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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For us it’s me, the male half, who answers most of the messages and does most of the communication on here. L, female, dips in for pics and meeting arrangements but steps back from the actual communication.

I’ve found many conversations with couples are with the male half too.

So couples do you both message or is it generally just one of you and if so which half ?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

It's ALWAYS me (Emm) who does the messaging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We normally do messages relating to meets together, although I occasionally test the water if I think it isn't genuine.

I'm expected to do all my own apologising for forum posts alone though

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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

Always me. Unless someone's is rude,crude or del generally dislikes then he replies..... kaz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female here, I do the messaging normally.

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By *uriousCouple999Couple
over a year ago

edinburgh

It's mostly me, female half who does the talking I normally ask M to have a look at the mails before I do reply, so we're on the same page Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both usually

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Female here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our couples profile it's always him. I'm too busy on this one to be arsed! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Shocked !

In our experience, and looking through our friends list, I could swear 75% of contact from couples is from the male half yet the first few answers on this thread suggest females are messaging much more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Lou) respond to probably 70% of our mail, with Jeff covering the rest...we both read it all tho

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

We both do i suppose if it general chat or similar. But tend to let V answer any mail that there might be an interest in to possible play. If then we want to move forward we go to kik/WhatsApp where we have group chat to talk and arrange. G

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shocked !

In our experience, and looking through our friends list, I could swear 75% of contact from couples is from the male half yet the first few answers on this thread suggest females are messaging much more.

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Is your friend's list a 'to-do list' or only couples you've met?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female does.the talking. Male just checks in every now and then x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always me (Pinky) Magic gets to see everything on this tho. Tbh some peeps would probably be better with Magic responding because I am not slow in letting them know they have pissed me off

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By *olieandSlaveCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

Jolie as a rule

Slave with her permission, identifies this by signing off with 'slave'

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

Mostly betty but sometimes i like to wind people up if they send silly one liners

Frank

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shocked !

In our experience, and looking through our friends list, I could swear 75% of contact from couples is from the male half yet the first few answers on this thread suggest females are messaging much more.

Is your friend's list a 'to-do list' or only couples you've met? "

Our friends list is a list of people we’ve met generally. We’re both straight and looking for full swap so meet similar couples. Maybe because we’re not looking for girl/girl that’s why we might be communicating with couples where guy is taking the lead. Don’t know it seems yet again we’re weird !

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

25 % the blonde but 75% J.

I’ll check in to make sure and he runs everything by me but some of the messages we get are tedious and I lose patience

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Me Fi that replies but hubby reads/catches up xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Don’t know it seems yet again we’re weird ! "

I'd also point out that the type of person one meets on the forum is probably not representative of the site as a whole.

Amongst forumites I'd say it was probably more often the women who contacted us first, on the wider site I'd say a slightly higher proportion of men. But in most cases I'd say both partners would have had a look before we were sent a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female half here, and I tend to do most of the messages. Other half jumps on when he has time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We rarely/never get any messages so we'll cross that bridge if/when we get to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly female for us, sadly we tend to attract couples where the female never talks so it’s not long before the chat turns to Male fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me (Jane) who does all replying,chatting...well everything really

Hubby just flits on and off to perv at pics and/or catch up on messages

It is hubby who sorts out our profile though (pictures and what not)

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

It could be either of us or sometimes we are reading together so it's a joint reply.

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Joe does the PA role, Amy has final say and prospective meets are discussed together.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shocked !

In our experience, and looking through our friends list, I could swear 75% of contact from couples is from the male half yet the first few answers on this thread suggest females are messaging much more.

Is your friend's list a 'to-do list' or only couples you've met?

Our friends list is a list of people we’ve met generally. We’re both straight and looking for full swap so meet similar couples. Maybe because we’re not looking for girl/girl that’s why we might be communicating with couples where guy is taking the lead. Don’t know it seems yet again we’re weird ! "

Of course having said this I will say we get very little communication from couples.

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

Both of us reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" Don’t know it seems yet again we’re weird !

I'd also point out that the type of person one meets on the forum is probably not representative of the site as a whole.

