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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So we have been on fab for about 6 now, had plenty of chats and swapped plenty of pics n vids.

Seems we get to the point with a girl where we are on kik or whatsapp arranging for a meet, a meet is arranged and then we simply get 'ghosted' as in they completly go dark and ignore us?

We are polite, cheeky and flirty where required? Not sure what we are doing wrong?

We have had 4 no shows in the last 3 weeks sort of deflates our balloon for doing this sort of stuff.

We know we are looking for a small percentage of wgat the site has. Simgle females muat have their pick of the litter on this site, but even still were not that bad, are we?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

6 weeks**

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe

It has been like that for us for the past 3 years since we have been in this lifestyle unfortunately. Being a woman and normally the one who messages other females i'd like to think i know how to have a convo woman to woman but even i'm struggling lol we either get very short replies or none! Then things just fizzle out.

We changed our angle now and are only looking for men as women are just too difficult ( and yes still mrs talking ) we still have our fair share of difficulties but the diamonds are out there.

I would probably just advise you to keep trying as there may be a gorgeous unicorn out there waiting for you. All the best of luck Mrs H x

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

If you have had 4 no-shows in only 3 weeks I'd say you need to look at your selection process.... that's more no-shows than we have had in 10 years!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like it's men having a wank. Do you do sex chat on kik OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yea but have video chat to ensure it is who we are chatting too x

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

OMG do you not arrange a social or the very least let the ladies have a phone convo? Seems like you’ve been a tad unlucky but sadly have to question your selection process, there are hundreds of picture collectors & men claiming to be women to get what they want, obviously they wouldn’t go through with a meet!

Make sure your meets are meet verified that’s a good starting point, & do plenty of homework first.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea but have video chat to ensure it is who we are chatting too x"

Perhaps they just change their mind and they are too childish to let you know in an adult way and just disappear. Think of it as a lucky escape. xx

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

6 weeks? Punched lasagne?

Am I allowed to ask about your expectations?

I’m sure you’re both really lovely people but it might be worth looking at your selection criteria. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we have been on fab for about 6 now, had plenty of chats and swapped plenty of pics n vids.

Seems we get to the point with a girl where we are on kik or whatsapp arranging for a meet, a meet is arranged and then we simply get 'ghosted' as in they completly go dark and ignore us?

We are polite, cheeky and flirty where required? Not sure what we are doing wrong?

We have had 4 no shows in the last 3 weeks sort of deflates our balloon for doing this sort of stuff.

We know we are looking for a small percentage of wgat the site has. Simgle females muat have their pick of the litter on this site, but even still were not that bad, are we? "

Well i been told by a couple of member there are a lot of time wasters on here sorry to here it happening to u guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi

I'm a single woman on here.

I'm not seeking couples but I am trying to imagine the scenario based on what you're saying and your profile.

My opinion would be, if both of you are too full on during conversations, that would put me off.

You have to remember, you were talking to a single lady who's trying to pluck up the courage to meet a couple alone. Not just for a convo and coffee but sex with you both.

Fantasy is one thing but the reality once set In, is quite another. Especially if she's never had a threesome of any variation before.

Or may be it was going to be her first time sleeping with a woman? Again the fantasy is great but a fantasy about to come true, can be daunting.

Quite possible their nerves got the better of them. No fault of yours or theirs.

Just my take on it anyway. Don't let it get to you. Move on or maybe visit a club??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would just like to add its not just females who do the "no show" thing - men do it as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi you do get a load of blokes pretending to be single females. And also a lot of single females that chicken out at the last minute

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi

I'm a single woman on here.

I'm not seeking couples but I am trying to imagine the scenario based on what you're saying and your profile.

My opinion would be, if both of you are too full on during conversations, that would put me off.

You have to remember, you were talking to a single lady who's trying to pluck up the courage to meet a couple alone. Not just for a convo and coffee but sex with you both.

Fantasy is one thing but the reality once set In, is quite another. Especially if she's never had a threesome of any variation before.

Or may be it was going to be her first time sleeping with a woman? Again the fantasy is great but a fantasy about to come true, can be daunting.

Quite possible their nerves got the better of them. No fault of yours or theirs.

Just my take on it anyway. Don't let it get to you. Move on or maybe visit a club?? "

I can attest to this. Probably why I've met most couples I've played with at a club or party. It is a little overwhelming to meet a couple as a bisexual woman, all involved have to get on and be attracted to one another.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

Unfortunately, it's a reality that this and similar sites are frequented by fakes, timewasters, dreamers and wannabees...

....many of us could say "if I had a quid for every...", and even those who've been around a long time and like to think they can spot them still get strung along...

