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By *inkyDom96 OP   Man
over a year ago

Yarmouth

I’m struggling to meet people, there are no clubs (that I know of) and the only people near me aren’t looking for a single guy.

Is it my pictures? My bio?

Just a little help please

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"I’m struggling to meet people, there are no clubs (that I know of) and the only people near me aren’t looking for a single guy.

Is it my pictures? My bio?

Just a little help please "

You've only been here a short while, it takes a lot of patience, I'm afraid, especially as a young, single guy.

Your pictures seem quite child-like with the filters you've used, I know they're a bit of fun, but maybe best left off Fab.

Would you consider a road trip to a club? Perhaps book a hotel near a club or an organised social and make a couple of days of it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would definitely lose the silly filters first of all, they smack of immaturity. As above, get yourself to an organised Fab social and talk to people face to face, it’s so much easier than via the Internet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the cartoon pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s always the bars as well my friend to meet people. Swinging should be an added fun not the sole manner to find a partner. Make swinging a part of your sex life not your sex life.

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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago

Wherever the party is!


"I’m struggling to meet people, there are no clubs (that I know of) and the only people near me aren’t looking for a single guy.

Is it my pictures? My bio?

Just a little help please "

You know that Don is short for dominant? How does this apply to you? (Be honest) If it doesn't, perhaps start by googling "characteristics of a dominant man" or any other similar terms. This isn't everything you need to know about meeting people to play with but it should at least set you down the road to self discovery.

Hope this helps.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

You don't really come across as a Dom, I believe it takes a fairly exceptional 21 year old to be dominant. The snapchat filters only serve to remind viewers of your immaturity.

Get yourself out and find a nice lass of your own age and explore your sexual fantasies together. This place will only crush your selfesteem and ego. Single men find it hard work. Young single men harder. Young single me unable to accommodate harder still.

Good luck and happy fabbing x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get the silly filters off you arent 14

get a profile with likes and dislikes and get to a club

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By *urSurveySaysMan
over a year ago

London/Chichester

Most importantly, you need to be different and interesting. And you need to accept that you'll probably get 1 reply for every 15 messages you send. And that's if you send 15 interesting ones related to the person you're messaging, not copy and pastes or one liners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lose the filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop it with the silly filters...

There is apparently a club in your town, and quite a few in the East Midlands area.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I’m struggling to meet people, there are no clubs (that I know of) and the only people near me aren’t looking for a single guy.

Is it my pictures? My bio?

Just a little help please "

Lose those silly pictures!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m struggling to meet people, there are no clubs (that I know of) and the only people near me aren’t looking for a single guy.

Is it my pictures? My bio?

Just a little help please "

Definitely get rid of the pics. Cartoon not good

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By *ickomxxxMan
over a year ago

Cornwall

Suggest you take a hard look at your profile and pics and ask yourself if it is really going to appeal to a submissive woman??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suggest you take a hard look at your profile and pics and ask yourself if it is really going to appeal to a submissive woman??"

This. Your pictures, age and profile text don’t scream ‘dom’ to me I’m afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Snapchat filters are a bit off putting.

You also refer to yourself as a Dom which generally has me running for the hills...you also don't come across awfully dominant which implies you just like to be rough in the bedroom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your pictures are to be honest a bit of a silly waste of time. Makes you look immature. Put some decent pics up for one.

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By *irky_coupleCouple
over a year ago

kirky

Sorry but we couldn't take you seriously with your profile. New to this apparently but you say you are a Dom at 21yrs old? And as everyone else has said the pics are childish. Hardly the actions of a Dom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're probably not a dom.

Snapchat filters are cringe

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

^^ all of this

You also say you’re happy for the woman to take control - which makes you a switch, not a dom. Your photos look like the ones on my 12 year old nieces snapchat. You say you’re open to anything. A good dom knows where their hard & soft limits lie & what their particular skill set is. You like whips - just whips or all impact play?

You’re going to put off potential Swinging partners because you talk about BDSM. You’re going to put off potential sub partners because the BDSM stuff sounds like you’ve just read 50 Shades & decided it sounds fun. You’re going to put off anyone over 25 because you come across as immature.

Make it real, not what you think people want to hear. Start again!

