FabSwingers.com forum: Receiving Underwhelming Face Pics

By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

"thankyou for the photos, however on this occasion there is no mutual attraction but we wish you every success in your ventures on Fab"

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I really struggle with saying thanks but no thanks, fortunately Red has no problem and is usually polite but to the point. There's no point leading people on after all.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!

"thankyou for the photos, however on this occasion there is no mutual attraction but we wish you every success in your ventures on Fab"

Something along the lines of this

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By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I like this too! It's tricky because this has happened a few times and the last thing we want to do is make people feel shitty but then we don't want to waste their time either.

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By *onforming_deviantWoman
over a year ago

hull

Hi there. Im polite about it... i think... and hold a normal convo... leaving longer breaks between messages... and when im up early I go back and block and delete... just looks like ive left... no hurt no foul haha

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By *iercedItMan
over a year ago

Mcr

I would prefer you returned a face pic and just said sorry not really our type but good luck and thanks. That would be the politest way, especially if the person has been putting the effort in.

In reality most just delete message but again if you exchanged a few messages and such it's a bit harsh.

If someone blocked me, I'd be thinking they recognised me or something. Which isn't a comfortable feeling.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman
over a year ago

Thanks but NO thanks from me

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By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

If someone blocked me, I'd be thinking they recognised me or something. Which isn't a comfortable feeling. "

Good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

I tell them 'sorry, not my type', a small percentage will abuse you but they are easily blocked. That is until they get you on fabguys too, even though you said no.

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We’ve come across the same issue, people messaging and then when you get pictures the attraction just isn’t there.

We go for your option 3 and personalise the message a bit so it’s not too formal or feels like a copy and paste. Usually along the lines of thanking them for the pic but saying the attraction isn’t really there for us, and wish them luck.

It’s only fair to let somebody know, especially if they’ve shared a face pic, and not just disappear. And unless you plan on taking one for the team to save someone’s feelings then the sooner you deal with it the better.

Great profile pics by the way OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a tricky one....

tbh we just dont contact people if they have no face pics for this very reason.

Consequently we seldom meet as a direct consequence of this ere site and attend clubs regularly.

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

3 is always appreciated.

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

For us we go through talking on here then in the phone and then face pics. If we get the face pics and we are not to keen we just reply with ours with the message like others are saying not our type. We prefer frank as it’s better than leading people on. We have had said to us that not our type by people. we are all grown ups even though it’s not nice saying it’s better than radio silence or blocking

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Block those ugly fux

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

It depends on whether they've sent the pic unsolicited in an opening message, or after some dialogue has taken place.

If it's unsolicited we have no qualms about simply deleting and blocking. We haven't asked for a pic.

If there's been some dialogue before the face pic then it's only polite to be honest.

Nobody should take offence if you don't fancy them, just as you shouldn't take offence if they don't fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually send a face pic with a first message, so don't normally receive a reply! I'd prefer "sorry you're a minger and I wouldn't touch you with a barge pole" to getting no response at all though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feign a heart attack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell them they are not my type and block them quick in case they get tetchy.

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By *uited for youMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

I find that when I'm not the type for a woman or couple they simply either don't reply and delete- which don't get me wrong, is fine, as I understand they must receive many, many messages compared to a single male.

But those that do reply say thanks for the message but you are not for us, happy swinging. And that is fine, doesn't upset me or anything, as I know you need that attraction. And I too reply with the same thing if I don't find the attraction there.

Of course, be prepared for those that can't take rejection and may get abusive- then just hit the block button and think nothing of it.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

3 and if they reply with a shitty message I'd block him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not for us but thanks for the interest .

if you get a thanks for replying back , fine

if you get a rude then block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nice to get a reply but I would guess that all the super models on here simply cannot find the time to reply to all us average looking Guys who simply cannot meet there high standards.I may change my name to John Merrick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest and say you are not what we are looking for.

