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By *team7279 OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Hey folks,

So my wife and are I just getting started into all of this, with a mind towards me watching while she has sex. It nicely fulfills fantasies for us both, so we've decided to take the plunge with it. But as it's become a more real prospect, suddenly the potential awkwardness of it has become more of a concern!

For my part: what do I do while this is going on? Do I go naked? Do I sit there clothed? Do I try and blend in the background or do I make comments? Do I jerk off? I'm not looking for a humiliation experience or anything, so I feel my role is strictly passive, but if I become overt while watching will that be a distraction for her?

For her part: how will it be with me there watching? What if it's not very good sex where nothing clicks and I'm watching? Will she feel too self-conscious to get into it?

Haha...all very silly in the moment I guess, but we are a bit nervous about it all. Any tips from folks with experience in this kind of activity would be much appreciated!

A&A

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

My advice would be to get yourselves to a club and just mingle and watch and the dynamics of it all....you may want to join in or your may just soak up the atmosphere but this way you will get a feel for what you're comfortable with.. have fun xx

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By *team7279 OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

You're probably right, but to be honest we're completely new to this, so even going to a social event would feel like a massively intimidating step at this point (probably more than a one on one meeting for sex, tbh). We're new enough to have all those "But what if we see someone we KNOW???" anxieties...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chances are very very slim, and even if, it so exciting watching someone you know fuck the missus. All there for same reason. in 15 years met 1 out dogging 1 at club

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


" "But what if we see someone we KNOW???" anxieties... "

You could always make a weekend of it and go out of town.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's your first guy, meet for a social coffee or something in a neutral environment. The interaction between you will soon show you if he's the right guy and if your lady fancies him. If all that clicks then give the Mrs the time and space to contemplate your next move. If in doubt don't do it. No meet is better than a bad meet Maybe involve yourself in the sex. Mmf is also a horny fantasy for many women. She'll feel safer and more relaxed as your physically close by.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Don't cum.

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By *offee and Cream 2Couple (MM)
over a year ago

Loughborough

Make sure your camera is charged up, and busy yourself taking happy snaps or a video of the action.... That way you will be occupied, and have a great souvenir to admire thereafter!

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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago

Dublin and London


"If it's your first guy, meet for a social coffee or something in a neutral environment. The interaction between you will soon show you if he's the right guy and if your lady fancies him. If all that clicks then give the Mrs the time and space to contemplate your next move. If in doubt don't do it. No meet is better than a bad meet Maybe involve yourself in the sex. Mmf is also a horny fantasy for many women. She'll feel safer and more relaxed as your physically close by."
Great advice.

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

Just wanted to say - love the writing. Always up for reading about eloquently presented anxieties. Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky you! And you guys are about to have some amazing fun!!

What we done was spoke to the guy over fab and on cam, then I met him alone for coffee.. I kinda gauged what he was like (and he was a very nice guy), the I invited to our house to watch me have sex with my wife whilst he sat and masturbated.

Then next time when we met he gave her a nude massage (we were all naked) before they had sex.. I kind of walked around the bed watching from different angles and took some pictures whilst they done so!

And still to this day, it’s the HOTTEST thing we have ever done!

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee


"Make sure your camera is charged up, and busy yourself taking happy snaps or a video of the action.... That way you will be occupied, and have a great souvenir to admire thereafter! "

This is what I plan on doing, poss at next meet, depending on what scenario we do. G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey folks,

So my wife and are I just getting started into all of this, with a mind towards me watching while she has sex. It nicely fulfills fantasies for us both, so we've decided to take the plunge with it. But as it's become a more real prospect, suddenly the potential awkwardness of it has become more of a concern!

For my part: what do I do while this is going on? Do I go naked? Do I sit there clothed? Do I try and blend in the background or do I make comments? Do I jerk off? I'm not looking for a humiliation experience or anything, so I feel my role is strictly passive, but if I become overt while watching will that be a distraction for her?

For her part: how will it be with me there watching? What if it's not very good sex where nothing clicks and I'm watching? Will she feel too self-conscious to get into it?

Haha...all very silly in the moment I guess, but we are a bit nervous about it all. Any tips from folks with experience in this kind of activity would be much appreciated!

A&A "
talk to her about how she would like you (dressed or undressed) ask her if she wants you to sit quietly and just watch or for her to hear your voice. Its all about communication. You both have to be happy in tbe situation. So you would be a cuck and clean her up afterwards ? Its what you both want to make happen. Discuss it all as you intend to play it out and let the other guy know what the plan is and how its going to go. Just make it fun. No awkwardness

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By *team7279 OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Thanks folks, all very useful!

