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Is my straight partner bi??

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By *randy Love OP   Woman
over a year ago

My bed.. But I'd sooner be in yours.

I am on here as a single but my partner also has a profile and we have a couples profile.. He recently had a new phone and said I could use the old one for our granddaughter to play on.. So thought I'd check it make sure there was nothing on that she shouldn't see.. His kik app was still active on our WiFi and there a few messages to and from men.. This has come as a bit of a shock as I only have to mention a 3sum and he's against it.. He's totally straight so he says.. Do I ask him or not??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ask! But don't make him feel like you're attacking him, just curious!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Have you read the content of the messages?

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

It might be his way of letting you know? He knew you would go through the phone before giving it to your grandchild, just a thought?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Surely it's entirely dependant on the content of the conversations...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would ask! But don't make him feel like you're attacking him, just curious!"

I agree with this lady. Be careful how you phrase it as he may go on the defensive and it'll be harder to get the truth out of him. Been there, done that! Good Luck!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I am on here as a single but my partner also has a profile and we have a couples profile.. He recently had a new phone and said I could use the old one for our granddaughter to play on.. So thought I'd check it make sure there was nothing on that she shouldn't see.. His kik app was still active on our WiFi and there a few messages to and from men.. This has come as a bit of a shock as I only have to mention a 3sum and he's against it.. He's totally straight so he says.. Do I ask him or not?? "

Ask him be careful how you phrase thing men tend to get defencive or accuse you of accusing them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many men I've met are "totally straight"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did the messages say?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I am on here as a single but my partner also has a profile and we have a couples profile.. He recently had a new phone and said I could use the old one for our granddaughter to play on.. So thought I'd check it make sure there was nothing on that she shouldn't see.. His kik app was still active on our WiFi and there a few messages to and from men.. This has come as a bit of a shock as I only have to mention a 3sum and he's against it.. He's totally straight so he says.. Do I ask him or not?? "

What do you want to do? Do you want to go on with your relationship with this unspoken between you?

If it was me I would just say what I'd seen and ask him to discuss it with you.

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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago

Over the roundabout and then turn right.

Many straight guys enjoy a 3 sum without playing with each other. Why he would be so against the idea?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How the hell have you not asked him already. You don't have to go into extreme detail...just mention it. The amount of couples that don't talk to each other astounds me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How the hell have you not asked him already. You don't have to go into extreme detail...just mention it. The amount of couples that don't talk to each other astounds me x"

Me too. It's really sad. It makes me want to stay single forever.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Many men I've met are "totally straight" "

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City


"How the hell have you not asked him already. You don't have to go into extreme detail...just mention it. The amount of couples that don't talk to each other astounds me x

Me too. It's really sad. It makes me want to stay single forever. "

Same!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"How the hell have you not asked him already. You don't have to go into extreme detail...just mention it. The amount of couples that don't talk to each other astounds me x

Me too. It's really sad. It makes me want to stay single forever.

Same! "

Watch out, the self righteous are on the move!

If it is a fairly recent thing and you have been together for a while, maybe he just hasn't found the right moment to talk about it. It can be difficult if he doesn't understand it himself. And it may just be that he "gets off" on sending and receiving messages from a distance.

But I agree with the comments on here about broaching the subject with some tact and understanding. Although, if he knows you have a single profile, he may already have seen this post!

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