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By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Some really good replies here folks, it's interesting to see different people's perspectives. It seems most prefer to be told gently rather than left in the dark which is understandable I guess!

One thing we worry about is offending people who we may later bump into at a party or a club - but I guess that would be far more awkward if you'd blocked them

Hot topic though by the look of things...! Like most people discretion is key for us so we don't even put face pics in our private gallery, they only get sent once we're chatting to someone so I guess we always run the risk of sending them to someone who isn't feeling it!

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By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Great profile pics by the way OP"

You too xx

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I would prefer you returned a face pic and just said sorry not really our type but good luck and thanks. That would be the politest way, especially if the person has been putting the effort in.

But why would you want a face pic sent back in this case ?

Feels a bit like Bullseye.......this is what you could have won.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer you returned a face pic and just said sorry not really our type but good luck and thanks. That would be the politest way, especially if the person has been putting the effort in.

But why would you want a face pic sent back in this case ?

Feels a bit like Bullseye.......this is what you could have won.

And then block

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By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I would prefer you returned a face pic and just said sorry not really our type but good luck and thanks. That would be the politest way, especially if the person has been putting the effort in.

But why would you want a face pic sent back in this case ?

Feels a bit like Bullseye.......this is what you could have won.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

Just reply and say sorry you're not my type.

I've done this loads.

No big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never answer a message unless they have sent us a face pic with first message anyway so we don't get to the stage of building up a confo only to have to say no.

If we do however get a face pic with a first message and we're not keen we always look for another reason to say no as wouldn't like to add to making someone start feeling self conscious or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We never answer a message unless they have sent us a face pic with first message anyway so we don't get to the stage of building up a confo only to have to say no.

Being made to feel self concious on here does that happen I cannot imagine that.If any single guys want to feel like the Elephant man just message a few ladies and you will soon get the feeling

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Assuming we had been chatting and it was going well to the point we swapped photos....

I treat people as I myself would like being treated. I've had to tell people "sorry, you're not my type, wish you the best of luck" and would appreciate the same as opposed to ignoring outright or unceremoniously blocking...that is immature and quite frankly, cowardly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assuming we had been chatting and it was going well to the point we swapped photos....

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just reply and say sorry you're not my type.

I've done this loads.

No big deal. "

This.

I've received many such a message after sending my ugly mug out there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would prefer you returned a face pic and just said sorry not really our type but good luck and thanks. That would be the politest way, especially if the person has been putting the effort in.

In reality most just delete message but again if you exchanged a few messages and such it's a bit harsh.

If someone blocked me, I'd be thinking they recognised me or something. Which isn't a comfortable feeling. "

We wouldn't send a face picture back to some one we have no intention of meeting after seeing theirs. We're lucky in some ways to be a couple because we can say our partner has seen the picture and, on reflection, they're not for us...no need for any further interaction. If they send anything else, we just delete and/or block. No drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

I will always let them know thanks but your not our type happy fabbing

My hubs goes mad about this but I would like the same response if I wasn’t someone’s type... I wouldn’t like to be blanked and blocked I would start thinking all sorts but I feel it’s best to be honest but saying it in the nicest possible was so not to hurt anyone’s feelings as we all have them and after all this site is about fun and happiness

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I always ask for a face pic early on in the chat because there's nothing worse than chatting for a while only to find that you don't fancy them when face pics have been exchanged!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I always ask for a face pic early on in the chat because there's nothing worse than chatting for a while only to find that you don't fancy them when face pics have been exchanged!"

Completely agree with this. It saves everyone involved hassle and unnecessary awkwardness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks, but not for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would choose option 3.

We think it’s plain rude when you chat to someone for ages then they block or don’t reply after seeing your face pics. It’s so easy to say ‘not our type...’ and move on.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I keep messaging but let it dwindle naturally. I’m really bad at saying thanks but no thanks. I did it that way to try and spare their feelings, however having read this thread, I’m rethinking that approach. Damn. Now I feel really bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assuming we had been chatting and it was going well to the point we swapped photos....