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By *team7279 OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Just wanted to say - love the writing. Always up for reading about eloquently presented anxieties. Enjoy. "

Haha...thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The tone and proposition of your post say that you might be best advised to do some nsa social meets with experienced guys as a first step. Very liberating and comforting to chat to like-minded in the flesh. Would be very beneficial in where your adventure is at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the advices on this section are all irrelevant to what they are asking ffs

when he's asking about what he should do when she having sex

adevice 1 go to clubs

should he wank or join in

advice 2 go for a coffee

what if the sex isn't good while I watch

advice 3 find some one u know

wtf is wrong with some people

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Seriously mate. I've been there, and THE most important advice is DON'T CUM.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, then ‘yes’, wank! Just don’t cum before he does!!

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By *team7279 OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"the advices on this section are all irrelevant to what they are asking ffs

when he's asking about what he should do when she having sex

adevice 1 go to clubs

should he wank or join in

advice 2 go for a coffee

what if the sex isn't good while I watch

advice 3 find some one u know

wtf is wrong with some people "

While I see what you're getting at, they've all plainly picked up on the fact that we're total newbies, so I the intent is to be helpful, and it's much appreciated. We'll take ANY advice we can get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the advices on this section are all irrelevant to what they are asking ffs

when he's asking about what he should do when she having sex

adevice 1 go to clubs

should he wank or join in

advice 2 go for a coffee

what if the sex isn't good while I watch

advice 3 find some one u know

wtf is wrong with some people "

Why did they say thanks for all the advice 35 minutes ago then?

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By *team7279 OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Okay...will put DON'T CUM high on the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay...will put DON'T CUM high on the list. "

The reason this is important is once you cum, the erotic moment dilutes as you arent horny anymore...keep it til you are the last to cum and it will be a very erotic moment....

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By *heeseandcucumberCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"Okay...will put DON'T CUM high on the list.

The reason this is important is once you cum, the erotic moment dilutes as you arent horny anymore...keep it til you are the last to cum and it will be a very erotic moment...."

Yes you are definitely right there....When you cum the moment certainly goes...??

Even when it's a fantasy.??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the meet, and before, remember you are in charge, doesn't mean be over baring, but be clear what you both want, and don't want, tell the lucky guy you're going to watch, maybe join in, and choose an experienced guy, whose comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're probably right, but to be honest we're completely new to this, so even going to a social event would feel like a massively intimidating step at this point (probably more than a one on one meeting for sex, tbh). We're new enough to have all those "But what if we see someone we KNOW???" anxieties... "
what you need is a very chilled laid back confident experienced in this scenario male

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Seriously mate. I've been there, and THE most important advice is DON'T CUM. "

*first

Don't cum first

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Seriously mate. I've been there, and THE most important advice is DON'T CUM.

*first

Don't cum first "

Don't cum until you're alone with your mrs. Unless he sucks your dick until you do. Thats fine.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Hey folks,

So my wife and are I just getting started into all of this, with a mind towards me watching while she has sex. It nicely fulfills fantasies for us both, so we've decided to take the plunge with it. But as it's become a more real prospect, suddenly the potential awkwardness of it has become more of a concern!

For my part: what do I do while this is going on? Do I go naked? Do I sit there clothed? Do I try and blend in the background or do I make comments? Do I jerk off? I'm not looking for a humiliation experience or anything, so I feel my role is strictly passive, but if I become overt while watching will that be a distraction for her?

For her part: how will it be with me there watching? What if it's not very good sex where nothing clicks and I'm watching? Will she feel too self-conscious to get into it?

Haha...all very silly in the moment I guess, but we are a bit nervous about it all. Any tips from folks with experience in this kind of activity would be much appreciated!

A&A "

This is exactly what we do , and you can do exactly whatever you like . Don’t feel like anything is wrong with whatever you choose , it could be you watch from an angle they can’t see you , or in full view . You may want to wank , or maybe not , totally your call .

The only thing that may be wrong is for you try to direct them . This puts the guy and your wife off , and does away with natural spontenaity.

The best bit for you will be the repossession sex afterwards , so whether you get off or not while they play is not necessarily relevant .

Enjoy

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By *andy1966Couple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Hey folks,

So my wife and are I just getting started into all of this, with a mind towards me watching while she has sex. It nicely fulfills fantasies for us both, so we've decided to take the plunge with it. But as it's become a more real prospect, suddenly the potential awkwardness of it has become more of a concern!

For my part: what do I do while this is going on? Do I go naked? Do I sit there clothed? Do I try and blend in the background or do I make comments? Do I jerk off? I'm not looking for a humiliation experience or anything, so I feel my role is strictly passive, but if I become overt while watching will that be a distraction for her?

