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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, I have just read a post wear a couple arranged a meeting with a couple but they did not show up,just wondering does this happen often as I can't understand why anyone could do this with out letting them know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, it happens all too often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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By *onny1208Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

happens all the time people say they're on there way and never show and even if you've been speaking to them for weeks they then block you. worst offenders are tv's and single men.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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He was a spineless piece of rubbish wasn't he!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why would they do this

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By *onny1208Couple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

because they fantasize on here but when it comes down to it they blow out. We always ask for a phone number after the first email if it's not provided then they are timewasters

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That sounds sensible, but why do some advice not to give your phone number,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

He was a spineless piece of rubbish wasn't he!"

Omg no way that’s awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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From what I can see totally his loss xxx arsehole springs to mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What a shit guy, how can anyone do that

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Might have been a guy

Maybe get off messing people about or fantasists who never intend meeting.

All too common sadly op on here.

Miss

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and

Sadly too common for us, we are on a bad run at the moment of time wasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was 1st on here 2007 yes it happened twice with the same person but now im wiser no never since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

From what I can see totally his loss xxx arsehole springs to mind "

Obviously not if he fucked off. It is shit tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time. If someone turns up its a miracle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not great for one's self esteem! Took a lot to get over that.

He was no great looker either which made it even worse lol

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

It happens a great deal. We even had hotel booked. Sometimes we may get last minute phone call. Do now we do vet very carefully. But mostly arrange our meets at club now. Or arrange meets with people we have already met. Or if wife very horny we will just go out looking to pic a guy up in pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's what is called the send a message whilst wanking..A lot of people fantasize about swinging and meeting and when it comes to the crunch bottle out .in couples cases one partner may change their minds and not want to do it..but the descent thing to do would to be honest and say things have change so we/I do not want to meet anymore rather than not just turn up ..but most do not have the decency to even do that

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

A single guy we were messaging wanted to meet as he’s staying down this way for a few days

Never replied even tho meet was planned

Probably just a Fantasist just glad we never booked the hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly too common for us, we are on a bad run at the moment of time wasters. "

Me too! My usual spidey senses seem to have let me down lately, had quite a few single guys just not turn up or go silent the day before!

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

Some people like the idea but haven’t the balls to do it in real life

It’s why some will only meet those verified by meets, not because it stops time wasters or inconsiderate people but because it at least strips out the fantasy ones

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

Reasons for no shows.

1. Single guys who are all mouth and no trousers. They get off on the chat but don't have the guts to meet. Will typically arrange a date then go silent a day or two before. Surprisingly common.

2. Alleged couples and women who are really single guys. . They are not going to turn up to meets, obviously. Can be rooted out by asking for confirmation via phone, Skype or whatever that there is a woman there.

3. Couples or women who genuinely lose their nerve before the meet but don't have the guys to cancel. Will just not turn up and then block.

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By *otrod56Man
over a year ago

East mersea

This has happened to me and my friends that are a couple man and women couple that is made all the arranged meet up then pulled out

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By *inkycouplespainCouple
over a year ago

Malaga Spain but sometimes Manchester and


"Sadly too common for us, we are on a bad run at the moment of time wasters.

Me too! My usual spidey senses seem to have let me down lately, had quite a few single guys just not turn up or go silent the day before! "

Yep, that’s it. Or worse you see them online on FAB with your last message unanswered. Our thing is for young guys and sadly bottling it at the last minute is the orde of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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Must have been out of his mind!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U forgot those who are hedging their bets... and arrange more than one meet and keep u as a back up plan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens with depressing regularity, across all swinger types.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

He was a spineless piece of rubbish wasn't he!"

This. He sounds totally gutless. No honour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if someones genuine then you need to speak on the phone , landline or mobile

lets be honest if your genuine , why would you be bothered giving your mobile number or landline out .

calls can be blocked / reported / stopped etc etc these days if it became necessary

when im meeting im on the phone on the way to the meet , half way , 3/4 of the way , 5 minutes away .

lets the people know my time of arrival.

i know it could still happen but it minimises the risk .

moving forward the site should do more to stop offenders

other sites do by blocking isp addresss so they cant re join even by using a different e mail address

its all to easy on here to run riot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess there is the losing your bottle side to things as well. and i mean this sincerely .

