FabSwingers.com forum: Why can't we get a meet?

By *avik OP Couple
over a year ago

Green and pleasant land

Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

I wouldn’t meet you, sorry, I’d feel like I was being used as your toy for the night and my pleasure would be second to yours by the sounds of it

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By *avik OP Couple
over a year ago

Green and pleasant land

Thanks for the reply, that's not how we work, but if that's how it sounds we'll have to re word x

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By *ucky1Man
over a year ago

a straightjacket

Get yourselves to clubf and you might meet couples who are seeking similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

I'm sure what you're looking for is out there, but it may take a while to find the dynamic you're looking for with another couple or a single woman. I don't think we'd be the only couple to look twice at that sentence and as for single women, they are difficult to meet in any case.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Looks like you're just looking for a female, so not for us,my hubby likes to play too, but good luck.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I only play with people I have a connection with, so social first is crucial. I can get an anonymous fuck from any random guy in any bar in any town. For me, that’s not what swinging is about ... it’s about sexual experiences with people I have a chemistry with.

Sex with no chemistry is not good sex IMO & from what I’ve seen on Fab, there aren’t too many women who want a ‘fuck & go’ meet.

Maybe try clubs if you’re not having much luck online. Plenty of couples & single fems evenings that you could go to

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

If you’re inviting a female along just for the guy to play with then you are using her as a toy. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you do that?

Also you don’t seem to be interested in messaging which is important to build up a rapport before meeting and as a single female I’d need to like both the male and the female and would expect to play with both.

Maybe revise your profile and make it friendlier. Or go to clubs.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't change the way you do things to suit other people but you could make your profile a little more welcoming.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

To alot of swingers the social aspect is often as important as the sex itself, this could be the reason that you find yourself struggling.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe clubs are the best place for you if you're not up for endless chat

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do

Some guys in couples are voyeurs only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple we wouldn’t meet as it sounds all about you 2 and not the others you are meeting also in your own words all you want out of meeting a couple is to play with the female. Seems a bit selfish that you expect a couple to meet you but not willing to allow the Male to play but expect it to be ok for you guys to play with female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some may be put off by the fact that you say you meet to play, not to socialise. I could never meet a couple without seeing what the dynamic was like in a social setting first. You do seem to objectify a little. It seems that they are there for your pleasure and not for their own. I can't speak for everyone, but it wouldn't tempt me to get to know you both, in all honesty. But that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good profile and some great pictures. You are undoubtedly sexy fuckers. Your comments about not socialising would give me pause tho. I like a chat before my mouth is filled with pussy. We all like a little romance before a hand is shoved down our pants.

I support M&C's comment about 'playing with the female half'. I think you need to review that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do

Some guys in couples are voyeurs only."

I agree. That's why I said it would take time for them to find what they are looking for. Doesn't mean they won't, though. I just think it's more niche and they did ask why they were struggling...

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do

Some guys in couples are voyeurs only."

Yes, not mine though

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do

Some guys in couples are voyeurs only.

I agree. That's why I said it would take time for them to find what they are looking for. Doesn't mean they won't, though. I just think it's more niche and they did ask why they were struggling..."

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By *avik OP Couple
over a year ago

Green and pleasant land

Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do

Some guys in couples are voyeurs only.

Yes, not mine though

Mine likes to watch but he likes to join in too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instant profile changes. Cool.

Single men take note.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"As a couple we wouldn’t meet as it sounds all about you 2 and not the others you are meeting also in your own words all you want out of meeting a couple is to play with the female. Seems a bit selfish that you expect a couple to meet you but not willing to allow the Male to play but expect it to be ok for you guys to play with female. "

Yes , I agree with that, there are male voyeurs, but in our opinion, not when it comes to couple play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x"

Good luck both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a tricky one, it’s clear from your profile that you are being ‘harsh’ (some would say clear, some would say harsh) because you’re fed up of time wasters that just want to talk. The content is there, nothing particularly offensive there, I’m sure it’ll work for some. No worries