For her part: how will it be with me there watching? What if it's not very good sex where nothing clicks and I'm watching? Will she feel too self-conscious to get into it?

Haha...all very silly in the moment I guess, but we are a bit nervous about it all. Any tips from folks with experience in this kind of activity would be much appreciated!

A&A "

We found going to a club was less pressure still do. I would say main thing would be to talk to each other make sure you both know what your comfortable doing and not doing.

Hubby as taken part and just laid back and watched there are no hard and fast rules. Only what both turns you on. We started going to Chams a few weeks ago and find it so relaxed with no pressure. X

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London


"Hey folks,

So my wife and are I just getting started into all of this, with a mind towards me watching while she has sex. It nicely fulfills fantasies for us both, so we've decided to take the plunge with it. But as it's become a more real prospect, suddenly the potential awkwardness of it has become more of a concern!

For my part: what do I do while this is going on? Do I go naked? Do I sit there clothed? Do I try and blend in the background or do I make comments? Do I jerk off? I'm not looking for a humiliation experience or anything, so I feel my role is strictly passive, but if I become overt while watching will that be a distraction for her?

For her part: how will it be with me there watching? What if it's not very good sex where nothing clicks and I'm watching? Will she feel too self-conscious to get into it?

Haha...all very silly in the moment I guess, but we are a bit nervous about it all. Any tips from folks with experience in this kind of activity would be much appreciated!

A&A "

These are exactly the same concerns I had when we first started out 2 years ago and to be honest, it came to the point where we literally just went for it and went with the flow as I was so anxious. I didn't get undressed or masterbate at all during the meets. I preferred just to watch and take photos etc from different angles and then enjoy our time together after the meet.

Judge by your partners reactions, if she's really enjoying the meet then sit on the bed, walk around, make eye contact with her, smile at her to show you're fully enjoying it as much as she is, which will help her enjoy it knowing you're ok.

That's what we do. Just go with the flow and focus on enjoying it together. Oh and play some music in the room otherwise it's just eerie

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Hey folks,

So my wife and are I just getting started into all of this, with a mind towards me watching while she has sex. It nicely fulfills fantasies for us both, so we've decided to take the plunge with it. But as it's become a more real prospect, suddenly the potential awkwardness of it has become more of a concern!

For my part: what do I do while this is going on? Do I go naked? Do I sit there clothed? Do I try and blend in the background or do I make comments? Do I jerk off? I'm not looking for a humiliation experience or anything, so I feel my role is strictly passive, but if I become overt while watching will that be a distraction for her?

For her part: how will it be with me there watching? What if it's not very good sex where nothing clicks and I'm watching? Will she feel too self-conscious to get into it?

Haha...all very silly in the moment I guess, but we are a bit nervous about it all. Any tips from folks with experience in this kind of activity would be much appreciated!

A&A talk to her about how she would like you (dressed or undressed) ask her if she wants you to sit quietly and just watch or for her to hear your voice. Its all about communication. You both have to be happy in tbe situation. So you would be a cuck and clean her up afterwards ? Its what you both want to make happen. Discuss it all as you intend to play it out and let the other guy know what the plan is and how its going to go. Just make it fun. No awkwardness "

This is good advice OP

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By *ll 4 herCouple
over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

Going to a club is good advice. Trying to find a meet with the right person could lead to frustration and over thinking it.

We started out going to clubs, then once we knew we were comfortable with our choices we moved on to trying to arrange meets, had we done it the other way around we'd have probably given up.

Still remember the emotions you are going through vividly OP and there is no one answer, but make sure you both have talked at length about your forthcoming adventures and agreed some rules (these will probably change)

Take it one step at a time and enjoy each new experience.

Still one of my favourite memories is one of our first club experiences when we were in a Jacuzzi and Mrs caught the eye of a single guy she quite liked the look of for the first time, still makes me so horny to recall the moment she looked at at me and said "can I" before they explored each other a little, kissing each other and the thoughts going through my mind of what was maybe going on under the bubbles, where were the hands? What is touching where?

All the time still unsure if there was a point where it would become uncomfortable by possibly going too far, and that's where the great advice "don't come first" fits in.

Have fun OP it's a great experience if it works for you.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell


"The only thing that may be wrong is for you try to direct them . This puts the guy and your wife off , and does away with natural spontenaity."

Have to agree wholeheartedly with this particular point. I've experienced a couple of occasions when an over-excited or over-bearing husband has been telling me what to do to and with his wife, or tried telling her what to do to or with me - and yes, it is very off-putting, and in both cases killed the mood and brought things to a halt...

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

I have been doing this both active and passive I usually discuss needs and expectations before hand then once your all horny have fun without any uncomfortable moments it's great fun she will love it

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