....it's small consolation, but you're not alone - the trick is to shrug these occurrences off and hope the next one works out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi you do get a load of blokes pretending to be single females. And also a lot of single females that chicken out at the last minute "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we have been on fab for about 6 now, had plenty of chats and swapped plenty of pics n vids.

Seems we get to the point with a girl where we are on kik or whatsapp arranging for a meet, a meet is arranged and then we simply get 'ghosted' as in they completly go dark and ignore us?

We are polite, cheeky and flirty where required? Not sure what we are doing wrong?

We have had 4 no shows in the last 3 weeks sort of deflates our balloon for doing this sort of stuff.

We know we are looking for a small percentage of what the site has. Single females must have their pick of the litter on this site, but even still were not that bad, are we? "

The two of you are hotties, for real!

Do social meets first to break the ice, I want to play with couples & the idea is exciting but scary!

I'm going to try a party first or even just same room with another couple. Maybe try that. But social meets are a must!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we have been on fab for about 6 now, had plenty of chats and swapped plenty of pics n vids.

Seems we get to the point with a girl where we are on kik or whatsapp arranging for a meet, a meet is arranged and then we simply get 'ghosted' as in they completly go dark and ignore us?

We are polite, cheeky and flirty where required? Not sure what we are doing wrong?

We have had 4 no shows in the last 3 weeks sort of deflates our balloon for doing this sort of stuff.

We know we are looking for a small percentage of what the site has. Single females must have their pick of the litter on this site, but even still were not that bad, are we?

The two of you are hotties, for real!

Do social meets first to break the ice, I want to play with couples & the idea is exciting but scary!

I'm going to try a party first or even just same room with another couple. Maybe try that. But social meets are a must!!"

Visiting a club might help your chances too

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a couple a few years ago. Had social first and then met at theirs. It can be very intimidating being the odd one out and you get the feeling you are there as their 'plaything'.

Recently went to Chams with a friend and played with couples there. Whole experience so much better.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"Hi you do get a load of blokes pretending to be single females. And also a lot of single females that chicken out at the last minute "

Alot of the time single fems are put off by something one of the couple has said, or they just get a vibe that something isn't quite right. Not about chickening out for me, more that I wouldnt hesitate in cancelling a meet and going off my gut instinct.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Try to hit some socials, maybe a club or two, you'll soon learn to pick the swingers d=from the wasters. x

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Would just like to add its not just females who do the "no show" thing - men do it as well"

Absolutely. It's insane to think that some men would rather sit in front of a computer wanking over words on a screen than actually have sex.

Then they post on the forum complaining about not getting any meets.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

As a single female I have to like both the male and the female which isn’t easy. You aren’t verified and that would put me off. I’d definitely need a social before deciding to go any further.

As others have said, try a club. Get verified. Go to socials.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"So we have been on fab for about 6 now, had plenty of chats and swapped plenty of pics n vids.

Seems we get to the point with a girl where we are on kik or whatsapp arranging for a meet, a meet is arranged and then we simply get 'ghosted' as in they completly go dark and ignore us?

Pretty much sums up my most recent experience with Fab but with couples. Single females are much less flakey.

We are polite, cheeky and flirty where required? Not sure what we are doing wrong?

We have had 4 no shows in the last 3 weeks sort of deflates our balloon for doing this sort of stuff.

We know we are looking for a small percentage of wgat the site has. Simgle females muat have their pick of the litter on this site, but even still were not that bad, are we? "

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Stick to chatting on fab. Don't sex chat or pic swap. Speak on cam or phone before meeting and make the first one a social me. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this a lot from users in general.

It’s very hit and miss on here they are either way too thirsty or absolute idiot timewasters that cancel on the day or ghost.

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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago

South Fife

Unfortunately there are a lot of timewasters here, which is a shame. I must admit I have had to cancel a meet or two...but I always let the couple know asap. Sounds like you have been a bit unlucky, but I have been involved with a couple who had arranged for me and another guy to entertain the lady....both times the other guy didn`t turn up....a common problem I`m afraid.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Hi you do get a load of blokes pretending to be single females. And also a lot of single females that chicken out at the last minute

Alot of the time single fems are put off by something one of the couple has said, or they just get a vibe that something isn't quite right. Not about chickening out for me, more that I wouldnt hesitate in cancelling a meet and going off my gut instinct."

This exactly. If one of the couple said something to me or made me feel like I was being chosen as a plaything I would then decline, which has actually happened to me on a different site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd suggest a club or atleast an organised social event first.

I once had a couple cancel on me when I was on my way to the meet.... They gave some ridiculous excuse..... I ended up in tears and deleted my profile after it as I'd spent a small fortune on a new outfit and transport to get there.

Good luck..... Not all single girls are time wasters. Xx

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