It doesn’t for me, but probably likely I’m not who/what you’d be seeking so I’m sure it’s no deep loss as far as you’re aware, but if it helps I shall explain why, from my perspective and for what works for me. I want to play with couples but as a single female I find it a bit of hard to read dynamic to walk into when I get the sense from a profile that I need to “decide now, don’t talk, perhaps don’t social first and don’t waste my time” and we are good looking - surely that last point is subjective and up to me to decide (or any viewer of your profile as it’s an individual thing). I just think yikes I’m not sure how to check comfortably if this couple’s dynamic works for me and if I need time to think am I going to piss them off. Also, shit I’d not describe myself as good looking, better not message.

And I’m interested in finding couples that I click with, to meet and play with. But it just feels a little stressful - which may well not be the case at all but, sadly your time wasters are now affecting approaches from completely new people potentially....

However, my opinion is just one and it’s not an offensive profile (and yes, you do look good looking from what I see so far) and I’m sure there will be people interested. Best of luck to you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey, I took so long writing that there’s probably been a whole profile rework since!!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"This line would be a red flag if I was reading your profile:

"We are interested in couples,we are mainly looking to play with the female half..."

Yes, was wondering what the male half was supposed to do

Some guys in couples are voyeurs only.

Yes, not mine though

Mine likes to watch but he likes to join in too.

Dont get the impression that is what they are looking for though. One of them doesn't want the lady to play with a man.....

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Whilst I appreciate you don't seek Single Males, reading your profile, I view it that you want everything & everyone on your terms!

It comes over as too one sided. You need to soften it a bit.

You can get your style of approach put forward in other ways and still get the message across but in a balanced way.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x"

To us that wouldn't be a problem, as a couple my hubby would expect to join in

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By *bernathCouple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Okay your a couple, if you were a fem much easier.

Edited your profile, try this

Hello there!

Looking for single females for three somes and couples.

Both curious!

We are interested in couples only for soft swap to and see how things progress!

Fem loves to watch the male with other woman.

We are fun, good looking and friendly.

We don't get much time to play so our fun time is precious.

We can accommodate or travel.

We will have the days and dates we can meet in advance or that day.

We have face pictures available for genuine people and are happy to swap numbers.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x"

Nice to see a couple where both are tall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You also need to remember that you are primarily seeking a single female. They are the most coveted on the site. They won't jump through hoops to meet, because they already have so much choice. So you need to give them a reason to come to you. Being demanding and having it all your way, is not going to work

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By *avik OP Couple
over a year ago

Green and pleasant land

What would that reason be?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would that reason be? "

What pleasure can you offer the single fem? How will you make her feel wanted and sexy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would that reason be?

What pleasure can you offer the single fem? How will you make her feel wanted and sexy? "

And why you versus any other lovely couple on here...?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

For what you are looking for, you have to stand out from all of the others, ladies are in huge demand on here and can just take their pick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would that reason be? "

Well, your pictures are lovely, so that would be a good initial reason.It's just about tweaking the tone a little. I'm sorry that you have both been troubled by timewasters. It can be extremely frustrating. But you have allowed that frustration to shape your profile, which may put off people who ordinarily may have been interested in playing. If you had the text to match the pictures. You would both be a force to be reckoned with on here

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By *bernathCouple
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"You also need to remember that you are primarily seeking a single female. They are the most coveted on the site. They won't jump through hoops to meet, because they already have so much choice. So you need to give them a reason to come to you. Being demanding and having it all your way, is not going to work

Agreed.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Agreed. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't be interested in meeting as you say soft swing which isn't my thing.

I think what you need to do is think for a while about what YOU actually want, then write a profile about that, and not what you think others think. If all you want is a female, then put that, as you clearly aren't interested in males,so why bother with couples?

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x"

I think it's confusing. If you meet couples, your man plays with the other woman. But what does her husband do?

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By *arlo82Woman
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x"

Maybe you will be told same as me haha

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

As a single guy, my take is as follows:

Positives

Picture are good

Your clear what you both want

Negatives

I still think the profile is a bit on the direct side. I have seen more direct profiles but maybe have a think of the wording and tone used.

