FabSwingers.com forum: Persuading gf

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone have suggestions about bringing up swinging and getting a partner on board for trying?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Standby for the usual crowd to come in and crucify you !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just fitting it into conversation

need to work out how to bring it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did it via 20 questions while she was at on text been fucking like rabbits ever since

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did it via 20 questions while she was at on text been fucking like rabbits ever since "
thanks for the tip! Love the pics to!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Amateur porn. It worked for us. We watched a straight threesome while we were having sex and that was that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She gave me the ultimatum... "if you don't swing I am dumping you". Worked for us !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Amateur porn. It worked for us. We watched a straight threesome while we were having sex and that was that."
Thanks! Makes sense! Should of thought of that! And great pics!

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

I remember back many years ago in the pub with a large group of women (they all worked together). Somebody passed pieces of paper and asked them all to write their sexual fantasies.

All but one of them wrote 'sex with more than one man'.

Chances are your partner already harbours this fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I remember back many years ago in the pub with a large group of women (they all worked together). Somebody passed pieces of paper and asked them all to write their sexual fantasies.

All but one of them wrote 'sex with more than one man'.

Chances are your partner already harbours this fantasy."
would like to think so! She’s just shy in admitting what she like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe tell her a make has said he'd like to get in her nickers

See how she reacts

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I remember back many years ago in the pub with a large group of women (they all worked together). Somebody passed pieces of paper and asked them all to write their sexual fantasies.

All but one of them wrote 'sex with more than one man'.

Chances are your partner already harbours this fantasy."

What did the other one put?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you raise other fantasies? I'd try a similar approach to that.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She gave me the ultimatum... "if you don't swing I am dumping you". Worked for us !"

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By *eanjohnCouple
over a year ago

Mansfield

Obviously it is something that requires a lot of communication, but to see if she is interested try a quiz called mojoupgrade.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I remember back many years ago in the pub with a large group of women (they all worked together). Somebody passed pieces of paper and asked them all to write their sexual fantasies.

All but one of them wrote 'sex with more than one man'.

Chances are your partner already harbours this fantasy. would like to think so! She’s just shy in admitting what she like! "

Work at establishing good sexual communication. If she's shy at saying what she likes encourage but don't insist. If it helps her get her to write it down.

If she says no accept that. If your sexual communication has improved you might reap dividends that will compensate for not swinging.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

I begged paul to let me get involved but he wouldn't until we had talked....a lot....to make sure it was what I really wanted and was ready for....so ad others have said...good communication and understanding is key.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Obviously it is something that requires a lot of communication, but to see if she is interested try a quiz called mojoupgrade. "
will give that a go

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the tips!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for all the tips!

Does she know that you have a profile here? If not you need to decide now whether you want to keep it or delete it.

If she does why not have a look round the site together with a glass of wine one evening?

Either way the basis of a successful swinging relationship is absolute honesty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for all the tips!

Does she know that you have a profile here? If not you need to decide now whether you want to keep it or delete it.

If she does why not have a look round the site together with a glass of wine one evening?

Either way the basis of a successful swinging relationship is absolute honesty.

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she doesn’t, doing a bit of research before I risk breaching the subject haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for all the tips!

Does she know that you have a profile here? If not you need to decide now whether you want to keep it or delete it.

If she does why not have a look round the site together with a glass of wine one evening?

Either way the basis of a successful swinging relationship is absolute honesty.

she doesn’t, doing a bit of research before I risk breaching the subject haha"

Ok. You're not the first and won't be the last

. Just bear in mind what I said about honesty, you can't expect her to be honest with you about what she wants sexually if you're not returning the favour.

I'm not having a go at you just pointing out that sharing your most intimate desires takes trust, you'd be better working at building that up than doing solo research.

Good luck. I hope it works out well for both of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

show her your profile and see what she thinks

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Remember, she will be the one having a cockfest

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Nothing more to add than just talk. But remember you are not persuading her, you are finding out if this is something she would enjoy.

My wife can ask me if I would like to be fucked by another man. But she can't persuade me to do it.

You can ask your gf if she would like to be fucked by another man/woman. But you can't persuade her to do it if it's not her fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did it via 20 questions while she was at on text been fucking like rabbits ever since thanks for the tip! Love the pics to! "
thanks

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Thanks for all the tips!