Amongst forumites I'd say it was probably more often the women who contacted us first, on the wider site I'd say a slightly higher proportion of men. But in most cases I'd say both partners would have had a look before we were sent a message. "

Think you are right about the forum demographics. We are each see messages but most communication, we have found, is around ‘What you into?’, ‘Where do you normally meet?’, ‘Can you accommodate?’, etc. With those sort of messages and stock answers we don’t need both of use to vet and answer.

We could outsource our messaging to a third world country and save ourselves a ton of time!

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Both of us can and do reply to messages but it's usually me (LB) that's hitting the keys even if P's sat beside me giving her input. It's only me that posts in the forums though and unless I show P a particular thread (or start sniggering while typing) she's usually oblivious to the shenanigans that go on in here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If arranging a play/social meet then the wife does most of the messaging.

Forum participation is normally me the male but not always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both if we are together if not just depends who’s online but we generally both want to like what we see before either of us delve deep into conversation on our own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a mix with us. Sometimes more the male half. At the moment he is so busy with work that I am answering messages.

We have completely different styles. He is much more likely to just delete if we are not interested. Were I would give a polite no and sometimes a yes. Unfortunately with that I then spend to much time on fab

S x

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By *rs Butterfly.Woman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Its always me Mrs B.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both get involved normally

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Both of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless we're planning a meet, where it would be both of us involved, it's Mr N. most messaging I do is inane babble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shocked !

In our experience, and looking through our friends list, I could swear 75% of contact from couples is from the male half yet the first few answers on this thread suggest females are messaging much more.

Is your friend's list a 'to-do list' or only couples you've met?

Our friends list is a list of people we’ve met generally. We’re both straight and looking for full swap so meet similar couples. Maybe because we’re not looking for girl/girl that’s why we might be communicating with couples where guy is taking the lead. Don’t know it seems yet again we’re weird ! "

Surprised that you haven't realised that there is generally a disproportionate amount of women posting in the forums as well. And anyone posting a question should be aware that they are only getting replies from less than 1% of the site membership. In theory, the answers given to general questions are probably wrong!

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am surprised by the number of women who say they do most of the messaging. I rarely get contacted by the lady half. The vast majority of mail, is male initiated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always me that does the message bit although Shaz reads every one and makes the final decision on who we meet/don't.

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By *ibertine_mindsCouple
over a year ago

Staffs/ Derbys/ Peak District

Always the male half, it suits our D/s dynamic. Both always involved in making final decision on meets and exploration boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always me Mike ..I have more time than Diane and more interest in the sites we are on..she just looks forward to the actually meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us its bith of us equally. We both message and use the forums just as much as each other

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

Always me, Mrs blue eyes, although Mr reads them and we always talk about them Mrs blues eyes

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By *ants_Nerdy_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Havant

The male (Will) exclusively. I'm sure I've set off a few people's "man pretending to be a couple" radar. Lizzy hasn't shown much interest in browsing the site as yet. I arrange any meets and she trusts my judgement.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Shocked !

In our experience, and looking through our friends list, I could swear 75% of contact from couples is from the male half yet the first few answers on this thread suggest females are messaging much more.

Is your friend's list a 'to-do list' or only couples you've met?

Our friends list is a list of people we’ve met generally. We’re both straight and looking for full swap so meet similar couples. Maybe because we’re not looking for girl/girl that’s why we might be communicating with couples where guy is taking the lead. Don’t know it seems yet again we’re weird !

Surprised that you haven't realised that there is generally a disproportionate amount of women posting in the forums as well. And anyone posting a question should be aware that they are only getting replies from less than 1% of the site membership. In theory, the answers given to general questions are probably wrong! "

We understand that the replies might be statistically wrong but in the absence of hard numbers it’s the best we have. Given that it’s mostly couples who answered you’d think it would be semi-accurate. Unless you assume that couples where the female messages are more likely to frequent the forums than couples where the male messages.

We asked because one couple asked ‘Are you both there?’. It was at 10am on a weekday so it was me, male, on mobile, at work. They seemed surprised it was just me and not L or both of us and got me wondering anecdotally who generally does the messaging for couples.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Always me Mike ..I have more time than Diane and more interest in the sites we are on..she just looks forward to the actually meets "

That’s very much us too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me (Minka) x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

We understand that the replies might be statistically wrong but in the absence of hard numbers it’s the best we have. Given that it’s mostly couples who answered you’d think it would be semi-accurate. Unless you assume that couples where the female messages are more likely to frequent the forums than couples where the male messages.