I drove 45 minutes to JDs club 3 times , each time as i pulled into the car park my bottle completely went and i drove home

hour in the bath , 1/2 hour ironing clothes , expensive aftershave etc etc , the 45 minute drive there and back,complete waste of evening .

sometimes it can be just nerves / fear . anxiety..........

not an excuse and you should inform the people as early as possible ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had 2 social meets since returning to fab, neither of whom i have spoken on the phone to first..

They both turned up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess there is the losing your bottle side to things as well. and i mean this sincerely .

I drove 45 minutes to JDs club 3 times , each time as i pulled into the car park my bottle completely went and i drove home

hour in the bath , 1/2 hour ironing clothes , expensive aftershave etc etc , the 45 minute drive there and back,complete waste of evening .

sometimes it can be just nerves / fear . anxiety..........

not an excuse and you should inform the people as early as possible ..

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now im a member and ive been a few times , i look back and think why was i so worried about coming .

it really was just nerves and confidence i guess.

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By *ambsStud47Man
over a year ago

March Cambs

It also gives genuine guys a bad time, as I'm genuine and always get knocked back why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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Needs castrating and then let loose again... some people are just shit.

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By *ambsStud47Man
over a year ago

March Cambs

I'd travel down to meet you no problem how about this weekend?

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"U forgot those who are hedging their bets... and arrange more than one meet and keep u as a back up plan"

I don't mind being a back-up plan, if they are honest about it.

But as I usually accommodate, it means I'm sat at home, watching TV, hoping for a meet, rather than just sitting at home watching TV.

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By *ucy baileyCouple
over a year ago

North Cambridgeshire


"A single guy we were messaging wanted to meet as he’s staying down this way for a few days

Never replied even tho meet was planned

Probably just a Fantasist just glad we never booked the hotel "

We had a very similar situation in that we were messaging a guy for a reasonable period of time, both felt very comfortable and he talked a good talk. Meeting was planned (social maybe with a view to go further) hotel was booked and two days before the meet he stopped messaging, no rhymn or reason no excuse or explaination, just completely stopped - cheeky so and so was still active on fab haha

Hotel wasn’t a waste though as we regularly have time away from home life.

So sadly yes happens far too much and in this case he couldn’t walk the walk

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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On a positive note Is it possible. He was run over whilst getting his fags ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I went for a meet ...pulled up on car park ... checked fab . He had left a message saying he couldnt come as the bailiffs had turned up at his door .....

I did smile ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens, not done it myself, but have had it happen to me, just part of the game, not nice though, i dont get a lot of free time away from the pub, so I look forward to meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"happens all the time people say they're on there way and never show and even if you've been speaking to them for weeks they then block you. worst offenders are tv's and single men. "

Not all single guys are like this ,,,, well I’m not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive had 2 social meets since returning to fab, neither of whom i have spoken on the phone to first..

They both turned up..

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Not surprised

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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Treat em mean keep em keen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am quite the opposite. If i arrange a meet, unless i have a valid reason (family illness or whatever) i will be there

We all get nervous before meets, its all part of the fun

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By *justfunxMan
over a year ago

pembs

It gives us single guys a bad name and makes it harder for us that do turn up to find anyone.

Everyone wants veris now but hard to get because no one is trusting us blokes then complain sereral from same person.

Only missed one but beast from east was responsible for that but met few days later and had a great time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"happens all the time people say they're on there way and never show and even if you've been speaking to them for weeks they then block you. worst offenders are tv's and single men. "

Really? I've heard of a lot of women doing it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It gives us single guys a bad name and makes it harder for us that do turn up to find anyone.

Everyone wants veris now but hard to get because no one is trusting us blokes then complain sereral from same person.

Only missed one but beast from east was responsible for that but met few days later and had a great time.

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Veris from the same person show you are worth a return imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never happened to us......

Probably because we won’t meet new people for a social or in a pub or pre arranged at a club, we go to there’s or they book a hotel, so far it’s worked for us x

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By *omeo7xxxMan
over a year ago

London


"Sadly too common for us, we are on a bad run at the moment of time wasters.

Me too! My usual spidey senses seem to have let me down lately, had quite a few single guys just not turn up or go silent the day before! "

With a body like yours they must be mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

On a positive note Is it possible. He was run over whilst getting his fags ? "

No such luck...hes on fab..very recently too...but i wont name and shame him

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

On a positive note Is it possible. He was run over whilst getting his fags ?