Spot on "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would let the messages dwindle, if it was a first message though I would just ignore. It's mostly beards and stuff that I am not into. I shave mine off xxx

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Have done the polite thanks but not interested a few times...got abuse back for it

Have ignored and got pestered

Have just deleted and got abuse for that too.

Thing is no matter what you do you leave yourself open to abuse no matter what.. If they get nasty we tend to reply with "thanks for showing your true colours" then block

We dont get much time for meets and for us..US being the correct statement we both have to agree... Its our home after all.

Some will wait, some wont, those who are dicks show it, those worth inviting over generally get it

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

Honesty is always the best policy, personally we don't send face pics back if there's no attraction , I know it seems more fair to send them but if you get a nutter that can't take the rejection it could become problematic.

To be honest most of the time we send out pics it's more in hope than anything else, so we're not surprised or upset when the conversation goes no further, I mean we're bloody gorgeous and everything but a four way attraction is incredibly hard to find through pics and messages alone, in the flesh is a different matter though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assuming we had been chatting and it was going well to the point we swapped photos....

Absolutely agree. We have noticed that many of the people who just block or don’t reply. They’re generally the fairly popular types who’ve had a few meets so we don’t reckon they are cowards. Mostly ignorant and rude as you are of no use to them once they know they are not meeting you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lot of experience with this as I'm very ugly. It's always better to not receive a reply.

Telling me something I already know adds salt to the wound. It's like saying:

"Thanks for the message Smithter, but you're unattractive so I won't be meeting you"

That really hurts unfortunately.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

"Have done the polite thanks but not interested a few times...got abuse back for it

Have ignored and got pestered

Have just deleted and got abuse for that too.

Thing is no matter what you do you leave yourself open to abuse no matter what.. If they get nasty we tend to reply with "thanks for showing your true colours" then block

We dont get much time for meets and for us..US being the correct statement we both have to agree... Its our home after all.

Some will wait, some wont, those who are dicks show it, those worth inviting over generally get it"

Exactly this. If it gets tiresome it becomes easier to head straight for the block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

This is exactly the reason why I request a face pic with the first message. That way if there’s no attraction there doesn’t have to be a conversation

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Nothing fullproof. We returned pics and other couple (male) got very pushy - when we said dont do meets blocked us - so you can't win

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By *iker boy 69Man
over a year ago

midlands

I prefer to recieve a message saying not our type than blanked completely but understand some people havent the time to write that 100 times to everyone. I usually just reply back to a knock back with a " no probs but cheers for the reply" and leave at that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Assuming we had been chatting and it was going well to the point we swapped photos....

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By *weetCandy2Couple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Just be honest and say you are not what we are looking for."

Exactly, honesty is best.

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By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Havant

I would much prefer a "sorry, you're not our type" to the silent treatment. The latter feels pretty soul destroying after you've been messaging backwards and forwards with someone and think you're getting on well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey evening all. Just thought id say my bit on this. When i send a message to a lady and get no reply im not offended in any way at all.i just move on. I get the message lol. If i get a reply great thets talk. Some crazy dude's out there

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

I just politely saying sorry there’s no attraction. It’s a shame and feels disappointing when you’ve connected by message first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

If the person or persons match what our profile is looking for,and there's no physical attraction we reply with a no thanks,if they have ignored what we are looking for,then a simple delete is suffice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply option 1: Your face pic convinced me I'm actually gay.

Option 2: There's not enough alcohol in the world.

Option 3: Dad? Dad?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought i must have messaged this person when i read the thread title! Seems not..

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By *ellowMelWoman
over a year ago

Poole

I think it's rude that you'd consider anything other than being honest and replying!

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By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I think it's rude that you'd consider anything other than being honest and replying!"

