FabSwingers.com forum: (Advice) Cant meet anyone

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi everyone, Im hoping for a little advice.

So i know that I could add more profile photos, but I like to only share photos once someone likes what they read Instead of just skimming through photos and moving on. I have people add me/accept a friend friend request just to look at my photos and then I don't hear back. Im not desperate by any means. But its making very curious as to why I cant get a meet, yet there are people with no photos listed yet have several verifications. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe put more about what you are looking for, your preferences, what you are offering a woman etc...and i'd lose the comment about friend requests...most will ignore them from people they havent chatted to anyway, and some block for sending requests from people they dont know from chatting already...and more pics would help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the feedback, the image issue is expected. However in regards to the update, I have actually received a 5 friend requests from women. but only one conversation followed and she doesn't seem to really care about an eventual meet up, i'm not pressuring the meet at all but seems like she just wants to chat. (I must be really ugly lol).

That aside, thank you for replying.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" its making very curious as to why I cant get a meet, yet there are people with no photos listed yet have several verifications. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Maybe these people have been to clubs or socials, rather than using their profile to arrange a meet.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

"Thank you for the feedback, the image issue is expected. However in regards to the update, I have actually received a 5 friend requests from women. but only one conversation followed and she doesn't seem to really care about an eventual meet up, i'm not pressuring the meet at all but seems like she just wants to chat. (I must be really ugly lol).

That aside, thank you for replying."

You do realise putting yourself down is not sexy at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just going to throw my 10 cents in ok.

The first paragraph, why are you apologising: you didn't make it hard to communicate did you?

I'd lose that whole paragraph. Starting any conversation as an apologist sends the wrong message.

You're clearly articulate. Use that to your advantage. Other than that

nice profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blaming others on the site for your lack of meets/interest, is a no..and you appear to claiming this after several weeks on the site.

sending random friends requests to make you get noticed makes almost no sense...in fact it gives you the opposite effect of making others think you think you are more special than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, lack of photos but you're in good shape so will probably get away with it.

I'd never respond to a random friend request, and most ladies on here wouldn't either.

You prefer gym fit ladies, which are probably one the smaller body type groups on here (no pun intended). I wouldn't respond to anyone who messaged with this in their profile as I'm clearly not gym fit, so make sure the women you message fit this criteria otherwise if will probably put off ladies who aren't.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I really dislike it when I get random friends requests, I dont think I've ever accepted one!! They just get deleted after a while although I know if you leave them you can't get another request from that person ~ quite handy.

You're profile is quite nice, you can accommodate and you're tall... I think you need some more pics!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Be more positive about yourself. Say what you're good at and what you're after.Random friend requests sent to me get deleted and blocked most ladies/couples won't like you doing this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, lack of photos but you're in good shape so will probably get away with it."

Lets cut the bull and be honest here. This is all you'll need...plus as another has commented, you're tall and accommodate.

The words really won't get them calling half as much as the pics lol use what you have.

Be honest, don't sound so sorry and work that pout like a zoolander loving mofo

A picture paints a thousand words an all

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

Seven weeks is a mere blink of an eye in the FAB time zone.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I would get rid of the 'us men have it hard bit'and adding people as friends winds most women up ,when you haven't spoken v much .

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile has negative connotations, maybe re write it just keeping what you are looking for rather than what you don't like etc, also get rid of the spelling mistake too. Perhaps one or two additional pics will help too.

As you probably know, it can be fairly challenging for a single guy on here regardless of all factors.

It's often simply a numbers game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, lack of photos but you're in good shape so will probably get away with it.

I'd never respond to a random friend request, and most ladies on here wouldn't either.

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it still reads poorly im afraid...your dejection comes out strongly. The difference between men and women in regards to chasing sex is not going to be any different in fab. You are clearly confident and have listed skills and likes ( so many dont think to put it )

No harm in putting the physical type you prefer but know deep down that this reduces your choices a lot.

Nobody believes the "just a massage" type comments

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" its making very curious as to why I cant get a meet, yet there are people with no photos listed yet have several verifications. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Maybe these people have been to clubs or socials, rather than using their profile to arrange a meet. "

That's a very good point. However clubs are not my thing, but thank you for clarifying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just going to throw my 10 cents in ok.

The first paragraph, why are you apologising: you didn't make it hard to communicate did you?

I'd lose that whole paragraph. Starting any conversation as an apologist sends the wrong message.

You're clearly articulate. Use that to your advantage. Other than that

nice profile. "

Thank you and good point, I will 100% start on a positive note. Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

About being ugly, It was a joke, a bad one at that. But still a joke

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all of the messages, I am very grateful that you would take the time out of your day to reply

so thank you all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just going to throw my 10 cents in ok.

The first paragraph, why are you apologising: you didn't make it hard to communicate did you?

I'd lose that whole paragraph. Starting any conversation as an apologist sends the wrong message.

You're clearly articulate. Use that to your advantage. Other than that

nice profile.

Thank you and good point, I will 100% start on a positive note. Thanks"

You have a lot going for you, but you definitely need more pics, and most folks hate getting friend invitations out of the blue - send a nice message instead, attaching the pics you want them to see. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you and good point, I will 100% start on a positive note. Thanks"

No worries. Just recentre your expectations of here.

Think what you REALLY want: a quick fling, an introduction to the club scene, maybe exploring ideas you've already tried or want to. If its the former, then seriously. Just try tinder, it'll work faster than this place will.

I've been here a week...my wallet is fuller than my inbox, and I'm broke!! But it doesn't matter right now because i didn't expect it any other way.

Just keep positive

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By *otlovefun42Couple
over a year ago

Costa Blanca Spain...

" its making very curious as to why I cant get a meet, yet there are people with no photos listed yet have several verifications. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Maybe these people have been to clubs or socials, rather than using their profile to arrange a meet.

That's a very good point. However clubs are not my thing, but thank you for clarifying."

Just relying on a profile on here is like trying to take the engine out of a car with just a screwdriver.

Sure the screwdriver will come in handy but you need a whole range of other tools to get the job done.

It is no different in the swinger world.

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By *emel9Man
over a year ago

West Midlands

" its making very curious as to why I cant get a meet, yet there are people with no photos listed yet have several verifications. Any advice would be greatly appreciated

Maybe these people have been to clubs or socials, rather than using their profile to arrange a meet.

That's a very good point. However clubs are not my thing, but thank you for clarifying.

Just relying on a profile on here is like trying to take the engine out of a car with just a screwdriver.

Sure the screwdriver will come in handy but you need a whole range of other tools to get the job done.

It is no different in the swinger world."

So so true...

Forums,

clubs

Socials

etc..

Those plus all the other advice here is the only way to really build up a genuine profile.

Don't be negative, be clear on what you like/seek.

Remember there is nothing wrong with being selective (picky), but you are in a majority seeking people that have a lot of choice. When you narrow the criteria, which we all do, then you narrow your potential for meets.

I believe in being fairly open minded as the many socials I've attended have shown me just how lovely people of all ages, shapes, sizes and backgrounds can be. But that's just me.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

See your profile picture, maybe it would be better to crop your head out, as when someone has blocked a a head out or part of a head, like when somebody does the eyes, it makes me think very much of Horror films or murder mystery suspense when somebody's cut their partner's head off a photo of something.

Fat may of course only be my opinion, but whenever I see a photo like that it always reminds me of those kind of films

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