No such luck...hes on fab..very recently too...but i wont name and shame him

"

Change your profile to ‘won’t meet smokers ‘

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had anyone stand me up but I’ve had a few cancellations last minute (luckily always before I’m ready....oh except one guy!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

On a positive note Is it possible. He was run over whilst getting his fags ?

No such luck...hes on fab..very recently too...but i wont name and shame him

"

You should verify him honestly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happen to me and a couple a few weeks ago we where dressed for fun and they just never turned up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

On a positive note Is it possible. He was run over whilst getting his fags ?

No such luck...hes on fab..very recently too...but i wont name and shame him

Change your profile to ‘won’t meet smokers ‘"

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are rude discouteous and unreliable OP.

We are all just commodities on here and self interest overrides all other considerations.

After all its easy to hide behind a screen and forget thst other people's lives are as important as we think our own is.

Get used to it OP. Threads like your appear every day...bit they will never change the behaviour and attitudes of some on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh way to often in the past all single guys verified also lol ,never to be heard of again,why we only go to clubs now days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that hard to believe!,they only excuse not to meet you would be alien abduction or just death....blimey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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I done something similar b4. Although he asked if it was going to go further and I said no as he wasn't my type. He said fair enough. He came around the table and gave me a hug. His hands all over me. I told him to stop. He grabs me by the fact like he was going to kiss me and says you hardly think I came here for nothing.

I backed away while saying I suppose not. Told him I had to run to the car and left as quick as I could.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to me today, a guy didn't turn up for a social meet, no message even though he was online. I always report and block.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

These losers need to have a word with themselves.

One guy off here had me drive to his house just to inform me he wasn’t in it and wasn’t telling me where he had gone..... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've also found a couple of ladies to do it.

And also couples. It's a shame that lots of single men do this as well. Gives the genuine chaps a bad name.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Some people have no intention of meeting - they like the ego boost that someone wants to meet them or they get off on talking about what would happen (which is why I don't do that!)

Others think they want to meet then get cold feet or realise it's just not their thing.

Part and parcel unfortunately and the thing is to try not to take it personally - either way it says more about them than you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op could be worse u could turn up for a meet for then to open door look u up and down and say sorry and shut the door on u had that happen also had a woman give me wrong house number and watch me with her partner run around in the dark looking for her house

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By *huckzMan
over a year ago

spalding


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

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lolz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never been stood up before but I would be absolutely fuming getting all dressed up to be let down I wouldn’t be impressed one bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never been stood up before but I would be absolutely fuming getting all dressed up to be let down I wouldn’t be impressed one bit "
it's devastating I have had it a few times especially if u make the effort to look good and travel to somewhere u don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never been stood up before but I would be absolutely fuming getting all dressed up to be let down I wouldn’t be impressed one bit it's devastating I have had it a few times especially if u make the effort to look good and travel to somewhere u don't know"

I can’t even imagine how rubbish it feels going out of your way for someone then them just thinking fuck it

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

"

Ouch! If it makes you feel any better a friend of mine arranged to meet a guy in a pub car park. As they met and walked towards the pub together he turned to her and said said "Sorry love this isn't working" and scarpered!

She can laugh about it now....

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"These losers need to have a word with themselves.

One guy off here had me drive to his house just to inform me he wasn’t in it and wasn’t telling me where he had gone..... lol

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Thats the reason why I only meet in clubs unless I’ve already met them

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"These losers need to have a word with themselves.

One guy off here had me drive to his house just to inform me he wasn’t in it and wasn’t telling me where he had gone..... lol

Thats the reason why I only meet in clubs unless I’ve already met them "

Same now. I even felt guilty on those I COULD have met in their place. Damn having a kind heart. Grrrr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meeting planned last night with a couple that were going to come to my work place. Told me they were on their way. Then nothing. They went off line and I heard nothing back. Messaged them this morning and was told they had an emergency at home. Smells like bullshit to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, I have just read a post wear a couple arranged a meeting with a couple but they did not show up,just wondering does this happen often as I can't understand why anyone could do this with out letting them know "

Yeah it's become a regular thing!

I had a meet arranged for today, I kind of knew it weren't going to go ahead tho lol .........

