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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello all!!

We are a couple from Worcestershire.

Weve been on the scene for around 4 years.

Thing is, weve lost our confidence since having time out to have a child. Are there ANY couples out there that would maybe meet us pre Xtasia and basically make the move? We struggle to find people to help .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello! I can’t help, but I do wish you lots of fun!

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester


"Hello all!!

We are a couple from Worcestershire.

Weve been on the scene for around 4 years.

Thing is, weve lost our confidence since having time out to have a child. Are there ANY couples out there that would maybe meet us pre Xtasia and basically make the move? We struggle to find people to help . "
. Awww we would if we were closer and visited xtaisia, this is a lovely honest post and I wish you all the luck in the world and hope someone can help Mrs blue eyes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We dont see the point hiding the fact we are shy lol!! We come across as being “outgoing” but we really arent!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm from Worcestershire

"Hellooooo" *Waves happily.

I've seen your profile pop up occasionally. It's a bit bland round our parts wouldn't you say?

Sorry to hear you lost your confidence. I can't help you with a meet as I'm not what you're seeking obviously, but it makes me happy to see you on the forum.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm from Worcestershire

"Hellooooo" *Waves happily.

I've seen your profile pop up occasionally. It's a bit bland round our parts wouldn't you say?

Sorry to hear you lost your confidence. I can't help you with a meet as I'm not what you're seeking obviously, but it makes me happy to see you on the forum.

Good luck "

Ah Hello .

We would still happily chat to you no probs!!

Yes definitely bland lol!!

Xx

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By *lade10000Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I think you've started something here ... so many arrogant wannabe porn stars on here, its great to see some honesty. Lots of people, especially singles, most especially me actually, get hugely nervous but still love it. You're fortunate to have each other andxId love to vyat and meet up (although not what you're looking for)

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By *lade10000Man
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Can I not send one message without typos! Dammit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe rather than a club with all the cliques, peacocking and where quiet people do get sidelined, arrange a private meet with some people you know, have some fun and get your confidence back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm from Worcestershire

"Hellooooo" *Waves happily.

I've seen your profile pop up occasionally. It's a bit bland round our parts wouldn't you say?

Sorry to hear you lost your confidence. I can't help you with a meet as I'm not what you're seeking obviously, but it makes me happy to see you on the forum.

Good luck

Ah Hello .

We would still happily chat to you no probs!!

Yes definitely bland lol!!

Xx"

Well if you ever fancy a chat offline.. have a drink and say hello in person. My inbox is always open, or on here in the open on the forum. I'm easy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are a married couple (been together 20 years) and we are by far super models. I (Becky) really suffer with my confidence. Ive recently lost a fair bit of weight and i hate my “mum tum”.

Matt couldnt care less what i look like as im his wife!!

Put into a room with another person and i just shrivel up and panic!!

Matt just goes with the flow. So really its me holding him back which is why i need more confidence!!

Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can I not send one message without typos! Dammit!"

My hero! Me too.. Nerves are fine btw.. I get very nervous.. but it's good to be that way. Shows you're human still.. not jaded and dulled.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We are always open to meeting for any kind of socials if it helps us!! X

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"We are a married couple (been together 20 years) and we are by far super models. I (Becky) really suffer with my confidence. Ive recently lost a fair bit of weight and i hate my “mum tum”.

Matt couldnt care less what i look like as im his wife!!

Put into a room with another person and i just shrivel up and panic!!

Matt just goes with the flow. So really its me holding him back which is why i need more confidence!!

Xx"

Focus on putting yourself in a place that you are happy, if you are happy with who you are then you'll find everything else falls into place.

Mrs P has the same fears so she has started running again because that makes her feel better.

Everyone goes through phases of ups and downs, just chillout and go out with your priority being to have fun and don't put playing at the top of the list.

Be honest and let people know you are shy instead of them thinking you are not into what's going on at that time. But first you just need to find your own form of fun.

Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are always open to meeting for any kind of socials if it helps us!! X"

Pop along to xtasia.

People tend to meet in flirts before heading next door to the club and its always very fun and friendly in there.

We have an event running on friday hosted by my self and Seduced. You would be greeted and well looked after if a little shy to start and would happily introduce you to people so you don’t feel awkward etc x x

Mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Becky, you shouldn't feel shy, you're absolutely stunning. I always find that sexy is very much an attitude, not a shape and to be honest, the nerves and jitters before a meet all add to the experience... there's loads of couples on here who'd love to meet you guys, I'm sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come to Chams with us xx

Mike and Rachel x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come give chams a go instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We are always open to meeting for any kind of socials if it helps us!! X

Pop along to xtasia.

People tend to meet in flirts before heading next door to the club and its always very fun and friendly in there.

