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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you give them on fab?

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By *LUFFER200Man
over a year ago

North Devon

I have in the past, but in most cases they let you down again, but one proved genuine and worthwhile so never say never.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Rarely these days, unless they are hot. Definitely no more than 2 though!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances. Sometimes.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No second chances...!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No. We don't give them very often off fab either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don’t normally, it doesn’t bother me normally, just move along swiftly but this one is sitting with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes. It depends on the circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There’s not even any mitigating circumstances, in this case I’m not even sure why I’m thinking about it!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I don’t normally, it doesn’t bother me normally, just move along swiftly but this one is sitting with me."

Its up to you. If you feel its worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what they’ve done and how I’m feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made to many mistake so i do not know, if they do it would be nice if they did

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Nope. Would not give second chance.. I will make the effort once. But I dont chase 2nd time

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Do you give them on fab?"

Absolutely not.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Depends, I do tend to give the benefit of doubt

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

No.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I used to, but rarely do now.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I've found easier not to.... same thing usually happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on the circumstances. Sometimes."

Very true

You just know when to give someone a second chance - ur gut feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally, no. I have bent this rule on occasion, and then I usually immediately regret it when that second chance is ballsed up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky to get a first chance on Fab, lol.

I think it depends on how well you’ve got to know the person up to the point of their cancellation. Most of us have real lives that don’t always go as planned and things like kids, work, health, etc are more important than sex.

Keep some perspective and judge each person on their merits.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I do if they at least gave me reasonable notice and had a viable reason but they need to do the work. So if they cancel, they’ll need to message me and sort an alternative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a "two strikes and your out" rule now after being too soft in the past.....does depend on circumstances too though

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

To people we know yes

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of times I have. Usually no though.

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By *ucy83SOWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I do sometimes depending on the circumstances and I’ve been lucky enough to be given a 2nd chance too.

Never give more then 2 chances on here or in real life

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"Generally, no. I have bent this rule on occasion, and then I usually immediately regret it when that second chance is ballsed up too."

This is me too!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

A first chance would be a start

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yep I think this is what I’m trying to avoid!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No

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By *tacks1980Man
over a year ago

dudley

No. I'm not here to to mess anyone around or waste their time, so why shouldn't it work both ways.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Very rarely, but I will listen to the circumstances and see if believe them.

It doesn't end to pay off for me though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if you believe they are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes... Though the couple who caused us a wasted three-hour round trip last week won't be getting one.

Nor the couple who got delayed by an hour and a half a mile away unavoidably (turned out they were watching football on TV..)

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Sometimes... Though the couple who caused us a wasted three-hour round trip last week won't be getting one.

Nor the couple who got delayed by an hour and a half a mile away unavoidably (turned out they were watching football on TV..)

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Which game?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes... Though the couple who caused us a wasted three-hour round trip last week won't be getting one.

Nor the couple who got delayed by an hour and a half a mile away unavoidably (turned out they were watching football on TV..)

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Must have been an unbelievable match!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not

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By *nsatiable Needy BratWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

There's a guy on here that I just felt so attracted to. We'd chat via phone calls and messages. Our calls would last hours and texts all day long. He's had three chances altogether now and although he's apologised profusely each time and I'd love to finally meet him in person I just can't let myself be let down again. He had great verifications etc and didn't seem like a let down but enough is enough and it was starting to make me feel shitty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm not anymore, all the excuses, reasons blah, blah, blah.....

We’ve given people 2nd chances, never again x

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago

Burton-on-Trent

Depends on how short notice the cancellation was and the excuse used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the reason seems genuine then yes but only 2 chances!

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By *ould be so luckyWoman
over a year ago

somewhere over the rainbow in SW Devon

Nope. First one shame on me . Second shame on you.

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Trust everyone once, but that is as far as it goes from experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I deem it unreasonable reason then hell no. Block and they stay in the sin bin. If have on a couple occasions given benefit of doubt but that's been very rare in the 2 yrs I've been here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. You can't change people.

If someone you haven't known long messes up. What's the point?

When things are new, it should be fun and exciting. If it isn't move on.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Everyone gets one chance, we all have normal lives, never two tho, block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone gets one chance, we all have normal lives, never two tho, block!"

I’d be happy with one lol x

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

No, not any more

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

No , if someone lets us down we block them . No ifs or buts , it’s as simple as that .

There can be no excuse not to take a few seconds out to let someone know you won’t be able to make a meet .

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Think it depends on the reason given and when we are told. If somebody cancels a meet but tells us in advance and the excuse sounds plausible then we will give them a second chance but if they cancel a second time then that is it.

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

No second chances, ever! Life is too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One chance...

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By *egs11ABCWoman
over a year ago

Aberdeen

It's hard to gauge. I had to cancel at the last minute cos my daughter went into premature labour and ended up in Dundee at Ninewells. He mailed me " couldn't meet me but drive to Dundee to meet u bitch. Let me see what kind if person he was so guess I dodged a bullet.

In the other hand a gut cancelled on me with a plausible excuse only to b verified by someone else 2 hours later x

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I give second chances were only human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the good in everyone. It’s a flaw of mine!

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin

No way! I've learned my lesson. Now when someone shows me their true colours and tells me who they are, I listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s some one I’ve met and played with several times and they cancel then yes they always get a second and possibly third chance, however, if they cancel the initial social meet or even more so arrange, go quiet and come back on a couple of days later, then they never get a second chance, I put a little note on their profile and then give them what for when they come back a few months later asking for a meet!

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

I gave 3 years of chances to one person that kept giving me every reason not to..

Silly me.

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By *haremoreMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I did but never again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inevitably people do give second chances but you are reminded very quickly why you was hesitant

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Not a black and white answer. Been bitten before. Also 4 years into a friendship with someone i gave a second chance too.

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By *aggie and DanCouple
over a year ago

Swansea


"Do you give them on fab?"

In our real lives yes-on Fab no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on circumstance of why a 2nd chance is needed if a person has to cancel for a genuine reason then yes but of course if it's not no but again depends on the person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done...and lived to regret it. No more.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I like the idea of second chances in the real world but I haven’t needed to use any on here - everyone can change but do I have the patience to see if it translates to Fab? I would hope so

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