I think a single lady / or a couple could be put off with the soft swing and they may still feel like a toy

Anyway good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x

Maybe you will be told same as me haha "

You and the OP don't have identical profiles so you won't be told the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having read your profile sounds very much like a single guy trying to meet. Yeah your part if a couple but its sounds like its for ghe guy to play with a single felmale while your other half watches...

And single guys find itz hard to get meets no nothing new there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x"

Do you mail people? If you only want soft swing, don't feel pressured into doing things you don't want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are fishing in quite a small fishpond by only looking for soft swap, so you would need to be patient there. You also say that couples should only message you if they plan to meet and play. A lot of people won’t be prepared to make the decision to meet until after a bit of chat and exchanging pics, and also won’t agree to play until after a social. It sounds like you are branding people as timewasters just because they change their minds, and nobody wants to be pressured to meet and play.

Mrs

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Much better wording guys ... you’re still looking for a small niche, but hopefully perseverance will work.

Clubs are a great idea though!!

Good luck!

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By *avik OP Couple
over a year ago

Green and pleasant land

Let's See what happens now

Thanks for the help and advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x"

We'd both be extremely delighted to meet you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have listed clubs on your list of interests. That would be worth pursuing. We find it easier to meet couples in clubs.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x

We'd both be extremely delighted to meet you!

Though to be fair you may find us a bit too deviant if you're only after soft fun...

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"Couple in Green And Pleasant Land, North East"

that covers a big area , why not just put a town ? will give us an idea where you are .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You also seem to have blocked all couples from messaging you? Shame... If you don't want MF couples just cross them off what you're seeking on your profile, saves the confusion?

If you're only after single ladies and FF couples then you'll find it very tricky indeed though not impossible? Best bet is probably for you to also have separate single guy and single fem profiles and meet individually first as a lot of single ladies will be more daunted about meeting a couple and unaware of the dynamics in your relationship.

Good luck!

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By *avik OP Couple
over a year ago

Green and pleasant land

We didn't realise we had couples blocked!! That must have been a mistake at some point.

Thanks for that!

We are a couple, we would never meet individually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We didn't realise we had couples blocked!! That must have been a mistake at some point.

Thanks for that!

We are a couple, we would never meet individually. "

Oops! That's probably a big reason you're finding things so tricky ha!

Never mind, easy to solve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x"

You’re clearly not a full swap couple so you’ll get ignored. Most couples here looking for full partner swap where everyone is happy, if the Mrs is not happy playing with the other Mr its a waste of time, also soft play is not very popular...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Instant profile changes. Cool.

Single men take note."

Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher.........

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Hi OP. Haven’t read the thread so not sure if this has been mentioned. It does indeed look like you’re a nice looking couple. However a lot of your pics are very graphic and you’ll find that issue is a bit marmite on here. Some love it, some hate it. If you’re wanting to appeal to fems, I’d think less graphic would be better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never meet anyone who is soft swap only.

I'm more interested in guys than ladies, so if there's no cock in it for me, then not interested.

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By *avik OP Couple
over a year ago

Green and pleasant land

See, now we've changed the profile and deleted a few things, folk are not understanding what we are looking for.

You put the info on people don't like it.

You take the Info of people don't like it

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"See, now we've changed the profile and deleted a few things, folk are not understanding what we are looking for.

You put the info on people don't like it.

You take the Info of people don't like it

In retrospect, you have veris so clearly there’s no issues. Apart from you asked for advice and people will give that. None of us appeal to everyone.

If we asked for profile advice I’m sure we’d get a shed load of conflicting replies. Alas we aren’t going to ask because we are content with what we are and what we have. I’m sure you guys should be the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Instant profile changes. Cool.

Single men take note.

Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher.........

