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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on here a while now and not getting very far. No pretty boy, but have been lead to believe I'm not ugly and am in reasonable shape (would you?) Have been told I'm a good lover (love giving oral). Am married but after a long and faithful wait, have now been encouraged to meet my needs elsewhere, hence this site. Decided to be honest from outset as I'm hoping to find something regular (a fuck buddy I think the phrase is). I do not want to work my way through the site or anything. What am I doing wrong ? allways send a face pic when messaging, allways polite. I genuinely need to find someone cos I'm extremely randy, (sick of wanking). Any guidance much appreciated. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have been on a week not much to go on profile and all pictures are in private gallery you need to sell yourself and stand out from the rest sense of humour helps happy hunting and happy swinging and welcome to fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here a while now and not getting very far. No pretty boy, but have been lead to believe I'm not ugly and am in reasonable shape (would you?) Have been told I'm a good lover (love giving oral). Am married but after a long and faithful wait, have now been encouraged to meet my needs elsewhere, hence this site. Decided to be honest from outset as I'm hoping to find something regular (a fuck buddy I think the phrase is). I do not want to work my way through the site or anything. What am I doing wrong ? allways send a face pic when messaging, allways polite. I genuinely need to find someone cos I'm extremely randy, (sick of wanking). Any guidance much appreciated. x "

Profile is like most of the single males on here and girls want to know more?

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Your impatient,your profile says nothing ,2 lines,how do you think that will give anyone the incentive to meet you!And you are married...

Some real advice,if you wont respect the woman you married and as a couple sort out why you have sexual problems visit a sex worker.She will scratch an itch.Swinging is about openness and sexual honesty.

If you have the permission of your wife to play mention this on your profile and the fact people can contact her to confirm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why not show your wife the site and see what she thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe fabs should put a notice on for all new members joining highlightling excatley what swinging is, because the amount of posts that come in saying 'I aint getting laid' within a week or 2 weeks seems to be going up rapidily now.

Personally having looked at the op profile I agree, It's says nothing; swinging is not just a 'I'm desperate do me now' polite 'label'.

The op also said my profile contains the 'same as other single men', well those self same other single men, also did the self same thing by posting on here... How many of them 1) are still on here 2) actually got anything for the 'I'm desperate rant'??

So if you want to be the same as the other single men, congrats you did that already.

Those that actually search the forums and read what has already been advised (over and over) without posting a new thread probably have a longer shelf life and come across less desperate.

So now I am off to update wiki with swinging is not a 'I'm desperate' or 'an easy way to get laid' footnote.

Good luck op, youre going to need it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with jemima and quietly kinky. A one line profile with no pics, not being able to accomodate and looking for a 121 type relationship with a single lady means the odds are stacked against you. it's been said that it's easier to get laid on a night out in town than it is on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been on here a while?

1 week

cant accom, married, all put offs for most.

admire your honesty but this is a swinging site not a free shag site, there is a differance.

have a look at profiles of other guys, and see what the ones who get meets are doing differently.

or try a club.

but if all you want is a extra marital shag why not visit a brothel?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys, appreciate the advice will get to work on the profile. Am looking for fun so I think swinging is what I want. I have a lot to give the right people when I meet them so I guess I'll just be patient. x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

My advice - I couldn't message you directly, due to blocks - is to hang in there, as I've known many guys in a similar situation and things have turned around.

It's good that you're using the forums - many never do - and it's useful as well to be friendly with others: there are people who I've gotten to know tho we'll not shag, it's just part of the social aspect of swinging. Your profile's coming together, keep refining it, and listen to what others give you feedback upon. Consider using hotels too, if you can't accom at home, as this will be of interest to others who can't accom and who wish to travel.

Overall, you seem a decent guy, and there's room on Fab for great people. Your patience will pay off. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest the fact that your married would put me off mailing you

Thats not to suggest you want me to mail you im just answering your question from my point of view as i cant speak for anyone else

even if guys meet and their wifes know it still puts me off meeting them as they are usually on limited time and spend all night talking about their wifes lol

which is fair enough but while im on the pull and trying to flirt with someome some guy sat talking about his mrs isnt setting the mood lol, i remember the last male half of a couple i met with his wifes acknowledgement his wife must have text him every 10/15 mins, and when we was mid play his phone went off, for the 50th time, so he ignored it next thing she was calling him up to ask why he didnt reply at that point i gave up and left, plus i like long drawn out, sometimes over night, sessions not guys who have been allowed out for a few hours

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you Sophieslut, really appreciate your kind words, there are some lovely people on this site, I will hang in there, sure the right opportunities will come up in time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And thank you naughtynymphos, on the contrary, whish you could have messaged me, I think I love you

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Fully understand the response to my being married, don't want to go into too much detail because I want passionate liaisons and hot sex , not sympathy: have been patient for years (20 odd), have suggested all sorts of therapy (joint) but wife not interested. contented to be best friends/platonic I guess. Whilst this does make me sad, friends will have to do.

I have allways had a high sex drive which I have dealt with myself (if you get the drift). I can't surpress this anymore, there is so much passion in me that I would love to share with someone.

I have to say, I think your experience is the height of ignorance, can't believe that someone wouldn't give you their undevided attention, you are so beautiful. Anyways, I wouldn't be able to answer the phone with my mouth full and I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth off of you.

Thanks again guys. Let you know if it works out. x

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