FabSwingers.com forum: What are we doing wrong???

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We have not been on the site long and have made quite a bit of contact with others but we cant seem to get our first meet. We have been told our profile is good. So is there something we are missing?

Anyone got any advice?

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By *earhugs1Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hi guys. We find that socials or clubs are the best place to meet. Dont know what there is up in Inverness but if you Google swingers clubs? Or if you are ever down here in Glasgow can recommend cjs.

Good luck. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong with you just need a little more patience as it takes longer to meet another couple. We're talking to several couples at the moment but we've still to meet as it takes a bit longer to gain trust and then the fact that there is 4 people who have to be on the same page.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"There is nothing wrong with you just need a little more patience as it takes longer to meet another couple. We're talking to several couples at the moment but we've still to meet as it takes a bit longer to gain trust and then the fact that there is 4 people who have to be on the same page.

+2 definitely tons of patience and time, but when you all click - it's fantastic

Good Luck OP

Devil & Wolf

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

as mentioned you defo need patience. certainly dont rush any meets. take the time to get to know and trust the people you meet. and like of course. you will find meets much better if you like the people and know a bit about them rather than a quick lets meet tonight. so enjoy and dont worry it will happen x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

1 wwek and you are moaning

What did u expect,instashag.com

ppl have lives,jobs,kids,and have to decide if they fancy you...

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

btw,anyone else think if this had been a single bloke the other answers wud have been different

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

"btw,anyone else think if this had been a single bloke the other answers wud have been different

nods!!!

but as we know thats how it ticks here isnt it J xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the quick feedback folks, much appreciated. I suppose we do sound a wee bit impatient, but we are new and keen, as i expect everyone has been initially!

Quickly finding that there are really nice helpful people here and some not so.

And for the record we are not moaning, just asking how it works and looking for some advice. We also have "lives, jobs and kids" , so it works both ways, to be fair.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"btw,anyone else think if this had been a single bloke the other answers wud have been different

nods!!!

but as we know thats how it ticks here isnt it J xx"

no,not for me,

trying to be fake in any forum just shows in the end

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

dont get who is trying to be fake? x

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Thanks for the quick feedback folks, much appreciated. I suppose we do sound a wee bit impatient, but we are new and keen, as i expect everyone has been initially!

Quickly finding that there are really nice helpful people here and some not so.

And for the record we are not moaning, just asking how it works and looking for some advice. We also have "lives, jobs and kids" , so it works both ways, to be fair. "

You didn't ask how it worked,you moaned yo hadnt had a meet after a week...if you have responsibilities you could work out why others may not be willing to drop everyting the moment you join

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

"Thanks for the quick feedback folks, much appreciated. I suppose we do sound a wee bit impatient, but we are new and keen, as i expect everyone has been initially!

Quickly finding that there are really nice helpful people here and some not so.

And for the record we are not moaning, just asking how it works and looking for some advice. We also have "lives, jobs and kids" , so it works both ways, to be fair. "

forums is a good place for fun and advise as you shall also learn.

not everyone agrees with other people so take from it what you will. but all in all its a god place to be.

its actually how i got my first meet as the person liked who i was and could see my personality. and that took months lol. so soak it all up and enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are newbies, we have no expectations of anyone and were just wondering how to get that elusive first meet, as we have chatted and spoken to a few couples. Im at a loss as to why you think we are "fake" or are "moaning", and even if we were, why it matters to you so much? We will find our feet im sure. It seems you may be right Cornwall, and that patience is the key.

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

patience is the key. but so is fun. enjoy the place. it has its highs and lows. pricks and prats. friends and good friends to be made. good advise and bad. but thats part of the fun and the chase etc. you will be fine trust me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It came across as moaning to me too...after being on site a week?!! What did you expect?

There is no information on your profile, how are people to know if you're compatible sexually? The age difference between both of you will also put some people off.

A week is no time to get to know people. If you're that inpatient, don't want to get to know playmates per say, perhaps a club would serve your needs more or use the "meet today" section of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP,

It can be frustrating not finding a meet. A week is a little early for thinking you are doing something wrong though!

Take your time and get to know couples. Some will be an instant play type others, like us, like to form friendships first... all pretty normal.