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"You don't really come across as a Dom, I believe it takes a fairly exceptional 21 year old to be dominant. The snapchat filters only serve to remind viewers of your immaturity.

Get yourself out and find a nice lass of your own age and explore your sexual fantasies together. This place will only crush your selfesteem and ego. Single men find it hard work. Young single men harder. Young single me unable to accommodate harder still.

Good luck and happy fabbing x"

This

In Triplicate.

Double underlined in massive bold font.

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By *arpePinguisWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Not sure you have the tiniest clue about being a Dom. Franks is in GY, they have kink and swing socials and parties. Ffs get rid of the Snapchat filters. There are munches in Lowestoft and Norwich, Norwich rope social and the Annex in KL. No shortage of options

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your Fab Profile is like an online CV. People read it for about 10 seconds and make a snap judgement about whether they want you to fill a position as it were

So if you approach your profile like a CV, you might have a bit more success. What are your skills? What's your experience? What are your hopes?

What job do you want to fill? By that I mean what is your target audience? Saying you are dominant to older people is getting you nowhere but to someone 18/19 they might take you seriously. If you say you want a Cougar to teach you the ropes you might attract older people but someone 18/19 might be put off by you playing with older folks. So you need to think carefully about what you want.

So I would change your profile settings into hide yourself from being on the looked at me lists and go look at some successful men.

Have a look at their pics, what verifications they have, how do they stand out?

After all that, then go look for a social gathering and maybe a club and good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I probably wouldn't get past your username

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By *inkyDom96 OP   Man
over a year ago

Yarmouth

Thanks for all the help and all the suggestions are duly noted, it’s safe to say people didn’t agree on the filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the help and all the suggestions are duly noted, it’s safe to say people didn’t agree on the filters "

also

you class yourself as a dom at 21, i think most people will have issues with this

do you mean dominant or bed or into the bdsm scene type of dom?

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By *inkyDom96 OP   Man
over a year ago

Yarmouth


"Thanks for all the help and all the suggestions are duly noted, it’s safe to say people didn’t agree on the filters

also

you class yourself as a dom at 21, i think most people will have issues with this

do you mean dominant or bed or into the bdsm scene type of dom?"
both, I like to be in control in the bedroom but also if the other female is into the bdsm scene I’m more than happy as that’s my kink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the help and all the suggestions are duly noted, it’s safe to say people didn’t agree on the filters

also

you class yourself as a dom at 21, i think most people will have issues with this

do you mean dominant or bed or into the bdsm scene type of dom? both, I like to be in control in the bedroom but also if the other female is into the bdsm scene I’m more than happy as that’s my kink "

so maybe expand on that

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Your switch then. Go on to a fetish website where you can meet and chat to other likeminded people.

Fet

Life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the help and all the suggestions are duly noted, it’s safe to say people didn’t agree on the filters

also

you class yourself as a dom at 21, i think most people will have issues with this

do you mean dominant or bed or into the bdsm scene type of dom? both, I like to be in control in the bedroom but also if the other female is into the bdsm scene I’m more than happy as that’s my kink "

But if you are new to this, as your profile says (and as I would expect for someone of your age) how do you know?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m struggling to meet people, there are no clubs (that I know of) and the only people near me aren’t looking for a single guy.

Is it my pictures? My bio?

Just a little help please "

There is a club right on your doorstep called Franks. Never been but give it a look on here.

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm gonna be a bit harsh, I agree to meet single Men but 1 in 4 actually bother to turn up! Males, you are really not doing yourselves any favours! Perhaps you should form a group of True guys and go from there?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP. Good to see you've taken some of the advice on board and got rid of the silly filters.

However, as others have said, you will struggle on here.

You are very young and don't seem to understand what being dominant is really about.

My suggestions?

Research BDSB properly, do not read 50 shades.

If you decide this is you.. You're switch and would be better off on a fetish site.

If you are genuinely interested in swinging (more research). Change your name and get to a club.

If you are just after sex... You're on the wrong site and will have better luck on other sites and on a night out.

Nita

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

*BDSM

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

You claim to be a Dom but I suspect you do not truly understand what it means to be one... not if your saying you’re happy for a woman to take control

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