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"Unfortunate, but lesson learnt...don't fork out in advance. There are genuine couples here, you know that. Don't let this put you off, and better luck next time. " i know i only booked this afternoon too so even if i cancel it i'll lose 65 quid.... am actually at home now! i hope i can find some gen people soon | |||
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"Sorry OP. You have been on the site for 5 weeks and you are already whingeing that you hope you find genuine people soon. There are loads of genuine people on this site. You have been let down tonight. Maybe you should have arranged to meet these people in a bar or such like before you booked a hotel room." Thats a bit harsh! Poor bugger is out £65 so I think he is entitled to a little bit of a moan. | |||
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"Sorry OP. You have been on the site for 5 weeks and you are already whingeing that you hope you find genuine people soon. There are loads of genuine people on this site. You have been let down tonight. Maybe you should have arranged to meet these people in a bar or such like before you booked a hotel room. Thats a bit harsh! Poor bugger is out £65 so I think he is entitled to a little bit of a moan." Why is it harsh? Why book a hotel room in hope that people you have never met before are going to turn up? At least meet people on neutral ground before spending hard earned cash. It makes sense. | |||
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"Sorry OP. You have been on the site for 5 weeks and you are already whingeing that you hope you find genuine people soon. There are loads of genuine people on this site. You have been let down tonight. Maybe you should have arranged to meet these people in a bar or such like before you booked a hotel room. Thats a bit harsh! Poor bugger is out £65 so I think he is entitled to a little bit of a moan." i have been on here before and to be honest this is my 1st big let down. it just would be nicer if they kept in touch and then didn't block me. why block me it was perfectly amiable, i didn't get pissed off but no contact, a block and £65 down ? how would you feel. its like when you say you'll meet someone and then they skirt around their address or where to meet. | |||
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"Sorry OP. You have been on the site for 5 weeks and you are already whingeing that you hope you find genuine people soon. There are loads of genuine people on this site. You have been let down tonight. Maybe you should have arranged to meet these people in a bar or such like before you booked a hotel room. Thats a bit harsh! Poor bugger is out £65 so I think he is entitled to a little bit of a moan. Why is it harsh? Why book a hotel room in hope that people you have never met before are going to turn up? At least meet people on neutral ground before spending hard earned cash. It makes sense. " Of course it makes sense, but hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I am sure the OP realises this now. However, he was asked to arrange a hotel, did so, then was let down at such short notice he could neither cancel the room in time nor arrange fun with people who would turn up. Saying 'neener its your own fault' is a bit mean IMO. Obviously you think the couple behaved reasonably and the OP is totally at fault. | |||
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"Sorry OP. You have been on the site for 5 weeks and you are already whingeing that you hope you find genuine people soon. There are loads of genuine people on this site. You have been let down tonight. Maybe you should have arranged to meet these people in a bar or such like before you booked a hotel room. Thats a bit harsh! Poor bugger is out £65 so I think he is entitled to a little bit of a moan. Why is it harsh? Why book a hotel room in hope that people you have never met before are going to turn up? At least meet people on neutral ground before spending hard earned cash. It makes sense. Of course it makes sense, but hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I am sure the OP realises this now. However, he was asked to arrange a hotel, did so, then was let down at such short notice he could neither cancel the room in time nor arrange fun with people who would turn up. Saying 'neener its your own fault' is a bit mean IMO. Obviously you think the couple behaved reasonably and the OP is totally at fault." No. I don't think the couple behaved reasonably at all. I am just stating that it is very silly to book a hotel for a first time meet. I do have a certain amount of sympathy for the OP.Just saying that I would never spend money on a hotel on somebody we had never met before. | |||
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"thats true, but they seemed genuine people. it was the fact they said they had a family crisis at 7, they couldn't reply to my concerned texts but had time to block me on here. why agree to a hotel room if you don't intend to turn up. i'm just disappointed really, that people get off on this sort of behaviour" How genuine ? Did you speak to them both on the phone ? | |||
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"I do sympathise with you, before I had my own place to play, I had arranged a meet with a guy who was paying for a hotel, he wanted me to book it and he would pay me back when he came to the meet, something told me not to and I told him a white lie that I had booked it, to see what would happen and was right I never heard from him again and found myself blocked, I hope you have reported the couple" Ouch, thats just mean! | |||
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"Sorry OP. You have been on the site for 5 weeks and you are already whingeing that you hope you find genuine people soon. There are loads of genuine people on this site. You have been let down tonight. Maybe you should have arranged to meet these people in a bar or such like before you booked a hotel room. Thats a bit harsh! Poor bugger is out £65 so I think he is entitled to a little bit of a moan. Why is it harsh? Why book a hotel room in hope that people you have never met before are going to turn up? At least meet people on neutral ground before spending hard earned cash. It makes sense. Of course it makes sense, but hindsight is a wonderful thing, and I am sure the OP realises this now. However, he was asked to arrange a hotel, did so, then was let down at such short notice he could neither cancel the room in time nor arrange fun with people who would turn up. Saying 'neener its your own fault' is a bit mean IMO. Obviously you think the couple behaved reasonably and the OP is totally at fault. No. I don't think the couple behaved reasonably at all. I am just stating that it is very silly to book a hotel for a first time meet. I do have a certain amount of sympathy for the OP.Just saying that I would never spend money on a hotel on somebody we had never met before." i have to agree,but we all hopefully live and learn | |||
