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"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile: "We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..." I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case." Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do | |||
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"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile: "We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..." I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case. Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do " Some guys in couples are voyeurs only. | |||
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"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile: "We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..." I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case. Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do Some guys in couples are voyeurs only." I agree. That's why I said it would take time for them to find what they are looking for. Doesn't mean they won't, though. I just think it's more niche and they did ask why they were struggling... | |||
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"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile: "We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..." I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case. Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do Some guys in couples are voyeurs only." Yes, not mine though | |||
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"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile: "We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..." I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case. Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do Some guys in couples are voyeurs only. I agree. That's why I said it would take time for them to find what they are looking for. Doesn't mean they won't, though. I just think it's more niche and they did ask why they were struggling..." | |||
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"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile: "We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..." I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case. Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do Some guys in couples are voyeurs only. Yes, not mine though " Mine likes to watch but he likes to join in too. | |||
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"As a couple we wouldn’t meet as it sounds all about you 2 and not the others you are meeting also in your own words all you want out of meeting a couple is to play with the female. Seems a bit selfish that you expect a couple to meet you but not willing to allow the Male to play but expect it to be ok for you guys to play with female. " Yes , I agree with that, there are male voyeurs, but in our opinion, not when it comes to couple play | |||
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"Reworded our profile. We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas! Its all a bit scary! We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee that's not why we're here. That's for the constructive criticism x" Good luck both | |||
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"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile: "We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..." I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case. Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do Some guys in couples are voyeurs only. Yes, not mine though Mine likes to watch but he likes to join in too. " Dont get the impression that is what they are looking for though. One of them doesn't want the lady to play with a man..... | |||
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"Reworded our profile. We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas! Its all a bit scary! We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee that's not why we're here. That's for the constructive criticism x" To us that wouldn't be a problem, as a couple my hubby would expect to join in | |||
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"Reworded our profile. We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas! Its all a bit scary! We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee that's not why we're here. That's for the constructive criticism x" Nice to see a couple where both are tall | |||
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"What would that reason be? " What pleasure can you offer the single fem? How will you make her feel wanted and sexy? | |||
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"What would that reason be? What pleasure can you offer the single fem? How will you make her feel wanted and sexy? " And why you versus any other lovely couple on here...? | |||
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"What would that reason be? " Well, your pictures are lovely, so that would be a good initial reason.It's just about tweaking the tone a little. I'm sorry that you have both been troubled by timewasters. It can be extremely frustrating. But you have allowed that frustration to shape your profile, which may put off people who ordinarily may have been interested in playing. If you had the text to match the pictures. You would both be a force to be reckoned with on here . | |||
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"You also need to remember that you are primarily seeking a single female. They are the most coveted on the site. They won't jump through hoops to meet, because they already have so much choice. So you need to give them a reason to come to you. Being demanding and having it all your way, is not going to work " Agreed. | |||
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"You also need to remember that you are primarily seeking a single female. They are the most coveted on the site. They won't jump through hoops to meet, because they already have so much choice. So you need to give them a reason to come to you. Being demanding and having it all your way, is not going to work Agreed. " | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x" I think it's confusing. If you meet couples, your man plays with the other woman. But what does her husband do? | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x" Maybe you will be told same as me haha | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x Maybe you will be told same as me haha " You and the OP don't have identical profiles so you won't be told the same. | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x" Do you mail people? If you only want soft swing, don't feel pressured into doing things you don't want to. | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x" We'd both be extremely delighted to meet you! | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x We'd both be extremely delighted to meet you! " Though to be fair you may find us a bit too deviant if you're only after soft fun... | |||
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"We didn't realise we had couples blocked!! That must have been a mistake at some point. Thanks for that! We are a couple, we would never meet individually. " Oops! That's probably a big reason you're finding things so tricky ha! Never mind, easy to solve. | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x" You’re clearly not a full swap couple so you’ll get ignored. Most couples here looking for full partner swap where everyone is happy, if the Mrs is not happy playing with the other Mr its a waste of time, also soft play is not very popular... | |||
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"Instant profile changes. Cool. Single men take note." Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher......... | |||
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"See, now we've changed the profile and deleted a few things, folk are not understanding what we are looking for. You put the info on people don't like it. You take the Info of people don't like it " In retrospect, you have veris so clearly there’s no issues. Apart from you asked for advice and people will give that. None of us appeal to everyone. If we asked for profile advice I’m sure we’d get a shed load of conflicting replies. Alas we aren’t going to ask because we are content with what we are and what we have. I’m sure you guys should be the same. | |||
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"Instant profile changes. Cool. Single men take note. Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher......... " Just the ones who ask for profile advice then take absolutely no notice. Which seems to be 90% of the guys who post asking for advice. | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x Maybe you will be told same as me haha You and the OP don't have identical profiles so you won't be told the same. " Why are you trolling this lady? I think you said quite enough on her own thread. | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x Maybe you will be told same as me haha You and the OP don't have identical profiles so you won't be told the same. Why are you trolling this lady? I think you said quite enough on her own thread. " My thoughts exactly!! Maybe if you don't agree with what this lady posts then you maybe better to ignore her posts infuture. It's looking very personal now. | |||
