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By *ockring91 OP   Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Hey everyone,

After a bit of help please.

I don't message many women or couples on here, but when a profile I like comes by and I message I never get a reply.

I understand that women and couples will get plenty of messages every day, but is there any way i can stand out?

I've always been useless at first lines, whether it be in person at a pub/club/wherever or on here.

Any tips would be great

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself and trust me you will click with someone it does take a while. Good luck and happy swinging.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

I doubt it’s the message - unless you’re just sending FAF. Most will look at your profile first and the impression they get will be what they base their response on. Only natural when you think about it.

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By *amesB66Man
over a year ago

St Peter Port


"Just be yourself and trust me you will click with someone it does take a while. Good luck and happy swinging."

Says it all!

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

There is a lot of emphasis on your profile about being discreet. So perhaps people don't reply as they don't want to meet someone who cheats on their partner. I am not saying this is the case, but the wording might put people off.

In general I suggest people read the ladies profile and then comments on something that they like or what appealed to them. Show you are interested in them as a person, not just a quick fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be attractive and attach pictures.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Read the profile of the person/persons you are messaging; see what they like and point out areas where you match. Have a look at the forums and see if they have commented on anything, again establish if you have common ground.

Try to string a couple of sentences together as ‘Hi, how are you’; ‘fancy a shag’ just don’t do it for most people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first thing a lot of people do is look at your profile and photos. If those aren't very impressive then your message stands a better chance of being deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no magic formula to a good message its just about clicking with the person you are mailing if does not happen just move on.

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By *lackbird1000Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Just be yourself and trust me you will click with someone it does take a while. Good luck and happy swinging."
You must to read the profile .sometimes I delete because ,the location .Or headings saying Hotel meets, I explain in my profile I don't meet in hotels . Sometimes they just say hi and other times I don't like the profile.Good luck is not a magic message , is find someone who likes all about you . X

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