Just the ones who ask for profile advice then take absolutely no notice. Which seems to be 90% of the guys who post asking for advice.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x

Maybe you will be told same as me haha

You and the OP don't have identical profiles so you won't be told the same. "

Why are you trolling this lady? I think you said quite enough on her own thread.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

It doesn't matter what you put in your profile you can't please everybody. The simple fact is that you are in reality just looking to play with another female which will limit your opportunities. Your profile now hides that fact so you might get more interest but it will become apparent once you start talking at which point many will decline to meet.

Not suggesting you change what you are looking for but you have to accept what you are looking for whilst not impossible to find is going to be very limited.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x

Maybe you will be told same as me haha

You and the OP don't have identical profiles so you won't be told the same.

Why are you trolling this lady? I think you said quite enough on her own thread. "

My thoughts exactly!! Maybe if you don't agree with what this lady posts then you maybe better to ignore her posts infuture. It's looking very personal now.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Instant profile changes. Cool.

Single men take note.

Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher.........

Just the ones who ask for profile advice then take absolutely no notice. Which seems to be 90% of the guys who post asking for advice.

That puts me in to the 10% who take criticism and act accordingly. All, and any, well-meaning advice gratefully received

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

Lots of advice and the OP’s have acted on parts so well done guys. If English isn’t your first language then I find something is always lost in translation but found when people meet.

Personally I wouldn’t meet a couple for soft fun, even if I brought my FB with me. If Mr is not going to be involved then expressly say he will watch, be restrained, sat in another room or not in the house.

When I started out clubs were the best place to meet couples and singles. That’s not changed and as you spend time there your contact list grows so opportunities arise to play at home or theirs.

If Mr is curious then why not explore that with a couple. It won’t make you any less curious and a lot of ladies love to see their man in action with another. Well that’s what I find anyway

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By *rHornyGentMan
over a year ago

South East London

"You have listed clubs on your list of interests. That would be worth pursuing. We find it easier to meet couples in clubs.

Mrs"

That’s so true

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Nice profile OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. Reading your profile, once you cut out the padding, it boils down to

'Hi. Looking for a single female to join us for a threesome. Message us if you are interested.

This is the reason you are finding it hard on here.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

We like your profile. You keep looking for what suits you.... Someone will come along eventually, be patient.. It'll be worth the wait. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have the very same problem although we are looking for a couple and possibly a female ..But saying that not to use as a toy ..we all want to enjoy each other together..

Where are we going wrong..

Thankyou x

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By *arumcoupleCouple
over a year ago

salisbury

Your profile is all about you, using we, we, we is off putting to us reading the profile a better written profile attracts people. Its not all we! could sound like a 3 year old I want I want.

just our opinion you understand.

Good luck I your quest but 4 veries in 11 months shows you are doing something right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

meet men , youll be swamped lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is all about you, using we, we, we is off putting to us reading the profile a better written profile attracts people. Its not all we! could sound like a 3 year old I want I want.

just our opinion you understand.

Good luck I your quest but 4 veries in 11 months shows you are doing something right. "

your a sexy looking lady mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t meet you, sorry, I’d feel like I was being used as your toy for the night and my pleasure would be second to yours by the sounds of it"

Exactly the impression I got just by reading their opening post to this thread!

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over a year ago

"Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x"

Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two.

You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less!

Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol.

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over a year ago

Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds...

Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you..

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x

Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two.

You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less!

Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol."

You think they’re selfish because they don’t want to do socials

newsflash, not everyone does including us. I’m well aware that some people make swinging a massive social thing, to the point in some cases where most their friends are swingers. And that’s fine if it suits them, but it’s not what we all want and it’s certainly not selfish to choose to play differently. I understand that might limit opportunities, but that works the same the other way round. Anyone messsging us asking us to meet for coffee and buddy up are going to be met with a delete. We like nsa and sex with strangers. And along the way, we have met some lovely people that we now count as friends.

We all play as we choose, no need for abuse.

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over a year ago

I'm thinking that the most significant factor in the OP not getting meets is that they'd accidentally blocked couples.

Is your sex life suddenly taking off now OP?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"We have the very same problem although we are looking for a couple and possibly a female ..But saying that not to use as a toy ..we all want to enjoy each other together..