We asked because one couple asked ‘Are you both there?’. It was at 10am on a weekday so it was me, male, on mobile, at work. They seemed surprised it was just me and not L or both of us and got me wondering anecdotally who generally does the messaging for couples. "

I would assume that actually. Experience of here and forums elsewhere is that, disproportionately to the rest of the site' women's voices are more prominent and it might follow that couples where the women runs the account primarily reside here.

When we get asked 'are you both there' we automatically think it is a guy after some titillation!

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By *urious and openmindedCouple
over a year ago

under the sea


"Always me Mike ..I have more time than Diane and more interest in the sites we are on..she just looks forward to the actually meets

That’s very much us too"

Us also

Although after the initial first few messages are exchanged she does ocasionally poke her head in to say hi

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By *ngandnickCouple
over a year ago

Haverhill

We both look at messages and either of us answers whenever free to check the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either one of us all depends who goes on and picks them up

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's usually me (f) who types the actual message but we both have equal input.

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We only message or reply to messages as a couple.

However, only the husband (me) posts on this forum because wifey doesn't do social media, messageboards etc.

I'm the gobby one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always George. Mildred used to reply to messages but got bored of the sad messages guy's used to send so now I reply to all messages.

However mildred reads mostof the messages and pic's and has the final say on who where and when we meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly male, but always with ladies input x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes message together, but whoever of us is about to read x reply first, no big deal to us who replies or messages. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female of the couple here too

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By *irtycpl7980Couple
over a year ago

Northumberland

Mainly the male half here ... just time wise we only get online in the evening and generally I am online as get home late and it helps me wind down.

That said all replies are agreed by both and Lucy does get online herself occasionally so we both reply but definitely mostly Darren

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male is on here most, and posting on the forums, although the female is present 95% of the time . Her is more in to the Cam and picture browsing side of the site.

With regards to messages, we both read them although the male filters out the crap, lazy and ignorant messages and replies to people we aren't interested in. It's a mutual decision who we message and wink.

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By *ussetdevilCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

Evening all... Always the fem of this couple that replies and runs the profile....

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"Always me. Unless someone's is rude,crude or del generally dislikes then he replies..... kaz"

This is true for us also!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Whoever's online.

Sometimes Mr wont answer if I have already been chatting and he has logged in so he leaves me to reply.

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By *r and Mrs P SandCouple
over a year ago

South West

We both do the messaging and it's very rare we aren't on here together, if ever really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always me Mike ..I have more time than Diane and more interest in the sites we are on..she just looks forward to the actually meets

That’s very much us too

Us also

Although after the initial first few messages are exchanged she does ocasionally poke her head in to say hi"

We always discuss any messages of interest and meets and I show her any face pics too of the guy a possible meet might be forthcoming..but generally she is not interested in the swinging sites ..she leaves it all to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I almost always do the messaging (female here)

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By *abulously curiousCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Mostly female

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By *ollyoaks69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

I'm the female and I do the messages but my husband looks at the profile with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do most of the messaging, though hubby will flit in and out and join a conversation if it is going well. 9 times out of 10 I find I'm talking to a male and there is no female input at all, got to be honest I then consider she isn't all that interested, most of the time they barely mention their wives/partners. My time would be better off chatting to single males as there is a greater chance of that resulting in a meet.

I tend to stop all conversations where only the male chats fairly early on now theyve got a wife in their bed to chat to dirty too I'm tired of being their wank fodder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of the time it’s me (female) doing the chatting he just looks in or I might message he to log on and have a look. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male half does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably 70/30 male to female on ours.

C

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

Mostly him, sometimes both,

Kiki if she been on the forums and the message is regarding her posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, he's really good at getting deep into the hamstrings and she's good at traps and neck.

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

It's mostly me shell xx

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Me (he). Mrs hardly ever gets involved in fab, well, until it gets to the play stage that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs mainly does the private messaging. If it was left to me we'd meet no one as I'm not very chatty or friendly

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By *erkshire7274Couple
over a year ago

Bracknell

Same male half mainly cos it's my phone and the wife has her own profile

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By *ntriguedcouple7Couple
over a year ago

Surrey

We both send messages depending on who’s got the time. If one of us has been having the previous conversation though, then they tend to continue but the other might jump in.