Arranged a few weeks ago for this afternoon, I don't accommodate so It was planned we would meet at his. Twice in past couple weeks he's messaged asking when we're meeting and I've reminded him '27th about 4pm, I just need you to send your address?'

Today he messages at 4pm asking when he's going to be given the chance to have some fun with me errrrmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have no intention of meeting - they like the ego boost that someone wants to meet them or they get off on talking about what would happen (which is why I don't do that!)

Others think they want to meet then get cold feet or realise it's just not their thing.

Part and parcel unfortunately and the thing is to try not to take it personally - either way it says more about them than you. "

Totally this

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon


"Sadly too common for us, we are on a bad run at the moment of time wasters.

Me too! My usual spidey senses seem to have let me down lately, had quite a few single guys just not turn up or go silent the day before! "
hard to fathom looking at your profile.lovely body and a great pair of legs.amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been lucky...... everybody as turned up

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By *carlett and winstonCouple
over a year ago

Bath

We have been let down lots. Single males and single females have been the worst offenders we tend to just go to clubs to meet new people now.

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By *icenick1966Man
over a year ago

clowne

I’ve been let down even after booking a hotel. The couple never turned up nor let me know they weren’t coming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On last Tuesday i had a guy back out last minute from a group meet. He texted to say that thinking about it he was so nervous about the group he could not come. That took guts and honesty as well as respect for other people.

Most just don't turn up and block. Later they put up an update "What do you need to do to get a meet on here?"

I recommend to anyone wanting a meet you avoid guys moaning about not getting a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive has it happen lots, either they agree a meet and make arrangements then go silent on you just before and either block or delete their accounts. Or cancel last minute, at least they notify you. Or the worst one I’ve had is where I’ve driven to the guys house for a planned meet and he wasn’t home, wouldn’t answer his phone, and then blocked me, wasn’t our first meet with each other either.

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

All valid points, lots of people think Fab exists in isolation to regular life! People don’t do what they say they’ll do in every other aspect of life and it’s no different on Fab; the trick is to cover as much due diligence as possible, check verifications, arrange to meet in a club or pub so the night isn’t wasted etc, sounds boring and it is, but try sitting in a hotel room waiting for someone to knock on the door! A couple we know did exactly that, she was bound and ready to play......guess what, yep, didn’t show!!!


"Reasons for no shows.

1. Single guys who are all mouth and no trousers. They get off on the chat but don't have the guts to meet. Will typically arrange a date then go silent a day or two before. Surprisingly common.

2. Alleged couples and women who are really single guys. . They are not going to turn up to meets, obviously. Can be rooted out by asking for confirmation via phone, Skype or whatever that there is a woman there.

3. Couples or women who genuinely lose their nerve before the meet but don't have the guys to cancel. Will just not turn up and then block. "

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Reasons for no shows.

1. Single guys who are all mouth and no trousers. They get off on the chat but don't have the guts to meet. Will typically arrange a date then go silent a day or two before. Surprisingly common.

2. Alleged couples and women who are really single guys. . They are not going to turn up to meets, obviously. Can be rooted out by asking for confirmation via phone, Skype or whatever that there is a woman there.

3. Couples or women who genuinely lose their nerve before the meet but don't have the guys to cancel. Will just not turn up and then block. "

I’ve had plenty of the going silent brigade. As for losing their nerve I’ve had a couple of these too. They have gone on to explain and apologise giving “only just out of a relationship” as the excuse.

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By *ireupthequattroCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

Guys don’t show as most are just arm chair wankers who fantasise about meeting then on the other hand you get the guys who comment saying that they would always show for a meet then come up with looking after the kids excuse , we arrange most weeks to meet a guy or two at our bout and we prob get one in a month turn up and the rest just come up with a bullshit excuse , always spot an arm chair wanker 1 he winks 2 he sends friends request 3 he doesn’t read the profiles

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By *otonwatcherMan
over a year ago

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All the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reasons for no shows.

1. Single guys who are all mouth and no trousers. They get off on the chat but don't have the guts to meet. Will typically arrange a date then go silent a day or two before. Surprisingly common.

2. Alleged couples and women who are really single guys. . They are not going to turn up to meets, obviously. Can be rooted out by asking for confirmation via phone, Skype or whatever that there is a woman there.

3. Couples or women who genuinely lose their nerve before the meet but don't have the guys to cancel. Will just not turn up and then block.