Where are we going wrong..

Thankyou x"

I think you need to start your own thread, as people are responding to the OP and things can get confusing

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Back to the OP. I think your profile is much better now, more friendly

But yes, as others have said, the lovely ladies on here are very much in demand! I see you're going to a club tomorrow, good idea and hope you find some fun!

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds...

Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you.."

I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves

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By *arumcoupleCouple
over a year ago

salisbury

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over a year ago

"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds...

Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you..

I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves

Oooops sorry

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds...

Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you..

I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves

Oooops sorry

No problem, it's better to start your own thread rather than jump on someone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U are both hot...love ur pics

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over a year ago

"Point taken hadn't realised all the we before.But certainly not 3 year olds...

Trying to put things across as both of us is what was meant and to be equally involved so using we from now is a no go thank you..

I think this was in reply to the OP not yourselves

Sorry again xx

Oooops sorry

No problem, it's better to start your own thread rather than jump on someone else's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U are both hot...love ur pics

Is this to us ? Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is our profile to harsh?

We are just normal people looking to expand our sex life.

We've been told we're both good looking.

Just can't seem to get any action!

Ta x"

your not the only one with that trouble

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x

Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two.

You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less!

Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol.

You think they’re selfish because they don’t want to do socials

We all play as we choose, no need for abuse. "

Absolutely , well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swap = no swap

Best forget it.

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over a year ago

Whereas we all have the right to play as we choose, sometimes it is fruitful to go outside the box. If the OP feels they don’t have time to incorporate the social aspect into their time with a lady or couple, this could well mean the difference between having some fun and not having some fun. When we meet privately, we don’t just consider our needs, we will always ask what our potential playmate wants. Some of the best fun we’ve had was when we went outside the comfort of our little box. I would advise the OP reconsider their position on meeting socially, especially if they are interested in meeting single ladies. I will also advise that if you treat playmates as friends then you get the same respect in return. The OP is very worried about timewasters. We never worry about that because it doesn’t happen to us, and we believe it’s because our friendship style approach to swinging generates loyalty.

Mrs

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"Whereas we all have the right to play as we choose, sometimes it is fruitful to go outside the box. If the OP feels they don’t have time to incorporate the social aspect into their time with a lady or couple, this could well mean the difference between having some fun and not having some fun. When we meet privately, we don’t just consider our needs, we will always ask what our potential playmate wants. Some of the best fun we’ve had was when we went outside the comfort of our little box. I would advise the OP reconsider their position on meeting socially, especially if they are interested in meeting single ladies. I will also advise that if you treat playmates as friends then you get the same respect in return. The OP is very worried about timewasters. We never worry about that because it doesn’t happen to us, and we believe it’s because our friendship style approach to swinging generates loyalty.

Mrs"

100%

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Reworded our profile.

We are new and learning, we understand we won't suit everyone, but we also don't want to sound like prima Donnas!

Its all a bit scary!

We simply font have time to socialise, it's not a wham bam thing, we get the need for attraction and connection, but we haven't got time for weeks of meetings having coffee

that's not why we're here.

That's for the constructive criticism x

Jeeze how selfish! Still all about you two.

You have time for sex but no time to introduce yourselves and as such put the other woman at ease, all over a simply coffee. Which I may add only has to take an hour or less!

Oh but I'm sure you have time to socialise with everyday friends and family though! Lol.

You think they’re selfish because they don’t want to do socials

We all play as we choose, no need for abuse. "

There really wasn't any need, everyone swings in a way that suits them, there's no right or wrong way. For the record we don't do socials either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I bet you wished you never asked now!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Instant profile changes. Cool.

Single men take note.

Proof any thread can turn in to a man-basher.........

I am surprised it took so many replies before someone brought that up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are having the same difficulty although we are a bit fussy

Trouble is a large majority of single straight Guy's are not single and not straight

Most men want a shag, they want it NOW and are not fussy what they shag.

We are sure that there must be some decent patient men here who are looking for more than just a one off shag with anything.

We await in hope

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