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"Instant profile changes. Cool. Single men take note. Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher......... Just the ones who ask for profile advice then take absolutely no notice. Which seems to be 90% of the guys who post asking for advice. " That puts me in to the 10% who take criticism and act accordingly. All, and any, well-meaning advice gratefully received | |||
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"You have listed clubs on your list of interests. That would be worth pursuing. We find it easier to meet couples in clubs. Mrs" That’s so true | |||
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"Your profile is all about you, using we, we, we is off putting to us reading the profile a better written profile attracts people. Its not all we! could sound like a 3 year old I want I want. just our opinion you understand. Good luck I your quest but 4 veries in 11 months shows you are doing something right. " your a sexy looking lady mrs x | |||
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"I wouldn’t meet you, sorry, I’d feel like I was being used as your toy for the night and my pleasure would be second to yours by the sounds of it" Exactly the impression I got just by reading their opening post to this thread! | |||
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"Reworded our profile. We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas! Its all a bit scary! We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee that's not why we're here. That's for the constructive criticism x" Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two. You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less! Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol. | |||
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"Reworded our profile. We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas! Its all a bit scary! We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee that's not why we're here. That's for the constructive criticism x Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two. You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less! Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol." You think they’re selfish because they don’t want to do socials newsflash, not everyone does including us. I’m well aware that some people make swinging a massive social thing, to the point in some cases where most their friends are swingers. And that’s fine if it suits them, but it’s not what we all want and it’s certainly not selfish to choose to play differently. I understand that might limit opportunities, but that works the same the other way round. Anyone messsging us asking us to meet for coffee and buddy up are going to be met with a delete. We like nsa and sex with strangers. And along the way, we have met some lovely people that we now count as friends. We all play as we choose, no need for abuse. | |||
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"We have the very same problem although we are looking for a couple and possibly a female ..But saying that not to use as a toy ..we all want to enjoy each other together.. Where are we going wrong.. Thankyou x" I think you need to start your own thread, as people are responding to the OP and things can get confusing | |||
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"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds... Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you.." I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves | |||
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"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds... Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you.. I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves " Oooops sorry | |||
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"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds... Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you.. I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves Oooops sorry " No problem, it's better to start your own thread rather than jump on someone else's | |||
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"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds... Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you.. I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves Sorry again xx Oooops sorry No problem, it's better to start your own thread rather than jump on someone else's " | |||
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"Is our profile to harsh? We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life. We've been told we're both good looking. Just can't seem to get any action! Ta x" your not the only one with that trouble | |||
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"Reworded our profile. We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas! Its all a bit scary! We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee that's not why we're here. That's for the constructive criticism x Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two. You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less! Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol. You think they’re selfish because they don’t want to do socials newsflash, not everyone does including us. I’m well aware that some people make swinging a massive social thing, to the point in some cases where most their friends are swingers. And that’s fine if it suits them, but it’s not what we all want and it’s certainly not selfish to choose to play differently. I understand that might limit opportunities, but that works the same the other way round. Anyone messsging us asking us to meet for coffee and buddy up are going to be met with a delete. We like nsa and sex with strangers. And along the way, we have met some lovely people that we now count as friends. We all play as we choose, no need for abuse. " Absolutely , well said | |||
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"Whereas we all have the right to play as we choose, sometimes it is fruitful to go outside the box. If the OP feels they don’t have time to incorporate the social aspect into their time with a lady or couple, this could well mean the difference between having some fun and not having some fun. When we meet privately, we don’t just consider our needs, we will always ask what our potential playmate wants. Some of the best fun we’ve had was when we went outside the comfort of our little box. I would advise the OP reconsider their position on meeting socially, especially if they are interested in meeting single ladies. I will also advise that if you treat playmates as friends then you get the same respect in return. The OP is very worried about timewasters. We never worry about that because it doesn’t happen to us, and we believe it’s because our friendship style approach to swinging generates loyalty. Mrs" 100% | |||
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"Reworded our profile. We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas! Its all a bit scary! We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee that's not why we're here. That's for the constructive criticism x Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two. You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less! Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol. You think they’re selfish because they don’t want to do socials newsflash, not everyone does including us. I’m well aware that some people make swinging a massive social thing, to the point in some cases where most their friends are swingers. And that’s fine if it suits them, but it’s not what we all want and it’s certainly not selfish to choose to play differently. I understand that might limit opportunities, but that works the same the other way round. Anyone messsging us asking us to meet for coffee and buddy up are going to be met with a delete. We like nsa and sex with strangers. And along the way, we have met some lovely people that we now count as friends. We all play as we choose, no need for abuse. " There really wasn't any need, everyone swings in a way that suits them, there's no right or wrong way. For the record we don't do socials either. | |||
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"Instant profile changes. Cool. Single men take note. Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher......... " I am surprised it took so many replies before someone brought that up lol | |||
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