I’ve had plenty of the going silent brigade. As for losing their nerve I’ve had a couple of these too. They have gone on to explain and apologise giving “only just out of a relationship” as the excuse. "

More likely "trying to get out of a relationship!"

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Why would they do this"

Because in their stolen profile pics they're hung like Shergar. But in reality they're more like an acorn nestling between two crab apples and they're scared you'll notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys don’t show as most are just arm chair wankers who fantasise about meeting then on the other hand you get the guys who comment saying that they would always show for a meet then come up with looking after the kids excuse , we arrange most weeks to meet a guy or two at our bout and we prob get one in a month turn up and the rest just come up with a bullshit excuse , always spot an arm chair wanker 1 he winks 2 he sends friends request 3 he doesn’t read the profiles "

Yes, the kids excuse, I get that a lot. One reason why I prefer to meet child-free men whenever possible

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire


"because they fantasize on here but when it comes down to it they blow out. We always ask for a phone number after the first email if it's not provided then they are timewasters "

I must be a time waster then... Because I rarely give out my number.

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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago

London

Agree, single guys are the worst offenders. Luckily happened just twice for 15 years as already can read them like an open book- very excited to chat a week in advance, than 1-2 days to the day starts asking newbie questions: what about that, and that and bla bla bla....then he think can make the rules, negotiate the terms of the meet etc, so then the usual block and move to the next.

But worst than no shows are the one that show and are nothing to do with the profile and the drama queens. Drives me nuts that, seeing M's excitement disappeare faster than the UK summer.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

"

Not the first time I've read this: not nice.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Ive also had a meet who after 5 mins said hed left his fags 8n rhe car so went out to get them. He never came back. Humiliated aint the word...

From what I can see totally his loss xxx arsehole springs to mind "

He didn't think so!

Why I always do a social first, you can make a dignified exit after a coffee.

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By *ymruambythCouple
over a year ago

grantham

years ago, in my single days, I arranged to meet a couple at their place but booked into a hotel nearby so I could freshen up. About an hour before the meet they texted to say they had a family emergency and couldn't make it.

Fuming wasn't the word, but they apologised and arranged another meet. This time I didn't book hotel and did make it to their house, but on arrival there was an issue the female partner had to take care of so she disappeared leaving me with the guy (it was a bi couple). We played in a kind of half-hearted fashion until it was obvious the woman wasn't showing.

Now I felt I was misled on top of being let down.

Stupidly, I thought, I gave them a third chance but was extremely wary and already had a plan if the wife disappeared like before. Thankfully, she didn't and we had the most mind-blowing play I had for years. Super erotic, super fun.

So the moral of the story is perhaps sometimes the problems people come up with are genuine.

I reserve to change my mind if we get let down a bunch of times though, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read it often enough on here where a ladyturns up and waits to see what the guy is like before making contact for the meet.

This has been due to guys being overtly creative with their age, or height, used copied pics in profiles or not taken any pride in their appearance. Then again is she just as bad turning up then disappearing and giving a reason why she couldn't make it? The decent thing would be to have at least met. After all he did turn up as agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"years ago, in my single days, I arranged to meet a couple at their place but booked into a hotel nearby so I could freshen up. About an hour before the meet they texted to say they had a family emergency and couldn't make it.

Fuming wasn't the word, but they apologised and arranged another meet. This time I didn't book hotel and did make it to their house, but on arrival there was an issue the female partner had to take care of so she disappeared leaving me with the guy (it was a bi couple). We played in a kind of half-hearted fashion until it was obvious the woman wasn't showing.

Now I felt I was misled on top of being let down.

Stupidly, I thought, I gave them a third chance but was extremely wary and already had a plan if the wife disappeared like before. Thankfully, she didn't and we had the most mind-blowing play I had for years. Super erotic, super fun.

So the moral of the story is perhaps sometimes the problems people come up with are genuine.

