community, there is such a thing as 'Consent, noconsent'. Contest varies slightly, but it is a thing. I like resistance play (basically 'forced' sex with a trusted partner.)"

Anita sometimes likes to "resist" a little but there is never any doubt as to the consent. It probably isn't something to do with strangers though.

Cal

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Consensual non-consent play is fairly common. It’s more of a fet / BDSM thing than a swinging thing, so it’s a fetish rather than bullsh*t!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got asked to do that by a Fab member, he said play r word. I told him to Fk off. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I meant concentual R**E. How can it be R**E if its concentual . I'm confused

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

I’ve known a few people into this, it can be considered a kink/fetish, sometimes it’s simply to fulfill a fantasy but I’ve known a couple of women who speak to their partners about doing when they’ve previously been victims of actual r***, it can sound odd I know but when it’s consensual non consent with someone you trust it can give you your power back (to an extent, obviously not fully) when you can experience similar in a controlled way, some people won’t agree with me in what I’m saying because what works for one person won’t work for another, I’ve been through r*** myself and with a trusted partner, in the heat of the moment, I’ve asked this too, it’s seen as strange to some and that’s understandable but if it works and everyone who participates is happy with it then I don’t see the harm

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I meant concentual R**E. How can it be R**E if its concentual . I'm confused "

It’s a fantasy. It’s not at all non-consensual. Only in the mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We enjoy force play together and would love to do it on a meet with another guy but I think that'll be one of those things that just stays a fantasy. There needs to be a whole lot of trust and understanding between partners to do this x

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Total trust between partners is vital. Not something you would do with someone you didn't know.

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

It's a dangerous and exciting part of role play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I meant concentual R**E. How can it be R**E if its concentual . I'm confused "

It's roleplay, fantasy.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Hmmmmm someone asked me if I'd like to play a game like that down a dark alley. I told him to do one before I blocked him.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I meant concentual R**E. How can it be R**E if its concentual . I'm confused "

It’s role play. I have a sexy nurses outfit but I’ve not had to attend medical school to role play as a nurse!

It’s also the sort of role play that requires a lot of trust & planning and not something you can do with a stranger you’ve met online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said its a kink, fetish or simply roleplay. A lot of people fail to understand why someone who has been r*ped, abused, etc, would be into that or into BDSM & my answer always is that BDSM (including r*pe fantasies) is NOT abuse nor is it r*pe. The obvious and main factor is that r*pe is non-consensual; BDSM etc, is consensual and is consensual throughout the experience and/or fantasy.

For example, How can anyone who has been abused or r*ped still like chocolate ice cream after the fact?

Simple - Being r*ped or abused has absolutely nothing to do with chocolate ice cream.

The same goes for fantasies and BDSM.

The problem you’re having, and the problem many people have, is not being able to distinguish the difference between things that look superficially similar.

It’s a bit like not being able to tell the difference between playing Cops and Robbers, and an actual career in law enforcement.

BDSM is a consensual form of role play with boundaries clearly delineated and set out during negotiation—or, in other words, everything that r*pe and abuse are NOT.

In fact, for some, it can be cathartic to victims of r*pe and abuse because of the fact that they can set limits and know that those limits will be respected unlike during r*pe or abuse.

For me personally, I believe I was simply born with a kink for BDSM, and being abused wouldn't have changed that fact as it's already wired into me.

- H

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry went off on a bit of a tangent then

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