Does she know that you have a profile here? If not you need to decide now whether you want to keep it or delete it.

If she does why not have a look round the site together with a glass of wine one evening?

Either way the basis of a successful swinging relationship is absolute honesty.

she doesn’t, doing a bit of research before I risk breaching the subject haha"

I'm not convinced that's all you're doing with your status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Have a hot night in watch a naughty film. Few glasses of wine and naughty chat. Tell her you like it when she wears revealing outfits while out. Tell her you get turned on seeing other guys looking at her.and things should progress from there. That's how I got wife into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy is a dreamer but some people seem to enjoy sharing their dream worlds...Fab is the dreamers playground anyway...

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. "
i thought that too!!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X"

You restored our faith in normal people on here

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

How else? Just ask her .It's simple

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By *ccasionalfunCouple
over a year ago

hereandthere

I've just read your status update.

Scrap our last message

Maybe get a girlfriend first and stop wasting people's time

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I remember back many years ago in the pub with a large group of women (they all worked together). Somebody passed pieces of paper and asked them all to write their sexual fantasies.

All but one of them wrote 'sex with more than one man'.

Chances are your partner already harbours this fantasy.

What did the other one put?! "

She was already having sex with more than one man

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X"

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?"

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others..."

An interesting inference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. "

What do you do for fantasy wank fodder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others..."

Are you a psychoanalyst?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"The guy is a dreamer but some people seem to enjoy sharing their dream worlds...Fab is the dreamers playground anyway..."

My dream world of ‘talk’ will keep the dude going for ages, with a few hard faps in between.

Dr. Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others...

Are you a psychoanalyst?"

I am not but I used to be two persons in one life and it can be scary. Started by telling lies, creating stories and seeing how people adapt into them...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others...

Are you a psychoanalyst?

I am not but I used to be two persons in one life and it can be scary. Started by telling lies, creating stories and seeing how people adapt into them..."

That doesn't mean this guy is lying or that if he is he will follow your path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others...

Are you a psychoanalyst?

I am not but I used to be two persons in one life and it can be scary. Started by telling lies, creating stories and seeing how people adapt into them...

That doesn't mean this guy is lying or that if he is he will follow your path."

Nobody knows...good luck to him then. Hopefully we’ll see him as a couple here soon or if his plan has worked, verified by a couple...

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By *andCforfunCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others...

Are you a psychoanalyst?

I am not but I used to be two persons in one life and it can be scary. Started by telling lies, creating stories and seeing how people adapt into them...

That doesn't mean this guy is lying or that if he is he will follow your path.

Nobody knows...good luck to him then. Hopefully we’ll see him as a couple here soon or if his plan has worked, verified by a couple..."

That’s really not how mental Illness works. The illness was most likely there first,

You can’t lie then end up with a split personality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others...

Are you a psychoanalyst?

I am not but I used to be two persons in one life and it can be scary. Started by telling lies, creating stories and seeing how people adapt into them...

That doesn't mean this guy is lying or that if he is he will follow your path.

Nobody knows...good luck to him then. Hopefully we’ll see him as a couple here soon or if his plan has worked, verified by a couple...

That’s really not how mental Illness works. The illness was most likely there first,

You can’t lie then end up with a split personality "

Yes, you start the stories when the other person starts crying for attention, you end up with two wardrobes, two names, you name it...

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By *andCforfunCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"I cant believe how you’ve all fallen in this dreamer’s wonderland and actually gave the fantasist advice too. i thought that too!!! X

Because it's good to help people along the way. Every one of us started out somewhere. If the guy is fantasising where's the harm?

The harm is to himself. Being accepted as a liar will eventually lead to having a split personality which will eventually leading to harming others...

Are you a psychoanalyst?

I am not but I used to be two persons in one life and it can be scary. Started by telling lies, creating stories and seeing how people adapt into them...

That doesn't mean this guy is lying or that if he is he will follow your path.

Nobody knows...good luck to him then. Hopefully we’ll see him as a couple here soon or if his plan has worked, verified by a couple...

That’s really not how mental Illness works. The illness was most likely there first,

You can’t lie then end up with a split personality

Yes, you start the stories when the other person starts crying for attention, you end up with two wardrobes, two names, you name it..."

I’m either not understanding you or your not understanding me

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