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Is being normal enough?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just as the title suggests.

I am not hung like a donkey and all night is a bit much.

I have a caring job, I have a degree and my own house. How do I sift through the wide boys?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh I know the photo is an issue. I do explain in each introduction. It’s valid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to some socials meet people and get some verifications

A lot of us want normal but it takes a lot of patience on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Try having a profile mate that helps and most women want normal so that's not a issues your just making it one.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Try having a profile mate that helps and most women want normal so that's not a issues your just making it one. "

This.

I wouldn’t meet you, or even reply to a message, because I know nothing about you. Women don’t want ‘wide boys’, they want normal guys who make an effort.

Your profile says you don’t make an effort.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, being normal is enough.

What were your expectations when you joined and why do you think your lack of success so far is due to women wanted the abnormal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just as the title suggests.

I am not hung like a donkey and all night is a bit much.

I have a caring job, I have a degree and my own house. How do I sift through the wide boys? "

Normal is perfectly fine and yes its enough. However, normal doesnt have to mean boring and dull. Its all about effort, put some effort in!!!

Poppy

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

The most basic profile text which says nothing about you, no public pictures and no verifications. We'd pass you by without thought if you messaged us.

Sit back, have a think and then update your profile text and add a public pic or two.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The answer to "How do I sift through the wide boys?" is you don't

Instead of worrying about others, make yourself stand out as best you can. You can do that in a number of ways, including having a decent and informative profile that is backed up by a set of pics that give people an idea of what you look like and what kind of body you have.

Getting along to clubs and socials, or getting active in the forums are all good ways to get to know people and get yourself known too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you have to sift through the wife boys? That's our job.

Also, there are many other types of men we have to sift through, to find the ones we like.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Normal is fine but it needs to normal with a decent profile. You need several pics, one for use in the avatar, doesn't even matter if it's just your elbow, and some text which gives people a sense of who you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would you have to sift through the wife boys? That's our job.

Also, there are many other types of men we have to sift through, to find the ones we like. "

" Wife boys"

Brilliant!

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Why would you have to sift through the wife boys? That's our job.

Also, there are many other types of men we have to sift through, to find the ones we like.

" Wife boys"

Brilliant!"

There are a lot of those too!!

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London


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I have a caring job, I have a degree and my own house. "

Those things are fine, but they aren't sexy in of themselves.

Are you interesting? Funny? Charming? A good listener? You need to have more to offer than just a job and a house.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

Oh dear !

Profile tells me nothing about you whatsoever. You want to meet women . Well you will need to try harder to get to meet anyone. I run socials in Stoke area, so keep a look out for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never try to compete with someone else be yourself: aspire yes, compete no.

You try and change to be up with the "wide boys" and women will smell that a mile off...

Life lesson: never try to bullshit a woman. Rarely works in the end lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think ‘normal’ is enough. In my view sex appeal is the most important factor on the swing scene.

Mrs

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

I have a caring job, I have a degree and my own house. "

So did Dr Harold Shipman.

Having all three does not necessarily make you good a catch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a caring job, I have a degree and my own house. "

So did Dr Harold Shipman.

Having all three does not necessarily make you good a catch. "

Ouch!

Are you available for roasts

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I don’t think ‘normal’ is enough."

Indeed. You have to be FAB normal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just as the title suggests.

I am not hung like a donkey and all night is a bit much.

I have a caring job, I have a degree and my own house. How do I sift through the wide boys? "

What do you mean by wide boys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try having a profile mate that helps and most women want normal so that's not a issues your just making it one.

This.

I wouldn’t meet you, or even reply to a message, because I know nothing about you. Women don’t want ‘wide boys’, they want normal guys who make an effort.

Your profile says you don’t make an effort."

this

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By *ack in gillMan
over a year ago

Skegness/ ingoldmells

Have a shave & more pro file content x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just as the title suggests.

I am not hung like a donkey and all night is a bit much.

I have a caring job, I have a degree and my own house. How do I sift through the wide boys? "

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it's more than enough !! being a nice guy is much more appealing to decent folk...anyhow it's true imo it's how u use it and how u make the other person feel

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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago

Henley Arden

Its funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging world operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

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By *olieandSlaveCouple
over a year ago

Stafford


"Oh I know the photo is an issue. I do explain in each introduction. It’s valid! "

You dont have a camera?

If people are going to recognise you from a cheeky bum shot, they probably wouldn't mind you being in this site!

No picture just suggests laziness to me. I am not going to make an effort to someone who can't make an effort I am afraid!

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