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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So me and my FWB are dipping our toes into the world of couples swinging and ffm.... i wondered what if any are the things to know before hand?? Etiquette shall we say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont get stressed when you cant find FFM straight away.

This site has 3000 women 5000 couples amd 17000 men.

When messaging remember its a person your talking to not a sex toy. Often people get so caught up in what they are going to get out of a meet they dont even consider that the other person is looking for things too.

Make your profile and pics enticing and atleast in private message send a face pic Of Both of you

Never understood why couples always send pics of fhe lady but not the fella

There has to be attraction for all if all are going to be involved.

Women get between 100 and 400 messages a day so make yours stand out.

Be prepared for skepticism

Many couples profiles are just a guy

When it comes to getting close to arranging a meet be aware she will almost certainly want to speak to your female to confirm before putting the effort into getting ready .

Thats about all i can think of right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont get stressed when you cant find FFM straight away.

This site has 3000 women 5000 couples amd 17000 men.

When messaging remember its a person your talking to not a sex toy. Often people get so caught up in what they are going to get out of a meet they dont even consider that the other person is looking for things too.

Make your profile and pics enticing and atleast in private message send a face pic Of Both of you

Never understood why couples always send pics of fhe lady but not the fella

There has to be attraction for all if all are going to be involved.

Women get between 100 and 400 messages a day so make yours stand out.

Be prepared for skepticism

Many couples profiles are just a guy

When it comes to getting close to arranging a meet be aware she will almost certainly want to speak to your female to confirm before putting the effort into getting ready .

Thats about all i can think of right now "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm being totally honest you will struggle. Most couples struggle on fab, but you being a FWB couple would possibly put more girls off, you would have more luck at a club in my opinion.

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

Myself and a Fab Fem friend tried exactly this...and gave up fairly quickly..We almost needed a PA to handle the messages and contact from single guys, not so much from couples or single females.

The club and social scenes are much better ways to meet genuine people and have this type of fun...in my opinion. You then use Fabs to keep in touch with them.

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Take your own condoms & lube to meets/ clubs etc. Latex-free if possible.

It's really, really annoying when guys can't be bothered, and also, there are different sizes...

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By *kyblue1878Couple
over a year ago

Southport


"If I'm being totally honest you will struggle. Most couples struggle on fab, but you being a FWB couple would possibly put more girls off, you would have more luck at a club in my opinion. "

Not sure where you're getting this information from (given that you're not a couple) but completely disagree. Some couples may struggle but most with decent profiles that are genuine will NOT struggle to get meets.

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester


"Myself and a Fab Fem friend tried exactly this...and gave up fairly quickly..We almost needed a PA to handle the messages and contact from single guys, not so much from couples or single females.

The club and social scenes are much better ways to meet genuine people and have this type of fun...in my opinion. You then use Fabs to keep in touch with them."

Exactly how we use fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I'm being totally honest you will struggle. Most couples struggle on fab, but you being a FWB couple would possibly put more girls off, you would have more luck at a club in my opinion.

Not sure where you're getting this information from (given that you're not a couple) but completely disagree. Some couples may struggle but most with decent profiles that are genuine will NOT struggle to get meets. "

And you know that I'm not a couple how? Yes this is a single profile but that doesn't mean I don't have a couples profile! I have been in the swinging scene for over 10 years. In that time I have had single profiles and couples profiles ranging from me being married and also in FWB relationship so I'm not getting the information from "anywhere" but my own knowledge.

I am also a bisexual female which is what the couples are targeting and although I'm not currently meeting couples I know a lot of my friends who just so happen to be in this scene and are bi females prefer to meet established couples rather than FWB couples

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

Never use a condom (spread the love)

Slip one in the arse when he/she least expects it (everyone loves a surprise)

Never announce in advance that you are going to cum in someone's mouth (everyone loves a surprise v2)

Don't take anything on this site seriously ()

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

There’s no doubt that FB or FwB couples are considered / treated differently from a married couple who are swinging by single Fems and other couples. You may find party invites difficult until you’ve established a bit more of a social presence and are considered a genuine ‘couple’ rather than a couple of singletons who get together. As suggested previously couples nights at clubs are a better way of meeting other couples because you tend to be treated at face value and how you act together at the time - literally it can be a matter of another couple liking the look of you, a bit of chat and an invite to go and play in a room together. Get on and then you get invited to play another time at their home, maybe they’ll invite you to a party... then you meet other couples at this party....

One thing you don’t do in your profile is describe who you’re looking for in a couple or a Fem (recognise the subtlety of when your profile is offering or asking) Do you want to meet older, curvy blondes with big tits for example or young gym toned brunette fitties? People need to read a profile and know that you want to meet someone like them otherwise there will be no spark of recognition, indecision and uncertainty and they’ll pass you by...

Just my personal view, others opinions may vary...

Good luck, have fun

A x

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton


"So me and my FWB are dipping our toes into the world of couples swinging and ffm.... i wondered what if any are the things to know before hand?? Etiquette shall we say."

Etiquette runs just like so

Don't do anything you wouldn't want Donald Trump to know

Asiding from that

Throw your keys in the hat

And then let your confidence grow.

Good luck! X

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By *iReyWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire East

As a single fem I actively ignore messages from FWB couples, just not my cup of tea. If I wanted to play with two singles I’d go to a club.