I reserve to change my mind if we get let down a bunch of times though, lol"

I don't. 2 strikes and it's definitely blocked and notes made. Theres plenty who will appear and give mind blowing sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet set for this afternoon and I got ready. But they had family members turned up then I got a sore head am only up.so couldn't go later. But we will set up again soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it a lot ex forces injured back and arm i explain, I am not a normal person lol, even got called a freak at a social but keep pluging away lol one day haha xx

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"Yep, it happens all too often "
you have to exept it although it is very annoying to say the least

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men act like dicks instead of having fun with their dicks

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

It happens to all of us by men, and I'm sure women and couples but can't confirm that x

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

Yep it happens, even the most keenest of guys have been known to let us down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Advice not to hand out number as it links all your social sites

An many don’t show as it’s just fantasy for the wank bank. Ego boost, nerves.

Who knows

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By *erfect pineappleWoman
over a year ago

neath

happened a few times to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"U forgot those who are hedging their bets... and arrange more than one meet and keep u as a back up plan"

Yep, I had this happen not so long ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been swinging for a good few years and Yep - couples, single males, single females all like a chat and say they want to meet, then BOOM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, happened to me recently. I sat in a cafe on my own for about an hour! The lady came back online later abd checked my mail but said nothing ... no apology or reason. Hasn't been on since so assume it was a serious case of cold feet ...

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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago

West Kent (near Tonbridge)


"U forgot those who are hedging their bets... and arrange more than one meet and keep u as a back up plan

I don't mind being a back-up plan, if they are honest about it.

But as I usually accommodate, it means I'm sat at home, watching TV, hoping for a meet, rather than just sitting at home watching TV."

Fair enough and each to their own, but I most certainly would not be happy being a back-up plan for anybody, irrespective of whether there's been honesty about it or otherwise.

Sorry to hear about what happened to you blueeyed. The guy's a sh.t in my view for treating you or anyone like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is this with "cold feet"? Surely you should decide if you are suited to swinging BEFORE you join Fab and agree to meet, not after?

I have little sympathy really for CF people because they can wank chat without agreeing to meet and pissing others about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind cold feet it's the ones who enjoy fucking you around sending you places with no intention to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is this with "cold feet"? Surely you should decide if you are suited to swinging BEFORE you join Fab and agree to meet, not after?

I have little sympathy really for CF people because they can wank chat without agreeing to meet and pissing others about?"

Some people may want to meet and swing and when it comes to it they are nervous or something puts them off about the person

or if someone upset you or offended you didnt look like the pic, would you still play with them, after all you agreed the meet

That whats your saying right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't mind cold feet it's the ones who enjoy fucking you around sending you places with no intention to meet "

thats the difference and i agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't mind cold feet it's the ones who enjoy fucking you around sending you places with no intention to meet

thats the difference and i agree "
had it happen twice the second time she admitted her and partner watched me go up and down searching for the house number she gave while ignoring my texts then texting me to go home as I was a silly boy who should know better and next day gloated about how her and partner had a good laugh about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't mind cold feet it's the ones who enjoy fucking you around sending you places with no intention to meet

thats the difference and i agree had it happen twice the second time she admitted her and partner watched me go up and down searching for the house number she gave while ignoring my texts then texting me to go home as I was a silly boy who should know better and next day gloated about how her and partner had a good laugh about it"

try social meets or clubs and then no wasted time x

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By *ingle Dad SeekingMan
over a year ago

Northern England


"Don't mind cold feet it's the ones who enjoy fucking you around sending you places with no intention to meet

thats the difference and i agree had it happen twice the second time she admitted her and partner watched me go up and down searching for the house number she gave while ignoring my texts then texting me to go home as I was a silly boy who should know better and next day gloated about how her and partner had a good laugh about it"

Utterly despicable. On reflection, I think you dodged a bullet with these two odious individuals. Did you pick up on any dodgy vibes from them during your conversations prior to your "meet"

Chin up, and trust your instincts - as well as your erection ha ha; there ARE some lovely couples on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok I ended up in bed with a regular fab friend as was close by so it worked out well in end but it has made me wary of newbie couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind someone having cold feet provided they say so before the meet. Just not turning up and then give no reason or apology is just bad manners.

But I also realise some people do it deliberately just for the kick of it ...

But this is all just the reality of Fabbing!

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By *otwifeandmrCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

Proper rude! Sounds like you actually had a luck escape! Phew.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Proper rude! Sounds like you actually had a luck escape! Phew..... "
yeh I might of actually lost my cock if I had met lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well he must have been mad and his loss xx

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton


"Don't mind cold feet it's the ones who enjoy fucking you around sending you places with no intention to meet

thats the difference and i agree had it happen twice the second time she admitted her and partner watched me go up and down searching for the house number she gave while ignoring my texts then texting me to go home as I was a silly boy who should know better and next day gloated about how her and partner had a good laugh about it

try social meets or clubs and then no wasted time x"

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Completely agree about meeting neutrally in clubs if possible.

