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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have been chatting to a couple of couples now for wks. said they are free to meet this wk.

Still keep avoiding time and date.

do i ditch or carry on?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Ditch. I've had the same in the past and they never made arrangements. Move on to more amenable folk and have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ditch. I've had the same in the past and they never made arrangements. Move on to more amenable folk and have fun."
+1

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By *wingersrus465Couple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Ditch, you will be waiting for ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree ditch

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

ditch...if we want to meet a guy we make clear when we are free...

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By *ns2006Couple
over a year ago

milton keynes

Carry on ..... what have you got to lose ?

Emails cost nothing and it shows you've got patience.

Play the long game, sometimes you get a result

KnS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Carry on ..... what have you got to lose ?

Emails cost nothing and it shows you've got patience.

Play the long game, sometimes you get a result

KnS"

If you have patience then I would take the advice above.

We, as a couple, have an extremely busy working and family life so can find it hard to set a date for fun. We are meeting up with a guy next week who we had a social meet with LAST YEAR!!! lol!!!

Sometimes we might be able to meet at a drop of a hat but that's extremely rare.

All I can say now to the OP is ask them for a few dates they have in mind for you and say you'll get back to them. It has come across as 'non pushy' when we have asked others or have approached this way

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Some people just like to keep others dangling on a string. I say ditch..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Carry on ..... what have you got to lose ?

Emails cost nothing and it shows you've got patience.

Play the long game, sometimes you get a result

KnS"

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP

Your experience mirrors one of my own recently. Let me guess, chatting's gone well, everyone very excited then you make the fatal error, mention which day you'd like to get together.......................................................................................................................................................................................

Move on if I were you, I did

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Carry on ..... what have you got to lose ?

Emails cost nothing and it shows you've got patience.

Play the long game, sometimes you get a result

KnS

I agree."

All that effort for what you already know is going to come to nothing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have been chatting to a couple of couples now for wks. said they are free to meet this wk.

Still keep avoiding time and date.

do i ditch or carry on?"

carry on & see what develops

however, don't make them your priority -arrange meets with others too

that way you can be having fun whilst they make their bloddy minds up !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with bus wanker. I'd put the ball back in their court saying you're interested in meeting up this weekend and it's up to them to confirm time and date if they are still free and interested and to let you know if they're not. Then leave it at that whilst you sort some other meets out. Good luck.

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By *stwoCouple
over a year ago

anywhere

ditch.aint worth chasing meets.they either happen or they dont.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Carry on ..... what have you got to lose ?

Emails cost nothing and it shows you've got patience.

Play the long game, sometimes you get a result

KnS

If you have patience then I would take the advice above.

We, as a couple, have an extremely busy working and family life so can find it hard to set a date for fun. We are meeting up with a guy next week who we had a social meet with LAST YEAR!!! lol!!!

Sometimes we might be able to meet at a drop of a hat but that's extremely rare.

All I can say now to the OP is ask them for a few dates they have in mind for you and say you'll get back to them. It has come across as 'non pushy' when we have asked others or have approached this way "

Agree entirely, we have a hectic family and work life and can only meet on occasion, almost never at the drop of a hat. Hang on in there, they're probably worth the wait. Would say 'ditch' only if you have actually firmed something up and they then let you down without good reason.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

If they know they are free this week, then surely they know when - otherwise they wouldn't say they were free - so sounds like a string-along to me.

The clincher will be if they remain silent until 7:30 on Saturday night and then contact you asking you to meet in half an hour - that one's right out of page one of the string-along playbook.

Of course I'm making a few assumptions.

Have you spoken on the phone? (Not just texted) To both of them?

Have they got more than one veri? Recently?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

This week isnt over yet. Couples can find it difficult to agree on a date to meet as there are two of them to coordinate before throwing you into the mix. Messages cost nothing. Just send them a polite message saying you are making plans for the week and would love to be able to include them so would they please let you know as soon as. Stay in touch anyway. Some are worth waiting for. Pursue new people too. x

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