You think it’s rude that we consider that honesty might hurt someone’s feelings? Some people may be very blunt but that isn’t always a positive trait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!

"thankyou for the photos, however on this occasion there is no mutual attraction but we wish you every success in your ventures on Fab"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a rejection after swooping face pictures, I'd rather people be honest, but nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have done the polite thanks but not interested a few times...got abuse back for it

Have ignored and got pestered

Have just deleted and got abuse for that too.

Thing is no matter what you do you leave yourself open to abuse no matter what.. If they get nasty we tend to reply with "thanks for showing your true colours" then block

We dont get much time for meets and for us..US being the correct statement we both have to agree... Its our home after all.

Some will wait, some wont, those who are dicks show it, those worth inviting over generally get it"

Spot on ! We have had all this too. Then i think should i be a dick back? But then i think why waste my time lol. X

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We just say a polite " Sorry you aren't for us" and move on.

In fairness we always try to reply but when the first message has a cock pic attached it wouldn't matter if it was Mr Universe on the other end, its an instant "No thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!

"thankyou for the photos, however on this occasion there is no mutual attraction but we wish you every success in your ventures on Fab"

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is how you combine honesty with tact...

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By *983RC OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Agreed! We usually say something like this but always worry about how it will be received

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s much better to politely decline than to just ignore the person who has contacted you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just say.

Thank you for your pics but you aren't what we are looking for. But I wish you well and happy fabbing

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By *iercedItMan
over a year ago

Mcr

Bit late to pick this up, but figured I was asked.

If someone has asked for my crime watch pics, I would feel it's only polite to return the same regardless of the outcome. Maybe I'm antiquated and outmoded.

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over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"
many will say delete and block but if you don't reply the person will know you're not interested

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Don't have a conversation until you’ve seen a face pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had this the male in cpl looked like wifes ex husband so we politely said thanks for pic but not for us on this occasion but i hope you find a cpl for you ...they replied with why said sorry but you look like wifes ex hubby they deleted us instantly lol

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over a year ago

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

My standard reply is: "Thanks for your message and photo, but unfortunately not my type.

Happy swinging, x"

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By *wisted2000Woman
over a year ago

under my rock cleethorpes

"Hi guys, first time in the forum and I have a query for you all - when someone sends you a face picture and you don't fancy them how do you react?

Myself and the other half have been discussing this and the possible options we can't decide between are:

1) Ignore the message and hope they catch on.

2) Delete the message and/or block them.

3) Tell them politely you don't find them attractive and risk hurting their feelings.

4) Return the favour with a face pic of yourself and try to politely end the conversation some other way.

We can never decide what the best thing to do is! What do you guys do?.... And if you were the one sending the pictures what would you want someone to do in these circumstances?

Thanks!!

P.S. We are by no means 'up ourselves' and fully accept that there are probably plenty of folks that wouldn't like our face pictures too. Just wondering what the consensus on this topic is!"

Thank you for the flattering attention but I’m afraid I’m not attracted, I hope you find what you’re looking for soon, happy fabbing

Or something along those lines unless they’re rude, then it’s either a block or pass

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I would suspect a good proportion of people just go silent.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

‘Face Pic Friday’ in the forum is a great way to test drive your latest face pic I find, as people you’re likely to never meet will be honest in their reaction to the pic you send, and quite often, you’ve just taken a ‘poor’ selfie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always reply with our face pictures regardless as I really do see it as only fair, some of our best meets have been with people who aren’t necessarily our type but who we have got on really well with. If neither the attraction nor the spark is there then we just let the conversation tail off naturally.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Option 5. Give your address and invite for tea, just to be sure it wasn't taken by a poor photographer.

If it's clear that it could not work, ever, then it's better to put them out of their misery, in a sensitive manner and throw in a free block.

A lot of people i know who are attractive look much less attractive in photos - so i have some caution. Seeing them chat live may give a more certain view.

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