Can’t really add much more to what others have said really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I'm being totally honest you will struggle. Most couples struggle on fab, but you being a FWB couple would possibly put more girls off, you would have more luck at a club in my opinion.

Not sure where you're getting this information from (given that you're not a couple) but completely disagree. Some couples may struggle but most with decent profiles that are genuine will NOT struggle to get meets.

And you know that I'm not a couple how? Yes this is a single profile but that doesn't mean I don't have a couples profile! I have been in the swinging scene for over 10 years. In that time I have had single profiles and couples profiles ranging from me being married and also in FWB relationship so I'm not getting the information from "anywhere" but my own knowledge.

I am also a bisexual female which is what the couples are targeting and although I'm not currently meeting couples I know a lot of my friends who just so happen to be in this scene and are bi females prefer to meet established couples rather than FWB couples "

Sorry you forgot to add. BOOM!! and mic drop!

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By *INEMCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

FWB couples make us wary.

It's a different dynamic, and feels like people want to get something precious from you (your beloved partner) while offering someone they have no emotional investment in. An "I'll have my cake and eat yours" scenario.

Just how it feels to us!

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

We have had people question our relationship as we met on here four years ago. We dont have a marriage licence to show but I have offered to send pics of his shirts hanging in my wardrobe and his sock drawer under my knicker drawer

So yes FWB may find it tougher than a married couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So me and my FWB are dipping our toes into the world of couples swinging and ffm.... i wondered what if any are the things to know before hand?? Etiquette shall we say.

Etiquette runs just like so

Don't do anything you wouldn't want Donald Trump to know

Asiding from that

Throw your keys in the hat

And then let your confidence grow.

Good luck! X "
also it's bad manners to wipe your cock on the curtains when your finished

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So me and my FWB are dipping our toes into the world of couples swinging and ffm.... i wondered what if any are the things to know before hand?? Etiquette shall we say.

Etiquette runs just like so

Don't do anything you wouldn't want Donald Trump to know

Asiding from that

Throw your keys in the hat

And then let your confidence grow.

Good luck! X also it's bad manners to wipe your cock on the curtains when your finished

"

Burst out laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So me and my FWB are dipping our toes into the world of couples swinging and ffm.... i wondered what if any are the things to know before hand?? Etiquette shall we say.

Etiquette runs just like so

Don't do anything you wouldn't want Donald Trump to know

Asiding from that

Throw your keys in the hat

And then let your confidence grow.

Good luck! X also it's bad manners to wipe your cock on the curtains when your finished

"

Apparently that's known as a Zuffle

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Dont get stressed when you cant find FFM straight away.

This site has 3000 women 5000 couples amd 17000 men.

When messaging remember its a person your talking to not a sex toy. Often people get so caught up in what they are going to get out of a meet they dont even consider that the other person is looking for things too.

Make your profile and pics enticing and atleast in private message send a face pic Of Both of you

Never understood why couples always send pics of fhe lady but not the fella

There has to be attraction for all if all are going to be involved.

Women get between 100 and 400 messages a day so make yours stand out.

Be prepared for skepticism

Many couples profiles are just a guy

When it comes to getting close to arranging a meet be aware she will almost certainly want to speak to your female to confirm before putting the effort into getting ready

Thats about all i can think of right now "

where did you pluck these stats from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send lots of cock pics to single women profiles.

They love that....

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Send lots of cock pics to single women profiles.

They love that.... "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I like that fact that not many of you who replied to this question actually answered our question, most went on a rant about FWB against couples. Quite funny really...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont get stressed when you cant find FFM straight away.

This site has 3000 women 5000 couples amd 17000 men.

When messaging remember its a person your talking to not a sex toy. Often people get so caught up in what they are going to get out of a meet they dont even consider that the other person is looking for things too.

Make your profile and pics enticing and atleast in private message send a face pic Of Both of you

Never understood why couples always send pics of fhe lady but not the fella

There has to be attraction for all if all are going to be involved.

Women get between 100 and 400 messages a day so make yours stand out.

Be prepared for skepticism

Many couples profiles are just a guy

When it comes to getting close to arranging a meet be aware she will almost certainly want to speak to your female to confirm before putting the effort into getting ready .

Thats about all i can think of right now "

Blimey just 25000 swingers on this site and the UK population is 64 million

That's a teeny weeny percentage .

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Dont get stressed when you cant find FFM straight away.

This site has 3000 women 5000 couples amd 17000 men.

When messaging remember its a person your talking to not a sex toy. Often people get so caught up in what they are going to get out of a meet they dont even consider that the other person is looking for things too.

Make your profile and pics enticing and atleast in private message send a face pic Of Both of you

Never understood why couples always send pics of fhe lady but not the fella

There has to be attraction for all if all are going to be involved.

Women get between 100 and 400 messages a day so make yours stand out.

Be prepared for skepticism

Many couples profiles are just a guy

When it comes to getting close to arranging a meet be aware she will almost certainly want to speak to your female to confirm before putting the effort into getting ready .

Thats about all i can think of right now

Blimey just 25000 swingers on this site and the UK population is 64 million

That's a teeny weeny percentage ."

there are 26000 online just now! love when folk make up hideous statistics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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When messaging remember its a person your talking to not a sex toy. Often people get so caught up in what they are going to get out of a meet they dont even consider that the other person is looking for things too.

"

this is exactly why I stopped meeting couples or playing with women. I got fed up being considered a novelty for a curious woman or a pressie from gf to hubby.

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