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"That's a shafting - you have every right to be angry. But next time organise a no-strings drink to see if they are genuine. I had a cpl run me around yesterday and eventually block me (they made the first approach too), and as angry as I am, I'm glad I didn't travel miles to be screwed for the wrong reason." they made 1st contact too. they weren't from braintree were they? | |||
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"clever because they blocked me i can't report them" If you still have a message from them you can report from there. | |||
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"clever because they blocked me i can't report them If you still have a message from them you can report from there. " thanks, will do exactly that then | |||
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"thanks guys you're all right of course, i'm obviously too trusting! never spoke to either of them. how do i report them?" You never spoke to them and made a bookinf Thats not trusting hun,thats daft.Any gen couple will talk on the phone prior to a meet. Better luck next time | |||
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"I think it's absolutely rotten of people to cancel at the 11th hour, knowing that someone has parted with their hard-earned to make arrangements for everyone to enjoy. It would perhaps be okay to cancel 12 or 24 hours in advance. I think that's a reasonable scale to get replacements. I'm just wondering how many there are out there that are obsessed with the idea rather than the practice of meeting people. Disappointing. Wolf " sometimes there are real reasons to cancel im sure, illness, family problem etc. so even a last min cancel could still happen, but share the costs, or atleast offer to why should one side pay anyway? | |||
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"Replacement fun! WTF ?" to replace someone who is unable to turn up with someone else. who may/will. He had a hotel room and why not.... He hardly sold his soul to the first lot...... and thankfully as they didn't turn up. | |||
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"Replacement fun! WTF ? to replace someone who is unable to turn up with someone else. who may/will. He had a hotel room and why not.... He hardly sold his soul to the first lot...... and thankfully as they didn't turn up." Thats what I'd have done!! Put a meet today up, messaged some others and gone to the hotel anyway. | |||
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"clever because they blocked me i can't report them If you still have a message from them you can report from there. thanks, will do exactly that then" Good on you! In future, if I were you, I'd make 100% there are two people attached to the 'couples' profile by speaking to both of them on the phone or seeing them on cam if a social meet first isn't possible. Once you are satisfied the 'couple' exist and you are all up for having fun.... then book your hotel room. I've got to say I would have been a bit weary over the fact that they contacted you first. I'm not saying couples (genuine ones) don't ever contact single males first... but it's not the regular trend... it really does sound like you got well and truely stitched up. I hope you have a lot of fun on here in the future x | |||
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"Replacement fun! WTF ? to replace someone who is unable to turn up with someone else. who may/will. He had a hotel room and why not.... He hardly sold his soul to the first lot...... and thankfully as they didn't turn up. Thats what I'd have done!! Put a meet today up, messaged some others and gone to the hotel anyway. " i tried my absolute best with that but noone wanted to meet or even replied | |||
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"The best advice would be to make sure the next " couple" you arrange a meet with are actually a couple, phone, cam or both would tell you there are at least two of them. I would advise more checks before arranging and meet at a pub before booking any room. I would do as others have said and report them. PS you can still report people who are blocked, on the left hand side of their profile it will still have a report button." How can you do this if you are blocked from _iewing their profile???? | |||
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"The best advice would be to make sure the next " couple" you arrange a meet with are actually a couple, phone, cam or both would tell you there are at least two of them. I would advise more checks before arranging and meet at a pub before booking any room. I would do as others have said and report them. PS you can still report people who are blocked, on the left hand side of their profile it will still have a report button. How can you do this if you are blocked from _iewing their profile????" even if u r blocked u still have the facility at the left to block and report.... | |||
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"was looing forward to a meet with a couple tonight. at 7 they cancelled but said i could go to theirs. i'd already booked a room as she said she was very loud and didn't want to disturb my neighbours. no contact on phones since half 7 and now i'm blocked from their profile. where are the genuine people ? wasted my time as well as my money" ive had it a few times where i have booked a room then the guys cancelled My advice to you is never book a room for a first meet As you know they may not turn up but even if they did, you may not like each other in the flesh so you still have a un used hotel room that been paid for | |||
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"was looing forward to a meet with a couple tonight. at 7 they cancelled but said i could go to theirs. i'd already booked a room as she said she was very loud and didn't want to disturb my neighbours. no contact on phones since half 7 and now i'm blocked from their profile. where are the genuine people ? wasted my time as well as my money ive had it a few times where i have booked a room then the guys cancelled My advice to you is never book a room for a first meet As you know they may not turn up but even if they did, you may not like each other in the flesh so you still have a un used hotel room that been paid for " +1 | |||
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"this is why i generally meet at chams now unless its someone i know will be there" yes jacq meeting at chams (or in a good club)does seem a better idea!. | |||
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