I (David) tend to send more as I’m the chattier one, though occasionally I’ll get my replies proof read if I’ve tried to be funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me (mrs) usually does the messages and forum ect but Mr always reads and has input in what's written etc

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

We both message... In fact, I think that it isn't always obvious to the recipient which of us us sending the message - judging by some responses

We message on behalf of us both, so the sender usually puts their name first.

Nita

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock


"For us it’s me, the male half, who answers most of the messages and does most of the communication on here. L, female, dips in for pics and meeting arrangements but steps back from the actual communication.

I’ve found many conversations with couples are with the male half too.

So couples do you both message or is it generally just one of you and if so which half ? "

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female here. As I am a fussy bitch so he leaves it to me. But then takes over on WhatsApp if we find a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take turns. Whoever is online at the time usually unless it's something we need to consider together. However we sign off as mr or mrs. The Exception is when single guys assume they are talking to mrs and say something like- you look fit. I'd smash that. To which either of us would reply as mr.

Mrs xx

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

usually its me hollie who runs profile the female half of couple

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By *itsAndTaffCouple
over a year ago

Grays, Essex

Hi MrsH here, I do most of the messaging on our profile too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly me. I’d crack a joke about it always being the woman doing all the work but as my other half Abby is a TV it would be wasted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always me ( Mrs) that does most of the messaging chatting and fabbing of pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My evil twin

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By *ll the gear.....Couple
over a year ago

Town north of Notts

90% of the time it’s the male for us also as I will chat to anyone, lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our couples profile it's always him. I'm too busy on this one to be arsed! Lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my joint profile Mr does all the messaging as I can’t be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly always Mrs Frenchy - at leats 90% of the time.

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By *hat The CuckCouple
over a year ago

South London

I (Mr) do the majority of all the messaging as Mrs isn’t great at keeping up and arranging things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do pretty much everything on here (female) he just goes along with my judgement. Most people assume it’s not me and address mail to him though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do pretty much everything on here (female) he just goes along with my judgement. Most people assume it’s not me and address mail to him though. "

You have an impressive chest Mr Just!

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton


"For us it’s me, the male half, who answers most of the messages and does most of the communication on here. L, female, dips in for pics and meeting arrangements but steps back from the actual communication.

I’ve found many conversations with couples are with the male half too.

So couples do you both message or is it generally just one of you and if so which half ? "

John does all the messaging apart from when Jill wants to flirt a little

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By *ogistical NightmaresCouple
over a year ago

Manchester Area

Can be either one of us, plus we have developed a knack of being able to reply like a member of the opposite sex if necessary, especially if the male half of a couples profile decides to address all the comms to me (Red)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both of us

Together or separately xx

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By *imandherindoorsCouple
over a year ago

chester

Mainly me fem who messages but hubby does dip his toes in too! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's me the lady although chats are always discussed with Mr A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly me (grind) who answers messages and posts in the forums x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of the time it’s the male but I do read the messages and will sometimes message people back if they seem alright

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We usually reply together, although I (female) do all the messaging to other ladies for ladies nights etc.

Bun

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By *razycoupleniCouple
over a year ago

belfast

We find it is the men usually start things off on here and then the women take over when things look like happening and numbers are exchanged etc

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By *ensual EroticismCouple
over a year ago

derby

We tend to dip in both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, we both read all the messages and if one of us replies without the other we just leave the thread so they can read through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually Brad does but I’ve started to get more involved in messaging recently we always sign off with the name of which of us is messaging or with both if we are online together xx

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By *MNJCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

E (female) does 90% of our messaging, I get bored quickly of just swinger talk and end up talking about all sorts (cars, hobbies, travel etc) which E thinks is weird so I leave her to it.

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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago

n/wales

mostly ginge mr as hes on a lot more lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us it’s me, the male half, who answers most of the messages and does most of the communication on here. L, female, dips in for pics and meeting arrangements but steps back from the actual communication.

I’ve found many conversations with couples are with the male half too.

So couples do you both message or is it generally just one of you and if so which half ? "

We're the same

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

It's male half hear mainly on site to answer or send messages. Wife prefers to meet people at club where she can chat face to face with people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that is a misconception. I’ve always thought it was the males that did the replying or not replying as such haha

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