We have an event running on friday hosted by my self and Seduced. You would be greeted and well looked after if a little shy to start and would happily introduce you to people so you don’t feel awkward etc x x

Mark"

Mark thanks for your reply.

We are regulars in Xtasia and it would really help if we could meet some one that could introduce us to others!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Becky, you shouldn't feel shy, you're absolutely stunning. I always find that sexy is very much an attitude, not a shape and to be honest, the nerves and jitters before a meet all add to the experience... there's loads of couples on here who'd love to meet you guys, I'm sure"

What this guy says is spot on for me as well

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Awwwww! Makes me wish I lived in Worcestershire now! You seem absolutely lovely and I’m sure there’ll be some local couples who would love to meet up with you. Maybe someone could organise a social round there?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Awwwww! Makes me wish I lived in Worcestershire now! You seem absolutely lovely and I’m sure there’ll be some local couples who would love to meet up with you. Maybe someone could organise a social round there?"

If ur ever in the area.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are always open to meeting for any kind of socials if it helps us!! X

Pop along to xtasia.

People tend to meet in flirts before heading next door to the club and its always very fun and friendly in there.

We have an event running on friday hosted by my self and Seduced. You would be greeted and well looked after if a little shy to start and would happily introduce you to people so you don’t feel awkward etc x x

Mark

Mark thanks for your reply.

We are regulars in Xtasia and it would really help if we could meet some one that could introduce us to others!! X"

Happy to anytime. Feel free to drop me a message if you wish guys x

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

It is daunting when confidence is knocked. Maybe go on an event night, were trying their masquerade one next month xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gorgeous

Sexy

My god I would both of you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How nice are you lot! My nerves always get the better of me.

And you are stunning, I honestly mean stunning!

Good luck.

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By *uv2playsoonCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Going to pm you if that's ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are always open to meeting for any kind of socials if it helps us!! X

Pop along to xtasia.

People tend to meet in flirts before heading next door to the club and its always very fun and friendly in there.

We have an event running on friday hosted by my self and Seduced. You would be greeted and well looked after if a little shy to start and would happily introduce you to people so you don’t feel awkward etc x x

Mark"

See you beat me to it Mark

I'm more than happy to help if I can, I'm also going on friday with one of my best fab friends, I offered to take her to a swingles night a couple of years ago and we've made lots of friends together and had lots of amazing times, all it takes is a leap of faith, a hand to hold and you will be well away

I think you look like a yummy mummy btw

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"We are always open to meeting for any kind of socials if it helps us!! X

Pop along to xtasia.

People tend to meet in flirts before heading next door to the club and its always very fun and friendly in there.

We have an event running on friday hosted by my self and Seduced. You would be greeted and well looked after if a little shy to start and would happily introduce you to people so you don’t feel awkward etc x x

Mark

See you beat me to it Mark

I'm more than happy to help if I can, I'm also going on friday with one of my best fab friends, I offered to take her to a swingles night a couple of years ago and we've made lots of friends together and had lots of amazing times, all it takes is a leap of faith, a hand to hold and you will be well away

I think you look like a yummy mummy btw "

Yes she is really the best and changed my life forever and here is to many more amazing times which you are all welcome to join us for

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow im loving this thread!! U know how to boost confidence lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are always open to meeting for any kind of socials if it helps us!! X

Pop along to xtasia.

People tend to meet in flirts before heading next door to the club and its always very fun and friendly in there.

We have an event running on friday hosted by my self and Seduced. You would be greeted and well looked after if a little shy to start and would happily introduce you to people so you don’t feel awkward etc x x

Mark

See you beat me to it Mark

I'm more than happy to help if I can, I'm also going on friday with one of my best fab friends, I offered to take her to a swingles night a couple of years ago and we've made lots of friends together and had lots of amazing times, all it takes is a leap of faith, a hand to hold and you will be well away

I think you look like a yummy mummy btw

Yes she is really the best and changed my life forever and here is to many more amazing times which you are all welcome to join us for "

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By *ollymollWoman
over a year ago

Stockport

I know it doesn't really make any difference what others say but I just thought I'd add that most people couldn't give two hoots if you've got a mum tum! Or, in fact, find it rather attractive!

Confidence is a tricky matter and something I struggle with more often than not. Don't rush yourself, just do whatever makes you happy. That in itself can be very sexy indeed.

Good luck

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By *hocko87Man
over a year ago

dublin

Look don't worry there is probably a lot of people in the same boat as you . If I was near you I would meet you for a social . Wish you the best guys .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all!!

We are a couple from Worcestershire.

Weve been on the scene for around 4 years.

Thing is, weve lost our confidence since having time out to have a child. Are there ANY couples out there that would maybe meet us pre Xtasia and basically make the move? We struggle to find people to help . "

Try meeting for socials first, it is a lot easier,

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