FabSwingers.com forum: Wanting wife to swing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi. I'm a horny married man that loves sex with my wife but love to try swinging with her. She is very old fasion and not keen on idea. I have chatted and even told her that I have dreams about going to clubs and that she has played in the dreams. She still not keen to chat about it. Any suggestions?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes. stop asking her, she's given you her answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's not interested she's not interested don't force her into it

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

"yes. stop asking her, she's given you her answer."

What she said, she's not interested and you can't force or guilt someone into it

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

If she's not interested then leave it alone. I'm assuming she knows you're on here and have had meets.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Show her your verifications so she can see how much fun it could be.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If she's not interested then leave it alone. I'm assuming she knows you're on here and have had meets. "

I doubt she does

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's a difficult situation when one person really wants to try something like swinging and the other doesn't.

I suggest chatting about fantasies and really being experimental with each other. Your dream of involving other people might never happen but other really great stuff might.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

if she is not interested then that is it leave it at that

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"It's a difficult situation when one person really wants to try something like swinging and the other doesn't.

I suggest chatting about fantasies and really being experimental with each other. Your dream of involving other people might never happen but other really great stuff might."

It's difficult as she's not keen to talk about it either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If she's not interested then leave it alone. I'm assuming she knows you're on here and have had meets.

I doubt she does"

I bet she must....”trust and respect for all ladies”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If she's not interested then leave it alone. I'm assuming she knows you're on here and have had meets.

I doubt she does

I bet she must....”trust and respect for all ladies”"

Lol I doubt the wife even exists

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

Green arrow suggests he is a bit of a fantasist.

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No is no. Sometimes you have to let the seed grow. Either that or it will never happen.

The next step has to come from her now, otherwise you’re just pressuring her into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She is very old fasion and not keen on idea. "

Might be your answer there

"I have chatted and even told her that I have dreams about going to clubs and that she has played in the dreams. "

Seems you are able to have an open dialogue with her... have you told her about how much fun you have on here?

"She still not keen to chat about it. "

I think she isn’t interested, but hey keep fucking other women without her knowledge, after all marriages and relationships aren’t based on trust at all

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The op is asking for advice. Please avoid commenting on his other threads or profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Green arrow suggests he is a bit of a fantasist."

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Try emotional manipulation first and if that doesn't work then take her to a swingers club, but don't tell her what it is until you are inside - she'll sink or swim

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I don't want any pressure on her and for her to do it because she wants to do it, Not because I want it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I don't want any pressure on her and for her to do it because she wants to do it, Not because I want it."

Well, it doesn't sound like she wants to do it. Just drop it. She'll hopefully let you know if she ever changes her mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The op is asking for advice. Please avoid commenting on his other threads or profile."

Other profile ??

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

If your wife does not want to swing forget it . How would you like some one annoying you to suck their cock . WEll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry OP. Only another 50 years or so to go

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The op is asking for advice. Please avoid commenting on his other threads or profile.

Other profile ??

On his profile or other threads.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

It's not just about what you want her to do. She has to be happy with the idea too. No point in pestering her if she's already said no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi. I'm a horny married man that loves sex with my wife but love to try swinging with her. She is very old fasion and not keen on idea. I have chatted and even told her that I have dreams about going to clubs and that she has played in the dreams. She still not keen to chat about it. Any suggestions?"

Yes, show her your profile, that'll do it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first met my wife, after a while I told her it was a massive turn on for me, she was not to keen on it and would not talk about I give it time and then asked her if I could whatch porn while we wear in bed, she started to enjoy this she slowly come around and got to like the idea and also it come out that her turn on was to watch me play with a guy,she said she would give swinging a go, if I would play with a guy,what would you do

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"When I first met my wife, after a while I told her it was a massive turn on for me, she was not to keen on it and would not talk about I give it time and then asked her if I could whatch porn while we wear in bed, she started to enjoy this she slowly come around and got to like the idea and also it come out that her turn on was to watch me play with a guy,she said she would give swinging a go, if I would play with a guy,what would you do"

You would do what you are comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If she's not interested then leave it alone. I'm assuming she knows you're on here and have had meets.

I doubt she does"

I second that

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY

Argos have some nice double seaters so you could both share the swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After I came out of a relationship with the Ex who introduced ME to swinging it was a few months until I was introduced to my now partner by a couple I had chatted to on here. At the time she was a vanilla lady, heard a lot about the site and clubs and party's and such so she had a bit of excitement about her, UNTIL the day she asked me to explain it to her better.....the result?? A tantrum kick off of rage and disgust at the sheer thought of it. "consensual cheating" were the exact words she used followed by 3 days of zero contact before she came round to speaking to me.

Dropped the whole subject in a heartbeat and it was never spoken of again......

Fast forward EIGHT MONTHS and she comes back to me with...."So, this swinging then?"......and THAT was the turning point that SHE brought it up because she wanted to.

The point is.....

You've mentioned it. She doesn't want to. Leave it alone. IF she wants to do it SHE will come back to YOU. Until then, close the box and don't go back to it, however much you think you can change her mind you won't unless she wants to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want? But she does not want! Stop thinking with your cock ! I bet she does not know you even here too!

Is called swinging when the couple are in mutual agreement !

You would like someone to force you to do something , you don't like?

We are all different ! We need to respect people choice !

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's only about the chatting and you can't make her discuss or do it.

Rather than it being about you, ask about her - but not your interests. Develop her trust in sharing with you, even if it leads to something that has nothing in it for you but a better marriage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is you both have to enjoy it and neither party be forced into anything just carry on chatting maybe do a fantasy wishlist and see if any fantasies match and take it from there also take sex out of it and try socials extended friendship groups and talking to other real couples help to see the spark between them it's electric x

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Have you tried giving her a piece of chocolate every time the word swinging comes up in conversation?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

You can bring a horse to water so to speak...

At the end of the day if she's not into it she's not into it. You married her for who she is so either accept this and enjoy all the other things that you love and married her for or trade it for the lifestyle that may not work out for you. Your choice? But don't pester her or follow this urge behind her back, it will only end in hurt.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Have you tried giving her a piece of chocolate every time the word swinging comes up in conversation? "

Or just do this?

Either/or

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Just swing with women on here?

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By *ewantfun14Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Try good old fashioned monetary bribes, never fails

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Have you tried giving her a piece of chocolate every time the word swinging comes up in conversation?

Or just do this?

Either/or"

It also helps if you pinch her whenever the word 'monogamy' comes up in conversation. Best do it from behind and blame a wasp. Or just get some wasps and release them during a conversation about monogamy, both ways will work.

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By *isty286Couple
over a year ago

Dorset

Show her your profile, maybe she will show you hers.

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