It's always worked for me.

As it just takes any pressure away about the meet and if they don't turn up?

You still get the evening in the club.

If they do turn up and it doesn't quite click!

It's easy enough to just excuse yourself and say you'll chat / catch up later.

Backed up by generally just arranging to catch up and chat over a drink in the club.

Rather than let's meet up.

Takes the pressure off everyone and allows people to just enjoy it.

.

To be fair though..

I also turn up to socials if they are arranged?

Unless you really don't click straight away..

It's only a couple of hours of your life.

You get to meet and chat to someone new which may lead to something in the future.

If not, enjoy the company of the person / people you are with.

Random conversations with a stranger with like-minded interests.

That to me is loads of fun.

.

It is sad though when people just waste other people's time.

Genuine reasons do occur.

But why be an arse to just waste someone's time.

And sadly, as highlighted above.

People have feelings and genuine concerns.

This meeting people malarkey can be stressful and push people outside their comfort zone.

So don't be an arse and shit all over them for no reason.

Make your arrangements, stick with them and go through with it.

You never know..

You might actually enjoy it.

And if you're really lucky!!

May lead to something more fun at a later stage.

xxx

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By *otwifeandmrCouple
over a year ago

Ryde

oops!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is this with "cold feet"? Surely you should decide if you are suited to swinging BEFORE you join Fab and agree to meet, not after?

I have little sympathy really for CF people because they can wank chat without agreeing to meet and pissing others about?

Some people may want to meet and swing and when it comes to it they are nervous or something puts them off about the person

or if someone upset you or offended you didnt look like the pic, would you still play with them, after all you agreed the meet

That whats your saying right?

"

No its not.

I am saying Don't say yes to the meet unless you are sure you will go through with it.

We are talking "cold feet" not finding some situation after the agreement to meet was made. For example, if they were rude, did not look like their picture or only 1 half of a couple turn up then that is different.

Put it this way. If a friend asked if I would go with her to get her CD collection from her ex's house I would not back out an hour before she was due there because I got "cold feet". I would decide if i was ok or not before I said yes (or no) and stick to my word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really seriously his loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Reasons for no shows.

1. Single guys who are all mouth and no trousers. They get off on the chat but don't have the guts to meet. Will typically arrange a date then go silent a day or two before. Surprisingly common.

2. Alleged couples and women who are really single guys. . They are not going to turn up to meets, obviously. Can be rooted out by asking for confirmation via phone, Skype or whatever that there is a woman there.

3. Couples or women who genuinely lose their nerve before the meet but don't have the guys to cancel. Will just not turn up and then block. "

Agreed. No1 in particular is becoming more and more common with us!

Site is becoming a complete waste of time. Either full of time wasters or people with absolutely no respect for women whatsoever!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Reasons for no shows.

1. Single guys who are all mouth and no trousers. They get off on the chat but don't have the guts to meet. Will typically arrange a date then go silent a day or two before. Surprisingly common.

2. Alleged couples and women who are really single guys. . They are not going to turn up to meets, obviously. Can be rooted out by asking for confirmation via phone, Skype or whatever that there is a woman there.

3. Couples or women who genuinely lose their nerve before the meet but don't have the guys to cancel. Will just not turn up and then block.

Agreed. No1 in particular is becoming more and more common with us!

Site is becoming a complete waste of time. Either full of time wasters or people with absolutely no respect for women whatsoever! "

1 is very common. Trying to arrange a social with one guy was like pulling teeth. Came up with the excuse that his phone was broken when I asked him to chat before meeting. Still not repaired after a couple of months lol. If I don't have contact on the day of the meet I don't leave my house.

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By *havennaturistsCouple
over a year ago

Banff

We spend winter in Fuerteventura. You wouldn't believe the number of 'couples' who give a prolonged countdown of how many sleeps till they arrive here, only to disappear on landing!

Thankfully there are one or two exceptions. Generally the best meets are those people who just introduce themselves to us on the nude beach having recognised us from profile.

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