Clubs and socials are a good way of finding people you click with so it's worth browsing the 'meet requests and parties' section of the forums to find out any local events.

....and lastly, don't worry about the 'age gap' someone else mentioned... we have an 'age gap' never ever found it to be a 'problem'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP no you're post is not moany, ignore the negative comments on here they do it all the time to all sorts of people especially new and infrequent posters.

The other comments are worth reading though. As they have said getting 4 people to be compatible can be difficult and it's well worth sussing people out on here first to see if you get on, because if you rush into meeting any old couple and find at the meet that you don't get on, it's not a great place to be.

Never been to any socials ourselves but so many people on here rate them it sounds like a great place to start for a new keen couple! Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, maybe it does sound impatient, granted, we certainly are not though. The query was about how to actually make the move and actually get that first meet, WHENEVER it may come along. Its about the future, not right here, right now. We apologise if we come across like we expecting loads of folk wanting to meet us right away!! We do understand that this is not the case.

Thank you all for your advice, it is very much appreciated.

Dont think we will be asking much more on here though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, maybe it does sound impatient, granted, we certainly are not though. The query was about how to actually make the move and actually get that first meet, WHENEVER it may come along. Its about the future, not right here, right now. We apologise if we come across like we expecting loads of folk wanting to meet us right away!! We do understand that this is not the case.

Thank you all for your advice, it is very much appreciated.

Dont think we will be asking much more on here though."

Ask away: the thing is as you've found when you post on an OPEN forum you'll get differing views. Some people will have the "there, there diddums" approach which may make you feel better but won't really help you.

If, for example you take any notice of my comments and add something to your profile about what you're into and what you're looking for that "negative" is more helpful to you in meeting like minded people than some of the wishy washy comments.

Not posting because a couple of comments may not have been to your liking is your choice of course. However you'll not last long then because you're bound to hear 'thanks, no thanks' from prospective meets.

I wish you good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The age difference between both of you will also put some people off."

Show me a man who doesn't want to have sex with a younger woman and I'll show you a cuckheld liar with an insecure female partner!

This site is free so you will find the good, the bad and the ugly!

There are some good tips already mentioned; patience, perseverance and trying social meets or clubs.

Remember, you'll get out what you put in!

Happy swinging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is a great site with some great members and thankfully this topic will provide you with a fair cross section of them.

Ignore the negative hostile stuff and all will be revealed.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half the forums is run by keyboard warriors so take it with a pinch of salt.

Re...your question. A week isn't a long time so just keep doing what your doing. Sooner or later you will spark with people and start having fun. There is a club in Aberdeeen which i'm told is getting busier and better everytime....so maybe give that a go.

Don't stop posting in the forums....ignore the negatives, grow a thick skin and happy swinging

xxx

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By *ornwall-maleMan
over a year ago

newquay

i rest my case.

all in all good advise from a good selection of people.

its a big pot of sweets. . . . just let someone else eat the coffee ones lol.

but dont you dare stop posting!

EVEN THE MOANS CAN HAVE A VALID POINT!

so get your arses back into gear and on here enjoying the forums.

there are plenty of serious, fun and odd posts to join in on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to fab! Some good points and advice above. I think a bit more detail on your profile and maybe a few more pics in public including some of ryan would help. Apart from that, it's just a matter of patience but it will be worth it when you meet the right couple. Good luck.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

time patience common sense...

let me focus on time and patience.... 1 week?? really???

if you want me to be really really harsh then I would say your profile only says a tiny bit about you.. and absolutely nothing about the type of couple you are after...

so put yourself in the position of the people you were trying to attract...if i were a couple.. how would I/We know you were the right couple for us??

the answer is you probably wouldn't.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many people are actually in your area ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite a few actually, I checked, 41 in the AB postcode on line withinm the last hour.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to EVERYONE who has posted on our initial notice. Alot of great advice, all from different angles. the first thing we have learned is to carefully word our notice in the first place! lol.

We will be back on here asking different things, im sure. Was just a wee bit disappointed in some of the approach of some folks, even if it was healthy advice, there are sometimes better ways of saying the same thing.

But again, thanks to ALL, its very much appreciated and taken on board.

J&Z

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over a year ago

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By *uby In StockingsTV/TS
over a year ago

Cheadle

I love Inverness,

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