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Newbies: Allow to message or not?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Their frustration gets so frustrating most of the times...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can set your preferences to not allow newbies to message you untill they have been on site for a bit..gives them chance to settle in and see how the sites works and hopefull send better messages

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

I find a lot of newbie messages sweet. They are so hopeful!

I try to respond to the nice one as much as I can.....

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

No. The majority are too flakey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit we have our filters on so that they can’t message, we’ve had several messages from “couples” that I don’t beleive were couples at all some reported and removed. So although not fool proof we only speak with verified members

MrsK x

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago

Burton on Trent

No, as it stops the weekend wankers from messaging. They are the ones who join on Friday and are gone by Sunday lunchtime usually.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I get quite a few messages and by the time I get round to read them, they've gone UNLOS - mainly within 30 minutes of actually sending it, no idea what is happening but it happening more frequently

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah, I keep those message setting cranked up too. Weekend wankers...I’m nabbing that one!

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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago

Burton on Trent


"Yeah, I keep those message setting cranked up too. Weekend wankers...I’m nabbing that one! "

Feel free, it's not copyrighted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they should be allowed to message. We were all newbies once. Saying that, my filters don't allow them to message me. I have tight filters so I can keep my inbox in check . Some enjoy getting messages off newbies though.

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

Some newbies are returning oldies too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a lot of newbie messages sweet. They are so hopeful!

I try to respond to the nice one as much as I can....."

Then reality sets in and they lose hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some newbies are returning oldies too.. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Interesting thoughts...lol

We’ve been let down 4 times by newbis. We arranged to meet on Whatsapp group (!!) only to seem them disappear hours before the meet. 4 times with 4 different couples !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

*fat fingers...

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Reading

We're not here to be people's teachers and deal with all the drama that accompanies many newbies. Block, block, block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind helping people out, because unlike others.. I remember being totally new to this.. and it can be a very unfriendly and cliquey place a lot of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Their frustration gets so frustrating most of the times... "
frustration at what ? If they can't message you how do you know they are frustrated?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Their frustration gets so frustrating most of the times... frustration at what ? If they can't message you how do you know they are frustrated? "

Thats the thing...we havent decided to block them thinking rationally but they cant make up their mind if they want to meet or not or they’re just fake profiles....

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Don't get this. We all gotta start somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't get this. We all gotta start somewhere "
true but many set their filters to not accept messages from people who don't pay or aren't verified

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By *astRider600Man
over a year ago

Brighton

Perhaps a Photo verification should be considered, if it hasn’t already? Don’t allow them to message until they are verified! I’m genuine but can’t even been arsed to do that on some other site have to take a pic of yourself that matches previous pictures, with Username, Date and site address! Not a bad idea but quite a bit of effort for admin etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find a lot of newbie messages sweet. They are so hopeful!"

...Before the site has done its dirty job... (to paraphrase Janis Ian/Nina Simone)

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Treat them as you'd have wanted to be treated when you were the newbie

After filtering through the obviously fake ones and using your intuition to find the genuine seeming ones

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